November 2012 - come on stragglers, we're waiting for you

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1622007-November-2012-hurry-up-to-graduate-were-running-out-of-November

Think I've got a bit of a growth spurt or a grumpy baby here too lane. He has fed every hr to 1.5 since 11am, which is very unusual.

He's 4+3 BTW...

We've been feeding what seems like all day too. Had a shit day tbh. Didnt get the job I went for - they gave it to an internal applicant . Dh and I have been snapping at each other all day after he made some smart comment this morning that M and he would cope brilliantly if I wasnt around. I think I took it out of context but it's really upset me. And because I've been a bit teary today (thanks to him) he thinks I need to see someone. There's nothing wrong with me, I'm fecking exhausted after the selfish prat slept through his turn to do the night feeds and still sore. I'm struggling with watching my house crumble around me as his attempts to do housework do more harm than good. But I am absolutely loving being a mum and the only time I have been emotional or upset is today. And it's his fault. Bloody men. Bloody hormones.

Matilda's also thrown up on me twice today. Once in my hair just after I'd washed it...

mm is ok to have a wallow day and normal. Can you get a kip? You will feel a bit better if you can.
Xx

I too keep getting vom in my hair. I had it shorter with DD so that didn't happen,but I had to wash it & style it more frequently so thought longer hair would be more practical... And how many days post birth are you MM? I'd tell him to feck off with himself if he says something so daft again!! You should be feeling hormonal/weepy/fed up in the early days, its almost more worrying if you're not iyswim.

M is 9 days old today. He's paranoid about PND after watching his sister struggle with it. Threatening me with talking to my HV because I'm a bit teary is taking the piss. Just because I'm having a crap day, doesn't mean I'm depressed! On the whole he has been brilliant, but today I could gladly see him out of my space back to work!!

Mm - Matilda would so not be ok if you weren't around. What a daft thing for him to say. I expect he's knackered and stressed too - but still no excuse. My dh was also paranoid about Pnd when we had dd1. I kept having to explain that crying is quite normal when you're knackered and your body is broken and the house is a tip, and that there would be less crying if there was more help from him and fewer questions about pnd but he didn't really get it. He has been better this time and hasn't questioned the tears at all!

Omg we've had the worst night ever, we went out today got home and the dogs missing. When we were loading the car earlier he has a habit of sneaking out and niether one of us saw so we've been driving and running round getting family to help look for him and thankfully someone up te road took him in after he'd been wandering round for 3 hours were so so lucky I can't believe we left him out I feel completely awful, he's an old fella and on lots of medication which he can't go without. I was an absolute mess he's our baby, I'm almost crying now and he's snoring next to me

nervous glad he's back safe and sound.

I'm leaving dh to look after ds and dd on his own on the 27th while I spend the day shopping at bluewater. It'll be the first time I've gone up there for the post Xmas sales, I'm going with a friend and can't bloody wait but now feeling a bit guilty leaving Quinn. She'll be one day off 7 weeks and will obv leave milk.
It'll be lovely to be child free for a few hours the longest I've left her so far is 20 mins to get a take away!

Just a quick post, been out all day and got loads to do but just wanted to say to those looking for easy meals, if you don't have a slow cooker then get one! I asked DH to get me one and its been a life saver! I just bung it all in the pot at some point in the morning, turn it on and leave it. You can do most things without any chopping or preparation. This morning I made a beef stew. Just put ready cubed beef, carrots, onion and baby potatoes in the pot with beef stock and herbs. Turned the slow cooker on, went out for the day, got home and dinner was ready straight away. I wish I'd got one when DD1 was a baby. I find evenings are tricky enough as it is without having to make dinner. A couple of times DH prepared dinner the night before then all I had to do was turn the slow cooker on at some point in the morning, that was ace! Must get him doing that again!

We've all got coughs which is really annoying as at night time there is always someone having a coughing fit. We were all actually doing well with sleep but not last night. I have a feeling tonight won't be much better either!

Eliza you've inspired me to dig out our slow cooker (£12 from Tesco!) ta!

I was just popping on to say slow cooker! The crappier the meat the better. You could put a Doc Martin in and it would come out tender.

I'd forgotten our slow cooker. You're right - easy peasy & cheap as chips Eliza & VQ I have a pair of barely worn DMs somewhere...

Been feeding frantically a la growth spurt since 5.30pm. He fell asleep. Put him down, vomited every last drop over me, him, bed, my hair. Back on boob. Gutted. DS did a high pitch scream as coming out of nose too, but seems ok. Last bit he struggled with was a big blob of mucous. Fucking mucous!

Sorry for the flying post but I need some hand holding please. P has cried all day. If she is not asleep (which she will only do for half an hour at a time and if I have shooshed and rocked her for half an hour) she is crying.

I have noticed more sickyness she is arching her back an screaming in pain, she gulps and licks her lips constantly, she wakes desperate to feed but then will only take a few ml and often cries out while on the bottle.

This has been building over the last few days getting bad yesterday and last night. DH has taken her out in the car to try to give me some peace and let her sleep. I feel irrationally guilty about DH havig to take her away and now I am just sitting blubbing.

Days ago people were saying what a lovely happy contented baby we had. Today I was frantically trying to get her to sleep before a visitor arrived as she just cries when awake and I have cancelled the visitor for tomorrow as it is just awful.

She burps, she farts, she poos. I don't know what else she needs

Never experienced it but could it be colic pass? Likely that she's over-tired now so can't settle to sleep. Try lullabies & a.darkened room.

pass that sounds horrid is she weeing? Is there a temperature? If weeing ok and no fever then it will not be anything serious, but nevertheless utterly horrid for you all. You did right for DP to take her out in the car. You need a break as does she. Hopefully she will sleep. Sorry no practical advice. You are doing everything right.

That sounds like reflux to me pass

Dd was the same and it kicked in around this time (ie not at birth). She wanted to feed all the time, was in a lot of pain and HATED being horizontal.

Things that worked for us:
-keeping her upright for at least 10 mins after a feed.

• not feeding on demand but always keeping at least an hour to an hour and a half between feeds

-Swaddling tightly

• tiger carrying position (google it)
• infant gaviscon

Hth

pass sounds like silent reflux if she is not being sick. Get her checked out.

Everything comradesays.

And hugs...

Xx

Does anybody else really dread night times? I take Oscar into the bedroom at 10pm but I can't really call it bedtime as he hardly sleeps. He will fall asleep on me after a feed, wind and change but will not settle in his basket which means no sleep for me. He also takes his feed in 'chunks' usually 30mls then another 30 after a nap or a rest. This means the whole feed-wind-change process can take a couple of hours. If he then does sleep he is hungry again very soon after.

I am trying to remember that he is only 2 weeks old but the lack of sleep is hard. Luckily DF takes over at 6am and I get a few hours but this will only work until he goes back to work after Christmas.

Reading this thread has saved my sanity at night as it makes me feel less alone so thank you all!

L has days like that pass. It's really upsetting but only seems to last a few days each time. She may still have some trapped bubbles even if she's passing wind etc. I try and have a break during feeding, put him over my DH's shoulder.

Any BF-ers, I've posted in Feed the World/Breast & Bottle-feeding. Been having a very difficult time with slow weight gain & would appreciate any advice. Thanks.

Glad your dog is okay nervous xx

Skin to skin cuddles have cheered me up no end. And finally knocked a screechy matilda into a deep sleep. Photo on fb group

DP apologised for his twatty comments. I took it out of context and his sleep deprived brain spoke without thinking. All forgiven. I referred him to a page in his book entitled what not to say and we both had a little cry together.

I'm still a bit concerned about how little I've managed to express today. 4oz in one sitting yesterday, less than 3oz throughout the whole of today . M has been cluster feeding all day. Now worrying she isnt getting enough and cried because i thought we had it sussed. this bfing business isnt easy!

Not posted for a while. Don't feel I have the time to breathe let alone anything else. Sounds like I'm not the only one....

The week so far has gone pretty well all things considering. We haven't been late for school yet and I don't think I have forgotten anything too important. On the downside my washing machine died this morning. Hopefully get a new one tomorrow but could really do without a back log and £350 spend just before Christmas.

Hope everything settles down for everyone else soon x