November 2012 - hurry up to graduate, we're running out of November

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1611078-November-2012-the-birthplosion-thanks-Peaky

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Call the MW/ward to get it checked misslaughalot just in case.

Hope to see you here with bubba soon MM!

In bad news, I've got piles...and they itch :(

Oops I meant misslaughalot!

Finally getting referred for A's tongue tie to be snipped. Bfing will be SO much easier after... I will also be able to tell if he's comfort sucking a bit more as I tend to feed him as soon as he cries, because its such hard work for him.

Can't remember who said about reflux. Fairly sure its to do with the cold, as he barely vomited before. He used to do massive 'big boy' burps though!!

thanks valium. Just back from mothercare and am feeding with one on. Oh my god, The RELIEF!!!

Feel happy about feeding now, just hoping they dont mess up my supply...

Congrats swiss, fantastic name:)

oh good chunky, hope its not reflux. Probably just all mucusy from his cold.

Despo, piles are awful... Get some prep h from the pharmacy and while youre there,ask for latex fingerlets, you can fill them with water and freeze them, then put on the um... Affected area. Relieves the itchin and pain. Im a bit of an expert when it comes to piles, unfortunatley!

Ooh thanks freddie ill do that tomo I think!

freddiei hadn't thought it would be reflux, mainly because it happens when he has a little coughing bout after a feed at night when he has been sleeping and the mucus has dripped onto his throat from lying down IYSWIM. Lots of phlegm is coming up as well. However if it continues I will check for that.

The DR has checked his chest and it's clear he has no temp and he has wet nappies so I am just keeping a watchful eye on him incase anything changes.

Misslaughalot just to echo what chunky said, do get it checked out. For me it was my only. symptom of something needing attention, although of course in the vast majority of cases it is just one of those random pregnancy niggles.

My LO was vomming and spitting up ths morning. Then I realised I had forgotten to squirt her nose. Once she got her gunk out of the she has not spat up again.

I am an even worse mummy then as we have no drops and I have not taken him to the dr. It is just snuffles. With two big sisters he needs to get used to being snotty.

I am currently sat on a bench in morrisons breastfeeding Oscar and mning at the same time! Check me out haha!

DP is doing the shopping .

I thought the achievement of the day was washing AND drying my hair!!

Sorry to hear about all the colds.
Well where to start......
Monday- his aunt came down from London and he was in scream mode all day. he fussed and generaly a bad day.we went for his jabs and the nurse refused to give them to him, as he is too young. he is 8 weeks on Friday and they booked his appointment on Monday. So a trip wasted, just great. I asked if a few days makes a difference, but she wouldn't do it. so appointment for next Monday. Also found out my car is STILL not right.

Last night...... Cried and screamed. Not good, I was almost in tears. Turned out to be trapped wind.

Today.....
Found out my mum has a hole in her roof, and won't be assessed until the 4/12. They said a leaking roof is not an emergancy. Not sure what they expect her to do inbetween, also her cat is very ill, it's eating coal, and acting very strange. So more expense, when she might not have a job in April.
Baby evil fussy almost of the morning, and has drunk loads of milk. I'm so glad he is mostly on formula, there is no way my breasts could keep up. Plus I went to Adsa and he was hungry then, so glad I'm not breast feeding. I feel a little disappointed but its not practical. I'm always out and to be fair, he has had the important bit anyway. At least he is asleep now.

Tomorrow..... Some sleep, LO needs to be weighed, need to get meat. If time allows see if a friend she is free. I need to get out more as I feel trapped, being at home this much.

Evil
P.s
Sorry for the long post, I'm going to read back, if LO is still sleeping. Need food too.

You are the queen on multi-tasking!

How are other people managing visitors? Obviously people want to meet P but I am finding people quite tough to manage. When I was still trying to pump and BF I found it impossible with people here. My PIL scarpered when I said I would take her upstairs to latch on the bring her back down covered and discrete. How can you establish feeding when people want to sit for hours but get embarrassed when you need to feed?

Today we had guests - they were only here an hour but the arrived just at the end of a feed which meant that P got distracted and wouldn't finish. She then gets passed from person to person. They were saying 'oh, I think she's hungry' but wouldn't pass her back.

Then people want to feed her when they realise we have bottles. I have to stop myself grabbing her an saying 'you're doing in all wrong!' It was worse when I was expressing - I watched a lovely friend dribble hue amounts of my previous breast milk all over P's outfit having refused the muslin saying she didn't care about her own clothes. Then let her fall asleep this wasting the rest of the milk.

I need to woman up. She is my baby - I don't know why I feel I have to pass her about like a wee present.

Today our guests said 'well you'll be in a routine by now though?' She is two weeks old! She is in her own routine and we adapt around it. I think people seem a bit surprised that we can't schedule their visit.

Hmm. Well, that was a rant! I am sorry about that. I hadn't even realised I was so peeved about it. I particularly feel for those breastfeeding - how do you cope? Are you all just tougher than me?

Valium I'm all for snuffles and colds etc, but with last week's scare I'm following the Dr's orders to the letter until she is well over this one. Except when I forget, like this morning :)

Passwe had two sets of week long visitors at the beginning (the grandparents) but since that we haven't had any, apart from one couple of very non intrusive friends. Bt that's because we are pretty much hermits and don't know anyone other than work people. It must be hard to set down boundaries with visitors, and not bite their heads off when they say something stupid.

We haven't had any visitors yet... Except fit MIL and SIL who stayed for 2 hours on Saturday. We took L to church at 2 days old, so most people we know saw her then. This weekend my parents are coming over from Belgium and staying till Monday! I hope that will work out... And my brother and boyfriend arrive on Tuesday until Thursday so next week will be busy!
Had last visit from midwife today, L has exceeded her birth weight at 11 days old Thursday the health visitor will come and do the hearing test.

Pass- if someone wants to see LO I go to them. This way I'm in control, and can make excuses when it's too much. (His aunt is the exception to the rule, London is over 200 miles away)

Dummies- brilliant, saved my sanity! LO loves to suck them, plus he gets to work on is sucking reflex as its poor.

Evil

I just get my boob out pass & to hell with anyone that has an issue. My house, my baby, my boob, my rules

DH's (& my) mobile phone insurance are claiming that we didn't do all that was 'reasonable' to protect it so won't replace it. Needless to say, he's appealing it. Seriously though, whilst we appreciate it was daft leaving the windows unlocked, we didn't do it deliberately & they're rear windows, in our back garden, & people broke in in the middle of the night!!! What else should we do??!!!

We are still on visitor lockdown! Although babypriscilla has feeding pretty well nailed, establishing feeding is my excuse. Most people get it and are waiting for an invite. Someone suggested an open afternoon....get them all done in one manic chunk, but I can't face that!

If baby needs feeding, I whip boob out whoever is there. I was not so confident with my first though. The only one to object to my face is MIL so I told her she was welcome to go out while I was feeding. She was staying for two weeks so I was not gonna spend two weeks in my room being discrete. I have fed in Ikea, church, car, shops, parks. I will never feel I have to feed in a toilet.

It takes a while to be confident to tell people what to do with your baby, like you say pass. You are just getting used to the idea yourself. Perhaps talk it over with DH and ask him to be in control of such things.

So dummies - what do you do with them? Just give them at night time, or whenever they finish a feed? Do you take them out once asleep? Do you sterilise them or just give them a quick lick? Ok, not a lick, but a rinse under the tap? My other two never took a dummy, so not feeling hopeful.

My MIL was in hospital overnight. She thought she was having another heart attack, but not so. She wants to visit next weekend. Not sure I want that responsibility tbh. That probably sounds really mean but she is hard work at the best of times.

VQ Dummies; sterilise them until baby starts solids I think, then make sure they're washed really well. Only gave DD it when she was just comfort sucking or still demanding boob after a long feed. If she actually wanted milk, it would be spat out. Now she's only allowed it for naps & at night. If they drop it, unless they're crying, don't replace it, otherwise you'll end up doing that forever, but I wouldn't bother taking it out though.

Vq I give ds his when he cries. Not everytime but in a morning he cries after his breakfast. He's clean, being cuddled etc but he's just crying. I think it's because he wants to suck. A good way to check is offering him more food and he chews the bottle rather than sucks. It's similar at night. I always remove it if he's asleep or dropping off. He has it when going to bed too. I sterilise it first thing in the morning with the bottles and in the evening with the bottles again.

You can shove it in boiling water for 5mins to sterilise it too. I guess I'm saying I use it when all other calming methods have been ruled out. I guess that's why it's called a pacifier in the USA!!!

those suffering with colic - found some good info, and videos about winding and helping with colic. Go to the infacol website, and to videos.

Can't wait to try some of the massages mentioned.
Evil

Thanks for the advice everyone. Rang the labour ward and a doctor answered who advised me to get to an out of hours doctor or A&E. got to our walk in centre where they said they couldn't do anything, so headed to A&E who ended up sending me up to the labour ward! Anyway bp was measured and is fine, baby is happy and I'm 2cm dilated after almost 48 hrs of contractions.

I WILL graduate to this thread, just not very soon it seems!

Thanks again for the advice lovely ladies!