Dashing through the snow... One escaped early, which December baby is next?

[HoneyMum21]

Getting the thread ready when all the Christmas puddings start making appearances...

I have to wait six weeks before any kind of exercise too, going to start doing the 30 day shred again!

Hmmm can't find any seconds maybe they sold out :)

DD is being a monster and I've done nothing but shout at her all morning then give her lots of praise when she is good. Seems I can't find a happy medium

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Spotty I don't know how to do a proper link but these are the ones I bought.

Urgh, when mil has the baby, baby starts crying and says 'what's wrong with you?' and you reply that baby is hungry, surely a normal person gives the baby to its mum not give her evil looks and start rocking the crying baby?!

Snap stacey. Have you borrowed my mil for the day? Obviously we telepathically make the babies hungry when they are being held by said mil just to stop them having cuddles...

Very annoying isn't it! Urgh, now her and DH are having a heated conversation with my baby in her arms! Feel like crying xx

Uggghhhh stacey don't know what to suggest.

Thanks seconds I don't know why I couldn't find them!

Eugh Stacey that would really annoy me. Yesterday my parents came with my little brother and sister and they just kept passing ds around to each of them without even asking! Really pissed me off!

DH: 'I don't think you're getting the baby back anytime soon'
Me: 'she'll soon hand him back when he's screaming for food'
DH: 'she's already said she can bottle feed him'

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggghhhhhhhh! He's my baby!

Sorry for moanIng people it's either that or creating huge rows with mil, which isn't the best!

Ooh, I now get to join in with the annoying MIL stories!

Yesterday, after C had been angelically asleep all day and I was sat on the couch praying for them to leave so I could feed her and go to bed, she said 'I just can't believe such a perfect baby could be difficult at night!' I said she was pretty different at night but MIL shook her head and said 'No, I can't possibly believe it.'

Yes, I make up all the sleep deprivation stuff for shits and giggles!

Urgh to the Mil...cows!

Stacey - feel on your behalf. Of course she should give him back, but it's really difficult to deal with as it's actually happening. Do you think your DH would have a quiet word with her before her next visit?

Sorry that there were a lot of bad nights again. We did a bit better than Saturday - some reasonable stints in the moses basket, and no random shouting - however still seem to be spending most of my time feeding. Think I have another milk monster on my hands!

Just had the last mw visit - we've been discharged. Have had lots more involvement with mws this time due to hb and they've been great, so do feel a tiny bit sad though won't miss waiting in for visits

stacey she sure as shit can't bottle feed him he's your baby and if you wanted her to feed him for you you would have asked her to. Even though I've been expressing so DH can help but when we go to stay with mil I'm not taking anything except my boobs so she can bugger right off before trying that line. Sorry am so grrrr for you and mils in general for thinking they are better mothers than we are.

What is it with MILs and sils? Bringing back bad memories about dc1's first weeks - they're much more hands off this time round, thank god!
I'm also constantly eating but plan not to worry until 6 week check. Then healthy food, the evil shred and couch to 5k will begin in earnest!

Grrrr at your mils! I use a feed as a good excuse to disappear for half an hour!

re weight: I found I lost next to nothing for the first month or two after DD1s birth then it really fell off ... I think once the baby starts having really decent feeds, you really notice the difference! I could eat everything and was still losing a kilo a week at one stage.

What is evil shred/ 30 day shred?!

Eugh that was a disaster went to get ds weighed and he's down to 8lb2. Lovely HV is convinced the scales were wrong last week because he looks so healthy. Dd was a nightmare. Wanted me to carry her when we were walking in and ds was in the caboo then kept running out of the room so I didn't end up going into town now dp doesn't even have a card for his birthday tomorrow. To top it off I couldn't get the bastard car seat out when we got home so just had to carry ds in

Oh spotty and it all goes downhill do quickly doesn't it. Was the hv worried about his weight?

No not at all. He's still up on his birth weight but she wants us to go back in a couple of weeks. Also so she can check on his umbilical cord as its still attached. I think the tiredness doesn't help but if dd was five or something it would be so much easier!

spotty. Can you fold a piece of printer paper in half and let dd loose with a couple of crayons? Much nicer than poncy shop bought cards

Yesterday i weighed 12st4 which is down 1st2 on pregnancy and up 1st4 on pre-pregnancy weight. Then we weighed me and R together and got 12st12!! Which makes him (dressed) 8lb. I need to weigh a vest, sleepsuit and full nappy to get an accurate result, but I'm feeling loads more confident about clinic tomorrow.

Tonight we will be joining my youth clubbers at a local pub. there, local housebound elderly people will be treated to fish n chips and a drink or two, Santa will hand out presents and my teens will sing carols/Christmas songs. This is the first year i haven't fully organised the playlist (including accompanying), and the 28th consecutive year that i have done something musical for Christmas. Warm fuzzy glow ahoy!

Wow just managed to catch up on this thread. It's so reassuring to read you are all have similar difficulties and it's not just me!

MaMaPo - I know what you mean about calling it an emergency c-section, ours didn't feel like an emergency either. Are you feeling a lot better yet?

I can't remember who was talking about getting nipple shields but I can also highly recommend them. My LO has been a right milk monster for the last 48 hours and my poor nipples are very sore, I'm not sure i would have continued BF without them. I'm also using the Medela swing electric pump and I find it very easy to use and quite comfortable.

I'm just wondering if anyone else is having real difficulty getting their LO to sleep on their own? I still co-sleep with mine others we basically don't sleep. He's now 17days old and I've tried swaddling him (hates it), putting one of my t-shirts in with him, putting him in when he's still awake, putting him in when he's asleep. I haven't tried for a couple of days as the last time I did try he hardly slept all day as he only lasts between 5-20 mins sleeping in his basket and then was beside himself from lack of sleep by the evening .

Has anyone had experience of this? Is it something which comes with time or do I need to be training him to sleep in his basket?

I hope everyone has better nights tonight.

spotty I know what u mean about dd's age. My dd was just 2 when ds was born and I found it really really hard as they aren't as independent as you imagine, and you just don't get much time with baby. It does get better though I promise. Mine are 8 and 6 now and get on really well, activities suit them both etc etc.

missmummypenny little Z will (just) settle in his little carrycot at night but only if it's on the bed between us, and given the choice he'd FAR rather curl up (not on his back) on one of our chests. I'm dreading getting him into his big cot.

pidg that's amazing re the musical Christmas. I too have done something musical every year for ages - Messiah performances, carol concerts and services etc - but haven't planned anything this year. Am still wondering whether to fit in something last-minute but much depends on how the baby will be - I doubt i'll be happy with leaving him for an afternoon rehearsal and evening concert when he'll be less than a month old, but I am sad to be missing them. I might take him along to one of the rehearsals though to show him to the rest of the choir.

In other news Z has gone from feeding constantly to wanting a bit of a break from it this afternoon - he latched on for a few minutes only at the last feed.

Seconds, I'm pondering volunteering him for the sunday school nativity

He's all dressed up in fluffy bootees, reindeer dungarees with a fluffy cardi and his reindeer hat ready to go on just prior to leaving. I may add his My First Christmas bib. Cba to do myself, clean and tidy's fine!

Another co-sleeper here, we're going to start a routine this week (bath, book, bed with dp) and work on it from there. He'll be a month old on Wednesday, 4 weeks today

another co-sleeper here with ds either on me, or beside me face in boob! he did nap for 10 mins in his cot today which gives me hope - it's a bedside one so hardly a million miles away!

dd is 22 months, have no idea how we're going to cope tbh.