Dashing through the snow... One escaped early, which December baby is next?

[HoneyMum21]

Getting the thread ready when all the Christmas puddings start making appearances...

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Thank you pidj just feeling a bit weepy about it all at the min.

[PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah]

Day 4 hormones. Your milk'll be coming in any minute. Let it all wash over you, mine passed in minutes - worst was 3:30am crying because i was such an awful mummy because i had to put him in his crib instead of letting him sleep on me, i was so tired I'd have squashed him. Totally illogical! You'll be shattered for about the next week, then you'll start to get into the swing of things. It's tough but we're strong

[SpottyTeacakes]

Thanks, I know this will be our last dc so I really want to bf I just feel it's making the whole process slower! I bet he'd be ready to go home sooner if I gave him a bottle. I don't even want to eat anything, I'm not hungry at all

honey I think lots of people miss being pregnant sometimes but I can imagine its a whole lot worse for you the whole thing must have been such a shock. I think you'll just need to give it time but a life changing event like this is always going to harbour strong feelings (thinking about dd's birth still makes me cry 2.5 years later but I definitely don't feel as sad about it as I did for the first year few months!)

[ISpyDingDongMerrilyOnHigh]

Honey - I agree that it all happened so quickly for you in a such a different way to you planned that you are bound to still be in a bit of shock. Added to that the anxiety of Dash's time on SCBU then I think feeling weepy about things is pretty inevitable. It will seem better in time but that doesn't stop the way you're feeling now being completely normal/valid.

Sending , and (can't remember if you're a dunker or not - sorry )

[yuletopian99]

Sending hugs honey and marking my place. Hope to earn a proper place on this thread in the next week or so!

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Thank you. I was thinking I was just being silly still being upset by it :)

[PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah]

It's the milk hormones, make you think crazy guilt stuff!

[SeymoreInOz]

Hi all! Can I join please? I was on some of the early antenatal threads, I'm glad I've found you here.

DS was born on 3rd December, weighing 8lb 6oz. I laboured for an hour at home and arrived at the hospital 6cm dilated. Less than hour later DS arrived in the birthing pool, it was very intense but a good 'last' birth.

DS has spent the first 4 days attached to my boobs and not really sleeping at all! My milk came in yesterday and I'm extremely tearful today. I just want to go home to my family. The ILs are here and are being so helpful but I just want my mum!!

honey have a hug and I'm not surprised you are feeling tearful and shell shocked. Keep talking about how you're feeling, it will get better.

Congratulations to all the December mums!

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Congratulations seymore. Glad to have you back.

[PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah]

Congratulations, Seymore

[Bellaboo123]

Hello all found you!

Just up bf aurelia, milk seems to have come in but in flowing better in one breast than the other - anyone else experiencing this?

honey I think you're coping really well same to you spotty I take my hat off to you both.

Welcome seymour

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

bella* my right boob flows much more easily than left one. Apparently it's quite normal!

[Bellaboo123]

Phew that's good to know - my right flows better too I'm right handed do you think that has anything to do with it?

Wow we've feed like clock work every three hours through the night. Midwife coming to weigh her etc today.

spotty have they given you any idea when Felix can come gome?

[SpottyTeacakes]

No, they never commit to anything. He's still on air at the moment with 0.03 of oxygen in it

Thanks pidj the rugby ball hold was really good for my right side and he fed so well he only needed half a top up feed. I thought it was a good latch as it didn't hurt but I still had lipstick nipple after they're over staffed today though so hopefully can get some help I'm not sure why it's not working as the position of his mouth seems correct I can only assume its because he doesn't open his mouth wide enough?

[SpottyTeacakes]

Oh and the nurse called Felix her big fat boy

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

spotty. I hated it when the nurses called Dash a gannet!

[Secondsop]

Hello, joining the thread properly now. Hello seymore, congratulations on your baby boy.

I'm reading all the breastfeeding comments with interest. I've managed to get little Z off formula and onto on-demand breastfeeding which I'm really pleased about - one advantage of being readmitted to
Hospital for my bp is that I've been able to seek extra breastfeeding support. It was a fractious time for both of us but he latches much better now. BUT he only seems to like the right breast. He'll take the left breast now and again but it's really really hard to get him to latch. Anyone else get this?

[SpottyTeacakes]

seconds have you tried fooling him with the rugby ball hold? Felix loved it when we tried last night

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Is rugby ball when you put them under your arm?

I'm really worried about Dash. The midwife at the clinic the other day sari he should be making eye contact and tracking objects and our faces. I'm not convinced he even consciously looks at us yet. I put it down to him not actually being due till Saturday but she's got me worried. Are your LOs already making conscious eye contact?

[SpottyTeacakes]

Yes it is I laid him on a cushion.

Your mw is wrong. You can expect Dash to do things at his corrected age. Dd didn't smile until nine weeks and the dr had already told me not to expect it until ten weeks as she was four weeks early. I think by the time it comes to crawling etc you probably won't notice any difference but in these early things you will.

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Thank you spotty :)

[ISpyDingDongMerrilyOnHigh]

Morning everyone.

Welcome Seymore and congratulations.

Honey - sorry to hear you're worried. Did the mw say any more/seem concerened or was it more of a passing observation? Would you be able to speak to her again?

We've got the mw coming today too to do the heel prick test and check weight. Feeding seems to be going well (lots of wet nappies as well as plenty of mustard-coloured poos, he's alert, content after feeds etc) but I'm just a bit worried about the amount of posseting. DS1 did posset too, but I don't remember it being so much/so early. It's pretty much after every feed. It doesn't seem to bother him but he wants to feed again as soon as it's happened.

The nappies suggest that something must be going through, and I'm presuming that if everything was coming back up he'd be either screaming for food all the time or completely listless, which he isn't. I'm hoping he's just adjusting to my milk coming in but will speak to the mw anyway.

[ISpyDingDongMerrilyOnHigh]

X-posts - Spotty speaks sense.

[EggNogMichelle]

Felix (yes, another one!) was born at 11.10 this morning, will catch up later!

[Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname]

Congratulations eggnog