Sarahsausage sounds horrible! The only thing that might be said here is that you are not alone. This sort of thing happens all the time, unfortunately, which is why there are so many songs, movies, books etc about it. You have been betrayed and you are of course angry, and not seeing him for now is probably a good idea. Probably you need some time before you work out what you want in the long term from him in terms of access to the girls and support to you. I agree you will likely do well without him but you never know when you might need his help later when you aren't so angry. I agree with Londoner get your support network around you and take up all the help on offer. Remember to eat -- a shock like this often triggers so much adrenalin you don't feel hungry but you need to try to stay healthy.
Chacha -- I don't know what to say. When I went to Glasgow a woman gave me a dirty look because we held up the bus from the plane waiting for dd's pram and I felt terrible about it for days.
Karma, great that your ds is coming to the meet up -- would bring my steps if we had them (I'll check).
Londoner, how is Elizabeth feeling??
Jenjam -- I would just like to invite us all over to yours for cakes. Sounds like your house smells like heaven! Good to hear from you and have a great time with your nephew!
Late anti-smoking tip -- BoB, as an older mom I think a lot about what would happen if I wasn't here for my dd and I wish wish wish I hadn't done some of the things I did earlier that probably took a toll on my body. All I can say is from where I'm standing in life NO short term risk is worth it. Replace it if you have to but GET RID OF IT.
Golden -- I am up for promotion this year too and forget it. I've decided not to go back for another 6 months and someone else going for promotion has just been given my job. Of course it is made to NOT look like that but that's what is happening. I'm trying really hard just to think about dd right now and in a couple of years I'll see what to do career-wise. I do believe that taking a bit of a 'break' with family will end up being very good for me, but I've got some identity issues to deal with as other people pass me by! Diege I laughed and laughed at the farting on your colleague's lap. Monty Python 'I fart in your general direction' gets quoted a lot around here...
Ok, anyone ELSE not sleeping through the night??? We did one sleep through about 6 weeks ago but since then still feeding every 4 - 5 hours. Last night I tried to give her water at the 5 am screamfest and at 6 finally caved and fed her milk which she to her credit drank ALL of and very quickly as if to prove to me that she was in fact starving. When I came back to bed dh goes, 'well that was a battle of wills and you totally lost.' Doesn't bode well. Anyway, any tips or experience???