November '05 - babies getting bigger, mummies getting smaller!

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A nice new thread for us all - I know someone mentioned it a few days ago

How do pronounce the word 'bald' by the way? Dp say's it the same as the word 'bold' (well more 'bowld') which I thought was awful!!

Cue 'It's not 'bowld' it's 'ballldddd' from me, and 'please don't speak that way in front of the children' - 'You snob' - 'You commoner'

Hi ChaCha, I've been worrying a bit about my cesarean scar because it still feels tender at times. I've also had some bleeding from the scar about two weeks ago which really freaked me out. It was just a small infectiona and is much better now. Must admit, I don't remember having any of these worries with Toby first time around but maybe I was just too busy and tired to notice it all then. If you're really worried I would say to speak to your GP or HV. I think I'm going to do that just for reassurance.

I'm really broody too and so is DH, now that is dangerous. We had a long talk the other night and are seriously thinking of having another baby or even two more! I do need to speak to the GP though because I had some complications with my last cesarean. I'm wondering if it could affcet my chances of conceiving again or carrying to full term. I'd really love to have another baby but I could learn to be happy with the two that I have if having another could seriously damage my health.

I'm adding Vanish to my shopping list. Rosie's reflux symptoms have gone but she still spits up regularly, just not in such huge amounts. It means that even her sheets have orange stains now. Driving me crazy. Must either get the Vanish or dye everything orange. How are the other babies with reflux doing?

Diege, I think you've probably hit on something with your Gina Ford/homophobia theory. I remember at my first postnatal group with Toby in an affluent part of London one of the mums would ask questions like "When I do X, GF says my baby should do Y but he doesn't. What's wrong with him?!' She carried GF's book around in her nappy bag and would get very upset about it all. In the end she became so anti-GF that everyone was afraid to even mention routines, schedules, etc because she would go off on a rant. Horrible. Can't wait to see your hair at the meet-up. It sounds so glam. Extensions are something I would love to try but I'm so lazy and I imagine you have to take special care with them? How do you do the colour? Do you match it to your own or can you choose whatever you want? It's like a whole new world.

It's funny talking about my tattoo stories. Made me stop and think about some of the things Kellie and I used to get up to. We're still best friends, talk on the phone all the time and see each other at least once a year. She's in Houston now and has two boys. We met up in Paris a couple of years ago for a girls weekend. It was great, lots of talking and good red wine, but I think we both felt a little sad that we've gotten older and calmed down so much. No Hell's Angels or gang members that weekend!

Cando, forgot to say what a grogeous family you have! All so photogenic too. It looked like a really lovely day.

Oops, CandI. Typing and drinking coffee at the same time.

Hi! Just getting house tidy-ish for HR woman visit [gulp emotion]. RODEO: 'bald' is def. pronounced balld (ie. like you said it was); have heard others use inferior pronounciation - yes, def. common . TEX: at least one more,maybe 2 ; wow, that would be 4; I am OBSESSED with people who have 4 children, as that would be my next move..not broody just yet (too tired ), but do feel strangely envious of pregnant announcements by friends (even celebs!)
Right, extension low-down . If you have Racoon ones (real hair) they match your colour to your own natural (or coloured) base colour. I have colour too, so my extensions are a mixture of dark brown, chesnut, and blonde. Makes me sound like a clown , but they do blend well I think. Up-keep a bit of a nightmare, special shampoos and all that, plus mustn't get bonds too hot with straigtening irons etc. Am going for wefts next time I get them done (where 'Colleen' gets her's done )as I'm sick of the bonds coming out. Well, I'm boring myself now, so will sign off.
Must get rid of smell of L's poo before she arrives!!! (or maybe not...)

It's arrived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just have to work out how to put it on pushchair now, oh and how to fold up mesh bit under visor bit - why does everything have to be so complicated!!??

Diege - good luck with HR woman - take deep breath, sit back, relax and listen (easier said than done I know) but try not to jump in before she's finished! I know I probably would and drop myself right in it!! Am sure it will all be fine - probably best to get rid of poo smel - don't want to get off on the wrong foot!!!

Brownie
x

thanks for the nice compliments -- it really made my day! Back here in normal life, I'm totally behind on everything.

Tex, on the anti-reflux stains patrol, I put a protector sheet on the cot first, then a fitted cot sheet (stretchy), then a flat sheet folded in half on the bottom part which I can change more regularly. This helps with the whole rigamorole of changing barfy sheets all the time as the folded half sheet absorbs most barfs and I can just change it when required. Or at night just whip it off so she can sleep in the dry til morning. All of these are white which I then put in the machine at the hottest and it seems to come out. You might do better with cream coloured if you find the orangy stuff doesn't come out as it might hide it a bit better? I admit however that after a certain point in the day we just have barf on us and let it dry. What would Gina say??

Re broody if I were ten years younger I'd have another two or three I say GO FOR IT. Tex, especially if you're both broody (many women would love that problem!) -- this feeling will last as your both probably wired that way and a house full of wanted kids is bound to be a happy one. You'll make it work.

Ah well, mission accomplished and mags awaiting whilst dd has her mid day sleep (again, what would Gina say? She'd probably faint as we are somewhat on schedule!). Why do I even want to know about Kate and Pete? Must get life...

oh my god..I'm such a slob

just sorting out some old baby cloths that I'm giving to a woman via 'freecycle' and some of the babygros still hve suspicious white stains around the neck.
how/why hve I stored them away still dirty..lol

she's coming in a couple of hours so i will have to dash to laundrette and get a service wash done..lol

Hello,

Karma, sorry to hear things are so hard at the moment. Sending you lots of strength, I hope things feel more manageable very soon.

Candi, HI! Good to have you back, lovely pictures, you all look gorgeous... and last but not least, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Nova - love Natalie holding her shins/trousers, lol! She's not alone, no rolling here either... RE: shuddering.... I think they do that sometimes when a poo is 'on it's way', perhaps a new thing since starting solids?
BoB - O sounds hilarious rolling around the place. Are you not keeping his clothes for no.2?

Tex, how lovely to hear your musings on having more children.

Diege - I can def recommend 4..... good luck with HR woman, mind you don't lock her in a cupboard or something .

Rodeo - Wow - d'you think you'll get married?

Okay, I'm off to make some carrot, potato and onion soup for E... sod the rules, I'm just worn out and she needs more calories, I think I've done okay getting to 22.5 weeks, but feel she needs something more now.

Oh dear..just found out something that could enhance my laziness..our local laundrette will collect and deliver clothes..within 2 hours they come back freshly laundered, and within 5 hours ironed too!
and we even have a damn washer dryer..lol

Wow..
the firl came for the clothes and was lovely..she's planning to go to the big-green-gathering in somerset with her tiny baby..just like we are contemplating (most of our friends/family think we are crazy..lol)

londoner..no not saving for no2 as we are planning a big move beforehand, and would rather get rid off the 'plain stuff' (kept all my favourite outfits of course..hehe)

also fell lik i've gone wrong with waning..couldn't wait for the book so just strted him on rusks nd bby rice (all organic) but londoners talk of soup, nd novs of carrot mkes me think we should have just gone for 'proper food'
not that it matters..we've decided to wit a while longer now, i don't think he was ready.

just realised we were still using and buying newborn flow teats! why!? no wonder his 9/10oz feeds took so long.hehehee

diege..hope it's gone well..updates please!

tex - i can so imagine you with a full house of kids. I know theres a lot to consider but if youi both want it then do it!

was about to mention old woman who lived in ashoe.. then looked up actual words

There was an old woman who lived in a shoe,
She had so many children she didn't know what to do!
So she gave them some broth without any bread,
And she whipped them all soundly and sent them to bed!

i remeber it as a lovely rhyme..I even had a big plastic shoe that opened up into a house..lol

Thanks everyone for your messages. In reply to most of you, I've already gone down the road of "who's the adult?" It's absolutely ludicrous. DP thinks he's made an effort but DS hasn't. His eldest is 14 & quite reserved but that's okay because he's a teenager. His DD is very in your face & talkative so he can't understand why my ds isn't the same. Just to give an example... on Sunday whilst I was upstairs he gave his dd some cereal. A bit later, she was telling me about it. I asked my ds if he'd had any. He said no so I got him some. DP came downstairs & was annoyed that DS was eating cereal. He thought it was rude of him not to ask for cereal when he was getting some for her. This all came out in the argument later. The reason he didn't ask was probably because he thought it'd be rude!

BoB, I think a lot of this stems from the fact that my DS is quite sensitive & can be a little shy with people he doesn't feel comfortable with. His dad is quite a softly spoken gentle kind of guy & this is his role model, which I'm very happy about. DP on the other hand is more of a "macho" type & his dad was quite an authoratitive figure.

Tessasmum, you mentioned jealousy, that may be a factor too. DP has a constant battle with his ex about seeing the kids. I am on good terms with my ex & he has been very supportive. DP thinks it wouldn't be fair on his kids if my ds was able to live with us. Bear in mind that in the beginning he didn't mind me & my ds coming to live with him.

Bob, LOL at the old woman! I found that when I had ds, lots of traditional children's stories are actually very violent & definately NOT what you want your kids to hear. Little red riding hood springs to mind.
My favourite books were Peepo, Each Peach Pear Plum, The Gruffalo & Guess How Much I Love You. I've kept all of DS's books & I can't wait to read them to Ella.
Those of you with older LO's, what books do you read to them?

feel silly now as the woman taking the clothes..for some reason,,,, sounded young and like she'd only want fashionble stuff
so i gave her things we didnt like i.e newborn adidas tracksuit, stuff with 'next' all over it, disney and wiinie the pooh themed stuff etc plus ll the boring 'basics'
yet when she cme she seemed way more on my wavelenght but I didnt want to suddenly go yank suitcases out of the loft for other clothes..hehe

krama..surely theys hould both give it time to actully get along and spend mor time together, could you not have your ds round more es an interim mesure?

Hi again,

LO fast asleep after jabs - not a peep out of him! Met another mum at clinic today, is always good to talk to other mums in the area.

Tex - My b/f is from Sugar Land in Houston. Have mentioned her to you before, i'm sure. She also has two boys now (aged 2 and 3). We had lots of fun before we both got married. I miss her a lot.
Spoke to H/V about scar. She said to keep an eye on it for a week and then make an appt with GP if it seems red or sore.

Candie - Pics are lovely, esp the one in black and white.

An old man on his bike made a racist comment at me today. The coward cycled off before I could say anything. Difficult to know what to do when you're pushing your 18week old baby - couldn't exactly run after him. Oh well, that's life.

Must make a start on house, we are living in a serious mess. Bear - My flylady control journal is just waiting, lol! x

chcha..gasp..thats awful, I wouldnt take it personally though, sometimes old people hve such bad manners/ distorted world views.

i have been yelled at on buses for having a bulky pram, told our sling will make our baby a dwarf!?!?!, even had one lady commenting on our shopping at the checkout .'oo don't buy bloody french wine..ee...don't buy spanish ornages' etc

my dear gran is quite lacking in tact too, at a family dinner with my d.p (east european), my cousins wife (japanese),my aunts (scottish and welsh) and dps american uncle, wife and kids she ranted for ages about how immigrtion is wrong, and england should be for the english
we had quite a discussion after that!.
bless her though, she has lived in a mining village outside sheffield all her life amd never been to another country..it's a different mindset.

p.s glad jabs wre okay chacha..and yes it's nice to know others around you..
i rally want to get to the point that i have 'mummy friends' i fel comfortable just calling and popping round/inviting for a coffee when i'm feeling lonely/bored..sure it won't be long.

bob, you're probably right but at the moment I don't have the psychological stamina to do that. I'm going for the path of least resistance & reducing the amount they're in contact with each other. Thats why I'm bringing him to the meet, I couldn't leave him with dp, it wouldn't be fair on him.

chacha, at your racist attack. This sort of thing amazes me. This man is beneath contempt.

karma sorry about your difficult situation,where abouts are you living maybe we could meet up????
Diege when are we going to meet up????
Joshua's jabs went ok this afternoon still feel like a crap parent when he screams though.
talking of screaming must go and feed the little darling!!!!
twinkle & josh

Karma, it must be heart-breaking being torn in two like that.

ChaCha, you poor thing with your scar. And as for that smelly imbecile on a bike.... my mental image of him is as he was so busy turning around and being abusive he lost all control of his bike and fell down a man hole......

BoB - if it's any consolation, I don't feel confident on the weaning thing either. This 6 month thing is all new to me and I feel like a fish out of water, unsure if I'm doing the right thing waiting or not waiting..... E seemed to enjoy her few spoonsful any way, but is no less hungry and demanding this evening.... better jump to it.......

Twinkle, I live near York. I travel up to Newcastle every other Friday. Where do you live?

Karma - think you are wise not to have DS live with you if your DP really does not like him and does not want to share a home with him. Would just lead to daily arguments and more unhappiness for your DS.

Are you talking about bringing him to the meet on the 18 in London? If so, I will bring my DS1 too (aged 10), then we can park them on a spare table with a couple of cokes and pretend we don't know them when they start acting the goat!

ChaCha - so sad that some people pick on a mother and a baby with racist clap-trap. Bet he would have kept his gob shut if you were a bloke.

BoB - Re: racist comments - I would take it very personally and it would make me very sad.

For me, it does not make it any easier to bear just because the person is old/never travelled/has a best friend/daughter-in-law/neighbour who is black/Indian/Chinese.................. Sorry - no excuses in my book.

Londoner - LOL at man on bike going down man-hole!

GO, yes I'll be bringing him on the 18th. I've warned him that there will be a lot of babies there. He rolled his eyes upwards at the prospect. That's be great if your ds will be there too. They can be silly together.

Hi everyone . Well, HR woman been and gone. Went OK, but we did end up talking about the flex. application , though I think this is what she was really coming for, not simply a 'chat' about generic changes at work (should have guessed). She seems to be hinting that what I'd ideally want (2 days working from home) isn't going to cut it (I knew this really), and that a realsitic option would be becoming a 0.8 (ie, 4 days a week), and then applying for 'designated researcher status' (new thing at work) where I would get another day working from home. At the mo all full timers get one day at home doing research,but this changes after easter. Def. don't want to be in 5 days, and would rather take a pay-cut and have chance to pick dds up from school etc a few days a week. Lots to think about, but they do seem to want to get things sorted quickly, which is fine by me. Will keep you updated! BTW, did manage to keep gob shut most of the time ; LIbby was a flirt and fell in love with woman (she has 2 dds herself), before giving a massive fart when sat on her knee (that's my girl!!! - we've trained for that all week!!).
Sounds really shallow I know, but I feel a bit odd about even contemplating part-time; suppose I do associate it with loss of status, and have always been very driven in my research etc.. Suppose something has to give though , and I think on balance this is what it'll come down to. Can't have it all, and would prefer more time with my girls .
CHACHA: horrible horrible man ; things like that sicken me. I know this may be a generation thing (though sadly hardly absent from younger generations), but I don't like to excuse people from this sort of behaviour just because they are old. Have thought of him riding off into the pothole as LONDONER suggests!
LONDONER: had odd dream 2 nights ago about you (well, your household, you were out at the doctors apparently, sorting out 'women's things' , but your children and DH were lovely and kind, and showed me lots of books and photos while we waited for you. Feel part of the family now . BTW. V impressed with Elizabeth's soup!! I'm of the jars and rusks school I have to say (this is when me and Gina part ways)!!.
KARMA: Looking forward to seeing DS at meet; he sounds a sweet little boy . On the book front, dds favourites are Jolly Postman (soooo long to read, with all those damn letters to look at! ; Gruffolo, and the Slinky Malinki series (nice to read and not too long!!!). Unfortunatley, we have an obsession at present with the sing-along ones (Disney princess); great when you're on your own with them, but a tad when MIL is sitting there just 'looking' .
BOB: go for the laudrey servivce I say!!!Think of all the hours you could free up!!
TWINKLE: shall we arrange a day in the next few weeks? Shall I suggest some dates?
Finally, (phew, long post for me, glad my acrylics are off )have just glanced at 'Heat' mag cover, and want to say 'it's all true' about a certain 'celeb' - don't want to name names and have a court case on my hands (ref: GF!!!), but think about where I live, and you'll guess what I mean (if not, another titbit to add to JK goss!!).
Right, quorn sausages are done!!!
Diege

Karma - does he like/have a gameboy or PSP? If yes, tell him to bring it. My DS is always on the dam thing.