November '05 - babies getting bigger, mummies getting smaller!

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A nice new thread for us all - I know someone mentioned it a few days ago

Thanks everyone for the offer of support.

Just gonna ramble on for a few lines to try ake some sense of whats in my head, sorry in advance

My head is all over the place at the moment. I dont think i'm bothered that he left, i think i'm more bothered that i'm on my own. Our relationship had gone down the toilet months ago, but neither of us had the guts to end it. Yes i'm upset and i still love him. Miss him loads. I would've liked to have thought we could've sorted things out but that isnt going to happen.

The thing that annoys me most is that he was telling me it was my fault, that he left because of me. Like the arguments were all my fault. Like nothing was his fault and it was all down to me.

Health visitor referred me to GP and i'm on anti depressants, and have counselling starting at the end of April, to help get over years worth of cr*p. I'm just so low at the moment, finding it hard to enjoy my girls, and that makes me feel guilty.

I'm gonna get off to bed, see if i can sleep some tonight.

Night all

Sarah xx

beartime - a little trick I use when I feel I have a mountain of stuff to do and it begins to get overwhelming. Break it down into lots of smaller tasks and set yourself a managable target. If you try and do too much you just set yourself up for failure - remember - you can eat an elephant one bite at a time.

Accents - posh - I don't think so - more like a norf ldn vibe.

LilJ - glad Nate is on the mend.

Yorkshire - I'm a Jeremy Kyle fan too - he is so rude, but his 'guests' need it. I love it. Real trashy TV.

SS - vent away sarah, we are here for you.

Off to meet JenJam for a coffee - doubbly buggy on the bus!

Oh Sarah, I really feel for you , can't imagine what you must be going through. At least you seem to be coming to terms with what's happened, which is a definite start . Please don't feel guilty about your girls - the fact that you are getting your life back together and getting help is something you should be feeling proud about. Hold on in there, be strong, and let us know how things go .

Will post phone number on yahoo when I find out what it is! Will have to ring landline and do 1471 .
RODEO: I thought when we met that your 'accent' sounded like mine (ie. both no accents); bet we're really 'broad' and only others can tell . I don't know how to text , but am sure to get lost from hotel to venue, so will have to ring no doubt!
YORKSHIRE: I do exactly the same when DH has day off to do 'jobs'; we end up going out somewhere nice for lunch, and before we know it it's time to pick girls up from nursery/school . Ah well, makes a nice change from the daily grind I'd go for the Jeremy Kyle ; I feel I know him intimately as he is the best friend of the woman who does my nails (she also does the make up for the show) so I know all sorts of juicy info ). Also waiting for outcome of flexible work application - no word as yet, but they do need to arrange a meeting within 28 days of application by law.
CHACHA: yes, milk not beer . Watched family man too; enjoyed it . While I remember, something in Practical Parenting this month about not making up batches of bottles and storing in fridge, but instead to make up fresh for each feed????? Eh??? first I'd heard of it, and I have to say I'm sticking to batches. Bad enough having to do them once a day, let alone 4/5 times !!!.
Well, not much on today as friend has cancelled visit due to chicken pox. However, our flights are booked for 'holiday' to Portugal (yep, with 6 kids apiece) - Valamora sp??
Right, time for brekkie!
Diege

Meant 3 kids apiece ; ..bad enough!

sarah - sounds like you are getting things sorted..you should be proud that you're taking the right course of action to sort things out.
hope you feel better soon.
i'm another one who doesn't know my own mobile number...

My accents a funny one..a bit yorkshire becuase thats where i ws born..but I've picked up a bit of 'southern ness' from my friends and living in london..also got a hint of D.P's east european accent lol
i think i just sound yorkshire but lots of people comment otherwise..

Well Nate seems to be cured, only problem now is that he's made me sick now - little bugger!

Morning all.

The interview went well, as it was only for the nurse bank it was very informal. They took me on immediately & I've been able to give them lots of dates in May that I can work so I can't wait. Unfotunately she said there weren't any permanent jobs coming up but things change all the time. She also said when I do the bank shifts I might end up doing more theatre than anaesthetics/recovery. Can't complain as it just means I stock up, open equipment for the scrub nurse & tidy up. Can handle that, especially if I've been up all night with El.

Also, was out last night with p/n girls & we went for an Indian. It was great to get all dolled up & get out of the house. We had a good laugh since we all got pissed rather quickly, can't imagine why.

Tex, that has to be the best tattoo story I've heard. It's up there with running off to Vegas to get married, holding up a gas station & stuff like that!!

Nova thanks for those links to those sights. We've got a Bumbo too but El keeps arching her back like a board & the front bit gives her a wedgie.

Sarah, I was very moved by your last post. It could've been written by me 9 years ago. Keep telling yourself that you're a strong person, the arguments weren't all your fault, how could they be? Your priority is you & your LO. I hope the counselling gives you the answers to your "crap". Mine did. It will be a painful journey but it'll be worth it.

Diege, the milk thing seems to be a new thing. At the p/n classes that followed ours this was the information that was given out. Seems a bit extreme if you ask me. Are you expected to do this for the night feeds too?

Chacha, boys love their pee-pees, full stop! El's trick is to wait until I've changed her nappy then fills it with a big poo, so we have to start all over again, sigh.

As for accents, I've got a gentle softened Geordie accent but can do a full blown one to order. Apparantly it's a very hard accent to emulate. The only good one I've ever heard is Paul Whitehouse on the Fast Show, I love his Julio Geordio character! I shall endeavour to make sure El doesn't acquire a Yorkshire accent. I did the same for my DS, he has a nice voice, I think. But he does let the odd geordie-sounding word slip out!

Catch you all after the weekend, got all the kids here so I cannot wait for Sunday evening when they've all gone back, DP is at the pub, El is in bed & I'm putting my feet up in front of MN!!

crossed posts BoB, I shall tell you how thick t' accent is if you're coming to the meet.

Diege - I make up all the water in advance and then just add the powder when it's feeding time. No need to store in fridge or warm bottles

Leaving for the wedding today, I made sure I brought Nat into bed with me this morning so we could have lots of cuddles.

Yorkshire - The Annabel Karmel book is great if you don't have a clue about weaning as it has a chart in the back with it all spelled out for you. IMO weaning won't make your LO sleep, I introduced food nearly 3 weeks ago and she still wakes in the night for a bottle. It takes a while before they take in enough food to replace the calories the milk gives. HTH?

Morning :)

Oh Sarah, sorry things have been so awful for you :( Just try and concentrate on the girls, they'll always make you smile, but don't feel guilty about anything - you're going through a really tough time.

Diege, yes we have got similar accents I think! Ooh you've booked your flights - how exciting! When are you going? Was it Sept? And Jeremy Kyle's your nail technician's bf? Surely that classes you as JK's friend?! That must make him an aquaintance of mine!

Right must tidy now, J is nappyless on her changing mat sucking her toes - her new trick of this week :)

Have a fab wedding Bridesmaid! :)

Morning All!

Diege - have heard this new theory about not making up batch bottles. Tbh have not heeded this advice as it doesn't fit in with my life, so am with you and continue to make bottles in batch. Also tried Novas theory of just pre-doing water, then adding powder when necessary - can't do this anymore as T is now on 9oz, and the powder containers we have only hold 8 scoops - so have reverted back to bulk bottles. HAsn't done any harm so far, so am guessing it won't.
am also v impressed about Jeremy Kyle story - he's lovely! You must let us know of any gossip you acquire!

Sarah - big hugs to you chick. Am sure you will find the strength and courage you need. Remember it is Not your fault, at worst it is 50-50, so the thought that it is your fault must be eradicated from your mind forthwith. Feel free to vent as necessary. Good luck with the counselling, am sure you will get through this.

Got Thomas weighed yesterday - he is now 16lb 1½oz, so is doing very nicely.

Has anyone got a Shade-a-Babe? Am thinking that I need to get a sun canopy for my pushchair, but then saw these advertised, and wondered if they were any good? Also as they act as a windshield, rather than having to use the rain cover. T gets very hot very quickly, so if am using the fleece cosytoes often can't put coat on him as he starts to overheat -t hen if have rain cover on aswell, to act as windbreak - he starts to boil like a carrot as it is like a greenhouse!

Might put my mobile number on Yahoo - even though am not going to Meetup in London, just so you can text me in the middle of the night if you feel like it, and so that I don't feel left out! how sad is that? It's like being at school again and being worried that you are missing out on something, or that no=one likes you!!
Anyway, off into town this afternoon to meet up with pn girlies. ONly a couple of these meetups left before I go back to work - as will be working Fridays, so won't be able to go .

By the way, if anyone fancies a day trip to the lovely historic, and picturesque Stratford-upon-Avon, let me know, as would be great to meet up with someone, and would be able to show you around the historic sights!

Speak later - ahve a good day everyone

Brownie & Thomas

x

LMAO :o :o :o

Oh Brownie, that's so funny!! :o

It's like being at school again and being worried that you are missing out on something, or that no=one likes you!!

Ha ha! I actually stopped MN (like an addiction) for a while for many reasons, the most trivial of them was that I was checking the board constantly for replies to my posts .. and worse still, getting paranoid over why a question addressed to someone was ignored

I either fill the thermo flask with hot water and add to bottles when necessary or just put them all made up in the fridge for when I've got a lot on. Impossible to make fresh each time

Enjoy weddings/holidays etc.. Have a good weekend all. P.S. At last, we have a ford galaxy, anyone got any experience of them? The space in there is fab! Love M & Z x

Have just looked at yahoo site. Layla & Seth are gorgeous, wow! Lil - Nate is adorable and christening pics looovely.

Have added new folder (deleted last one to make space for others) should fall under 'Z' instead of 'C' this time, hope that's okay.

Must get back to the real world (will not be checking for replies or get sulky when ignored! - ) x

Ooh CHACHA, I'm a bit like that myself ; also, if post early on and no other posters all day, feel a bit sad posting again 6 hours later if no other posts! (all my secrets are out now ).
BROWNIE: LOL, know what you mean .
RODEO: had a chuckle at your Jeremy Kyle post! Will tell him (via nail lady) that he has a new bessie mate ! Will save goss' for meet-up, as it is of an intimate nature !!!
Right, best go, I have a screamer on my hands (not Jeremy unfortunately .
Diege .

Oooh cannot wait for JK intimate details!

Chacha - I think when we get nice replies addressed to us it does make us feel special :) It is v. addictive! The trouble I have is remembering what to type when I'm down in this box at the bottom, although you can flip threads can't you? I never do though! And I think Londoner and Tessa have a 2 box theory which works very well but to complicated for my little brain! So if I have ignored in the past this is my excuse

Feel free to add number Brownie! And add me to your address book too :) You may have noticed though that I get a tad sentimental (a bit overly so ) at nighttimes so beware

Off to look at Z's new piccies before J wakes up :)

Chacha, he looks so cute - and big!

My friend has just booked my London tickets Hurray! Though she could only get me on train back at 3.30pm or 7pm - so I went for the 7pm one! I'm sure I'll find something to do!! Diege, you're not leaving til later are you

My train back is at 6.45 RODEO, so watch out London!!!Hey, hope I don't do another Meadowhall and miss my train back!
Have been thinking of TWINKLE recently - hope you are coping; we must meet up again when you are up to it .

Hello all,

Sarah - am so sorry to hear things sound so up in the air for you at the moment, I can't imagine what it must be like for you and can only agree with what others have said on here and please try not to be too hard on yourself, you are doing the best that you can in these circumstances.... how could you do any more than that.... you couldn't..
I thought I might post a link for you to look at \link{http://www.gingerbread.org.uk/\here}, in case it might have some helpful advice and relevant support for you. Just to say I was brought up by my mum with 2 sisters and although we went through a lot we are so increadibly close as a result, many many positive things spring from the most difficult situations. The one thing my mum always did, no matter what sort of a day we'd had, she always put it to one side to tuck us in at bed-time - which kind of translates into a cup of tea and a chat after school at teenage. HTH and hang in there with your lovely self and lovely girls.
ChaCha... hope I've never ignored you... would feel mortified and it would have been unintentional.
My accent...ummm.don't know, quite neutral, wasn't born in England, dad was from Tottenham, London, mum from Dublin, Ireland. My step dad was Irish but was a lecturer in ancient greek at Trinity and was very particular about how we spoke, so I think I'm quite well spoken with a little flavour of London.
Better go and make tea, will try and catch up more soon have great weekends all....

hi all..

phew just sat down after a crazy afternoon..
went o bank..dashed home..went out for lunch with tex111 which was lovly..dashed back to bank and spent ages doing boring mortgag things..met dp and some work colluges to show off the bby...dashed around tk maxx (i hate that place whn I'm looking for somthing in prticular..!)..dashed around m&s to buy dinner...then got home and even too lazy to put ready meals in oven so we've just ordered in chinese.

oops..speaking of which ..there it is..
i'll catch up later

Hi everyone,

Nova - thanks for bumbo link, I felt like I was missing out with everyone talking about theirs and me not knowing what it was

Whats wrong with Hants accents? Although I must say that here in Pompey we do have our own (not so) special accent. I think my accent gets a lot stronger when i'm up north, and of course with dp's family all with scouse accents they take the p* a lot and can't understand the difference between 'liar' and 'lawyer', and 'tall' and 'tool'. And of course the 'cassel', 'carstle' debate can get very heated.

Sarah - Hi, sounds like you're coming through a hard time, and i'm sure you're doing a great job with your girls. Hope everything works out well for you, and you're feeling stronger soon

I noticed a birth mark on Sean yesterday when changing his nappy. Not quite sure why its taken me nearly 5 months to notice it.

Big Brother home now for 2 and a bit weeks, with dp possibly in hospital, should be interesting...

Hello - glad it's not just me then with the childish "no-one is talking to me, and I am missing out on everything" feelings!!!!!
Diege - am even more envious now about London meet up - am going to miss out on all the JK gossip!!! will you post on yahoo so I can keep in the loop??? or text me with the news (have put mobile no on yahoo - feel free to add to address books everyone!)

Have good weekend everyone - will talk more soon.

Brownie & Thomas
x

GG - corssed posts there - I noticed a birthmark on Ts back just before the 8 week check - they said that it can take a few weeks/months for them to appear. Ts is now starting to fade and get smaller. If you are worried about it, get the HV to measure it and write in your red book, then they have a point of reference if you ever go back to a GP about it. That's what they did with Thomas's.

Hope you are well and have agood weekend. Is it your dp that is going into hospital? sorry might have misunderstood something.

Brownie

Brownie - I'm not worried about his birthmark, more intrigued really, i've never been quite sure why they're there. it's on his side, so even if it doesn't fade its not in a prominent place thats going to make him feel self conscious when he's older.

Yes it is my dp going into hospital, not entirely sure when or to do what, but seeing one of his consultant on Weds, so hopefully he should be going in within the next week

Hope everything's OK with DP GG ; brother home..ooh, is that good or bad? .
BROWNIE: of course you can have the JK goss . Funny actually, told DH what it was just now, and he said 'you 'that, what if the News of the World' is reading it!!' Will have to either learn how to text , or post on yahoo when I'm brave enough. BTW, it's not THAT exciting, so don't get your hopes up!
Just back from driving lesson with DH...nough said .
Diege