March 06 The Arrivals!

[Frizbe]

Hi ladies, have created this to start our postnatal thread, so fire away!

good luck rom... I've tried droping the 11pm feed and he wakes up at 12... I've tried feeding him more duringthe day and he still wakes up at 12, so I still do teh 11pm feed as I don;t like being woken up an hours sleep. Then he goes for about 3-4 hours normally before hes awake for another feed. On a good night he goes straight back to sleep after each feed, we have the occasional bad night when something wakes him up to much and then hes noisey little chap for an hour.
Boy is still only on mums milk, we have just started introduceing a cup of milk with dad at 6pm ish as I've just started expressing so as to be used to it when I want milk for mixing with veg puree/rice etc.
he does occasionaly try and grab food, but he grabbs anything he can get his hands on food or otherwise and it all goes in his mouth. don;t think its foood hes interested in in particular, hes just at teh "every thing in the mouth for a good chew" stage. His doidy cup is already very tooth marked after just 2 days.

Hi all

Uni, I swapped the 11pm feed to 10:15 last night, so I could languish in the bath before bed, and you know what, she slept until 6.30am the latest time ever!! dd1 went until 7.30am, hurrah!!! Frizbe does a lap the lounge in excitement! Obviously that doesn't mean it'll work again tonight, but I'm going to try it!
Madam is in bed again now! went at 15:30, and she's had a 3hr nap this am as well 10-13:00 I'm thinking she's growing in her sleep?
either that or hoping she'll take after her sister, who happily used to take ages for her morning and afternoon naps my sleepy genes are getting to them eventually!

Good luck with dropping the feed Rom

wow- lucky friz... luxury, your girls are treating you very well today.

They sure are!! probably means I'm in for a bad day sometime soon too, but so far not complaining, dd1 is currently reading dd2 her new Usborne Hen Book!

my dd is reading to ds right now as well! DH is in London so we are in chaos (how do you manage friz!?)...so ds had a jar of heinz (his first jar...liked it better then my cooking ! ) and a pot of goodies fruit, and dd liked the fruit so she had a pot too, as well as a yoghurt. does that qualify as dinner?

what time do yours go to bed? Ds has only had one sleep today (1 1/2 hours) and is now v tired, but he normally goes at 8pm.

putting on the wiggles for dd while i go put ds to bed...he is bellowing now...

romi goes to bed at 7pm - after her bath and story and feed

• shes pretty knackered by this time as she goes the whole afternoon with no napping.

well last night she woke herself at 11ish so i fed her anyway - and she still woke at 2am, 4am and then 6am. ugh....

Oops Rom! You will get a good night's sleep at some point believe me!!!
Astro, my girls go to bed together between 7 and 8 pm. Kiah is better for being asleep before 7.30 but it doesn't always work out like that.
After weeks of good bedtimes Tilly had her uncles birthday cake late and really kicked off at bedtime. I lost it completely and put the gate across the door and then yelled in her face. Sometimes I feel so out of control I hate it. Anyway she did go down at about 8.30 and she will have forgotton all about it the morning as per usual. Some days I feel like I have the worst PMT ever and get scared that my PND is returning but really I think I'm just a grotty cow.

Sorry Friz got so carried away there with offloading my woes I forgot to say 'yay' about your super sleeper!!!

Aw LL, I its so hard isn't it. You go for ages being patient and kind and then they just push all your buttons at once and you blow your top and then feel like a witch. And I know what you mean about feeling out of control too...its one of my most often repeated phrases (always said to DH through floods of tears), and I've actually found it helpful to try and accept that its true...you simply can't control your life when you have kids (or possibly ever). Tilly will not be scarred for life though! You are obviously a wonderful and devoted Mum.

Oh, and if it makes you feel any better, Luie cries/screams every night and it breaks my heart too
I really look forward to a time when she goes to bed happy.

hmmmm just re read last post and realised it could be read as 'my kid cries too, so get over it'...but thats not what i meant at all LL!

Astro I'm sure LL wouldn't see it that way anyway!
I think this may answer several q's in one go for all 3 of you who asked (I don't always managed Astro, I guess I'm just getting used to it!)
usually dd2 goes to bed at 7pm and dd1 at 7.30 if ss is about he's at 8pm....(this is a good night when dh is about, and he'll go and hiss at them too)
Last night nearly forgot to get dd2 tea, as had popped to Tesco's after fetching dd1 from nursery, oopse...so she ate late at 6.30..bathed both girls together after that, then boob for dd2 and bed, (whilst dd1 lounged on the bed) then whilst dd2 was rattling around in her cot,put dd1 to bed.....fast forward 1hr to 8.30 and I'm back upstairs giving dd2 a bit more boob to settle her, as I'm wanting to sit down and eat my tea....once she is settled dd1 kicks off again.....at 9pm I start to loose my cool, and nose to nose, in a VERY firm voice explain to her I've not even had my tea yet and if she doesn't shut up whineing about wanting a drink, not wanting it in that cup, not being tired yet, I will shut her bedroom door for the whole night, dd1 looks petrified and snuggles down for the night....I am evil mummy but at 9.20pm I get to eat my tea.
So I'm in there with you all on that one! I guess some days are better than others right and today is bound to be better as dd1 has just broken the dvd recorder trying to put her Wiggles dvd in....seems the open shut bit has finally bust......argh!

Uni how you doing?
Gothic, Caddy, Munz and the rest of you! are you still out there?

Oh and on top of that dd2 woke up at 2am as well, then went till 7.30 tho so not too bad....

Thanks guys. Feel better about my witchy outburst!!
Astro, I think it's worse when Tilly kicks off after so many brilliant nights - when she was consistently bad I accepted it more IYKWIM.
Anyway meant to be working - just did tax return and between us we owe the taxman 5 and a half grand!!!!! Erk!

Yikes your poor pockets......which reminds me the damn vat return is due again soon.....

oh, LL thanks for the reminder to DO my tax return. Thanks for asking friz, I'm OK.

Chez uni is jogging along in a bit of a pigsty mess coz I'm too lazy to tidy up toys every evening, so there are living room toys, back bed room toys, boys bedroom toys, and one toy at a time in our family bedroom. I've found that leaving boy with any toy in the cot or visable on the bed when I want him to sleep is a no no.
I babysat friends 18 mo lad again today and we got on much better this time, he puttered around teh living room playing while boy sat and laughed like a drain watching him. Boy even put up with having very big socks put on his feet and pulled of again several times as lad thought that was a good game to play for a while.
Teeth are bothering boy again, and bothering me when he bites ( several times today) yesterday ws day of multiple stelth poohs, I hate them as he ends up sore even with frequent nappy inpections, he seems to hide it behind his bollocks in teh hardest place to see through a nappy leg hole:-( no soo bad today, just thunderpants farting.
Roll on the bank hol weekend and a few dh/dps at home on monday to keep us all company. It'll be the 1st Aug B/hol I havn't worked for a few years, might go to the cricket club on saturday if the weathers OK.

Lol at the stealth poo's!

Sarah,poor boy with his hidden poos and poorly bum!
Well tonight we are Tilly free as she is staying at my sisters but Kiah has more than made up for the fact that we are one child down. first she pooed on my knee (had run out of wraps so was having a nappy free hour!), all down my trousers and onto the sofa - guess she knows we have no washer eh? Than after a bath she wouldn't go to bed until nearly 10pm.
Missing her big sis do you think??

Unisarah - I think that the last date for tax credits is end of Aug so have a look - that's why we've done our tax returns so early. Last year we got into an overpayment situation with tax credits. It's a right faff when you're self empolyed or when your earnings vary lots due to maternity leave etc.
has your MA run out yet???

Aye tis end of Aug for tax credits, just got ours done a few days ago and got the paperwork thru today, surprise, surprise they overpaid us last year and luckily were taking it back already, so I hadn't really noticed.......what a stupid system eh.....
dd2 overtired here, she's screaming the place down still, I know she's ok as she grins and shuts up as soon as I go into her.....she just missed her naps today, as we were at a friends for her birthday and there were kids galore around, everytime she dropped off for a nap, it was only 10 mins max before one of them woke her up again, with a scream or a kiss......thus she won't go to sleep at the mo either.....boobed ok, nappy ok, teeth? possibly ok, dunno at a loss, just keep popping back up until she drops I guess....

Well I've asked for teh form for tax credits ... about a week ago but its not arrived yet. My MA ran out in early July, I started it in Jan as I couldn't carry on working then. I want o get my tax return done in time so I don;t have to do teh calculations. On a similar note, I had a demand for some NI last month with a big notice about must be paid in 28 days and apaying in slip ( normally its DD) so, I apid it on day 27, got abank statement today and the took it out a DD on day 26! DOH, so now that been paid twice and goodness only knows how it'll get resolved, maybe my NI bill after tax return won;t be so big?

Sorry- very dull.
Boy is fine, he made up for yesterdays day of not feeding much today and had a couple of good big guzzles. HE did 6 hour sleep last night- HURRAH. then was awake for an hour at 5am, BOOOO.
Sorry about Kiahs antics last night, I'm being spoiled by boy at teh mo as hes going off to sleep Ok at bedtime without his dummy! It can;t last forever.

Uni if I were you I'd ring Tax credits again tomorrow, can't hurt, may boot them up the bum....

Ah see I'm talking to myself today where are you all!

We've had a nice day out at Chatsworth today, a bit off the cuff this am, but as it turned out so nice, we loaded car up with two friends and my kids with picnic and did the farm park a fab day out for all, just tea, bath and bed to come, and then I have to pack the tent etc in the car for our 'camping wedding' which we're off to tomorrow! so if I'm missing for a few days you know where I've gone back later tonight no doubt tho.

friz hope you enjoy the weekend

we have finally found dd school shoes that she likes adn dad thinks are suitable I stayed well out of it all lol

boy keeps tring to grab food off plates so have given him apple slice and rice cakes to play whilst we eat - after checking with hv - he seems too little still but it seems to be working - he just loves his food so thats ok altho the hv looked shocked when I said no i hadn't tried him on meat yet cos we're vege

Hi Friz- yes you were on your own earlier. I was busy doing tax return and tax credit form as it arrived today, thats taken all of teh day that boy didn;t IYSWIM. Still need Dh to soet out a load of info when he goes back to work on tuesday to complete the tax credit form. Its worse than my tax return by about 8 pages.
Tried a new feeding position with boy taday, sat on sofa with him sitting next to me faceing otherway, puts boob a just the right height for him. he seemed to like it well enough guzzled merrily and then fell asleep. Hes been a hungrey little tyke today, may be making up for light feeds overnight.