October 2011, the three C's crawling cruising and chatting

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Thanks Mama for the title. A new thread hopefully everyone will find us again.

mama that's sounds bad!...don't forget to keep up the fluid intake...

sassy cheshire hope you're feeling better....

fuzzzy £70!! you're kidding!

..also cheshire you may be right about the breakfast timing. he wakes up at 5:30 for his milk (yes you heard me right!) and it's generally 5-6 ounces so I thought breakfast at 8:30 should be fine. guess not (although it used to be fine a few weeks back)

...anyway food yesterday..i tried every trick in the book...breakfast options were porridge, french toast and banana with blueberry (not together of course). porridge was rejected outright. french toast consumption was 1/18th of a slice of bread, and then half a banana..well at least a banana, i consoled myself. lunch went well, a bowl of lentils with veggies. and then tea, oh god, tea! cereal rejected. toast with cream cheese rejected. sardines with cream cheese rejected. just cream cheese two spoons. mango rejected. by the end of all this he was crying of hunger but he just wouldn't eat what i was offering. he had already had a yoghurt and fromage frais during the day but had to give him another....

ditto today. except fish pie for lunch was also rejected. he finally gobbled up ella's lamb roast. god bless Ella.....

do i sound like a food obsessed mum...sorry...

...not letting myself worry because as so many more experienced mums on this thread have said....he'll eat when he's hungry...and see the intake over the week...i keep telling myself that...plus i'm going to go stock up on ella's kitchen packets...give the l'il man what he wants for the moment :)

Thanks for get well wishes. Dc all fine (fx) I ate small lunch, wish I hadn't . Starwars movie on with ds2 engrossed and I'm feeding J in bed.

lovin I may join you in being food obsessed. Had W weighed at a hospital appointment the other day just got round to noting it in his red book and have discovered that he apparently hasn't gained any weight at all in the last month!

Get well mama, cheshire and sassy!

And to whoever it was who said they usually have 5 dirty nappies a day - FIVE? Good grief! What a great system your child has !

Someone mentioned a lotion or potion that was good for chicken pox rash, I've scanned but can't find it - can you remind me what it was called? Mum's neighbour's daughter has the dreaded pox and is suffering a bit.

Fuzzzy and Grey, and anyone else who's finding things tight financially, I'm feeling your pain.

Teething bubba here - drool, bubbles, red cheeks and awake, screaming, at 5.45am. Come on teeth, let's be having you!!!

It's "virasoothe" annuity pricey but good x

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Magic, ta!

strawberry exactly the same here. no weight gain in the last month :(

lots of dirty diapers over the last two days. not sure if there's something wrong.

a question - as you may have guessed from all the stuff rejected how much food is getting thrown in our house (there's no dog). over the last week when he doesn't eat his yoghurt, i just put it back in the fridge and give it to him at the next meal, in another 2-3 hours. is that wrong? should i be throwing it away? wondering if that has given him an upset tummy...

I don't think that's a problem at all lovin.

Just when we're finding our feet the little loves find something else to stress us about don't they!

loving I decant his yoghurt into a little dish a bit at at a time and the pot goes in the fridge (no more than 3 days for a pot). I eat anything, as I have a cast iron tum, but I am extra careful with joseph as I imagine he is more likely to be sensitive. . I may be over cautious tho. It is annoying to throw stuff away, I have been known to eat bits of his leftovers

cheshire sorry you are ill, but your post in aibu made me laugh! You must have been unwell to risk posting in there!

Talking of money, I am meeting with my boss on mon to talk about my possible return. Fingers X I actually have a job to go back to, no guarantees.... Otherwise I need to get the cv updated.

The babies weight gain will change as they are physically active and burn off a lot.

In this house - another C - chicken pox. DS first ( he is 3) now 8 month old DD. She is utterly miserable. Virasoothe, mentioned above, is good, but Poxcillin mousse better. It is £10 though, but has done two cases of CP.

I wish we had some figs in the house, now P is constipated and I guess that's what is waking her up. It's one extreme or theother here!

Have I missed a NC? Who is bikerunski? I can't keep up with the nc.

I was just wondering the same thing scheh

Hi all! Head like mush so will post but can't remember named

No, not got new job yet . Had a week of full time nannying just helping out a friend. I had to take S with me and it was bloody hard work. I'm utterly gubbed right now. Was almost asleep on bed with S when I was givin her her milk at 7pm! I'm just about to make her bottle for the morning then I'm going to bed.

Yes the money situation is baaaad right now. Normally whenever I've hit problems financially, iv borrowed from my dad but I haven't asked him for a single penny yet. I know he would never see me or S go hungry etc but it's like I want to prove I can manage. I think it all goes back to when I broke the news that I was preg. As me and her 'dad' were no longer together, my dad thought me continuing with preg was the worst idea ever. He was actually furious with me and told me he wanted to be no part of this, didn't have my blessing/support etc then never spoke to me for a month... . At one point he couldn't even look at me. I went over to their house, walked in and he didn't even acknowledge that I'd entered the room! He went on about how I'd never beable to cope money wise and I wasn't to go crying to him when things went tits up. God, I make him sound like a beast. He really really isn't. Think it was just a shock. He absolutely dotes on S and would never wish she wasn't here now. I have a biggish flat (3 double sized bedrooms) but I don't want a lodger living here. I just feel like this is our space. If things did get really bad, I'd move back to my parents and try rent out my flat. As I say though, things are bad, but I'm managing. Just have to be sensible about it all. Tryin not to go wasted journeys in car, meal planning etc. I've sold a few things on eBay but not of much value really. I don't even have savings to fall back onto. I literally live day by day every month. Still have a little bit of debt that is slowly being cleared. Once that has, then I'll start saving.
Sorry, another moan

mama, cheshire and anyone else who's feeling crap, hope it's over soon.

It's true, it's almost like a 9 month 'slump'. I feel like each day is just merging into the next with no excitement. I feel so jealous of my friends who are living for the moment, booking last minute holidays abroad, weekends away etc. I feel like my day consists of cleaning, cooking, feeding and now trying to stop S climbing on everything!! Hope the pnd isn't creeping back

Sorry for me post. I honestly do read everyone's posts, just when it comes to replying, it's all gone out my head!

Oh fuzzzy you're so lovely its just not fair :( just how useless is S's dad, is he giving child support? Is the car an absolute must, could that go?

This thread has had me chuckling www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1517038--to-not-eat?addwatch=1

sch he's seen her twice now in her almost 10 months on this planet, last time being start of November.... He pays nothing towards her but tbh, I don't want a penny from him. As he clearly has no interest in her, I feel like if he did offer anything, it wouldnt be for the right reasons. I was thinking before, I will be proper upset if he doesn't even remember her 1st birthday. And the really sad fact, I don't think he will .
I need the car though. I'm a bit out the way where I am, bus service is shit so really couldn't do without it. I'm fortunate though as my car is bought thanks dad so no payments there, insurance and tax aren't toooo expensive and since being out of work and havin to cut back, I've cut down my petrol to which is good.
But thanks though . It's nice to have you all to speak to without the worry of being judged. I know some people are in same position or even worse off. I count my blessings that we are both healthy and happy

Another wee random fact, when I passed my test 8/9 years ago, petrol was 89p a litre. £20 would last me a month!!! Now I'm lucky at times to make that last 5 days!!!

God no will you ever be judged, times are hard for everyone. If it were me though, I'd be after him for all I could get, but thats just because of my history with my dad (long story).

I don't drive, we just couldn't afford for me to learn, or run a second car.

I'm glad my dad didn't pay maintenance

sch I did think that for a while, but I didn't want it to turn into a 'well I pay u X amount so I want her every other weekend' sorta thing. He clearly has no clue so I wouldn't have any trust handing her over. God, if you couldve heard his chat when we first were coming to grips with all this. 'yeah, I'll put X into your bank every month, set up a bank account in her name, change my spare room into a nursery for when she comes to stay'

penguin do you mind me asking why?

I got in contact with him around 16 but it was a odd relationship. I then chose to stop contact even though I know he would have wanted to carry on. If he had have paid money then maybe I would have felt more obliged to see him. As it was I decided he was weak and pathetic and walked away.

I know my mum at one point did seek some money and he denied I was his but she did do her best to just paint as a young naive person rather than someone to hate. I came to my conclusions all by myself and I gave him a fair chance, it was him who couldn't move on from the past. Sorry just rambling there but hope some of it makes sense.

Not rambling . He has never denied she is his. In fairness, she is his double and he would have a tough time trying to convince anyone of that!
I just hope S grows up not hating or resenting me that he wasn't in her life from the start. I know in the grand scheme of things, it's still early days, but I feel the whole relationship and trust I had in him is now gone and it will never get back to where it was. I feel more sad for S that she has to grow up without a dad

he didn't either, until new wife and kids came along. Even his whole family accepted I was his. There is still loads of time for her to have good male role models and that is better than a bad example of a father.

fuzzy them were the days eh? Can't believe how much petrol is now, dh reckons its going up again cos of strike in Norway (he works in petrochemical). . No judging here, actually I admire how you manage and think you are doing an amazing job and that she'll so look up to you. . Sorry it's so shite for you at the moment moneywise.