October 2011, the three C's crawling cruising and chatting

[LittlePebble]

Thanks Mama for the title. A new thread hopefully everyone will find us again.

[MamaMaiasaura]

cheshire how does P get on with mange tout. Dh popped some on her plate for lunch at weekend and I took them off as didn't think she'd manage them . Sti got some in fridge so I will give them a go tomorrow. Ouch for bleeding nipples! Poor you, I get sore before she cuts teeth as well and she's been unsettled when nursing so must have been painful for her. I hope P's come through soon (tho it hurts a lot more then when they nip). J has nipped me a few times but all I've done is push her into boob and then she's opened her mouth (and cried ). J hasn't had teeth come thro in traditional order at all, she's a rebel.

ipswitch not going back to work till kids older, I really admire mums who do work and have no clue how you manage. My friend introduced me to flylady, which is where I got launch pads from. They make a huge amount of difference to the morning. Don't know if that helps you? Launch pad is basically the clothes you need for the following day, breakfast stuff (bowl spoon etc) laid out. Keys, bag etc all together. Yay for N rolling and chattering. Barbara must be a good name . J isn't making words at really, too busy trying to get hold of anything remotely dangerous and chasing down her brothers.

bb3 glad to hear K recovering, why does he need more surgery? . I messages you back on FB and apologise for the dire grammar and spelling

Em your menu sounds very tasty and now I need biscuits as hungry again.

loving at proud of his burp. Ds2 farted a couple of days ago, I said "did you fart??" (it was very loud part).. He said straight faced and seriously "No mummy, that was a pretend one". oh dear for hv... I had J at 36 .. and I wouldn't mind a 4th.

lookout I know! She has oodles of toys and instead eats carpets and tables

MrsH J hasn't poo'd today and can go 4/5 days between but then has huge massive eye watering poo. Usually proceeded by restless night, lots of grunting and red faced, staring eyed (she's stares me out as she strains...) then eureka!

Phew I think that's it.

News here, infant school again tomorrow for ds2 to try. He had bad day at preschool as all confused and said its the wrong school. Lots of tears. Its just confusing for him.Had eldest report and all a, a and b's . Dh is flying out on my birthday so I'll be home alone with the dc but only till Tuesday so not too long at all, better than the long stints to Japan he had to do before.

[golemmings]

Lookout - the egg thing was news to me but maybe that's a difference between allergy and intolerance. WE finally saw the dietitian yesterday. she seemed slightly put out that we'd done our own research but what were we supposed to do. he's 9 months and I've not eaten dairy since december. For my sake as well we had to do something. Anyway, she was deeply unconcerned about his calcium intake (even though we can only make it half the recommended figures) and just kept saying he was a bonny lad and he was fine (which he is - he's sitting quite happily on the 98th percentile line). The one useful thing she said was that she thought he was lactose intolerant not cmpi intolerant which makes life much easier. You can get loads of lactose free stuff (like ice cream - nom nom) but a lot of cheese is low lactose - especially Swiss cheese, feta, mozzerella, brie and very hard cheeses. Not that I image much of this is relevant to you or possibly even of interest but I said I'd share!

[FuzzzyDuckosaurus]

Evening all. Not been on all day so had lots to catch up on . Have survived 3 days of full time work (off tomorrow!) but by god it's been hard at times. Normally I would've dropped S at my mums but with them on holiday I had to take her with me. Kids have been great with her but it's been hard when they want to play monopoly and S wants to eat the houses!! My brother took her for a few hours today, his first time alone looking after her! I left him a list for bottles/sleep etc explains that she would need both around 2.30/3 but he decided that she needed them at 1pm so cue dinner time (5.30) she was sleeping on the couch as she was shattered!! Had quick cat nap though and was in bed at 7.30. Having problems now though that she can stand in her cot in sleeping bag. I was in and out tonight layin her back down till she finally gave in and went to sleep. Rascal!
cheshire p sounds like she has a great diet. I try to offer as much variety as I can. She also likes some very random things! Tonight I made quorn sausage casserole with new potatoes and carrots. She really enjoyed it. mama plan to make your banana bread tomorrow . Also in mood for sticky toffee pudding now. Mmmmm

[strawberrypenguin]

mama at your DS2 and his pretend fart

bb3 good that K is doing well, what will his next op do?

fuzzzy glad work is alright, knew you'd be fine

I decided this morning that babies are gross. W gagged on a bit of toast he was eating and it made him sick. I jumped up to sort him out and before I got to him he started eating the toast he still had in his hand whist he was covered in vomit. He didn't even seem to notice!

[FuzzzyDuckosaurus]

Thanks sp

S has also ate her own vomit . Much the same story. I was

[Outnumbered4to1]

fuzzy well done on surviving work!

Just popping on with limited Internet access on holiday. Trying to keep up with all the news.

BB good to hear your DS is doing well after the op

I gave Leo eggs from 6 months. They used to advise yolk only until 9 months but allergy advice has changed since ds2 was a baby. Speaking of which, Leo broke out in hives eating BBQ food, the only new thing he had was aubergine. He looked like he had nettle stings all over his cheeks I ran for the Benadryl but he was happy and chatting away so we didn't bother with it. The rash calmed down pretty quickly.

Aubergine seems a strange thing to be allergic to though

Loving all the FB pics, especially the 4 generations. Not possible with Leo now but we have some photos of ds1 and ds2 with my grandmas. It's lovely to see the family resemblance isn't it?

[Outnumbered4to1]

Mama L sounds very similar to J except for the teeth (none yet). He doesn't say any words except he yells loudly 'aaahh' and he says 'bwabbwabbwab' a lot. But he's really mobile and a strong and just wants to be in the thick of it.

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

BB3 entertainer is well, I posted a video on YouTube for you lol we were at a friends wedding a couple f weeks ago and they had a 1st dance for the bride's son but he wouldn't dance so C took over :)

How are you enjoying work fuzzzy I assume your still a nanny then?

Christopher's cabin bed is coming tomorrow morning so this will be his last night in his baby bed on the bright side Mhairi will get a decent sized cot now as she's almost the same length as her cot ATM.

[sassy34264]

ah! so much to remember! might just have to try without names for some. sorry.

emmazed your food sounds lovely (although i dont know what some of it actually is cant cook-wont cook here!)

cheshire i do that too- give babies good wholesome food, and eat junk myself.

bb3 my mum is ok. she has another 4 weeks off work, as she is just drained. but she is going away next week for 2 weeks with her partner (they have a mobile home)
poor k needing another op. found out this week that my step sister has grommets- but she doesnt know why shes a lovely girl but a few sandwiches short of a picnic- in the most affectionate way.
saw some pics on fb that a friend tagged you in, of you looking fabulous! not at all!

mama hehehe at ds2 and hehehe at you having sti's in the fridge!! what was it supposed to say?

ha ha to those who think vomit eating is disgusting- wait till they move on to their own poo!

i was 37 when i had eva. i think only out is older. so your hv would indeed be mortified! my best friend, who was on this thread from the beginning was 41 when she had ds1. loads of time for you mamma well........when you get around to it

i dont know what eva weighs, but my friend lifted her 13 month old up in one arm and eva in the other and concluded eva was heavier!! that might be all the toast and fruit she keeps stealing off isobel. why not jacob?

how is work and dh, ed ?

[sassy34264]

forgot about eggs!

i was told 12 months for chloe,. but then told 6 months was ok, by the time i had twins. i waited till 9 months though and 7/8 months for eva. i have only given them 3/4 times so far.

[FuzzzyDuckosaurus]

Time for a rant so feel free to skip but I figure if I write it down, it will shock me into action. I'm the same, feed S nice wholesome food and me junk. It's not even so much junk, it's portion size. I don't know when to stop!! All the weight I lost after S is now back on, plus another 1/2 st so I'm now back to where I started. I didn't even weigh this at 9mnths preg !!! I swore I would never be back here so it's time to get the finger out. I really don't like how I look just now and I feel terrible for it. The sun is out and it's a lovely day here, might need to dust myself off and get out for a loooooong walk with S
Rant over

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

sassy work has been no where near as bad as I thought it would be I think because I'm doing less hours it's a bit easier to cope with and I know that in 5 years time I'll definitely not be working there do its just a means I an end.
DH was drinking at the weekend fri/sat/sun and had a 1/2 bottle vodka each night, however he didn't drink till after the kids were in bed and ihe kept up his half of housework/childcare so I'm wondering now if I'm being too hard on him and it just seems worse to me because I don't drink at all, but friends and SIL all day that they drink more than that just because they have it as wine with/after dinner it doesn't seem as bad. So ATM we are going to marriage counselling as a last attempt, to see why we can't get on.

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

fuzzzy me too my dangerous addiction to mrs Tilly's butter tablet has me now at the heaviest I've ever been in my life!
I still need to add u in my fitness pal haven't logged in at all this week

[FuzzzyDuckosaurus]

It's carbs for me. Like for breakfast I've had 2 slice of toast and peanut butter and a bit of nutella, then for lunch id prob have a chicken salad baguette then for dinner tonight was planing home made roasted veg pizza. It's far to much!! I've done low carb in the past and it's worked so maybe need to try again. Not even cut out complete, but def cut down. Off to asda I go!

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

The past week I've eaten my way through at least 6 bars o tablet and half a packet of penguins but haven't been eatin lunch so sugar is now probably the biggest food group in my diet!

[Penelope1980]

Hmmm can relate to the weight gain posts. Am seriously thinking of joining weight watchers as can't shift the baby weight and it's been 9.5 months now.

[emmazed]

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[emmazed]

Grr iPhones!

lookout of course I am not upset! No fear of that. I wouldn't have asked if I didn't want the truth. Good point, hmm will have a rethink... Not made it before but the velouté looks more like a sauce than swimming in liquid. Any nice ideas for a white fish main course where lots can be made in advance?

The soup is ken hom - just got his cookbook. I love Chinese food, so looking forward to making my own.

Can't remember who said, but Joseph also poos lots, often 4 or 5 times a day, but again not especially loose so I presume ok. Although not pooed yet today, so I reckon there will be an explosion later

fd, pene, grey i find it is hard being at home all day with no structure so I end up eating more. I set myself little 'rules' for the day eg only unsweetened cereal for breakfast, no snack until xx time. I like a bit of structure tho.. Without it I fall apart!

[emmazed]

grey I don't know what to say about your dh drinking again. I sure someone else will know good advice, but want to let you know that I hope you get it resolved in a good way for you and you can always talk about what is concerning you here. Sorry I don't have anything constructive to add, but I have no experience if it and don't want to say the wrong thing.

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

No problem emma I don't really know what to think about it all myself as I say it didn't affect his behaviour or responsibilities over the weekend either while or after he was drinking so I'm not sure if it is actually me being over sensitive now? He has definitely stuck to the no smoking thing so that's a plus and we/I am really happy on weekdays/days when he's not drinking. So I am starting to think it is just me, he says he would love if I would have a drink or two with him and enjoy it but I just don't like alcohol or any other drug I am a bit of a control freak and don't like to feel even slightly out of control of my body. So again that seems to be my issue not his. I've been so self righteous up until now that I never even considered that it could be me being oversensitive I broke up with my ex because I felt that he drank too much he drinks similar amount/frequency to DH as I think that's partly the culture in Scotland that if you work mon-fri your entitled to binge at the weekend. Most people I know men and women behave this way so that's why I'm now thinking its me who's the odd one out.

MIL has the kids this morning while I "do housework and take car to be fixed" I haven't moved off the couch been watching OC all morning eating biscuits and house a mess need to get a move on
Sorry to hijack the thread again promise my next post will be baby related.

[lookout]

grey the counselling sounds like a good idea. Really hope it helps you both

yy to everyone and their eating. I eat waaaaay too much, mostly because I feel tired, and I eat more when I'm tired. My big problem atm is Tyrells salt and vinegar. I can eat a big pack in one sitting but I actually can't stop myself

em I made a really nice halibut dish the other day which was mostly prep ahead. Boil new potatoes til pretty much done. Fry pancetta slices til crispy. Blanch asparagus and broad beans and remove grey skins. All in advance. Then when time to eat heat butter and oil and fry potaotes til getting crispy, crumble in pancetta and add asparagus and broad beans then some chopped parsley. At the same time fry your halibut and serve on top of the potatoe mixture. Was truly yummy.
And it was me with the poos too Obsessions with food and poo = weird. I'll presume ok too then!

Fuzzzy glad work went well.
ips I am in awe of all working mothers. I am SAH and ds2 had to go to school with a dirty t shirt today cos no clean ones First time EVER that's happened to me and I felt awful.

[sassy34264]

grey im a vodka drinker. its unbelievably how much i can drink and be relatively sober, then when i drink even more and eventually im drunk, i would estimate it at a bottle if not more.

and i know that sounds shocking but if you talk to other vodka drinkers they will prob say the same. you just get an tolerance to it after drinking it a while. me and dp nearly had a full bottle the other day between us and neither of was drunk.

but thats not every week or even monthly/ half yearly. i think ive been drunk twice since eva was born, and i mostly have 2 large glasses on a sat.

going to put my relationship thread answer head on here (feel free to ignore me)

i dont think the problem is how much he drinks per se. its that he NEEDS it. and i dont think marriage guidance can necessarily help you with that because its not a marriage problem. its HIS problem. it might help him to see that maybe, but unless he questions why he needs crutches to get through life- i cant see how its going to change ?

also its not you, not accepting the amount he drinks. i remember this well with my exdp. because you know he has a problem, you are on hyper alert to his drinking. you are like the alcohol police, because you know he cant control it. so he might be drinking an acceptable amount to others, but he's created this demon in you. iyswim.

my friend had an husband who drank every single night but it was only 4 cans during the week. to others that might sound acceptable, but she was a student midwife, with 2 kids, a kitchen that was falling bits, windows that were crumbling and they never went on holiday and she give up smoking and he carried on. if she tried to talk to him, he would just say the usual- i work all week plus overtime, i dont go out, this is my only enjoyment, why do you just try to make me feel guilty etc. on the face of it, he has a point, but if his family is suffering????!!!!!! they split up 2 years ago. and i she went through turmoil. she begged him at 1st, even though she made the decision. when i last saw her, she said it was the best thing to ever happen to her. saw him a few weeks ago- he moved in over a pub he looks dreadful/aged.

im not saying you have to split up, just that you cant make someone see things your way sometimes. everyone tries hard, for a family life/love/ for the kids, but when you come to the conclusion that the horse that you're flogging is dead, you have to stop.

[sassy34264]

x posts grey i dont think its normal to drink 1/2 bottle of vodka 3 nights in a row, every week.
and if i was stretching it to be normal, he would be single and childless.

why is it a problem that you wont join him in having a drink? he doesnt join you in not having one, at the weekends does he?

[MyManIsNowChristianGrey]

Thanks sassy I suppose I'm hoping that a counsellor would perhaps help him to see that he does have a problem, he maintains that its not every weekend but only when there's "occasions" which in our lives is usually at least once a week eg 2 weeks ago we had a date night on the friday night a party on the Saturday night and a wedding on the Sunday night before leaving on Monday for holiday, he drank a lot on holiday "because he was on holiday" last weekend was our first weekend back where it was T in the park weekend so this was his excuse, this weekend his friends have asked him on a night out on Friday we currently have no plans for Saturday and we have another family birthday on the Sunday. So it just continues!

He says he doesn't "need" it so therefore it's not a problem.
I think a counsellor could tell me if it's me or him or both who have problems? Then we could deal with issues practically (hopefully) but at the moment everything I say he takes the wrong way and vice versa.
I identified that the reasons I have for his drinking are because when he "indulges" I feel I should therefore I eat loads! Then I get fat an even more unhappy the cycle continues!
My other issue is money in that we don't have a great deal ATM and they way we work it gives him a lot more leisure money than I do I can't see any other way to work it though as he is a driving instructor and his earnings are very unreliable and also cash in hand in dribs and drabs not a full salary on a set day iyswim.

So perhaps if we can find a resolution to these issues I won't moan as much he won't drink to spite me and life will get better?

I have taken steps and worked out financially that I can afford the house without him just so I'm not quite so terrified if we do split up,
But I think his family who have all been really supportive of me have now realised how close we are to splitting and have all seemingly switched sides, from saying that he needs to tone it down a bit to saying its really not a problem/not that much and "remember he's working all week" the last one was his mother. I work all fucking week too I just don't get paid for it
I am starting to wonder if I have depression I have been unusually down since I fell pregnant with Mhairi and since giving birth to her I would say I've been using food as a crutch and I find I can't stop myself so I can now sort of empathise how he feels re addictions but I can't even keep myself in check on the weekdays so I feel like I'm now worse than he is
I just keep thinking I'm only 26 and life should not be this miserable.

Sorry for bringing the thread down ladies I keep rambling once I'm started.

[MrsHende]

Grey, please don't apologise for posting, that's what we're here for.

Everything you're saying makes sense to me. I wish I had some constructive advice. I'm glad you've had a look at your finances and know that you'd manage without your DH living with you. You can make decisions from a calmer standpoint now.

I guess you need to work out how you'd feel without him - long term. Relieved or lost?

I understand why you're comparing your food habits with his drinking ones. Have you spoken to him about this, empathised about how difficult it is to deal with an addiction? Could you try to help each other? Ask for his help to eat in a way you want to? It might make you feel like a team working together rather than pulling apart?