December 2011: Of Mice, Men and Tables

[NorthernChinchilla]

Here we go...I hope!

Morning ladies. Sky is asleep, I just can't sleep due to something my mother said to me and it's irritating me stupid really as I know I'll never be the perfect daughter like my younger sister, I'm just a let down to her tbh. I never try hard enough when that's all I do...my sister doesn't have to put effort into anything and no matter the outcome she's still the best toxic toxic toxic. I know I need to go back to not seeing her again but that's a hard decision to make fully. Sigh

Mopsy I'm BLW mainly so Sky has got very good co-ordination to get food in her mouth. Her jaw, chewing & swallowing development is coming along really well. I make little sandwiches and she is able to take a bit off and eat. I like to start giving what I eat from 6 months as they are able to handle it and it's how they learnto eat themselves. Done the same with Darcie and she's okay lol.

Octoboy isn't remotely interested in feeding himself, though he did chew a piece of pitta the other day. He is very interested in things that arrive on spoons though, and the rubbery boots weaning spoon is his favourite teething relief aid.

DSM parents can suck. If you need to step away from the toxic we'll all be here. There are some good threads and advice on the relationships board too.

Right, back to bed. If I can convince the boy he's done...

LMF Hope Octoboy let you sleep.

Thanks too. Mum isn't all bad and I do have a tendency to over think things but hey ho! I can only do my best and If she doesn't like it then it's tough really. I just don't agree with the put downs esp in front of the girls and DP

We had a much better night here, she was unsettled 9.30 - 10pmm but then slept until 2am when I fed her, then again until 6am when I fed her, brought her in with me and she chatted away for about half an hour then went to sleep again until 7.30. Just hope it lasts!

It's the third day of no dairy but if it is lactose intolerence would it take this long for her to feel better? seven when you switched to lactose free SMA was there an immediate difference or did it take a while?

Have got paed appt for DD's lump today, feeling nervous about it. Just hope they can give us an answer and don't just send us away to wait for tests etc.

kitty my weight loss tip is don't eat magnums - eat Mars ice-cream bars! They're only something like 140cals which is the same as some yoghurts.

Morning all, sympathies re: your ignorant mum dsm. I choose "ignorant" carefully, as that's what it is. I suppose these people are there to make us better people, we can learn from their mistakes and be better parents ourselves. I have to learn from other idiots people, as my mum is an angel. What I've learnt from my mum is taste and glamour, as my mum has neither. Oh, and to cook, my mum can't. But she is supportive, loving, intelligent, fair, funny, honest, patient, giving, generous, ...she's amazing with Ali.
Ha! the days of being the BodyPump queen are long gone! I actually wouldn't mind going back, but they'd have to do a class at 9pm at night for it to be feasible.
I tried Zumba once at a friend's "Zumba" party, it was a wear it pink/zumba party, and I was about 5 month's pg. It was fun. (Silly, but fun.) When it comes to Step aerobics, I'm out, the coordination over and around the step - errr... no. I sweat out of pure frustration. But Zumba was OK, so you'll be fine.
We've got a mix of BLW and spoon-fed mush going on. But it's mainly BLW, so intake is not high - yet. BOi definitely likes to do it himself though.
I have noticed that sometimes he seems a bit less fluid, a bit more constipated, so we need to try to regulate his feeds more, and introduce water.
kitty I have washed a breast pad or two, but luckily only the cheap padded ones. the lansinoh pads have the absorbant crystals/bubbles in - did they survice the wash, or disappear. I remember when I forgot to take them out iof my swimming costume before getting in the pool. They swelled massively and burst, and I was covered in slippery balls, looking very silly indeed. (I'd put my cozzy on under my clothes to go to the pool, and popped the pads in - not using the sticky - just to catch any drippage. But then I forgot all about them.)
hurrah for Fridays!
Just this morning of work to get through, then a quick dash to pick up BOi, then to the post office to pick up a delivery, then to the dry cleaners (i dropped some stuff off before we moved!), then my friend is coming to visit the house, and my gorgeous nephew (almost 13) is coming to stay overnight.
have a great day y'all!

Having a MASSIVE wobble. Today is my last day of maternity leave. I don't want to leave her

gee it improved quickly but I'd say it took a couple of days to see the full effect. Maybe take her to the GP if it doesn't improve. Is there anything else she's having that could be unsettling her, eg oats or wheat? I hope you get on ok today.

missree I've no practical advise but I'm sure Freya will be absolutely fine.

dsm that's crap re your mum. Do you think it's intentional nastiness. I know mine never meant anything nasty by it but it really bothers me that I've always been told I was an accident. Anyway, if it's that bad step away, life is too short to waste it on people who make you feel crap about yourself, and I certainly wouldn't let my children see that talking to people like that is acceptable.

Thanks Ladies. Had a long conversation with mum this morning. She apologised and said she is very proud of me and what I've achieved in life and that I'm a fantastic mum and that she would try better to think about things in future

missree I understand your feelings. It's tough at first. But everything will be fine. You are not leaving her, you are not abandoning her, you are simply securing her future and doing what is necessary to give her a comfortable life. And let's face it, she will one day have to go to school or college anyway, so she might as well start now.
I can't remember what childcare option you have chosen, but whatever it is she will benefit from interacting with others, she will learn new things from them, and her immunity will benefit too.
And don't worry, she won't forget who you are. She will always enjoy snuggles with mum, and will greet you when you pick her up with the most amazing smiles. It won't affect your bond with her in the slightest. It may actually improve.
On Tuesday when I picked up BOi from nursery, he was charging along on all fours in the opposite direction as I entered the room. I said hello to the girls and he stopped in his tracks and turned to see me. his eyes lit up and a big smile spread across his face. Magic moments.
You'll be fine.
She'll be fine.
And you'll appreciate the rest! x

(((missree)))

We're all in the same boat. Oi speaks wise words of counsel - I will turn them into a mantra that I will repeat to myself on my commute (together with my hypnobirthing rainbow relaxation which is actually great for milk let-down whilst pumping at work, oddly).

You are being the best mum you can be.
Your child will see your hard work and respect you for it.

You are a positive role model.
You are working to give your child a comfortable life.
You are securing your child's future.
You will never take a moment with your child for granted.
Your child always has your full attention when you are together.
Your child knows how much you love him.
You can review your choices and change your mind so you can be confident you are always doing the best thing for you and your family.

Missree as the others have said you and lo will be fine. The day before i went back i sobbed like a mad thing but within a week it felt like id never been away and now im actually enjoying the challenges of 3 projects and the non baby related adult interactions. She will be well cared for and if other children are around her she will thrive.

Am looking at front facing car seats ds is almost out of his spare seat and pretty squashed in his main 1. He can sit unaided for 20+ minutes which they told me was the benchmark they like to see and he was 22lbs a month a go when he was last weighed, not sure how long he is but was 91st centile for height last month too so i think he's ready. We didn't buy either of our first stage seats so this is not a welcome expense.

I took him swimming this morning, another success, dunked him twice without any crying or distress although when we got there i found the most yellow korma-esque poo ive ever seen which he stealthily produced in the car there. Not nice!!

Ds is having a sandwich for lunch, type and filling to be decided must go do the shopping but its raining .....AGAIN

Oh and mopsy yes it was me who loves zumba its so much fun!! Have agreed with dh im going to go back next week now we settled into a "life back at work" routine.

Those pesky last 2 lbs will be gone by end of month im now on a mission!!

I've been looking at car seats too. His feet have been poking beyond his current seat for a while, and his head is level with the top of his seat. It's far too snug around his shoulders, and this last week he's really not liked being put into it.
i've not done much research yet. Mamas n papas have one that is a cushion rather than a harness, and it goes all the way to "Solution X" when they're 11 years old. (£175!!) I know there are much cheaper models available. The cushion thing looks safe, and possibly better in the event of an accident, but it looks very restrictive - as though they wouldn't be able to see anything above the cushion, nor play with anything. We need to get out and try a few for size, i think.

So glad my seat is rear and forward facing so I don't have to pay out twice!

Figgy I went shopping this morning and forgot to pick up dairylea bugger

Sky will have minted lamb & pea Plum pouch for lunch with yoghurt for afters today.

Hoping Darcie is enjoying her last school trip with the infant school to Marwell Activity centre. She'll be doing Go-Karting, Wall Climbing, Canoeing, Zip Lines amongst other things

As she has made her target of well done stars. I've brought her a Hello kitty inflatable armchair for her pad and mum is going to buy her the Hello Kitty Rug I've seen for her pad as a well done from nanny & grandad. Just need the mirror, memo board & pullout sofa and her pad will be complete

Well figgyboy has disgraced himself in supermarket refused to sit in trolley screaming and crying I had to carry him round je then decided he wanted the yellow post it which contained the shopping list if I gave it to him he ate it if I didn't he screamed after 15 mins of getting nowhere and with only half a shopping list left I gave up so dh will have to go back for nappies and other essentials......though I did manage to pick up a packet of biscuits in my rage.

He's now destroying a bit of dairylea on toast looking very pleased with himself.....little sod

Figgy This is why I'm thankful for my moby wrap - I always use it whilst shopping. Hope Figgyboy is enjoying his diarylea sandwich

I swear by tesco.com. I do a big shop online once a fortnight. Anything we need in between either I take the pushchair to the corner shop or DH goes to tesco express on his way home.

Phew. Its not a tumour which is what I was worrying about. The consultant isn't sure what it is but thinks that it is possibly caused by a slight curvature of the spine that is causing a protrusion. So we had an xray and should hear back in a couple of weeks. My mum has a slight curvature of the spine (scholiosis) and has no ill effects other than a bit of sciatica now and again. So relieved!

I also took the opportunity to ask him about her pooing once a week still and he said its fine as long as she's not constipated when she does go. And he also wasn't worried about the fact that she's only ever rolled twice, said it didn't matter at all, and he was v impressed with how well she was sitting without support. So hope that puts whoever's mind at rest who was also worried about not rolling - figgy maybe? Sorry I can't remember.

oi we got a Kiddy infinity for DS after doing a lot of research at the time (2 years ago now). It has a body cushion rather than a 5 point harness which I liked because DS is obsessed with trying to work out how to undo his 5 point harness in his pushchair and to take the straps off of his shoulders, it is meant to protect again brain injury better than a normal harness, DS has a lot more freedom of movement in it and LOVES playing with stuff on the little table (I think you can even buy toys that are made to fit on it), and it is so easy to transfer between cars as you just lift it out and it is really light. Oh and it has a sleep mode so if you're doing a long journey they can recline to sleep. Anyway, we love it so much we will buy the same one for DD.

Good news Gee, hope the xray turns out fine too.

Thanks for the mental kick up the bum ladies, I know shell be fine (as will I) but it just really hit home this morning. I swing between really looking forward to getting some routine back, to dreading leaving Freya/finding time to do housework/being so bloody organised! I'm still working on DP agreeing to a cleaner - I've told him I won't be doing any housework so he reckons he's going to do it

Today we went to Bluewater (again) and I managed to find a dress for work (simple black shift - boring). Has anyone else noticed just how utterly crap the sales/current trends are? Freya shared a tuna sandwich with me for lunch and loved it! I'm thinking pasta for her for dinner tonight.

Jack got a fab school report so I've got him some Lego men as a treat can't wait to see the little monkey this weekend.

Legomens rule. Series 8 is out in October:o

Yep any the Lego shop has all the series 4 and 5 packs in the sale!!!!

We don't hve a Lego shop :(

If you're on farcebook add me and hit my mobile uploads, there's a zombie legomens (technical term) scene on the train table:o

Im very confused by the lego chat

Ive had to give ds an extra 4oz today as hes been so grumbly, its calmed him now its pork casserole in a minute for his tea.

Since he rolled back to front on wednesday he hasnt stopped today hes very proud of himself too

Jacks favourite is the bamfire (vampire).

I am indeed on farcebook but I have a stealthy unsearchable profile due to freaks and weirdos

Well I'm having a fabulous evening dh is lying on the floor of our room with a sick bowl, sweating and crying due to some bad ham sandwiches. I'm sure he's suffering but why do men always have to be quite so dramatic about it??

Crap film of the week shall be friends with benefits.....I can't take Justin timberlake seriously as an actor