Dec 08 Mums - Breech babies, bedtimes, boozing and Bikram

[KiwiPanda]

Um sorry about rubbish title

Morning,

I am just popping on to let you know I am about to go to hospital. Baby isn't moving much today and I am feeling pretty worried.

Will hopefully be back in a while to tell you that she had a party once there.

Thinking of you Kayz, hope she is just getting a bit short on space in there, and that is the reason. Well done for getting checked out.

She is of course now wriggling like a mad woman. I've got to stay on the monitor for a bit but all looks good!

I feel like a bit of an idiot though but never mind. Apparently I am having contractions. But I can't feel a thing.

Just need to wait for the doctor to have his lunch and I can go home.

Glad for the party in your tum, Kayz.

If you are having contractions, you are probably starting to dilate, so you might be one of these women whose first VE shows them at 8 cm or something amazing! A new baby girl for the thread. Lovely. Can't wait to hear your good news. Hope you are not too uncomfortable.

Hello everyone else, thanks for asking, the concert was great, although LUcy's piece must have taken 30s max. She enjoyed it though. I have just given the nanny vast sums to take them to soft play so I can work. Fingers crossed this is the end of weekend working for me for 3 months. Hurray! Enjoy Father's day. My DH is also at work, enjoying his father's day, and I am looking balefully at his chocs. In diet news, I have had NO WINE for a week, though I may have slipeed in a wee G and T on Friday and Sat nights. Not bad for an old lush like me, eh?

Grand news about your wriggly girl Kayz, and it sounds like it won't be all that long til you meet her. With DD1, I was monitored on the Friday and apparently having contractions (that I couldn't feel either) and she was born on the Monday

The funeral flowers sounds lovely Sybs, and I agree about coffin on the conveyor belt, 'tis wrong

Glad you're feeling better Beans

The hat is for my sisters wedding - just 2 weeks to go. I just need a little rant about her on here, as I'm having to bite my tongue in front of her - last minute stresses getting to her I think. Her DF has a huge extended family, so in order to be able to include friends as well as family, they've put a blanket ban on children (DD1 excepted, as she is a bridesmaid). I hadn't intended to take DD2, as I didn't want to chance her screeching at the wrong moment and me having to take her out and miss the vows/speeches/good stuff, so the baby ban is fine by me. I'd arranged for a friend who lives nearby to have DD2 and pop down when she needs a feed, and I'd feed her in the car and get back to the party ASAP. Now I think my sis has been getting some grief about the baby ban, and several people aren't coming because of it. So to avoid any muttering about favouritism in the day, she's asked if my friend didn't bring DD2 over - again, fine, I can pop to her house. So yesterday she asked if DD2 is all sorted - yes, I'll leave to feed her after church, back for speeches and tea, bedtime feed then back for dancing. You can't, sis says, you'll miss the photos and first dance. Ok, I'll go later and miss the speeches instead. You can't, you need to be there, you'll disrupt them if you come in late. Arggghhh. I have to feed the baby, and either I go to her or she comes to me - I physically can't comply with all her requests. And breathe, got that off my chest now. I'm sure on the day she won't even notice I'm not there, she'll be enjoying herself too much (at least I darned hope so, bad job if she isn't)

Glad the babe is ok Kayz, not long now!

ZJ some people just don't have a clue do they! I love a good child free wedding, great excuse to have a drink and actual conversations with adults but if you are having one you have to understand that some people won't be able to go and some people will struggle to work around it. Personally I think babes in arms should be allowed, tis toddlers upwards that cause mess and mayhem. My sister is getting married next year, that'll be fun .

Ds2 growth spurting. 2 nights of solid feeding so far. Last night he went down around 9 but then fed from 12 til 6 non stop. So tired!

Hope you're getting more sleep tonight Indith, last night sounds horrendous. I'm with you on toddlers at weddings - would be a whole lot more fun for us if DD1 isn't bridesmaiding and we could get her to the babysitters and get stuck into the wine

We went to such a glorious childfree wedding last summer, it was fabulous! When we take children we end up stuck in the corner next to the toys and leaving just as the dancing is getting going because they are tired. Babies are fine though, I've danced many a night away at a wedding with ds1 in a sling. Dh's cousin getting married in October child free but we've had to say no as ds2 will still be bf and I'm not fannying around expressing etc for a weekend and we are in Durham, wedding is Liverpool and since dh's mum will be there we'd have to take the dcs to Hull to my parents for babysitting! Hope we have not caused family fallout!

Kayz oo thinking of you! Can't wait to hear news

Indith grim - DD2 has been similar last few nights. We went out on Saturdya night, a rare event, and were back really late (disclaimer: 11pm is really late for us) and she woke up a zillion times and was up for the day at 4am. Ugh. And this too shall pass, eh?

Ladies I need urgent suggestions of what to do with my Czech cousin. She's 15 and doesn't speak very good English (better than my Czech mind) and quite shy. She's going to museums with my parents this morning but I am in charge of her (plus DD2 and later on DD1 when I pick her up form nursery). What on EARTH am I going to do with her? If you were 15 in a strange country with relatives you didnt' really know, what would you want to do????

Give her a tube ticket and send her to Topshop.

Kiwi That's tricky! Shopping? Sightseeing? I hope you can think of something, sorry for total lack of inspiration my brain is fried.

Kayz Glad all is well with DD, and can't wait to hear of her arrival soon! How exciting...remind me when is DH home?

ZJ I'd stick with your plan of getting sitter to bring DD to you. Bride won't notice and if she does she won't actually care on the day. She's just stressing pre-wedding. Hope you all have a lovely time. I prefer to go child free to weddings. However, friends of ours are renewing their vows in the summer and have invited DC's. Which we are taking as DH thinks it will be fun for them . Not so much for me....

Thank you for your advice & kind words re: DS. I still feel sick when I think about leaving him there, not knowing what he is up to. I can't stand the thought of him hurting others. But I have to keep telling myself he'll get better (and drink lots of wine). DD is pretty tricky at the moment too. Apparently (I found out this weekend from another mum) she cries every day at school. She says 'no' she just gets upset when people are mean and won't play with her. Now DD is the youngest in the year as an August baby, and I have never noticed it before but at the moment she seems a lot younger than some of the other girls in her year. I think they think of her as a baby, and so she cries, which reinforces their belief she is a baby. Man, she is quite the sensitive soul at the moment. Then as we arrived at school this morning a couple of girls said "quick Little Deids is here lets run away from her"...cue floods of tears from DD. I could have slapped the pair of them!!

And DH is off to Ibiza on Weds for 5 days on a stag do. So I might be on here a lot sounding off if my DC's continue like this...just warning ya!

On a happier note since February I have lost 22lb. Hoorah, however just goes to show what a lardy arse I was to start with!!

BTW that would be me drinking lots of wine, not DS...I think that might make his behaviour even worse!!!

Well you never know it could work .

Owwwwwwwwwwww.

I am not sure this is actually labour but we've been to see the Olympic torch, so stood about for a while and then walked home.

It doesn't feel like contractions but loads of back pain and a bit of pressure. Maybe it she is moving down.

Dieds DH is due home 4th July give or take a day or 2.

This might sound very stupid for someone about to have a 3rd baby. But I have no idea what would happen if my waters break. With the boys they went during labour.

Is it like in movies and there is a huge gush of water that looks like Niagara Falls?

Well mine went before labour with ds2 for the first time and they just trickled really. At first it was just a bit wet when I went to the loo then it kept feeling like I was a little damp and needed to wee and I got a little gush of fluid when I went to the loo but it really wasn't until later in the day it was obvious it was waters and I needed to wear a pad. I've never met anyone who has a proper clothes wetting gush!

Kayz My waters broke first (before any contractions) with both girls. Like Indith it was really more of a trickle, nothing Hollywood-esque or embarassing if in public, just a job for pads. i guess it must happen to someone, somewhere but like Indith I've never spoken to anyone to whom it did..!

Sorry kayz might went both times pre-labour with a massive gush!! Thankfully I was at home both times. With DD I rang my mum to check if that much fluid was normal. I then had to drive to the hospital sat on a couple of towels...I thought it would never end!

Ah Deids, your waters breaking mid-post to us is still one of my favourite moments from all our threads.

Good luck Kayz, how is the pain now?

(I will be back later with proper catch-up)

Not really much pain now I've been at home and having a sit down. Very very mild pain. I'm just having a quick bath while DS2 naps and DS1 is still at school. I've chucked clary sage in just to see if it helps.

Ha Dieds that actually reminds me that my mum always says when she went into labour with me, my grandad, bless him, made her sit on a huge pile of towels in the car because he was fretting about his upholstery

I hope yoi're ok Kayz after the bath? If this is it, will you call her Olympia?

Like Deids, I was a gusher. In fact with DD1 I heard them pop! It must have all flooded out with her, as I didn't leak after that point. So for DD2, I only packed one maternity pad in my labour bag, for after the birth, with more in my overnight bag in the car. Big mistake, the trickling filled that pad within about 15 minutes ... thanks to MLU well stocked cupboard helping me out!

Sorry DD1 is so sad Deids, that sounds heartbreaking. Is her teacher keeping an eye on the girls? Huge hurrah on the weight loss

DD1 just shouted through from her playing 'I think it's bath time now', what on earth has she covered herself in ...?

My friend who had her baby at our house went in a massive gush. Then the baby came 2 hours later!!! But that's v rare. Mine went a couple of days pre DD1 and the day before with DD2 and it just felt a bit like I'd done some wee, but out of the wrong hole, IYSWIM? Then it trickled on and off all day and popped properly at pushing stage.

Hang out in Tescos or Waitrose a lot (can't remember which) one of them, you get free shopping for a year if your waters go there!

Oh Deids - also meant to comment on poor DD. That is bullying. How horrible. Have you spoken to her teachers about it? Makes me want to cry about it.

A bit of a crunch day tomorrow as Dad has his scan results from last week to see if the cancer has spread again or if it's still stable in his leg or on the move or something. Mum came to look after DD2 today for me so I could do some work. She is v nervous and has convinced herself she's heard Dad coughing again. We're all living a bit on knife edge tonight. Fingers crossed and white light for him please please!

xx