Dec 08 Mums - Breech babies, bedtimes, boozing and Bikram

[KiwiPanda]

Um sorry about rubbish title

I am most anxious there is no word from Jam. I fear she has been trapped on a stationery bike or catapulted off a treadmill. Is it time to assemble the search party yet?

(morning all)

Maybe she fell off her bike on the long ride home. I'll get my first aid kit and alcoholic
beverage rehydration fluids.

Kiwi sorry I've been meaning to post to you for the last few days, look for optibac probiotics. I got them from chemistdirect.co.uk but I'm sure you can get them in boots. You can either spronkle them on her food or you can take it and she will get it through your BM.

Am useless did not get back for promised catchup. Am alive I didnt die although I am super stiff today. This exercise malarky is exhausting.

Kiwi how is DD2?

SYbs you poor things what a horrible time.

Pingu & Mom lovely to see you both.

Vag that is exactly the sort of thing my DH would say. I asKed him last night if I was looking a bit tighter of thigh and his comment was well its not so squishy!

LAdy why dont you go somwhere really child friendly for your next jaunt not necessarily overseas. What about Peppa Pig World. Bet the girls would love it! You not so much ;-)

Aubs how is your cousin?

Indith how was your day did you survive?

Got to dash again, back for a bi tmore later

Sadly I have turned that corner with DS and have been smacked in the face by a brick wall. Arrived a pre school to be informed he had bitten a child,said child sat there right in front of me with ice pack on hand.

DS denied at first but by the time I got him home he admitted he had bitten her because she snatched something off him and scratched him in the process. He has a slight scratch to his finger, may or may have not been her. DS sobbing that she hurt him and about this bloody dinosaur he had first!!

Now the teacher admitted she hadn't seen it, and heard girl scream. Girl said "Deidsboy did it". Don't get me wrong, he did it but he was provoked, no justification for him biting I do get that, but I can't help feel DS is taking all the blame because they think he's a bad kid. Or maybe I'm just being over-sensitive? Hell,it took every bit of me to not burst into tears while this teacher was telling me, girl sat all wide eyed and teary, and DS denying all knowledge!

Shoot.me.now.

DB hope your boy carries on improving, he sounds pretty fab really. Hard work but fab.

ZJ very impressed at your FLYing.

Glad you are alive Jam

Ds1 now has to wear a patch to help even his eyes out. Even with glasses on there was a big difference in what he could see with the individual eyes. With his worse eye he kept squinting and umming and ahing so long dd kept shouting out the letters for him . Nothing wrong with her vision!

Made cake last night. Sliced it this morning and the icing poured off it as it hadn't set. Fail! Dh was back from Londinium though and made one between phone calls this morning while I was running toddlers so I could run it down to school this afternoon. Wonderful man.

Lovely friend in the USA just had a baby, such lovely squishy photos on FB.

Is it bedtime yet? Ds2 asleep on me. Big ones half playing half fighting upstairs. I hate afterschool time. Same every day, ds2 is either feeding or sleeping but screams if put down and the others are so tired they just fight plus dinner to cook, homework and reading to do with ds1 and of course the piles of washing up, laundry and everything else that has only been half done during the day. This too shall pass right?

Oh dear X post DB. I'm sorry. It WILL pass though, it really, really will. There is a lovely little boy in there he is just growing up and finding it all a bit much. Be calm, be consistant and you will get through it.

Oh DB, poor you and poor DS. Indith is right, your lovely little boy is in there and nursery need to remember that, he is just a little boy, he can't be responsible for his actions, he need to be guided and its their job to help do that. Labelling won't help they need to treat him with some respect and listen to him. Tell him biting is wrong by all means, but ask him why he bit her (cheeky little minx). I've always heard that if kids bite or hit that it is good to make a fuss of the child who got bitten. Well maybe this little girl is getting herself a little free attention, I mean really, an ice pack, is that necessary?

I just had a look at him on his FB, I think he's gorgeous, he is a light as my DS2 is dark, but he's got the same sweet, cheeky boy look as my DS2 & I think he's lovely. I think like my DS2 he gets frustrated and it seems with my DS2 the only way to express it for him is loudly and often lashing out. He's at home with me so no one gets to see it, (or my childish responses thank goodness) the only difference is your DS is at nursery, and they have an opportunity to help him work through all these emotions.

Very quickly, lovely Deids, please don't feel bad. DD1 bit another child when she was 3.5 and hasn't done it since. It is a way of expressing yourself when you can't articulate why you are cross / sad / angry / frustrated etc and, once he realises it is unacceptable and that he doesn't feel better whilst she gets looked after, he will stop.

It is nothing to do with you. Be kind but consistent. He will grow out of it. Loads of kids do it. Feels rubbish when it's your child but many many children do it and he will stop. Promise.

Chin up lovely XXXXX

Hey dear Deids, don't beat yourself up. Today is just one day. You know he's a sweetheart and not always naughty and he's proved it for the last week or so, and will prove it again. xx

How long will DS1 need the eyepatch for Indith? A real life Captain Barnacles!

Hurrah, Jam is alive!

Sybs is spot on. it really sounds like he is overwhelmed by his feelings and though it's really hard, until he can get more of a handle on those feelings, you may have to grit your teeth a bit. Ohhh, it's so hard to explain restraint to such a tiny person. He is still too young for 'count to ten' or whatever you're supposed to do when you feel like biffing someone. I feel awfully sorry for him. And you! Ride it out. It WILL pass. Keep a quiet eye on this possible tendency of the pre-school to label him, but otherwise ignore it. Just keep explaining to him how and why it's wrong, and can you get some sort of reward scheme going for when he manages to hold himself back when he feels like lashing out? I would be worried about him starting to feel down on himself about all this. Maybe he could feel massively proud of himself if he manages NOT to lash out when he feels frustrated or cross? Let's face it...it's a really hard thing to learn. Also, I was a hitter when I was in reception. My parents got called to the school about it. My Mum actually bribed me, with cold hard cash, to stop. Not that I am recommending that, particularly But it worked in my case (carrot for behaving, rather than stick when I didn't, as it were)

Had a super day at Rubes' yesterday, and also saw Spot and the Spotlets. All the kids were brill. Have loads more to say but I have a killer sore throat and need to do some tasks before I get myself to bed so had better buzz off for now.

Hello all. Apologies for radio silence. Been having iPhone issues, which have culminated (is that the right word???) in it breaking and so I can only log on on computer, but been massively busy with work and pre-hol prep and fluey DD2 and me and now I sound like I'm making excuses. But anyway, I'll be a lot quieter for the next week, because tomorrow, we're going to SPAIN! Very excited and DD1 and 2 are wandering around shouting "OLA!" at random people as I've taught them to say it. DD1 particularly fond of shouting "Ola Peeps", which is my favourite!

Not a lot of news here. DD2 and I both still coughing our lungs up, but other than that all ok.

DB - please try not to fret. It WILL pass and I second what the others have said. He is so gorgeous to look at, once he learns to cope with his feelings and express them, then all this will be a thing of the past. DD1 moans and whinges and cries, which, I have to say, is perhaps one of the most irritating noises in the world. Almost as bad as nails down blackboard. Drives me insane.

We are now off to the Playbarn for some softplay. And it's a beautiful day. I am odd.

xxxx

Oh my lovely ladies thanks for the kind words. vag your comments about my boy & yours made me cry! Yes I do think it stems from frustration & being unable to articulate his feelings. I know he will get 'it' eventually, just wish it was sooner.

beans have a fab holiday....by the way did I mention DH is off to San Antonio, Ibiza for a stag do? Heaven help him, I think the groom is having a mid life crisis! I on the other hand get the pleasure of 5 days looking after the DCs.

Marking.my place. I've just caught up, was about to post and J has woken up. Back later!

Oh DB - 5 days on your own - joy! Actually, it might be fairly fun. I don't actually envy your DH at all - San Antonio is a hellhole!

Have just totally surprised myself by weeping on the phone to Mum. I was telling her about how hard I'm finding it juggling work, keeping the house running, not knowing anyone and trying to make friends etc and suddenly started sobbing!!! Didn't realise quite how stressed I am! Oops. I think this holiday will do me the world of good. How can I be so busy and yet never ever seem to actually achieve anything??? Added to that the fact that I'm still feeling wiped out by this horrible fluey/coldy cough thing and I realised how knackered I am. DD2 up 2 or 3 times a night because she's clearly feeling crappy too and I'm so very very tired of it all. Plus neither of the girls will eat a bloody thing, so am constantly throwing food away. Gets a bit wearing! Oh dear. And I get shouty and horrid and am mean to them. It's no good!

Sorry, whine whine. Tired tired tired. And fairly stressed.

PS Have a great week next week, all. Won't be checking in again til 29th, I don't think! Hope I can find you all again!

xx

Hello everyone. .
Had a lovely day at Rubes's on Weds with Lady too. Made me realise that I really do need to keep up on here. Was really funny that I'd never met either of Lady's two DDs but I felt like I had as we'd talked about our DCs so much on here.

Anyway, I have had so should keep this brief, but I will be back on tomorrow and will try and keep up again. Can I persuade anyone here to move to West Sussex? You'd have friends and wine and playmates for the DCs on tap. Come on, you know you want to...

Evening all. Solo parenting afternoon (DH working for Champions League final tonight) jncluding a birthday party, after running club this morning has finished me off so just popping in to wave. DH off work for a week from tomorrow and we're going down to Cornwall for a few days so that should be lovely, then ending in Poole where I'm doing my 10 km race next Sunday.

Any other fellow runners obsessed with gadgets? I am addicted to my garmin and have just discovered the app as well so now I can see monthly total mileage so far (60 miles! ) /geekery ends

Right. Supper, bed. Rock and roll.

Spot when you said 'slink in' I think I kind of had a sexy sachay(sp) style slink in. You know, wine in one hand, cigerette at the end of a long cigarette holder in the other, style chimmy inti the room. But on rereading your post I now gather you meant, sneak in, naughty schoolgirl style. Why if you have had vino must you be brief.

Kiwi, I used to be into gadgets but I'm not so much these days, though I do like checking my run on gmap. I'm all for good running gear though. I like being comfortable and hate bad rubbing or bits. And i love my good proper checked and fitted shoes. I bought a resistance band today so I can continue doing strength work at home. I'm getting quite strong with my pushups and ab work but the guy I had as a PT swears by these resistance things. I got an ultra hard one so i can actually do reverse push ups with it (sounds strange I know, can't explain them). I tried doing some other exercised with it this afternoon and i think I might be hurting in the morning.

Deids and kiwi I'm a lone parent too as dh is in London until Tuesday for a conference and work, but the good news is he has some contract work for himself for most of June and the company he is starting with his partner has it's first client. The good news on that one is that he can do most of the work for the client, the bad news is it's in Ghana! Hopefully it will only be a weeks worth of work though. They may also have some work in Dubai, that I'm hoping will be in the July school holidays.

Morning.

Sorry I've been useless recently. I'm knackered, achy and really fed up!!

I'm having a huge panic about actually having this baby. Not the giving birth part but the looking after a baby. How do you pick them up, dress them etc??? So I decided to have a read of the Mumsnet babies book only to find one of the quotes is from our own LadyT.

So any tips on what I actually do with a real baby?

Oh Kayz I know exactly how you feel and you are having your panic at exactly the right time. I had my panic with DS2 2 hours after giving birth upstairs in our bedroom when I was changing his first nappy. I lifted up his legs saw his little cute newborn bottom, feeling the warmth of his lovely skin, when I suddenly was gripped by the weight of all that dependence he had on me, and all the things I had to do and I couldn't remember how to do any of it, and I'm a kids nurse! Reading up is good, but believe me it will all come back to you in dribs and drabs. You will definitely do stuff to her thinking she is older (leaving her ages in a nappys because you forget she actually has one on, I did that a lot, I seemed to be waiting for DS2 to tell me he needed to do a wee) and you will occasionally forget you have her, just make sure its not in the car, or the ballpit at the softplay at closing time.

Someone I worked with dumped their 6 month old DS2 on the floor thinking they could walk. That will be me.

We bought a bundle of baby clothes from eBay and there are loads of tights in there. How do you put tights on a baby? They are very cute though.

Kayz They look very cute in tights and dresses once they can sit up, but there's something to my mind very odd about dresses on babies who can only lie down isn't there? ... but that's probably just me

For what it's worth here's what you do with babies: put them on things. Feed them. Then put them on other things. Then feed them again. They are quite easy really . Insert food one end, remove it the other ...

I have just been for a 7 1/5 mile run. Someone find me the 'smug' emoticon eh? Vag you clearly have good upper body strength. I can run reasonably fast but I cannot do a push up for love nor money. I have the upper arm strength of... actually I was going to say a baby but given mine is currently rolling aroud on the floor and doing mini press ups, clearly I don't even have that...

Ah you'll be fine Kayz, it will all come back! I do keep wanting to hand ds2 food when he is on my lap while I'm eating though. Bit early for BLW . I love tights/leggings and dresses, so much easier than doing up loads of poppers for nappy changes!

Gadgets? Ok what gadgets are good? I don't have a fancy pants phone but thinking I could do with something for timing/seeing how far I have run, so a pedometer with added features? Is that sort of thing expensive? Need some new trainers too as mine are ancient and rub. They were all fitted and checked way back in my teens though!