Sept 2010 - Another 6 months past, it's going too fast!

[comixminx]

Our lovely new thread for the September 2010 babies. Dive in folks!

patio my mil used to come every week on a thurs and it did my head in. i felt like i couldnt go anywhere. started them at a toddler group on a thurs and told her and she hasnt been since! oops. i only went once too.

i had a friend who used to come at the same time every monday too. i dont really go anywhere but its just too much for me personally. i must be very unsociable!

yeah newmum with the weightloss. good for you. and i hope you manage to quit smoking too.

im just busy trying to get myself in a good place. i cant seem to help myself at the moment, so i have thrown in the towel and took myself off to the docs. started me on anti d's and referred me for cbt. im 2 years off 40 but i think im starting a mid life crisis- my head is a complete mess. my concentration levels are shot to pieces, i cry a lot, i can get out of bed, but i dont particularly want to do anything but look after the kids. its fun being me eh?!

i procastinated for hours literally last week to get myself out the house to join a new tri team. i must have talked myself in and out of it 30 times, spent an hour just unable to get off the bed, but i went. i really enjoyed it and i am definately going again this week.
jacob and isobel are great little buggers
having fun and games at bedtimes as they refuse to stay in their cots most nights. they had no naps for last 2 days so gone down in 5 mins. but they are whinging and whining from around 4pm. i literally spend 30mins to an hour every night stood outside their room, telling him 'lie down' (tried ala supernanny styley but took twice as long) tried giving them time to play in the room for an hour before bedtime, no naps work the best if i can cope with all the crying and tantruming as they are exhausted but by the third day they usually just fall asleep on the couch at 5pm. ive tried moving the nap earlier, shorter, but i have the same problems at nap time! argh. any ideas.

dp is in germany this week for some training. he has more training in sept, 4 weeks in italy and we are all going! including my mum. asked dp and he said ok, and that we will even pay for her. cant wait.

patio she is ok. still weaker down her left side but most of the negative effects have been psychological i think. she is very scared of having another bigger one. she is cutting out all fat and salt and its having the effect of weight loss thats making her seem frail to me- even though she isnt thin by any stretch. but i hate it- its all making her seem immortal and telling me she wont be around forever and i cant deal with it. i love her sooooo much. making me cry again- dont speak about it to anyone. cant.

eva is growing so much. she is crawling, pulling herself up to standing, sitting, holding her bottle herself, eats a small amount of finger foods etc. she just seemed to go from baby to toddler like in the space of 1 week- it was bizzare.

dp has vasectomy 8th august- same day as my court case. so no more babies here.
newmum how about having an hormonal coil? i had a non hormonal one in for 6 years and although its not pain free having it fitted, its not child birth!

cominx not too long to go now! have you done any thing preparation wise yet? packed bags, bought stuff etc?

Bloody hell we're a right bunch of hormonal women aren't we. Whats going on?? I signed up to a new drs yesterday so once thats all sorted im gonna go in for a proper chat. I think its just pmt as thats why i went on the pill years ago to stop the murderous moods. But i just feel so low! Second guessing everything and feeling really miserable. I was fine last week, this bloody weather doesn't help i hate being stuck in! Hope we all feel better soon.

Sassy i'm not talking about you're mum cause i don't want you getting upset but i'm gad she's on the mend. Picking up from what diddly said have you thought about beds for j&i if they're climbing out of their cots? At least that way they could get up and wander then get in bed themselves and you wouldn't have to stand outside.

diddly, the toddler & pregnancy thing is a bit tiring but could be worse - dunno how sassy managed with twins, though I suppose they weren't toddling quite as much as Aphra is now?! Luckily for me she really likes reading so there's quite a lot of me sitting while reading her a book...

sassy, nope, not much in the way of preparations yet - must pack a bag at some point! We're mostly going to use stuff that Aphra had so not much to buy - the new baby will be in with us for the first couple of weeks I expect so we're not even rushing to buy a new mattress yet though that will need to be on the list soonish. Meeting the doula again on Sunday though, and we'll get further on our thoughts about home birth or not, which is about as prepared as we're getting at this point! We have thought about mat leave though - DP is planning to take months 6 - 9 of my leave, if you see what i mean - so I'll do the first 6 months and then he'll do 3 months after that. He's pretty excited about it and I like the idea, assuming I recover as quickly as before...

Sassy you poor thing. You've done the right thing asking for help and accepting the ads and cbt. You can get out of it, its just breaking the cycle. Talk about it all as much as you possibly can. It really does help getting it out of your system and also you'll find that so many people feel like you do & its all perfectly normal and part of being human, a mum, a woman!
Have a think about alternative therapy too. massage, reiki etc. I've got someone coming round next week to sort me out! I know it costs but its worth it if it helps! It sounds like 4 weeks in italy is just whats needed!

I got to work yesterday to find a bottle of wine by my computer. Today it was a box of maltesers! They were thankyous. the wine cos I gave loads of baby clothes & a fridge freezer to one of the girls, the chocolates cos I helped another one out last friday making myself work an hour late so she could pay her rent. I often feel like I'm such a people pleaser and never get any thanks or acknowledgment so it was lovely to actually feel appreciated!

Comix Its so exciting! have you picked a name yet?? Does Aphra understand anything?? I don't really think olly would but I'm sure Toby had a bit of understanding when I was pregnant with Olly. Luckily my friend had a baby a month before olly & so his friend had a baby brother so we could help him understand. He did spend the first few weeks calling olly baby joel tho!!!

newmum all 3 babies are going to be sharing a room, so i'd need to buy bunk beds. not sure jacob (who would be top bunk) is ready for it yet, so need to perseve (sp?) with cots for a bit longer.

diddly massage sounds good. i am waiting for groupon to do a cheap spa day near me and then i am going to book 2 places for me and my mum. preferably overnight to let dp suffer

cominx thats so lovely that your dh is looking forward to having them for 3 months.
my heart is very sad that it will never happen to me again, but my head is says no way!

Sassy don't let things get on top of you, I know easy to say but harder to achieve with 4dc's needing you at every turn. Feel free to talk about it as much as you want on here or through pm if you don't want everyone to be able to see it. 4 weeks in Italy sounds lovely. I would love to explore Europe with the little dc's before school gets in the way.
Have you seen the shortie bunk beds which are smaller and not as tall? Or how about a 3/4 sized bed and let them share. We are thinking of doing that for Lucy and dd2, they love being in my bed and it would mean if they need us in the night there would be room for one of us to get in.

If I ask Arlo what's in mummy's tummy, he says 'baby', but I don't think he knows what that means! Got my 20 week scan tomorrow. Hoping we'll find out the sex, then I can talk to him about his baby brother or sister :)

Hi all, scan showed all good with baby today, and it's a brother for Arlo! Only slight worry is that I have a low lying placenta. So have to go back for another scan at 32 weeks to see if it's moved up. Otherwise is blocking the exit route!! Argh. Anyone else with experience of this?

Hiya Dixie, congrats on the good scan - apart from the placenta bit of course. I don't have any experience of that myself - any joy searching on other threads or starting one of your own? And - any thoughts on names then, now that you know it's a boy?

Sassy, yeah, it's lovely that my DP is so keen on the additional pat leave - should be a really nice thing for him to do and should work well for both of us, fingers crossed. I'm sure your heart is sad but I think your head has the right of it!

dixie how lovely for Arlo to have a little brother. congrats to you too,and glad the scan shows that everything is well.

sorry, not experienced a placenta blocking the exit.

comix, finding it harder to choose name this time. Still like the ones we considered last time but they feel a little bit like rejects as we didn't pick them for Arlo! Current favourites are Teddy/Ted, Sidney or Monty. Views welcome!! Have you thought of names?

Have googled low placenta and it is v common and likely it'll move. The potential complications (breaking away of placenta, bleeding, hospiralisation for weeks and CS) are all not nice so gonna not think about those for now!

Ha, I know what you mean, Dixie, about choosing names overlapping with what you thought last time. We had Theodore down as the front-runner for a boy last time, but not opting for it this time - when Aphra was born I realised that part of the pleasure of knowing she was a girl was that we could call her Aphra, which I'd really got keen on!

This time we're thinking about Bruno for a boy and Vita for a girl (there are other options for both but those are my favourites). Of yours, I like Ted / Teddy (we would have had that as a NN for Theodore). Not so sure about Sidney or Monty; the latter is definitely unusual which is nice I think.

Dixie check out my very own thread on low lying placentas!! here! I started it for my friend. I thought it gave a very good explanation of howit can move! So lovely that you're having a boy! I always thought one of each would be nice but now I have 2 boys I'm so pleased. They love each other so much!

Just having a little freak out here. I've just looked back over some photos I took yesterday at Magna in sheffield (fantastic day out & suitable for absolutely all ages!!) and there's one of Olly where he's got one red eye & one yellowy. I've just woken him up to do the red eye test & it seems ok but we're heading straight to the opticians tomorrow to get him checked out! I'm a bit of a hyperchondriac (spelling) at the best of times but all the advice on the net says that you should get them checked!

Ooh diddly, thanks, that's a really useful read. Sure Olly's eye is fine but at least you can reassure yourself!

Comix, lovely names, I really like Vita. Any inkling if boy or girl? My sis says her pregnancies (one boy, one girl) felt v different, mine have felt the same so she predicted another boy :)

Diddly id get him checked out too but im sure he'll be fine. Probably just the angle he was stood at or a bit of dust on the lense. Let us know what the opticians say. Speaking of optitians i have some very pretty new glasses. I didnt realise id not gad an eye test for 4 years!

Morning all
Just having a catch up and will try and type between reading posts.
Huge congrats Dixie and gorgeous news for Arlo to have a little brother! I would be over the moon for Jack to have another cheeky chappy to get muddy with! Equally so a girl to moan about said mud but alas no such luck here yet. Think we need to find a new technique
Of your names I like Ted and Monty but not so much Sidney... Though I knew a very hot teenage Sid, short for Richard. I like Monty as we've met Monty Don a few times through my folks and he's a lovely fella.
I'm with comix on liking Ted or Theo for Theodore.

I have a name picked out for each sex should we ever succeed but if it's boy girl twins I'll have to rethink cos they rhyme!

lumps hope Olly's eye is alright.... Magna sounds good! Need to add that to my list of places to go and we're in Sheffield all the time....... We should have a meet up there!!!

Has anyone read the thread in chat about the lady who got a call from her dc's headmaster regarding her DS11 and DD6/7? It's really saddened me and am so sad for her too.

All good here with Jack. He's such a little charmer (though I haven't yet succeeded fully in stopping him aimlessly wanging heavy things across the room or hitting little Daisy on the head with his potato masher)
Think my next up date will say he's full of cold as I can here it coming.

Had a lovely weekend in Bakewell for my sister's hen weekend. I think she had the most fun weekend of her life which makes me feel so good inside and now only 3.5 weeks til the big day

Who's read 50 shades???

Ive read all three of the 50 shades books and just started reading them again. I love them! What was the thread about the headmaster? I havent seen it.

Oops..... Forgot to mention my name change!
It's here newmum it's really shocked me at how it seems from reading the other posts that it's more common than we dare to think of that poor, poor lady and her poor DCs

I found it. How utterly devastating for them all. I feel so sorry for her and her dd but also for the boy. 11 years old is still pretty young although he should know better but this is something thats gonna affect his life forever now. How do you even begin to deal with all that as a parent?

So the optician knew immediately what I was getting at with the photo. She tried to examine his eye but he wasn't really playing ball so she's referred him to the hospital. He's to be seen within the next 2 weeks and she's said it could be a retinalblastoma or it could just be the angle that I've taken the photo catching his optic disc. I'm desperately fighting the urge to completely freak out now. I'm sure its fine but the fact that she mentioned it and has referred him up shows she thinks it needs checking out!

oh diddly not sure what to say. fx that it was just the angle of the camera. id be freaking out too. i hope they see him earlier in the 2 weeks, rather than later iyswim.

im so sorry that you are stuck in limbo at the moment. big hugs. x

Oh diddly try not to worry. I know its easier said than done but they probably refer just to be on the safe side. Fingers crossed he'll be fine. Keep us posted xxxx

diddly, horrible that you have to wait, but sure it will all work out ok. Thinking of you x

Oh Diddly try not to worry too much, I know that's hard to do. I hope he gets seen sooner rather than later, waiting always makes you think the worst.

lumpy so sorry about Olly's eye! Can't believe she said the word and is now making you wait for an appointment. You must be so worried..... fingers crossed for a good outcome too xx

Can I ask what exercise we all do? Apart from running around like headless chickens 24/7? My next door neighbour had a heart attack and is in hospital. She's relatively young and now I'm on a mission to keep fit even though I have no idea where I'll find the time.
cinnamon do you fell better/less tired for going on your runs??