Sept 2010 - Another 6 months past, it's going too fast!

[comixminx]

Our lovely new thread for the September 2010 babies. Dive in folks!

[Debs75]

Found you all again, I don't know why but this thread is always the first to drop off my lists.

Silver hope things are going well with you and you can get some answers from your MW re: vbac or not. I have heard that with planned csecs it is a lot better. If you are planning on breastfeeding ask to see a breastfeeding counsellor or peer supporter now so you can get some ideas on best positions etc. it will also help to have that support ready for when baby does make an appearance.

So Lucy has settled in really well at nursery, she absolutely loves it and talks about it non-stop. She is out of nappies apart from swimming and bedtime, when she has a nappy on she asks to go to the toilet so hopefully we can drop them soon. She is still in her cot as we are still all sharing a bedroom but she wants a bed of her own. Lots of praying that we move up the housing lists soon.

[cinnamongreyhound]

How was the spa sassy34264?

Sound positive about bump size silverbirdie, glad to hear your feeling well and no one else got poorly.

Luke has settled down a lot this last week and it makes life so much easier! We went on the train to Norwich yesterday and he was just chatting all the way, walked lots with me and laid on my lap most of the way back. Was a short trip as still had to drop and pick up kids from school!

Glad Lucy has settled Debs75, I'm dreading Luke going as although he isn't as much of a mummy's boy as ds1 is/was he doesn't like me to leave him, even with dh at times. Don't like tears :(

[sassy34264]

Spa was ace thank you cinnamon got champagne and strawberries around the pool as well!!!

Had a dreadful time these last couple of weeks though. Told dp i'd had enough. Resigned myself to splitting up, told my mum, organised finances, new house (dp said me and kids could still move in) agreed a csa amount from dp and everything. Was due to tell C yesterday, but spent 6 hours talking on sat. I said the only way i will stay is if we have counselling because i can't do this anymore. Dp has agreed. He hugged me like his life depended on it, after we agreed to stay together. I'd be the same if he was walking off with the kids, but i just can't try anymore without help.

We go round and round in the same arguments. it's exhausting.

Feeling more positive today though.

[lumpylumps]

Evening all! Not a great deal to report here, olly has slap cheek, we had a nice weekend away at my cousins wedding and are all desperately excited about going on our family holiday next weekend. 7 nights in lanzarote with my parents, db, sil and 2 dns. I just don't think a week will be long enough!!

sassy having a baby is a massive strain on a relationship, having a teenager and 3 under 3, well there's no word for that. I really hope for you and the children that the counselling helps!

cinnamon how's Luke's behaviour??? Olly has been a nightmare too. We never had any problems with ds1, I'm not used to this!!!

[cinnamongreyhound]

Sounds like a positive step forward sassy34264! You haven't had an easy time, as lumpylumps says having 3 small children is hard enough without renovating houses, dp changing careers and your mum being poorly. At least you am identify those same arguement a and that will hopefully give you a point to start from.

My brother left his fiancé of 7 years this weekend, I feel really sad he seems sure about his decision.

Have a wonderful holiday lumpylumps, wish I was going away to some sun!! Luke has been so much better the last two weeks (hopefully won't jinx it now), hoping that my hard work at consistancy and down right bloodymindedness has result in him giving up pushing every boundary for a bit. Or perhaps its just one of those things. My ds1 had his moments but he's not a patch on Luke. It's been like a breath of fresh air having my happy little man chatting to me and playing happily with only the odd very short tantrum. Makes me more patient when he does kick off and deal with it better. I'm also getting better at realising what triggers them and trying to avoid them if I can without giving in to him. Warnings helped a lot with ds1 but even with a warnings he will still explode when told to stop something etc.

[GiveMummyTheWhizzer]

Hi Everyone, glad to see you and the toddlers are all well.

You may or may not remember me - I have the other 'Oliver' from the original thread. Formerly known as Seachelles...

I stumbled across you all and thought I would say hello. So - Hello!

Oliver is now 2.9 and doing great. He's been potty trained for a couple of months now and he'd cracked it within 2 days. I left it until I was 110% sure he was ready as I wouldnt have been able to cope with months of widdles and poodles on the floor/in pants!

His vocab is great and he can chatter til the cows come home. He can pick out several different colours and draw circles and squares. He loves puzzles and can do most of them quicker than me...!

He has had glasses since before christmas as he is long-sighted. But he also has a turn in his left eye which is pretty bad, the glasses do correct it, but he has also just been given a patch to wear for 3 hours a day. We thought he would be a nightmare with both glasses and the patch too, but he wears them without complaint.

He has the odd tantrum, but I just ignore him and let him get on with it, and he has slept in a big boy bed through the night since before Xmas, but has just given up his gro-bag and has woken up a few times cold in the night.

He still goes to a CM three days and he loves it there. He's growing up really fast.

Hope you're all ok.

GMTW.

[Debs75]

Sassy hope things are better after you have cleared the air. It sounds like you were really serious about it and that should of lit a rocket under his arse.
It can be too easy to assume every household role going and watch you dp seem to let you. I did it for years until I just stopped and DP started taking over. He does more than me now and is better at it, it's a good job he is enjoying being a house-husband for the moment whilst I am studying. And having 4 kids it is immensely hard. Has DP left the forces and got another job yet? I would like to think that may help things for you both.

Nice to see you GMTW glad you are both well

[cinnamongreyhound]

Glad to hear you're doing well GiveMummyTheWhizzer. Have seen you're photos of Oliver in glasses he looks very cute but so much more grown up in them.

[cinnamongreyhound]

Just had a call that Luke will start preschool in September, weds and fri mornings :-(

[lumpylumps]

GMTW!!!!!!!!!!!! Cooooooooeeeeeeeee so lovely to hear from you!!! Glad you're both doing well. not sure what my nickname was the last time you were here but I have the other Oliver!!!

We're going off to enjoy some sun sea and sand tomorrow. I can't wait. The boys are so excited. Ds1 has just asked if they're allowed to take books because he's sorted out some thomas books to take for olly to keep him happy. He's so thoughtful!!!

[cinnamongreyhound]

Probably most of you have seen on fb but I lost my doggy Friday night :(. It was so fast, she was a bit odd and slow when we went for our walk Friday morning and then she we'd on her bed when I went on the school run. Put her in the garden and she didn't move. The lump under her chin which is a benign salivary gland tumor was larger than normal and if I touched it she tried to bite me. Took her to the vet where they said she had a very high temp and wanted to admit her, we took the option of antibiotics to cover and possible infection and anti inflammatories to bring down the temp with us monitoring it. She went home had a big drink pottered in the garden then laid down on her bed with a fan on her and other than getting up to rearrange herself didn't move. I had to drive around to find a thermometer as we don't have one and nowhere local had one. Measured her temp at 10 and it was still high and the lump was much bigger, dh persuaded me not to ring the vet. We went up to bed just before 11 and she couldn't get up to go for a wee. I rang the vet and took her in and she was put to rest just before midnight.

The first vet I saw said she didn't know if the enlarged lump was because she would be producing more saliva to cool herself or if that was the problem and causing the temp because it has become cancerous. It seems now that it was the latter as it was totally solid and filled with fluid by the night. Poor little lady :(

[Debs75]

So sorry to hear Cinnamon How old was she, was it something you were prepared for? Our hound had a scare last month and for a week we thought she was a gonner. She has a problem with a nerve in her back legs and she just went from happy and bounding to hardly able to stand. The nerves are still playing her up but she is almost back to her normal self. It has made us realise that she hasn't much time left

[cinnamongreyhound]

She was 12 1/2, they say upto 14 years for greyhound expected life. We knew we didn't have too long with her because of her age but until Friday she was totally fit and healthy so its a huge shock. I am heartbroken, missing her all the time. Really surprised quite how hard its hit me. We have someone coming from the homefinders to do a home check as dh and the boys want another dog sooner rather than later. I am so unsure but they all want the same so I don't feel I can say no. Dh is convinced it will help me but it won't bring back my Nelly. She was really my dog so although they're sad they didn't have the same bond with her as I did. A new dog will most definitely be a family dog and it certainly will make our house feel less empty. Plus I won't keep going walk her and find no one there or save food only to throw it away a few seconds later :(

[Dixiebell]

Ah, cinnamon, sorry to hear about your dog. I remember how devastated I was as a teenager when my cat died. I hope the new dog gives you something to focus on.

All good here, Teddy is 6 months today, and a real sweetie. Arlo is great, hard work at times. There's just no reasoning with a two-year-old is there? He says no when he actually wants to say yes. He can't stand waiting for a moment when he wants something. And he constantly wants biscuits! But he's good. I've become much more chilled in dealing with the two of them. We're off to France for a week on Sat, so looking forward to that.

I think I mentioned Arlo's stutter a few months back. It's funny, it comes for a week or so, then goes away for a few weeks, and back again. Like that for a few months now. It doesn't bother him. I'm assuming it's a developmental thing. I have got details for a speech therapy group but every time I think we must do something about it, it goes away again! Wondered if anyone else experiencing similar?

[cinnamongreyhound]

Luke has more of a stammer Dixiebell but its driving me mad!! He's only had it for 10 days or so, its particularly when was excited. He just says Mummy can can can can you got my drink. Or just now in the car he's saying 'James James James where's his other gun gone' (Lego figures). It's not always the first word and its not every sentence but I'm planning to go to the clinic on Thursday to ask advice on how to deal with it.

[Dixiebell]

Arlo's is similar. I can't quite work out a pattern, I think because it changes. He most recently was doing it on names, so like 'where's dad dad daddy today?'. Or 'I love gar gar gar garlic bread'. He's also been having trouble with words beginning with H, pausing before the h then leaving it out. It's weird to watch your child struggling to get out words which they could say no problem a week ago! But like I say, then it just goes away again. There is some useful advice online, like don't finish their sentences, listen actively, speak slowly yourself, and don't ask too many questions. Last one I find hard because I always ask loads to engage him in speaking, but apparently it puts pressure on. I think it might be a common thing for kids who spoke in sentences quite early, so hoping one if these days it will go away and not come back! But be interested to know what they tell you at the clinic, cinnamon.

[SilverBirdie]

Dixie Jack started stammering a couple of weeks ago but since returning from a few days of action packed time away it seems to have gone. Whether for good or not I'm not worried as its so, so common at this age especially in toddlers with well developed vocab. Their little brains work too fast for their mouths
That is definitely the case for Jack I feel, as he talks non stop... All the time about everything.
We tried really hard not to draw attention to it, not to finish his words/sentences for him and to not give funny looks when he was doing it etc etc

We are going through major sleep regression here
Jack moved into his lovely new bedroom and his new single bed two-three weeks ago and at first slept just fine but oh how it's changed
He now wakes two-four times a night and needs us to stay until he's asleep again. I'm shattered! Tonight we've put a stair gate on his door but I know he'll be there soon shouting for one of us, then again after that and again.
Help!!! I don't thinking got a week of being brutal in me. I need sleep so bad at the mo

Good luck with your new pal this weekend cinnamon I'm jealous!

33.5 weeks

[cinnamongreyhound]

I feel Luke is because his brains is working faster than he can get his words out but its come from nowhere. His is always whole words though never parts of them. Will see what they say.

Sorry to hear about your lack of sleep Silverbirdie, you have my sympathies and lots of hugs!! I have been quite harsh with sleep but it would depend on why he's waking, is he frightened? Or just wants you to be closer? I just get grumpy without sleep so end up snapping during the night when perhaps they are trying to tell me something. I'm not good at advice on sleep as its usually if you know they're ok leave them to it :(. Thanks for the luck, feel like I'm going to need it!!!!!!

I noticed we are very close to our 1000 posts so I've started a new one here.

[Dixiebell]

Good to know it's nut just Arlo with the speech issues, thanks. And thanks for the new thread, cinnamon.

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