April 2012 newborns: the insomnia continues...

[LaTristesse]

Hello fellow April mums. Following on from our lovely ante-natal threads, here's the first of the post-natal ones. Join us as we work out how to handle nappies, feeding, colic, crying and all things newborn, or just to celebrate the joys of a new baby!

Hello Ladies,
Have just spent an absolute age catching up with you all. Having been having a stressful time as ds has reflux which is heartbreaking as some of you know and are having similar issues.
Apart from that everything good
Am going to try and keep up with the thread, I think I am in need of some support and company. I am useless at posting often enough though.
Have done fb group request i'm HJ. I can't believe just how cute April babies are

Thanks Ladies, H is less grizzly today although still full of cold it has been 10 days and it is so hard to listen to him snort away. Snuffle Babe helps and tonight we are going to try and elevate his head a little so his airways are open.

I feel so guilty he has a cold for a at least 10 days and can't help feel that is because we were taking him out from day one and perhaps if we had just stayed in for a week or so first he would be okay. He is currently fast asleep on the sofa next to me and we are warming the mrocking cot. H has out grown the moses basket all ready but still too little for his nursery. #

I'm also a bad mummy as I have put snuffle Babe on his chest and under his nose(My mum said that is should be fine as it is the same as Vics and mums have been usinf that for years) It seems to be helping him breathe a little easier.

We have had a better day feeding wise as H has eaten 40oz in total which is far more normal for him. I still can't BF as have Ab's in my system although very tempted as it might clear H's cold

We have just booked a table for dinner next Sunday, there will be my Mum and Dad, My DP's Dad and then me, H and DP so it should be fun. We have our 6 week check up in three days time.

xx

DS is asleep ... not sure if I should be happy about it but hey. Just posted in the "Feed" section & hope to get some answers to my weight issue with Raphael.

Anyway, one more week till my mum comes to visit for 14 days. On the one hand can't wait on the other I hope that we get on. It's difficult and although I love her to be here I am nervous as I always try to please her so very, very hard (DH gets upset about it), I'm not sure how it all works out with the baby.

Next thing is that she said on the phone today that she's got a blister on her lip. I googled and it seems so dangerous for little babies that I don't want to hand him over. As anyone else come across this problem? Is it enough if she just doesn't kiss him but could change nappies and hold him? I'm already paranoid about the weight and this is just pushing me closer to the edge now.

Need to catch up on everything else what's been written - easier if DH is not looking over my shoulder :)

Have a good night!

Morning ladies. Back into routine this morning - think the lazy lie-ins last week over half term had really thrown Nancy - she was so unsettled towards the end of the week, and that's really not like her.

Also glad to have my house back, DD and DP just make mess !! Need to do a rapid clean up this morning before the HV arrives at 11am. Although not entirely sure why she's coming?

Hope everyone slept well!

Thaleia if it's a cold sore there needs to be a no kissing rule, as R can catch them. DM needs to wash her hands before touching him in case she's messed with the cold sore absent mindedly in the last couple of minutes.

DH suffers from them, it's a PITA and it breaks his heart not being able to kiss us, but it's better than giving the virus to us - 6 years of a kissing ban when a cold sore is out and I've managed not to avoid the virus

Frankie is def going through a Wonder Week! She's right in the middle of week 9. She's crying at the drop of a hat and at nothing, and stares at me as I walk aroound the room. She's laying on the sofa next to me at the moment, she doesn't want to know her chair or basket today - all she wants is mummy. Have to say, it's good for the ego!

Where do your babies nap during the day? Emily will only fall asleep on me, in the carrier or in the car seat when we're out. If I try to move her to her basket she wakes up. She can easily sleep for a couple of hours in the car seat but I'm not sure it's very good for her to sleep in it for so long.

Thaleia - sorry you're having such a worrying time. Hope the advice you got on your other thread has helped.

yummy my L had a cold at 6 weeks, I think they pick them up for no reason! I found the baby saline spray really help. She didn't like it up her nose but doing it every day did help. U could try steaming in the bathroom with babies Vic?

vintage L sleeps is the day in her baby swing, on me or sometime in her pram. But she tent to wake up when U put her in flat in the pram! If she is a deep sleep your ok, but you need to keep it moving back and forward lol.
When we are out she goes hours in the car seat or pram. But I do try to not leave her longer than 2 hours in carseat. Because they do not recommend it.

Dd has been feeding all day and still going now! Poor ds has been so bored because I haven't had a minute to play with him without the baby on me

Vintage, dd sleeps in her pram or carseat when we're out but at home she likes to sleep on me. I've started giving her a dummy which does help settle her but I usually have to wait until she's in quite a deep sleep before I can put her in her cot.

I've added Hayley on fb (jm) but can't find the group! I'm on an android phone so a lot of things don't work on here, any ideas anyone?

Vintage DS will only sleep on or next to someone. Me all day and night, DH in the evenings.

cute no idea - can you pm from your phone? If so pm me your rl name, I can add you on FB then but it'll be once I can get on the pc as can't see a pm on my phone

Ahhhh so nice to hear about how everyone is doing, had to crack up the laptop today, been a good few weeks since ive been online!
The cub is sleeping soundly at the moment, we have been given two AMAZING hand me downs from a friend, firstly the humble beanbag chair and secondly a swinging seat thing, its a big blue plastic monster and it is my new best friend, and hero. In goes baby cub and straight to sleep he goes!! He is a good sleeper during the night so i have no real complaints but he seems to cry when i am cooking and eating my dinner (or trying to) maybe its natures way of making you loose weight! The swinging seat thingumy has fixed this problem!!

Thaleia- coldsore trouble here also, husband gets them, i was driving myself nuts keep banging on at him to wash his hands, dont change the baby, dont touch the baby, must you be near the baby etc etc. Im sure i am over paranoid about it, my own Dad has them and was always really careful with us and made a big deal of it (rightly so i suppose) but its turned me into a control freak with my own son!

I am very much enjoying being a mum, the trouble im having is with my husband, im sure he thinks i am lazy, i have always worked and now i am at home im sure he wonders what it is im doing all day. He hasnt said anything as such but he has stopped doing stuff- stacking the dish washer and jobs he always did before. I try to do the feeds at night as quietly as i can so he gets a good nights sleep but i dont feel he appreciates the baby takes up alot of time? Does anyone else feel this way?
(im not trying to be moany or spoilt brat like or make excuses but it is bothering me)

vintage my ds will only sleep on someone or in the car sometimes if we are moving. Sometimes at night he'll stay asleep on the bed if I get up after feeding him. He once slept in the moses basket for about 10 minutes whilst I hoovered. I've moved the basket now, felt it was taunting me so now it's full of clean washing to be put away

Hello cub. Re the housework etc, I don't think ohs generally have any idea how time consuming it is to look after a young baby. My Dp also stopped doing lots of house stuff when we had our first dc. Now we are on dc3 & it is only really now that he understands that I cannot do it all. You are not moany or spoilt, I know just how you feel. Maybe try to talk to your dh about it, he may not realise how labour intensive it all is.

As for me, ds is going through a rather unsettled patch. Had jabs on fri, utterly hideous night sat when he just cried for hours & I paced about which was exhausting.

Today is is grumbly still & to top it off I have a sore boob, red patch & feeling achy. Am trying to fend off getting mastitis again. I know ds still has a bit of a rubbish latch, even after tongue tie correction but I can't get him to open his mouth wide. So frustrating, I know how it should be but can't get him to do it.

cute Can you get to the group via this link?

Cub You're not being moany or spoilt. Looking after a baby is bloody hard work - so make sure that your DH is pulling his weight out of work hours. During work hours you are responsible for the baby and/or any household tasks that you decide you can do. Out of work hours, it's a joint responsibility. You're on maternity leave, not cleaner-cook-and-washer-upper-leave.

I'm an arse for saying things like 'that's the same dishwasher that was there before DS was born, it works in the same way, feel free to use it, don't worry about needing to be retrained in it's use' accompanied with a face.

Cub my DH is a bit guilty of that behaviour. He'll come home from work and sit in front of the tv unless I ask him to do something like finish the dinner I started making, unload the dishwasher or take DD from me. I don't think it's deliberate - he just doesn't see things that need doing like I do. Plus he has no concept of how much looking after a baby wears me out somedays.

Have tried to join fb group . I am AE . Will try to put a picture up soon!!!

Who is JM - is that you cute?

Hi, my ex H used to be a plonker when it came to me being on mat leave, he'd come home from work and look around then say 'so what have you exactly done today?' bit of an A*hole. Hence why he's exH Dp on the other hand is an absolute hero, he does much more than me atm, makes life so much easier.

Can I ask those of you who have babies on infant gaviscon what routine you are on with it, how often, is it the same time every day etc...... I am a bit slack and seem to give it at random times esp as ds feeds every 2 - 2.5 hours. I'm bf which is also a pain in the bum with the gaviscon, do you make it up with water or expressed milk? If you express which pump do you use? I am thinking of getting one, not sure which one?
Also have you been advised to wean them off it any time soon?
Sorry for all the Q's

Hi all this is just a random post as thread disappeared from my I'm on list. Got my six week check in a bit, if given the go ahead I want to start the NHS couch to 5k do you know anyone who has done it? I will need to buy trainers first though as I don't own any

Yep I'm jm, thanks for the link Fliss. I'll come back and post more later, ds is being a bit of a handful (huge understatement) atm!

KatI did C25K last year and really enjoyed it. It's very easy, and you work your way up slowly.

I have to be fit for my job but was never much of a runner, and I really liked using it.

Thanks jambalaya - Dr suggested waiting until Aaron is 12 weeks as I'm really unfit (not overweight as such but have baby weight to lose) but if its really easy is there a need to wait?

Pudding we are Gaviscon here. Did 5+ months of it with DS and it was bloody hard work so was gutted when DD went that way too. Also bf so what I usually do is: express 100ml using Medela Swing pump at the same time as her first feed of the day (store for use following day), don't give any Gaviscon until about 10am as I find she suffers worst last morning and early evening. Around 10 I'll take the previous days bottle, dump in 2 sachets of Gaviscon (DD is over 10lb now) and feed her that. I do another load of Gaviscon via syringe around 4pm. (Either squeeze it saight into her mouth which takes ages as it tastes like shit and she spits loads out, or round the side of my nipple as she feeds- either way I dilute this one with water.) I find anymore than the 2 doses and she gets far too constipated. She still suffers a little, but better than it was. I'm tempted to go and ask for Ranitidine or something though if she gets any worse rather than plug her full of Gaviscon and have her screaming to have a poo. Hope that helps, it's really very rubbish to have to deal with it...

Wouldn't want to go against GPs advice. But, would suggest, as the format for C25K is walk a bit run a bit, maybe walking the whole thing, for a few weeks, so that your body gets used to doing exercise for that period of time. IYSWIM?

Would especially recommend this if you're going to be doing it on the treadmill - they can take some getting used to and this will help your confidence.