LMF, I hope this morning is better for you, and that the demons are now on a restricted diet. You are not an unfit mother; no-one will think so from a 'professionals' point of view, and no-one will think so from a personal view, friends, family, etc. And if anyone did, they would be a) wrong and b) in need of dropping quickly.
I really hope you get a bit more sleep.
I generally only use the dummy during the day HLC, just to help him get off. At night I just feed him to sleep and put him down, although if he does stir at that point I'll pop it in. It has not stopped him waking at just gone ten the past couple of nights for his next feed, believe me! Hope yours and Rocco's colds improve.
Sorry your wee boy is out of sorts aethel, most unlike him. Hope you have a not-too-damp-day at Bekenscot.
Drizzly, mizzly day here. DP sleeping in the bed in DS's room for complicated reasons owing to friend staying. Have just put DS in his cot so may go and join DP for half an hour...