The brookers post graduate thread

[hawthers]

We've got so good at brooking no argument for no pregnancy complications and sneeze births, we're going for our Phds in big fat babies

So much screaming so little sleep.

Have changed my mind about dc3.

Me too pomme mostly due to DH's supreme arseyness recently. Not sure we'd ever dtd again to make it physically possible.

Me too pomme for the arseyness / arguing/ not dtd reason like hawthers Plus the extreme unpleasantness of sleep deprivation...

Just checking in for night shift BTW and checking if scarlet had arrived yet with miniscarlet.

Glad they surprised you scream! These babies also turn the best laid of plans on their heads! Are you going to delight us all with a pic of Autumn?

The coast link isn't working for me purple. I spoke to the LC on the phone, I rang at session end time, she certainly didn't mention she could do a home visit. Hmm. I think I'll just have to persevere and go next thursday.

Hit post too soon... No nappy rash. DT1 has a slightly red bottom but even I couldn't call it nappy rash though am.changing him.even more than normal and applying sudocreme DT2 has a perfect bottom! Don't think they're white in their mouths. I'm a bit sore after feeding but sheer length of time would make sense that I'd be a bit sore to me. Do have some cracks, but surely same reason could explain them? If the boys go 2 hours with neither feeding they feel miles better.

Morning all.

Have been reading the posts all night but by the time I've caught up easing E has finished feeding and I've no time to post!

Anyway, just wanted to say helllllooooooo to Purple how are you my dear? And your wee ones? Am I remembering right that you diagnosed a tongue tie? Are you having anything done about it? How's it all going?

Scream how is wee A? I remember the toe curling bit at the start of each feed with sore nipples. Keep plugging away with the lansinoh. Hope it's ok though being homeS glad your family are being awesome. They sound ace .

Love the dress Putple - how long until the wedding?

E has been a wee champ tonight and actually done some sleeping. In his pram. And then in his crib. For more than 5 seconds! Amazeballs. All day he's been doing the 'WHAT? You think you can put me down?' thing so this is a treat indeed! He did a 6 hour stretch too from just before when ds1 went to bed until after midnight. So not when I was actually asleep as I was cooking our tea, sorting out shopping etc, but it's a step in the right direction .

Right back to bed for me - sleep tight brookers xx

'scuse typos - was typing that at arms length over E and my eyes ain't so good at night!

Yay for E actually letting Biscuits put him down and get some sleep! Good work young No Brooker!

Yay also for the Dreamy Twins avoiding nappy rash! Amazing work Dream as always. Fingers crossed that comfy bots are here to stay! Also, yay for your DD settling better (even tho it sucks that you don't get to put her to bed.) Glad to see no new baby (or babies) can ever eclipse a PFB!

Hawthers I am soooooo with you on having an annoying DH as a form of contraceptive! DH changed Autumn's nappy around midnight last night, and wasn't needed again for another nappy change until 7, so he slept in the 2nd room for the whole intervening period. I then dared to ask him to grab something from the shop for me, and his response was "You can't possibly mean I should go out right now?! I'm FAR too tired!". The desire to hit him over the head with a heavy blunt object is almost uncontrollable!

Autumn has been an absolute angel. I'm trying to mentally separate genuinely unusual newborn behaviour from my PFB issues but seriously she's been so good! All night she's been waking every 90 mins or so, snuffles a bit waiting for milk, drinks for 5-10 mins, then goes straight back to sleep. No crying at all! She's right next to me in her bedside cot, so neither of us really wakes up when she feeds, I just slide her over to me, feed her, and slide her back. I had more sleep last night than in the last month of my pregnancy! I love her for being so chilled! (I'm also trying to enjoy every second in case this turns out to be a temporary phase!)

In case I sound too much like a smug cow, I'd like to say that last night was the polar opposite of the night before! There was zero sleep on my last night in hospital. So who knows what the next night will be like?!?!

me too scream i don't remember DS1 ever sleeping in his crib for any length of time, but this wee guy seems to like it. he wakes up quite often to feed and/or poo, but then he lets me put him down.

i am expecting it to end any day so making the most of it. i do end up falling asleep with him snuggled in feeding quite a lot though which is nice. :) I've been wrapping him loosely like a wee parcel in a fleecy blanket so that he's got a warm bit under his head when i put him down. no idea if this actually helps. he's too little for a sleeping bag yet.

I've had to do the one handed walking about feeding a few times too, mainly when DS1 is asking for me to read or sing to him at bedtime and it clashes with DS2's evening cluster feed starting. he seems to feed on and off from about 6.30 till 11pm at the moment.

Yay for Autumn being so good Scream - what a trooper! And nice not having to get out of bed - well done Team Scream (but not so much for your naughty DH who should count himself lucky that he hasn't, in fact, been hit over the head with a blunt object!)

Looking forward to Scarlet joining us for the night shift tonight

Yay for your DS2 too Jaggy - gotta love a baby who'll let you put them down

Hey Scream how are the hips? Any salsa dancing at chez Scream yet?

Too many 'yay's' this morning - soz

DH's are SERIOUSLY odd about understanding the newborn thing imo. I thought it was just mine and everyone else had the supportive ones (like they're supposed to be). Quite cheered by your stories brookers :)

I'm still brooking my eternity ring for childbirth is going to appear soon too... :)

A sounds adorable Scream, long may it last. My A was pretty chilled (waking often but being quick etc) until her jabs on Monday so am hoping normal service will resume soon. Last night I think I experienced a little bit of dream's life - 3 hour long slots of sleep between 10 and 6 only.

I don't know how long I can keep going like this withou being so horrible it does actually end in divorce... We finally got colicky Ben to settle around midnight. Seb had been down for about an hour, but not 'due' a feed and I was frazzled so didn't wake him. Cue Seb up at 1:30. Back down 2ish. Ben up at 4, then Seb woke up too. Took til 5:30 to get them both down. DD up at 7, both boys awake again 7:30. I find I'm so tired I can't get to sleep straight away, plus so hungry at 5:30 I went to get a snack. So my usual approx 3 hours broken sleep. And i am vile and grumpy today...

pomme, occasionally my dh is great, but most of the time he thinks he has the worst deal having to go to work, do long hours in a stressful job, then come home to colicky babies and disturbed nights. Even though not last night but the one before I didn't wake him and he slept 11-7. I'm not saying its not hard, but he doesn't have to function with the level of sleep deprivation I do and feed til his nipple cracks worsen :-( . I have been dropping not-so-subtle requests hints about eternity rings for 6 months now. . Maybe we should start looking online to cheer ourselves up?!

What good, sweet babies you have jaggy and scream . Long may it last!!! It may- DD was like that for three days only. You might both just have chilled out babies. Bliss. Pictures by any chance?! Don't get me wrong scream, I adore my boys too, but no, nothing takes away the strength of feeling for DD. :-)

And biscuits wonderful news E has proven he can do 6 hours, always so encouraging. Hurrah! Now, next challenge, for it to be while youre in bed!

i think i am actually nicer than when i was pg dream when i do sleep in between feeds it seems to be better sleep so i don't feel too zombie like and a total grump yet.

our first week with DS1 was so different. he just cried the whole time. he was struggling to stay latched on with tongue tie, my milk didn't come in till he was 5 days old instead of day 2/3 with DS2 guzzling like a pro. i think we had to take it in turns holding DS1 all night for a while.

if i am feeling brave and get on the pc i might put a pic up for a bit.

got to get DS1 down for a nap now...

Will upload a photo later today! We're planning to take a bunch of photos to send round to our families later on, at the moment almost all photos of Autumn also include my boobs!

DH has been talking the talk about being super helpful, but just a few days in I'm finding it quite frustrating that he really thinks we're both aching on the same level. Bearing in mind I had zero sleep the first two nights, plus the pains from the SPD and cs op. The soreness of establishing bfing is also pretty eye-opening! However DH keeps saying he's so tired (after one night of 6 hours uninterrupted sleep) and complaining about how he's doing ALL the nappies. I think he's tired of having me boss him around while I'm not very mobile and can't just jump up and grab things for myself, but he knows it's temporary and there's nothing I can do about it.

Men!

My right nipple feels like it's on fire by the way - oweeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! I'm not sure if it's because my boobs are starting to go rock hard, or if I just let Autumn get away with a particularly bad latch last night. Either way - YEE-OUCH!!!! I've used more than half my lansinoh tube already and it's only Day 4

at photos including your boobs, Scream! DH put a photo on FB that included my bra . He said you couldn't tell, but my sister phoned and said did I know you could totally see my bra in the pic? Grr.

Yy to DHs being tired of feeling bossed around. Mine says this all the time and gets grumpy if I ask him to do anything. M puked on me the other day just after I sat down and I shrieked 'help, help, pass the muslin', and DH did this huge sigh and said I had to be better prepared when I sat down to feed. I snapped that passing one tiny muslin was hardly slave labour and he stomped off to bed in a huff. I find I am much less prepared to put up with crap from him now.

Has anyone actually dtd since their baby was born? We haven't...have done a bit of other stuff I wanted to know how my womb would react to orgasm after a CS but not full sex. M wakes up too unexpectedly for me to relax, and she squawks in her sleep so I think she's waking up even if she isn't.

Biscuits, E is brilliant! 6 hours! Wow. M is making up for yesterday by sleeping a lot today. Peace.

I have resolved to bath Bean more often, because everyone keeps going on about how their baby smells lovely and I don't think Maia does, actually. She smells like dirty hair . Is there something wrong with me? I keep sniffing her little head to see if it's going to magically start smelling amazing and it doesn't. I bath her every 3 days or so, but I'm going to step it up a bit and aim for every other day.

I'm going to start googling on the cartier site for eternity rings dream or maybe Tiffany at a push

too - same here, some stuff but still no sausage hiding. Partly to do with tiredness/man flu and also we have a contraception issue so need to wait for first af.

Aw poor M with her mummy saying she smells dirty! I think they're all different. Dd1 smelled so so sweet, it was really strong. A doesn't really smell of anything but I love snuggling into her hot little head. Dd1 generally is now stinky and dirty bar immediately post bath...

Woop Woop to e biscuits - does he do lessons?

Pomme waiting for first AF? Could be a year you know! I have hidden the sausage. Twice. My criteria is the baby has to be asleep in his moses basket. Hardly ever happens!!

The coast dress is called the Carlton Jersey Dress if you do a search, very kind to the post partum mummy.

Dream I am so sorry your Dh isn't been so supportive, sounds like a lot of DH are being plonkers at the moment! R.e Thrush sometimes it is treated to rule things out as it can be causing issues in the digestive tract but not have visible symptoms. I would definitely try and see the LC although I am a bit as both the LCs I know would do a visit. And I think nipple shields could be a goer as an experiment.

Hmm, we seem to be paying for last night's excellentness with a very baby this evening (= very Mummy and Daddy too).

No danger of any sausages being hidden here, no siree bob. I'm not sure I'd remember what to do anyway

Hope there are sleeping peaceful babies across brookersville, and I'm hoping that by now that might include MiniScarlet?

I might print this off and leave it around for DH

Oh yes I was bargaining wit DH whilst in labour about diamonds! I am allowed 6. Funny how we are all on that one lol

Hope your night gets better, I have had a couple of nights with a stroppy baby and I found going to bed and dim lights sorted him out as he fed and slept. I think he had got a bit over stimulated.

I like your style biscuits!

My boys have swapped roles. It's now Ben needing the top ups. . Knackered. Had take away, again .

Ass Ben just had an ebm bottle and Seb seems to be still asleep in travel cot am diving for bed!!!!!

Done dim lights. No joy.

Dh making more effort tonight, so he says. FX. He could be miles worse to be fair, he's very good st bringing me drinks etc while feeding. He just doesn't cope well with disturbed nights

Hiding the sausage?! Not a chance. Any peace here, I'm going to bed. And not for that :-)