December 2011: Smiles and giggles and coffee and truffles.....

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Voila, a new positive thinking thread for us!

Onward and upward, ladies. Do come on and post if you're a lurker or want to join our merry band, all welcome!!

Ooops, am sat with and munching spicy bombay mix while feeding down DS. Just realised that the free hand I use to break off suction is covered with chilli bombay mix spice (and it's a hot one!). Think I'll be sat here a while longer...

Oops aethel!

Both DS and DD cry in their sleep. Little sobs which are heart-rending and then they usually wake up crying 5-10mins later.

hawthers is your DS having less tantrums now and not saying asking for your DH instead of you (think it was you having this problem)? I am now back in DS's good books and he said huggy mummy in his sleep the other day. Cute!

Watched 3 episodes of GoSsip Girl today while feeding :)

Snap tyel.

This evening DS had a full on, colic-style screaming session for about 45 minutes, wouldn't feed, wouldn't settle. It was impossible to tell what it was... I'm praying that it was overtiredness mixed with teething pain (my friend was round and all of a sudden the drool appeared and he started using her hand as a teething ring, to the exclamation of 'there's nothing wrong with his jaw is there?'!), as the other option is that it's the anti-b's that are upsetting him.

Which would mean we have a week of this to look forward to. Please Bob it's not as it would be too soon for it to be in the milk, but this was just like last time.

Righty feels lumpy and slightly sore in places too, and I'm terrified of getting mastitis again. Am pumping, massaging and bra-less.

To top it off, my mother tried to Skype me when he was screaming, even though I'd texted to say we wouldn't be in contact that evening. I connected so that she got a few seconds of the screaming and hung up.
On calling her later on this evening, I got her weird comment (again) that 'you do get rather upset when he cries, don't you?'.
Yes, yes I do mother. This is because I'm not an emotionally dead psychopath.

My apologies for this whinge.

Thank fuck for wine

Hope your LO stays asleep tyel, and bloody good thing you realised aethel!

Oh Northen!! Sounds like you've had a crappy evening :(
Hope righty is ok!! Mastitis is evil!!

aethel! Hope DS appreciated the bombay mix!!

I think AF is coming, bloody shakey horrible pain. AND I've forgotten to get my perscription for tranxamic acid. Drat.

I'm being crap at keeping up, but I have retrieved my iPad from limbo and ought to be more with it now:)

Tyel there is a facebook group, I think Easily was chief group-admin. not sure if there are any more. I'm just off to add a cheeky picture of the octopus in his sling from earlier today:)

Kate let's organise a meet up for the northern contingent on Friday 23rd. - 11am outside mamas n papas in the Trafford centre again?
plu I looked at the bumbo today, and bought the m n p snug instead coz it looked nicer. Are you using the tray to keep LO in? You're supposed to use this til they're 6 mths old.
tyel yes there is a facebook group, pm easilybored and she'll send the invite. As for the photobook, I didn't manage to generate much interest. :( I'll open up the laptop tomorrow and pm everyone again with the details.
Had a lovely day today.
LO weighed in at 15lb 12oz.
Then did a quick tesco visit.
Then Trafford centre, went straight to the John Lewis cafe to eat cream scone to feed LO and have a coffee. Then made up my sensory play baskets: feathers, wooden spoon, sparkly wand, sparkly wrapping paper, shower squidgey, voile, 3 different ribbons, and a real toy. (John Lewis had thisgreat toy, it's lots of soft-ish plastic rings around a cube. Great for little hands to grab to put in their mouths to ease teething - which is exactly what LO did!)
Bought mothers day cards.
Then went to MILs to meet SIL and her 9wk old baby. She seemed tiny - she was 4 wks early, but still weighs 11lb. She seemed really fragile and floppy compared to my little rugby player, I was nervous holding her! Really lovely.
Just had a delicious dinner.
It's all good. Now just got to get LO off me and into his cot without waking him so I can have a glass of wine.
The vendors of the house rejected our first offer, as expected, i have gone back with our final offer. They'll let us know tomorrow.

Aaargh, just spent half an hour scrubbing the bathroom and hall floor after DD2 had a huge surprise poo explosion e-v-e-r-y-w-h-e-r-e. bless her, she was really upset. Hose down in the bath, big towel, big cuddle and half a gallon of dettol ensued, then washed my hands four times and changed clothes before feeding DS... Going to be one of those nights...

I really really wanted a chicken satay tonight. Giving up takeaways for lent isn't killing me, but it is making me grumpy about once a week >_

mmm thanks for thinking if me re DS1. Things have calmed down significantly since DH went back to work and we've had some really boring weeks filled with routine. DS1 has been saying I love you mummy wich has got me right in the mushy bit. we've still got a good bit of teenage rebellion two year old boundary pushing but nothing like it was.

So, short of gaffer taping his limbs down (all eight, I still maintain he has four I can't quite see) how does one give an inhaler to a baby who seems to have taken mortal offence to the spacer? In fact, it's more like immortal offence as I suspect it's a loathing that will never die >_<

Cluster feeds suck. Officially.

This is what I usually recommend to parents of littleys re inhalers.
Given his age you must have A baby-spacer with an infant mask on?
Ok, shake and plug the inhalerninto the spacer. squirt the right number of doses into the chamber so its already full of the drug

Swaddle ocopus in large towel so fewer limbs are sticking out (yoi don't have to do it, but keeps them marginally less slippy)
Child will usully cry when you attempt to j masl onto face. This is a gpod thing! Let them wail because....

Every child who cries/screams will run out off breath when they hve exhaled fully. This is naturally followed by a nice deep breath.
When you see baby stop crying and start to inhale jam the inhaler mask onto face firmly and immediately and octoboy shoild draw in a bog breath. He may then cough and object, move the masl away. Little to let him do so then straigjt bacl on next time he inhales.
3 pr 4 of those shoold get the stuff in.

Hope that made sense with all the asleep typos...

northern, what a shit evening. Hope the wine helped! I honestly think our mothers just forget what it's like. I also think it's probably a bit like smug mothers with easy babies who just do not realise how bloody awful and difficult the full on screeching is. Of COURSE it's upsetting! We are SO lucky with minimopsy as she does it only rarely, but each time she does I say to my husband that it is to remind us to really appreciate her relative calmness the rest of the time!! I am always a wreck if she's Screeching whereas grizzly or normal crying doesn't bother me so much.

lmf, hope octoboy learns to accept his inhaler!

Oh, and aethel, BIG sympathies re poosplosion. Poor little daughter and poor you!

I am soooo tired.

And Oi, good luck with offer! And everyone else, sorry I'm being crap at catching up but not deliberately ignoring anyone! When you miss even a few days is hard to catch up so I only end up responding to the very latest posts! Hope everyone is doing well!

Well, minimopsy had started going to 5am but yesterday was 3 am and today 4am ...

Morning All.

Hope everyone has a better day today.

Sky was awake at 1am and guzzled a 6oz bottle and then again at 5am and guzzled another 3oz and is finishing the remaining 3oz off now - shattered.com as not used to that!

Think will be upping Sky's bottles to 7oz now - she will be an early weaning Little Lady I think!

Cheers AWCH; there were two gits of blocked ducts in righty last night, so massaged when LO fed. Am having a bra-less day today (get me all European like!) and they seem to have gone.
I think as it was such awful timing last time (LO grizzling, unwell with anti-bs and the night before DP went back to work) and I had no idea it made you so ill, I'm overly scared of mastitis.
Sounds like you really suffer with AF; has she arrived and causing you bother?

That sounds like a great toy Oi, I'll get one for LO- don't suppose you could post the link could you?

Your poor little girl aethel; I think they find the shock and embarrassment worse than the actual poo/pain, and you just feel so sorry for them. Lots and lots of cuddles indeed.

Boring weeks of routine are good hawthers, gets 'em settled. Glad to hear it's happier at yours.

I think that's it mopsy- because he's such a placid thing, when he kicks off it's awful. It's not that I enjoyed the 2-3 weeks of evening grumps, but at least you knew it was coming, and were prepared. And yes, this is my Mother who, quote 'was ready to jump from a window holding me' when I had 24 hour colic!!
The wine was just what I needed- doesn't take much, but felt considerably more zen afterwards....

Today's wild excitement is getting DS weighed, then getting pics and cards for Mother's Day.
And- mainly to the first timers- DP keeps on having to remind me that I'm due a card this time (think he has one sorted!). STILL can't get my head round this 'being a Mum' thing .

Hope everyone else has decent days too!

tyel we x-posted earlier, so I didn't see your post -mopsy drew my attention to it. Sympathies for you and the screaming baby and exploding manky haddock slaps to your mum. Of course you get upset if LO screams! Stuart and I are all hands on deck withthe fussing and cooing and trying everything if Alistair starts screaming. It's because we are human, and it's our first. As mopsy said, we thank bob every time it happens that it is so rare, and that Ali is generally a very easy, good, smiley baby.
We've had a couple of screaming sessions in the last week, but only for very short periods. I think it is the start of teething. But we don't have any visible teeth/obvious white lumps in gums yet. Drooling like a good un though with occasional red cheeks. Aw!
Today, I was going to try and get to a coffeeorning thing for mums in the village that I haven't been to yet. But it runs from 9 - 11, and we're still in bed. Oops!

Morning!

DD2 had a lovely birthday, ate her own weight in chocolate cake and is now surgically attached to her My little ponies.

Plans for the day, recover from yesterday as we have such a busy few days coming up!

I have ordered flowers for my Mum from a new chic florists...haven't ordered from them before so I hope the arrangement is good.

Hope she is feeling better soon aethel

lmf duct tape?

oi wnaky baskets! All of mine have loved theirs, the big ones still play with some of the bits we collected.

msb swaddle blanket:o

Today I shall mostly be going to rescue my pram. There may have to be an investigation of the charity shops near the hospital as I've not been to them in years. I love a good book rummage:o

I'm having a down day - i feel depressed so i'm sorry if my post is negative

Aaron had colic 24 hours aday from 5 days old till 3 and ahalf months. When he was 10 days old and after no sleep for 10 days at 2am i wanted to throw him at the wall just to shut him up . I didn't i give him to DH who then slept downstairs with him for two weeks so i could have 3 hours sleep at night. Another time i put him in his pram in the livingroom and called my mum crying sitting on the kitchen floor with the door shut. Colicy babies and no sleep is a nightmare and i feel for anyone who has to go thru that but it does get better. So compared to Aaron, Hope is such an easy baby i should be over the moon but i find it hard having Aaron and Hope. I find it hard spliting my time, hard getting out of the house on my own, hard doing the housework when i'm potty training Aaron and demand feeding Hope and DH can't help

We went to softplay yeasterday and it was good but my in-laws took us and stayed with us and i wanted to stay on my own to get some indepandence so i'm going to a different place today at 1pm as they used to have a breastfeeding group on so hoping its still going. Aaron can play and i can chat to the other mothers.

I dont have PND i'm just finding it hard right now but there is always the voice in my head that is screaming in fear that its PND I think i'm scared of having it again or as bad as it was and i feel like i have to "prove myself" all the time

Sorry i just had to get that out.

Back from GP who had surprise spare appointment: grotty ear the culprit as she had earache overnight (the poo episode has not repeated and hopefuly was a red herring) so stinky banana syrup antibiotics for her and a day off school. She now seems perky and a lot better in self but we'll see...

Hi ladies!
I've been a lurker since about 6 months pregnant and have been stalking following you all from thread to thread since! Thought I'd better delurk so here's my first ever mumsnet post!

I have a dd, Maia, who 2yrs10 and a ds, Asa, who is 12 weeks (born 16th Dec). Hope you don't mind me joining you!

AnAirOfHope I find having 2 hard also and don't have the added pressure of previous pnd. I get frustrated with dd when she plays up then shout then feel guilty. Take one day at a time, you're doing great.

Dd is at nursery today so an easier day today, bit of housework and baby massage later