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December 2011: Smiles and giggles and coffee and truffles.....

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aethelfleda · 11/03/2012 19:27

Voila, a new positive thinking thread for us!

Onward and upward, ladies. Do come on and post if you're a lurker or want to join our merry band, all welcome!!

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aethelfleda · 14/03/2012 10:34

air, you sound like you have an excellent handle on your mood , just keep monitoring yourself. For the record I didn't have PND but I found going from one to two babies a huge leap, perpetual sources of guilt when they both need you at once and there's never enough time is completely normal, I found the first six months hardest when both mine were in nappies and I wasn't getting much sleep. It will get better and you keep looking out for yourself (((hug)))

LMF well done for sticking with the no takeout Lent; I'm now on week 3 of no internet surfing/facebook and it's still quite a job: I really enjoy looking up info on the net!!! I got a plaintive "come baaaack!" email from facebook so I guess they miss my advertising revenue too... Still can't decide if legitimate research for our possible house moving is legitmate, so far I've only been on here, my online education site and the occasional foray onto Amazon/ebay/approved foods for specific shopping porpoises.
Trouble is if I make too many exceptions then I'm not sticking to it! Nrg, how long til easter is it?!?!

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KateM77 · 14/03/2012 10:48

Oi Sounds good to me. See you there Smile

Aethel Pleased to hear there hasn't been a repeat of the poosplosion. Hope DD2 is on the mend soon

Air Sorry to hear you're finding things tough. You're doing brilliantly, it's a lot to cope with.

Rashkakeller Welcome Grin Our DS's share a birthday. My DD is also at nursery today so a relatively easy day here too. DS had his 12 week jabs this morning. He seems fine so far, and was OK last time too. Hope that continues because we're due to go swimming this afternoon.

OiMissus · 14/03/2012 10:51

Here's the link to the toy tyel.
I got up, showered, got out to go to "Bumps, Babies and Beyond" at the community centre...OK, I arrived late, at 10.30 - it's from 9 - 11. But there were only two cars outside, the place was a hovel, no visible activity, door was locked, but I could see lots and lots of little coats on hooks . there must be a playgroup there.
I got back in the car.
Putting the kettle on now.
Air hang in there honey, you're doing a great job. xxx

OiMissus · 14/03/2012 10:56

that link didn't work. here it is: www.johnlewis.com/231516114/Product.aspx

Rashkakeller · 14/03/2012 11:24

Thanks Kate :) Ds had his 12 week jabs yesterday. After some tears, he was ok but was out of sorts last night. He was ok with the first lot but we gave him a dose of Calpol and he seems ok today. Did hear him crying in the night but he settled and woke a bit earlier than usual for a feed but he is suffering from his 600th cold of his life bless him! I have booked in for 12 session course of tots splashtime starting after Easter, can't wait as I did it with dd and it was fab. Hope your ds' jabs go ok and you can enjoy the swimming.

jigglebum · 14/03/2012 11:24

Morning everyone - still trying to keep up with the thread but been so long since I last posted I can't remember it all to say anything useful!

I find having 2 tricky too and my sanity is kept by DS going to preschool for 2 full days in a week - they are by far my easiest days. He is a bit older than some of yours too (3 years 9 months) so is quite independent (albeit demanding). also helped by the fact that Freya is a very good baby - I think if she were not I may well have lost the plot a few times by now, with the added stresses of DH and his job and our DIY/extension!

Freya slept from 9pm till 730am!!!! However, sods law, DS is ill so had to get up at 4 am to see to him! He is currently having a pyjama day and we havent gone to his normal swimming class.

Freya is now completely ff but had to give her a bf this morning (after a week) as breasts were very full still and sore leaking milk yesterday, can't believe I still have milk. I am finding life considerably easier now though - she goes 3-4 hours between feeds, sleeps at least 6 hours in a row at night and sleeps for longer in the day, rather than little and often and is more settled. However, she is a right faffer with the bottle.

We have just booked a holiday to the Algarve for a week in June. We are going to a villa with my parents - it'll be the first time I have holidayed with my parents since I was about 16, so hope it is ok! Looking forward to some sun and relaxation though and the occasional evening out with DH. Having said about sun though we actually went to the beach here Sat and Mon and it was lovely - Freya has a bit of colour in her cheeks now!

Welcome rash good to hear from you. hope you feel ok air - it is hard, especially right now - you are doing well.

Rashkakeller · 14/03/2012 11:27

That was supposed to be 6 00 th - that'll teach me for trying to be smart!

AWomanCalledHorse · 14/03/2012 11:32

Morning all!! Welcome Rashkakeller!

jigglebum, yay on Freya's sleep! And hope you have an awesome time in the Algarve, we're trying to find a decent place to go in the UK (cottage holiday with mates in October)...strange how much harder it is finding somewhere crawling baby (hopefully by then) proof!

OiMissus · 14/03/2012 11:43

welcome Rash!
Kate how long are you up North for? I posted the proposed meet up on Facebook and 3 of the usual suspects have other things planned on the Friday. (how dare they have such interesting lives?!)
Our final offer on the house has been rejected. I have to go back and do some sums.THey only want another £2k, but I think I was stretching it to the limit as it was. The bank won;t give us another 2k, i don't think, anything extra has to be our savings, and I'm already counting in future wage slips...
Right, online bankery and a calculator here I come! (LO please just sleep for a minute. :) )

KateM77 · 14/03/2012 12:11

Oi We're driving up during the day Thurs, then home Sun am so that we're back for DD's swimming in the afternoon. Have activities arranged with DH's family on Sat. Not to worry about the Fri, we can leave it if it's not convenient for all of you.

Is it worth just standing firm and waiting on the house offer? As you say it's only £2k. Maybe the vendor will decide that's not worth losing the sale over? Easier said than done I know!

aethelfleda · 14/03/2012 12:13

Ooh that looks similar to one of the best Manhattan toys we had:not sure if it's still lurking in attic. Will have to look out for another one at NCT sale if not...

Skwish rattle

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aethelfleda · 14/03/2012 12:18

Tricky oi, but if the money's not there, you don't want to overstretch.. Could you theoretically meet them halfway with an extra thousand? If not stand firm and say you honestly have no more to offer. Good luck!

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hawthers · 14/03/2012 13:12

Weigh in day and ds has gained another 6 oz so is keeping with the curve bit not catching up. Also this gain is with the intensive feeding regime which is slightly killing me I'm going to try and leave him tonight to see how long he will actually sleep on his own. Am pretty sure the consultant will want ne to add another bottle un if we aren't catchung up.

In other depressing news DH and I are just not getting on. It's a bickerfest most evenings. My sex drive us through the floor and ge is like a teenage boy. It doesn't help that it still hurts which does little to incentivise me.

Still nice trip to john Lewis for me and ds with a nice spot of lunch although now stuck in the grotty parents room feeding ds

aethelfleda · 14/03/2012 13:58

hawthers make sure you tell the consultant you are finding the feeds schedule v hard going: some drs don't always consider the effeft their "management plan" has on their families... Welldone for weight gain and a stinky for DS (we've just had a new shipment arrive).

I am sooooo tired, dS is just snoozing for first time today (he's rubbish at long naps. I want to sleep but DD2 has staged a moricle recovery and is happily playing so I will resign self to large cuppa and semi doze on sofa.

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AWomanCalledHorse · 14/03/2012 14:21

DS (3mnths next week) has grown out of most of his 3-6 stuff!! Makes me laugh that HV measured him on the 25th centile (I know there's a margin for error but ffs!!).

Sorry DH is acting up Hawthers. Good to know your DS is gaining well, how do you feel about adding another bottle?

fingers crossed for you Oi, they'd be stupid to lose the sale over 2k!

NorthernChinchilla · 14/03/2012 14:28

Hello Rash- you deserve pom poms for impressive extended lurking!

Cheers for the link Oi (think it was aimed at me and not Tyel?) and the kind words. LO has been such a cheery sod today you'd never know... but I find it so hard when he is upset to remind myself that this isn't- sacrificing chickens to Bob- the start of something, and it will pass! Should have it tattooed on the back of my hands...
And that's such a tricky one over the £2k, guess it depends how much you really want the house, but I know when you're buying houses it's easy to get fixated on wanting that one. Will be interested to see how it turns out for you- good luck.

Aaaaah, My Little Pony! I loved them so much as a kid MsB, they're ace! Glad the party went well.

Hope you feel better for getting that out air. Keeping up with the demands of one child is hard enough, so a baby and another small child is about three times harder, as it's not like they space out their needs. So sometimes you've either got to be in two places at once, or put one first, which must make you feel a bit grim. You're doing a great job though- is the potty training still going OK?

And bleuuuuuuuuurgh to those flavoured anti-bs aethel, they're grim. Had to have them when I was bitten by a dog when I was little; I warned the rather snooty nurse I wasn't very good at taking medicines but she wouldn't listen, so really it's her own fault I barfed the whole lot back all over her.... Glad to hear that a recovery has been made though!

I think a family holiday sounds really nice jiggle, we've been thinking of similar. But not somewhere as lovely and sunny. Rather Envy of that, but DP is somewhat 'celtic-coloured' and DS takes after him, so we'd have to buy buckets of sun screen factor dufflecoat to go anywhere warm...

Really pleased that your DS is gaining and keeping to the line hawthers, I'd say that qualifies for pom-poms. But aethel's right that you should definitely let them know it's tough, as you deserve a life and a bit of pleasure too, you don't exist purely to service your baby's feeding needs. Crap about your DH though; do you think you just need a break (either alone or together) to recharge, or is it a matter of him just pulling his socks up?

Off to get Mother's Day present and a card for a friend's 50th, actually quite pleasant outside.

Oh, and DS rolled over for the first time today!

LittleMissFlustered · 14/03/2012 14:53

I have rescued my pram It would appear that the community hospital in the neighbouring town has a much better class of patient than the infirmary in my city as it was where the lovely auxiliary left it on Monday:o

I failed to find anything I wanted to buy in the five charity shops I went into, so somebody must have warned them I was on my way

I have just had a coffee and some lunch, and I am gearing up for this evening's entertainment of having the octopus immunised. Hi jinx all round. Think we'll go with the being stabbed while having a snack tactic as it was rather effective with the other two:)

MissRee · 14/03/2012 15:32

Welcome Rash Grin

I'm feeling very productive today - housework done and I've just written an EPIC complaint email to Mothercare about the buggy saga! Let's see whether they bother to reply what they have to say about it Wink

In addition to the Lamaze hand and door finders I bought, I've just got Freya a Lamaze dragon pram toy too. Nanny will be pleased, she is a bit of a loves dragons Grin

Is anyone else finding it hard to keep their LOs entertained? When she's awake, she HAS to be looking at something interesting, being talked to or kicking something. Whilst this is OK when DP is home, during the day it's a bit of a dance between swing, playgym and the evil tellybox. I want to get her a jumperoo but (1) they're massively expensive and (2) my living room is being taken over with baby stuff!!! The swing alone takes up SO much room.

I need to man up and sort out Jack's room, clear some of his toys out and rearrange the furniture. He has so many toys is madness considering he's only here at weekends and even then we're usually out all weekend so he doesn't get a chance to play with most of it!

Rashkakeller · 14/03/2012 16:10

Thanks for the welcome, ladies and the pompoms Northern yes, I have perfected the lurk ;)

Either baby massage 'loosened' something or it was the jabs yesterday but ds just did the biggest pooplosion! It was front loaded so his tummy looked jaundiced...nice. And it dripped down his leg onto his feet and the carpet

MissRee I know what you mean re baby stuff, I'm always tripping over stuff!! Baby swing, bouncer, dd's toys...the list is endless! And I'm desperate to pump up the doughnut for ds to try!

MissRee · 14/03/2012 16:31

Not to mention the small fortune it's costing me in batteries... I tried using £ shop ones but they only lasted a day Grin

seven77 · 14/03/2012 18:23

Apologies for a me post but I don't have time to catch up, hope everyone is on though.

I know a lot of people on here are anti-mothercare but they have sleeping bags buy one get one free.

I'm having some pretty bad pains in my lower right side, does anyone know if ovulation can be painful? I don't know what it could be but I'mpretty certain I'm fertile at the moment.

MissRee · 14/03/2012 18:48

Some people get ovulation pains seven but I'm not sure they should be too painful. Do painkillers help?

MissRee · 14/03/2012 18:49

Oh and altho I'm rowing with mothercare at the moment, I'm hoping they respond to my complaint with vouchers or a gift card Grin

YBR · 14/03/2012 18:52

MissRee Use duracell/procell, they are better than everyone else. Last time I looked the best deal was on amazon.

the LO keeps having tizzies during her evening feed - wriggle, cry etc while feeding like she doesn't want it, and yet take it away and she crys more. huh? Also she's not been interested in my boobs today - must be something I ate.

mopsytop · 14/03/2012 18:57

seven ovulation pain is indeed common, it's called mittelschmerz (literally 'middle pain'). I get it for a day each month and it's really bad for a few hours, like bend over double bad. Naproxen is great, you can buy it over the counter. Mine is only really bad for a few hours and mildly nagging for a day or two.