Feb 2010 - turning two and turning heads

[BigBadBear]

Today DS enjoyed riding his sketelebug. He even took it upstairs for his bath

Where is everybody?

I was wondering the same. Clearly bemused by the imposter on the thread . DS2 really enjoyed his scuttle bug today too, as did his lazy older brother who let me tow him all the way back from the local pub on it while DS2 borrowed the mini micro scooter!!

DH is home and all is good.

Survival love the name! Glad your survived your weekend of solo parenting. I'd have been furious with my DH if he'd swanned off without a backwards glance, but then I do rather consider weekends his responsibility more than mine as I have the girls all week He is working the weekend in a few weeks' time, and going on a stag a few weeks after that, and both times I am taking the DDs to my mum's by train (not a particularly stress-free undertaking, but better than spending a weekend on my tod).

Are you back at work? It sounds like you need a couple of sick days at home, alone, in bed, hot toddy in hand.

Also I'd love to hear why MIL has pissed you off

PA are DD and DS any better?

DD has had a cough since our last cold which was about a month ago. I'm just starting to wonder whether I should take her to have it checked as she's starting to sound chesty. Has another cold starting too.

And we are without heating or hot water until tomorrow Have gas fire on downstairs but that is just a major hazard with a toddler about. Thank goodness she is at ILs tomorrow when I have to wait in all day. We will head out somewhere (anywhere warm!) this afternoon.

We had a very trying few days at my mum's, she has recently moved house and it's a building site, DD wanted to jump on/off everything and we had to sleep in the same room and she wouldn't settle. I'm more tired and stressed than before we went.

And we are moving house ourselves in less than a fortnight....! It has all happened so quickly, I'm in shock. So much to do, I don't know where to start. Who would like a snotty, coughing, climbing, non-sleeping toddler for a week or so?!

Sorry scone still stuck in the snow, and I already have one at home too. Actually the snow is melting but that is the dangerous part as it is falling from the roofs. Who knew -2 could feel warm?

DD2 has finally stopped coughing but it took more than 2 months, I had her checked though after about a month and a bit. Just for your peace of mind.

good luck with the new house and the heating.

SOTU nice name!

SB isn't it half term so holidays for the teachers and the ones with older kids?

For me every time I sit down I have a little monster pull me back up.
She has started to nappy train herself, by putting her own nappy on. After several leaks she is now going on the potty but insists to flush and to wash it herself. Not sure if it is very helpful for me. It is very time consuming and I am certain it will end up on the floor anytime soon.

PA hope everybody is better.

I'm home with food poisoning! We had a bad Chinese take away last night. I've sick several times and still feel nauseous (i did a pg test just to put my mind at rest as DH ate the same and wasn't sick! It's negative )

scones good luck for the move and shame you didn't rest at your mum

mous yes for mardi gras. I may do some bugnes if I can face cooking

Swishy new name, Survival!
Sorry to hear about the funny turns. It just seems so unfair that you've had so much illness - your DSs and your own - to cope with.
On a brighter note I'm now agog to hear you dish the dirt on your MIL

Scones yikes, not surprised you're a bit about the imminent move. Good luck with it, I hope stresses are kept to a minimum and that you manage to pick up a bit more sleep.

SB food poisoning, rubbish. I hope you're feeling better now.

Mous we cheated and had pancakes for lunch today (savoury ones) because our Children's Centre served little bits of pancakes for today's snack and DD loved them. I gave her a couple of bits with honey, but once she had tasted them and decided they were delicious, she scoffed a load more plain. To be fair, we've never had problems with her liking pancakes in the past, but it's been a while since she's had them.
I asked her what she wanted for lunch when we arrived home and she said "Pancakes!" without hesitation, so I thought why not? Yum.

How are the LOs, PA? And you?

DD awoke twice last night. DH went in first time (just before we'd switched our own light off) and suggested I give her some paracetamol because she felt rather hot. I did so, although I'm not sure she was feverish, just flushed from sleep. Second time she felt a bit cold. She seems fine today, though.

Her eyes got much better on Sat, then she wiped them to red rawness again yesterday - typically while were at the PILs so I had them and DH all speculating on what could possibly be "wrong" with her eyes to make her do it. I'm still convinced it's a habit as her eyes look absolutely fine - they're not running or bloodshot or anything. And the skin around them only goes red when she's been wiping at them too much. I can see what the main trigger is. Every time her eyes get slightly wet - from coughing, sneezing or crying - she wipes them obsessively.
Anyway, I promised to get DD a doctor's appointment to at least rule out that it's a problem with her eyes themselves (or indeed eczema or something). Typically, she's leaving them alone more today and they look much better, so I'm humming and ha-ing about an appointment because there isn't really anything to see.....

DH and I had one of our rare rows last night. He was frustrated because he felt like he'd had a rubbish half term (much of it spent marking work or planning) and there was an implication that it was partly my fault for not getting better organised so we could go away for a few days or "do" something, like go out for an evening. He's got a point I guess, but I was much more relaxed about "going away" etc. than him and didn't realise it was such a big deal to him.
Anyway, I'm going to ask around and try and rustle up some babysitters as I think it would be an idea to at least have an evening out of the house.

I usually give DD a snack just after she wakes from her afternoon nap - now she's taken to putting in an order before she goes to sleep:

"Snack apple, Mummy, and pear and cheese!"

Roger that, then.

Waves back to BBB

IC {grin] priceless

Think I've sussed why DD's had a few wakeful nights lately. I think it's got less to do with the cold (which seems to be little more than a sniffle) and more to do with new molar/s appearing. I finally got a good look in DD's mouth this afternoon and can clearly see the "blister" on her top left gum where a tooth is starting to break through. And I can see definite tooth-shaped lumps on her lower gums too.
No wonder a bit of paracetamol helps her sleep better atm.

Aargh. I have just typed a veritable essay, one-handed, while pumping, and it's all blardy GONE!!!!! Oh well at least you're spared my moanings about disturbed nights. I will repeat this bit though:

We had a settling-in session at nursery yesterday - she is due to start two afternoons a week, for four hours a time, from Monday. I didn't feel it went at all well. She seemed far younger than everyone else there (not surprising when they can't start until 2, and she is not quite 2 yet!). There seemed very many children and too few adults to my untrained eye. I can't really see how she will cope. It all seemed very hands-off to me, e.g. she was playing with sand, and I was standing back trying to let her get on with it, and she either ate the sand or poured it on the floor. She doesn't know how to play with sand because I have only taken her to a sandpit once I don't like getting sandy. She also seemed disobedient, the othe children all sat and listened to a story and I couldn't make her sit - I kept trying and she kept getting back up - I felt so embarrassed. And she climbed on chairs instead of sitting on them. Basically she seeed both too naughty and too little

BUT I really do need a break from her - she is completely doing my head in - I am just not dealing with her well at the moment. I feel shit but I am shouting at her all the time. She just angers me, she seems to be constantly winding me up, I want to get away from her.

AND we are moving in a week and a half, and I need the time now (or next week) to pack etc and I will most certainly need the time once we've moved, to try to sort the house out.

So... we will see how Thursday goes, but I am more or less resigned to sending her somewhere I don't think is absolutely right for her, or not right at this age anyway.

You probably think I'm a monster. I certainly feel the least maternal out of our thread. I don't know what's wrong with me really. PA seems to cope very well not only with 2 young DCs but also with a illness too (how are they PA?) and as for bethy she makes me hang my head with real shame.

Sorry for me post. It has halved in length at least! No musing on the dummy biting... I'll save it for next time

scones I wouldn't worry about your DD, all you have listed are things that she has never done before, she has to learn them it is not instantaneous.

I can see DD2 is getting ready too (even with the not talking and clinginess), I wish I could afford to put her somewhere. She wouldn't sit on a chair for very long though and would probably eat the sand too.

2 afternoons is about right for your DD and will give you a good break.

Most children do have fun at nursery. You are not a monster and BTH some children are more challenging than others.
Did the staff said anything to you about your DD not being ready?

How do you feel? Have you been checked for PND?

For the packing start now, do little and often and it will feel easier. Close the box straight away to avoid anyone unpacking behind you and mark them well (either directly on the box or number and list on a pice of paper).

On a more serious note don't listen to anything I say I am sitting here with cats ears on my head and a tail . (I also had a nose and moustaches but they were itchy)

DD2 is a smurf and DD1 a princess (of course!) going to make pancakes for "gouter".

IC

just a quick note to say I am here (and well again) and the other two are mostly fine. Their sleep means I don't really have much more than time to read, plus writing whilst feeding and laying down is a bit awkward.

scones of course you are not a monster. DD2 has been going to nursery for over a year now. She settled quicker than DD1, but it did take a while for her to get it and for them to get her (though soon they obviously realised that she's one of the most amazing children in the world :o). The stuff you have mentioned is just her exploring her new environment and the staff will manage her perfectly well. You will feel better for having some time away and all will settle down. If it helps I can send you a sheet that I did for each of my girls when they started at nursery that helped the staff get to know them a bit better - FB me your email address if you want to have a look. You have a lot on at the moment, so try not to be hard on yourself.

Sorry I've lost track of everyone else on this thread, but mous if I could have one of those hugs you are dishing out, that would be lovely.

Ooh, a hug and a pancake, how lovely

Quick post from under the duvet. I decided to take a couple of days off work to get myself well.

Scones, believe me, I hear myself sometimes shouting at my gorgeous boys and think a) I don't deserve them and b) I ought to be able to cope better. I dreaded the summer hols last year and the thought of trying to survive only 6 weeks without a break. And there's no way in the world I would want to be trying to move house even now, let alone 2 years ago! If you don't think dd1 is ready for pre-school, could you consider a child minder? My two started there and got on well. Ds2 will start at nursery in the coming months. Be kind to yourself. I think your feelings are absolutely normal.

IC sorry to hear about the row. Always good to clarify what each other is actually thinking. I have made it clear to dh that he has some work to do after his weekend away. He is working on it.

Need another nap. Hi to Mous, BBB etc...and hope SB's bug is on the way out.

Oops, missed PA off my list so sending you a wave too.

sotu good plan

BBB are you OK?

No mous, I realise that sounds more ominous than it is. A magazine I have written for the first time got my surname wrong, which is irritating but nothing more.

DH crapness is the reason for the sobbing. But I've stopped now. I added a cup of tea and some popcorn to your pancake and WILL NOT LET IT GET ME DOWN.

I thought you did something drastic about your DH.
It is good to sob and YOU WILL NOT LET IT GET YOU DOWN!

scones you're not a bad mum because you're putting your DD1 to pre-school. DS has been in nursery since he's 4 months old have you been checked for PND?

BBB I had the mispelling issue a lot when not married. about your issues with Your DH

mous at you dressing up as a cat.

I have been nauseous all morning again (I was back at work) but fine this afternoon. Glad I tested negative because If not I would swear I am GP thinks it's food poisoning.

bc good luck re your FB issues

I finally have two hands and I don't know what to say. Just that I'm so sorry many people are going through a lot atm.

scones If I could afford it, I would. I'm going through a stage where DS is the hard one (the buggy is no longer his friend), but I know it will flip. DD came close today as was evidently tired when she woke after nap (might have been to do with the resettling needed every 20 mins from 4:30am) and decided throwing, kicking and banging was the way to go. She did lap up the pancakes.

sb I just did a pg test to make sure as well. Think I will come off the mini pill, don't like not knowing when af will come. It was horrible for those few moments thinking what if, as there is no way I think I would cope if I was.

IC do you think it was DH misplacing some of his stress? Hope a good communication came out of it. Hope you are doing OK with the pg, was it this Friday the scan?

PA stressful isn't it. AF is always under control but I had a mess ip with my pill at Christmas and I waiting for her to appear to start it again ( it won't have been an issue few months ago but now I need to be careful )