December 2011 - This too shall pass (with the help of imaginary woolly mammoths)

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Have gone with LMFs title suggestion :)

x-post Northern

sounds goood! Shame I'm such a lightweight these days; don't think I should be in charge of DS after even half a glass

One more mini-rant; it's not even the bloody wedding!!! They're having that here in the UK, tiny family only apparently & the bf didn't invite us as he wanted my OH to come to Goa for the Blessing (master manipulator)!!! Of course given the choice anyone would rather go to Goa but if it's about seeing his bf get married then surely DP should put his foot down & say no I can't go but would love to come to the English bit if you'll invite me!!!

honey thats pretty crap of both of them. Surely his bf would understand and let him come to the English bit if he just asked? His fiancé sounds clueless, make sure you suggest a group holiday without DC's if they have a young baby!

northern bonjela is good for general use, as are cold teethers when they want to chew something (or a peeled carrot before they have teeth!). Anbesol (kept behind the counter) is bloody brilliant but contains alcohol so I only used it with DS when nothing else worked. I tried the calpol teething gel but it didn't help at all.

Northen, DS loves chewing on a bit of flannel/t-shirt/whatever fabric he can get his gums around, he seems to prefer chewing that to any of the teethers I've bought. The sod
Like seven said, Anbesol is brill, but DS really hates the taste. Bonjela says it's 2months+ so have no idea if it's any good?

May I suggest to all you ladies using gripe water....buy it when you see it!! Woodwards has been (according to Boots) discountinued & I dispatched minions to find Boots Own brand to around 8 stores across london, nada in any!!

Honey rant away! I'd be fuming at DH if he still thought it was realistic for him to go away for almost week atm, hope DP's mate comes round to the idea of inviting him to the actual wedding instead!

honey that really is pretty shitty. I hope he realises his silliness and realises it's a no-go. Can you express a day's worth surreptitiously, and on his next day off suddenly announce you're going out? And show him what it means to be left holding the baby? Or do other things to make him realise his responsibilities a bit more?
northern a friend's LO is wearing some special beads that are meant to calm them and be a natural pain killer. Someone on here can tell you what they are.

oi it will be amber. It has been used in teething necklaces for a long time...who knows wether it works or not. Personally, I think it is placebo effect (on parent's perception). Miri wears one anyway as I am quite a big fan of placebos!

Think they are Amber necklaces. Am sure if you search for baby teething necklace on Amazon something should come up. I've never been too keen on having a lo wearing something around it's neck but I'm sure it's actually fine.

northern oi I think its amber

Who said last night their Lo was off after a dream feed? He has been grizzly all day and keeps screaming as if in pain and not settling this afternoon :( my phone won't let me go back through pages!

Hv was useless, which was good as they have discharged me lol

Got the octopus weighed today, as was feeling wobbly and decided a walk to clinic would keep me occupied. He's a strapping 8lb 13oz now, up from a birthweight of 6lb. Not bad in five weeks:)

Quite a lot of children round here seem to wear the amber teething necklaces but I am not convinced there can be anything that works in them - but they look quite cute! We used Nelson teething granules with DS but to be honest he never really had that much teething trouble. I think because he had so many bad ear infections from a young age that were really painful I think the teething pain was mild for him in comparision. He is still the same today with pain as he is used to it, which is rather sad.

honey - I wouldn't be immpressed either - especially as there is an England option.

We seem to be ok for gripe water here in Dorset at the moment. I think it is helping but dont like the explosive nappy effect!

I am jealous of all these babies who settle in the evening and then sleep for 6 hours or so! Freya is still too colicky to settle in the evening and then 10-2 is a good stretch for us. A couple of 11 - 4s which have been bliss but have been one offs!

kristy it was me but Eva is normally grizzly anyway! She's been really unsettled this afternoon, I gave her calpol earlier as I'd tried everything else I could think of, even the car doesn't ever settle her. She's calmed down now but I know if I take her out of the wrap she'll start again.

I'm ordering another wrap from eBay tonight, I can get a new one for under £20(not a moby obviously). I rely on it far too much to only have one, it needs washing now but she's always in it!

Has anyone thought much about weaning? I'd never heard of baby-led weaning when DS was little so I don't know anything about it or which method we'll use. We used to give DS things like rusks and rice cakes as well as purée so I guess we done a bit of both anyway.

There was an AIBU thread on a very similar topic (birthday as opposed to weddings) HLC, and the consensus - the only dissenter was the one man posting on the thread- was that no, the bloke shouldn't go (and to make it worse the woman had asked her DP to take time off for her birthday previously and he'd said no).
You should post on there, let people comment and then share it with him!

Looking at it practically, can you get some friends or family to come and stay with you, if you're sure he's going to do it? Or as you say, work on them to let you come to the actual wedding in this country?

Oh, and [snort of hollow laughter emoticon] at the fiancee.

Thanks all for the teething advice; have got the bonjela stuff, so will see how that goes. He's chewing cheerfully on his fist, and/or any bit of cloth that's put near him (snap AWCH!) but will do the teething ring in the fridge thing when he's got a wee bit more co-ordination and won't just hit himself repeatedly in the head with it...

That's sort of good news Kri5ty, at least you're discharged! Are you actually feeling OK in yourself, and that you'd have someone and somewhere to turn if you did feel yourself starting to slide PND-wards?

That's brilliant news LMF, a golden tribble to Octoboy! Good start to the weekend for you .

Your poor LO jiggle, that's rotten for him. I share your , but then we must consider the thread title...sigh...

Jesus Christ this baby will be the death of me... Arggggh.

He's so unsettled in the day just cries & cries & cries & pukes & cries. Thank god he's good at night or id have thrown myself under a bus by now.!

honey I know where you're coming from my Dh went to Mexico for his cousins wedding in July so I was on my own with three under 3 , 5 months pregnant & had also pulled my groin muscle.

To top it off all my other 'support network ' were away too!

Now we are attempting to book to go to Portugal for a friends wedding in June & Dh is being all funny about booking.

As it's over half term the prices are going up & the availability down..

girls do you use a baby carrier? Often the wrap is the only thing that settles Eva, I wouldn't get anything done without it some days.

By the way I had a litle get together today to do fingerprint jewellery.
I had dds 1&2 done by a franchise called small prints which are nationwide but tbh they are not the nicest ones.

Dd3 & ds today was a company called pastel prints they do postal service & I highly recommend them if anyone is interested. If you google it the site comes up I don't know how to link...

Have you done your journey northern
I don't really have anyone to talk to etc, as oh sees it as a sign of weakness etc, but I think because I'm aware of it, i can go to the gp if I get worse. I'm not feeling myself at all, feel empty etc, but the hv wasn't too concerned when I said I was finding it slow to bond

seven I'd like to find out about baby led weaning! I'd prob do rice etc earlier than 6 months though.

Sevens- I have a little carrier thing but I put him in it & still he cries.. Not a wrap thingy though im a bit wary if them in case I drop him

I'd really recommend the wrap carrier gya, it's worked when my LO has been unsettled. It sounds really tough though- take it the GP/MW haven't found anything and your DS is just unsettled? Or is it a growth spurt at the moment?

Still here Kri5ty, will be setting off soon. As we're new parents, we didn't realise today was the start of half term, so have managed to choose the crappest day for travel. We were a bit stymied owing to DP's Mum going on a long holiday and so had to get up there.
It sounds like you could do with a little more support there... I'm concerned that your HV wasn't concerned, and if your OH isn't up for talking about it then that may well make it worse.

If you don't feel like yourself, I'd go to the Doctor's and discuss it with him/her. Others on here have far more experience, but it sounds like you're doing a brilliant job with Saul but need someone to look after you and make sure you're doing OK.

The jabs have totally knocked DS for six, he's been asleep virtually all day. I'm actually going to have to wake him for a feed before we depart. It's been cracking timing though, it's allowed me to pack and get the house ready!

Will try to keep up with the thread over the next few days, hope everyone has a good weekend!

Smoke me a kipper....

Maybe I'll have to invest in one then..
What do I look for?

The crying drives me mad.

Hv thinks it's colic & showed me colic massage & told me to use gripe water. Neither working.
Makes me feel awful for him as he looks like he's really hurting pulling his knees in & getting so exhausted he has bags under his little eyes

Hello all. Haven't been on for a few days due to a combination of lots of visitors and then DD being ill. Having a terrible evening, the 'highlights' so far being cleaning up DD's sick whilst having DS strapped to me in the carrier because he wouldn't settle, and then feeding DS and having to listen to DD cry over the monitor asking for milk (I didn't give her bedtime milk tonight due to the sickness and she just can't understand why she's not allowed it). DH not due home for another hour, locked in with DS's eveing mega-feeds, and hoping DD will stay asleep.

On a more positive note, DS has calmed down with the feeding for the last few days - fewer daytime feeds and going a nice long stretch at night too. Last night he slept 11.10-4.40 then 5.15-7.15. Bliss!

kate it must have been awful listening to her crying while you were stuck feeding DS, hope she's better tomorrow.

girls how are you feeding out of interest? Most people use moby wraps as they're the biggest brand but much more pricey. If you're after a cheaper option I ordered one of these from eBay earlier.

Anyone heard from air?

Has anyone seen Tyel about? Dm hoping she's recovering from the appendectomy:)

I'd love someone to look after me northern but I'm one of those stubborn, I can do everything people, due to a shite mother, so I tend to push help away. Aw good luck with the drive! I hope the weather is ok!

girls is it all the time, or so long after a feed? Any other symptoms / signs?

kate I hope she is ok, and that you have a better time of it tomorrow!

Well I think its just happened... after nearly 11 weeks I've just cried! My friend wrote a poem about mothers love, I just read it, burst out crying and now I can't stop looking at him, I'd do anything for him, and I'm filling up at the thought of anything hurting/ upsetting him!

hope you are OK girls, if the crying
Is hard for you you post here but there's also a nice looking thread over on breast/bottle feeding forum called "high maintainance" with lots of posters in the same boat. Also if you need a real actual person to talk to (who would be qiite happy even with a background of wailing
Baby) then there are two helplines woth people who've been through this;

Cry-sis are on 08451 228669 (9am-10pm) Website here

And the NCT postnatal line (9am-1pm mon-friday only) Postnatal Line - 0300 330 0773
(anyone can ring, no need to be a member)

They are both v helpful and can give you some human support if that will help.

kri5ty, that's lovely to hear about you feeling attatched to your LO (((hug))) :)

Oh and wrap wise the Moby is a big seller cos the "main wrap brands"prior to that when I had DD2 were hug-a-bub (£60 new) and Kari-Me (£50 new) and Moby undercut them!

Plus Moby do a big colour range

Hi all! Can't post much as minimopsy bit unsettled but just wanted to say hello'