October 2011: our growing, rolling, sleeping (we hope) and growing more gorgeous by the day babies

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Our third thread!

Re weighing, I got DD weighed regularly mostly because I liked to see the curve in the book and because it was something to do on a Tuesday afternoon when I was bored. Because of mums like me (oops) they have now changed the system here and you get 4 home visits by the hv (on discharge from mw, a week later, 8 weeks (maternal mh check), 4-6 months (weaning) ) at which babies are weighed.

I've not bothered going outwith these to get him weighed more but he had a 3 month review with the neonatal paeds at 3 months having spent some time being monitored in neonatal after birth so he was weighed then too.

Sche, you've inspired me. I was going to polish my sink but I think I'll go and put the kettle on and find some dairy free choc chip cookies! Then I ought to go and wake Boy who has spent far too much of today asleep in his pushchair.

I'm glad I've encouraged someone to step away from this "shine the sink" nonsense

I really like gf! I know not popular but it really works for me. I gated having no routine to my day, and j was doing things at about her times anyway, so not a problem to follow. I am not strict to the minute (or 10) but i like to have a guide

sch great news on the naps, I think doing the same thing everytime for a sleep helps them know what is going on. Sorry things are hard, but it will get better (because it has to eventually).

J is small and is sick a lot, pretty much after each feed and inbetween but it doesn't bother him. I went to see the hv, and she didn't seem so concerned. She said boys can be more sicky than girls!

Emma - your hv sounds odd (sorry) but gender bears no relevance on whether a baby is sicky (ignore gf comment lol, I remember the huge mn fallout where she was threatening legal action, think she took legal action. Nutter).

I've been a bit hectic here and Jessica is feeding machine (but cute one at that).

:P at scheh

Re shining sink - someone said about deep cleaning? I haven't and don't do this. I use something called barkeeps friend. Dead easy, put it on, rinse it off and quick wipe.

C used to sick up during and after feeds, and at random points in the day often over an hour after a feed. I found as soon as I started using infacol it helped. But I'm really bad at remembering to use it because you have to use it before every single feed.

How on earth do you "deep" clean a sink? I just wipe it down when washing up!

right then. C woke after half an hour at 4.10 for a feed, then I put him on the mat to play. He's now been crying since 4.35 non-stop. Do I put him back down to sleep? I put him in his chair and am rocking it, which made no difference. He stops crying when I hold him.

Thanks everyone for responses on weight. I think I'm overreacting. Thing is all my babies were born on a high pc then drop through to below average weight. I ebf and find it so stressful to think my milk isn't good enough to sustain them.

L does have reflux but has plenty of wet and poo nappies. He is moving into next size (3-6). I should just stop weighing him shouldn't I?

sche can you pop him in a carrier? That is what I do at the end of the day. By then L is overtired and won't nap easily but falls asleep in carrier. I can get on with some stuff then. It is tiring though but rather that than listen to screaming.

good idea! He has shut up calmed down in his bouncy chair now it seems.

I think it might be best if you stop weighing him, for your own sanity Jnice!

Yes, will stop! He is smiley and chatty and people say he looks well and is growing. Isn't rolling yet, but he doesn't get much floor time because it makes him barf

I'm glad C has cheered up

I had the M&B unit nursery nurse come round today for some tips, and I mentioned the rolling. Apart from BB3's twins, C is the oldest baby in the October baby bus (I think....) and he's not rolling yet, not flipping all the way over at least, and she said not to worry as she wouldn't expect it in a 4 month old anyway :)

Have you tried infacol/whatever similar product they have where you are? It really made a huge difference to C, he's like a different baby.

He's got his toy octopus and is busy pulling and shouting angrily at it!

jnice if it makes you feel better my DS was born @ 9lbs 4oz so pretty big by 6mo he was really average and by 1yr he was small for his age he was BFed for 1st 3minths then FFed after that so it won't be ur milk. I was once told (by HV or MW I think) that the babies born the biggest tend to end up the smaller ones after a yr or 2.

DD was 8lb 12oz at birth and @ 3 months she's a lot fatter than DS at that age. She's EBF (although my mum keeps telling me o cut down on treats as I'm making her too fat with my milk lol)

HTH

I've also signed up to Flylady emails and will start my babysteps tomorrow
Got my veg/potatoes all prepared and housework done and both kids are napping just going to set the table and get myself dressed before inlaws arrive. Won't be on tonight due to busy house night all

Wow sorry for huge post! I can certainly talk!

Scheh - C might want cuddles. Glad you're getting support. J only rolled the once on my bed, hasn't since.

Jnice - j dropped centile last weigh in and I haven't gone again yet, 3 weeks ago.

Scheh - we are at 18 weeks tomorrow and no sign of rolling yet. I'm not too worried as she doesn't spend much time on the floor as it makes her sick.

Also - I recognise how you are feeling at the moment - I had pnd after my ds and was always despairing about lack of routine and hated the days where ds just wanted to be held. To me I think the holding or constant attention needed just emphasised how much my life was not my own anymore and how I couldn't control everything. And also, I panicked everytime something stopped working (ie he'd no longer go to sleep at the same time or in the same way) as I felt I had failed. This time round without pnd it is so much easier to go with the flow, even though we do do a vague routine during the day (baby whisperer style). I do still get frustrated though! My health visitor pointed out to me that women who have jobs where they are used to being in control (I am a teacher) struggle the most with motherhood at first as it is hard to accept that babies can't be controlled and it is hard to feel the 'success' that you get out of a job as people rarely tell you what a good job you are doing. Hope the meds kick in and work for you - I was on sertraline and found it helped massively.

Hope everyone's evenings go well

Cheekydino - brilliant post there. I'm crap at wording stuff. Actually been not posting in detail much, partly because it was a big close to home. I had PND after da1 and ended up in priory MBU. I felt like a failure and wanted to be perfect mum. Got so poorly I was convinced I was under surveillance, could hear whispering, thought someone was going to hurt ds1. Thing is I was so (and of course still am) so in love with him. I just hated me. Didn't actually get help till he was 9/10 months old. I just pretended all was well. That was a long time so now and been well and off antidepressants for about 10 years now. Actually did nursing and specialised in mental health.

Bit not big

Well I know I said I was signing off and I haven't because everything is done and none of inlaws have turned up yet poor DS has been excited about seeing them all day and he'll now not get to see the v long. Just think it's so disrespectful!!

Both kids will be in bed before dinner is served at this rate!

Edward Top tip for flylady is just get the Daily Digest, and the UK group mails or you'll be flooded with emails. It's enough to put anyone off.
I get an email to remind me to put washing on, one to remind me to go to bed, then I skim through the daily digest to see the missions for the day which I ignore try to do. :o
Have a great night tonight.

Jnice If all your other DC were the same and are fit and healthy then I'd definitely stop worrying about weight. Still get L weighed if you like, but use it as a point of interest, rather than point of reference.

Scheh Seth is nearly 15 weeks, no sign of rolling but I spend a lot of time cuddling him, no more kids likely here so I'm making the most of him. Haven't a clue when DD rolled front to back, I know she rolled from back to front on Christmas Eve when she was 5 months old.

Went to get Seth a bank account today, but was told I needed to book an appointment... I didn't when I enquired a few weeks ago. It's the final straw. I've been with Halifax all my life, and they're great, unless I actually need to go to a branch. They closed the small branch in our town last year, so I have to travel to the next town, where I have to pay to park. Plus they don't know their own policies! The woman today was assuring me I could open an account online for Seth. I said I didn't think I could because of his age. She went to check, and guess what, I was right!
A few months ago I needed to draw out a large amount of money. I was told I could get it out at the Post Office, but no, there's a limit of £300 there. When I went into the branch to get the money, and complain about being given the wrong information none of the cashiers knew there was a limit at the Post Office either. They'd been telling everyone they could use the Post Office for almost all the things they did at the small branches.

Grr so infuriating!!!
Sorry Rant over. :o

Oh mama sorry I didn't know.

Shining my sink as we speak

Scheh - no need to be sorry at all, PND is hugely common. It's horrible to go through and lots of women do and it isn't talked about

Fuzzy shiny sink here too (dh did it)

Ed - i get when my dps do that as the kids are disappointed

Sassy - I'm cramming in cuddles too

My.enamel sink could probably do with a scrub....

A happy update from me finally :) the m&bu nursery nurse came round and helped me with one naptime. I now have a method I'm going to follow strictly every day. It's basically CC but not as tough love as sassy's method which didn't work for us. I go up every 5 mins to talk, kiss, stroke, and then leave him. Also never ever put him down asleep after feeding to stop the waking up half an hour later and screaming. So far today its worked well!