December 2011 - Worp speed 5 to sleeping and smiling

[BeeMyBaby]

FairyBayleaf DC1 EDD 6th Dec BORN 29th Sept Albert Elwyn 2lb 14oz
Tjuice DC2 EDD 21st November BORN 7th Nov Amaya Rose 3kg
Sevensevenseven DC2 EDD 20th Dec 25yo Southwold BORN 21st Nov Eva Rose 5lb 4oz
Girlwiththemouseyhair DC2 EDD 24th Nov Maggie Juliet BORN 25th Nov 8lb 9oz
YBR DC1 EDD 22nd Dec BORN 25th Nov (girl) 6lb 3.5oz
LittleBlueBoat(Cheeptrick) DC2 EDD 5th Dec 29yo S.Yorkshire BORN 26th Nov Hope Brynn Frances 8lb 9oz
Kri5ty DC1 EDD 13th Dec 26yo Manchester Boy BORN 29th Nov Saul Harrison 6lb 13oz
LauraSmurf DC1 EDD 3rd December Girl BORN 30th Nov
BeeMyBaby DC2 EDD 29th November 25yo Scotland BORN 1st Dec Safia Hawwa 7lb6oz
SoTiredOfTheWheelsOnTheBus DC2 EDD 7th December BORN 1st December Boy 8lbs5oz
Iggly DC2 EDD 2nd December South London BORN 2nd Dec (Girl) 8lb 1oz
Girlsyearapart DC4 EDD 6th December BORN 3rd Dec (Boy) 7lb 7oz
HoneyLovesCake DC1 EDD 2nd December Cornwall BORN 6th Dec Rocco Kaleb 8lb 14oz
Mmmmcheese DC2 EDD 25th December 32yo BORN 7th Dec (Girl) 7lb8oz
Itsybitsy08 DC2 EDD 6th December Boy BORN 9th Dec Kieran 8lb4oz
Msbuggywinkle DC3 EDD 13th December 27yo BORN 10th Dec Miranda 8lb6oz
OiMissus DC1 2 December, 39yo, Horwich, Bolton BORN 10th Dec (Boy) Alistair Jude 9lbs
jigglebum BORN 11 Dec Freya 7lbs
Pludophtherednosedreindeer (plupervert): DC2 EDD Dec 10 (Kent) BORN 12 Dec Helena 8lb 6oz (3.8kg)
NorthernChinchilla- EDD 19th December, BORN 12th Dec, Boy, 7lb 7oz
Jomouse DC1 EDD 2nd December 35yo London BORN 14 Dec (Girl) 5lb 8oz
Tyelperion DC1 EDD 3rd December 27yo Windsor BORN 14 Dec (boy) 9lb 8oz
KateM77: DC2 EDD Dec 10 34yo BORN 16 Dec Daniel James 8lb 6oz
BennyBenBear DC1 EDD 5th December Manchester/Bolton BORN 18 Dec Oliver Stephen Bolton 8lb 9oz
Kiteflying DC2 EDD 7 December 44yo Australia BORN 18 December (Girl) Lulu 8lb 14 oz
mopsytop DC1 EDD 25th December BORN 19 Dec 6lbs 11oz
AWomanCalledHorse DC1 EDD 22nd December BORN 21st December 7lbs 6oz (Boy)
Figgygal DC1 EDD 12 December 30yo Bath BORN 22 Dec Daniel James McMillan 9lb 4oz
Kitty5824 DC1 EDD 21st December 33 yo Manchester - Don't know BORN 23rd Dec, Boy, 7lb 14oz, Sebastian John
Aethelfleda DC3 EDD 27th December London BORN 3rd January, Albert Thomas William 8lb 10 oz
hawthers DC2 EDD 22nd December London 33yo BORN 28 December 7lb 4oz (boy)
LittleMissFlustered DC3 31st December BORN 6 Jan (boy)
hopeful1 BORN 6 Jan Noa Francie Kate 10lb 3oz
MissRee BORN 12 Jan 12 Freya Violet 7lb 7oz

Well done oi: I have had a baby brain moment and can't remember if you are currently BFing, mixed feeding or Ffing: but if you're BFing at all it has the side effect of reducing your natural lubrication "down there". (this is particularly obvious for condom users)

So if you feel brave enough to have another go I'll just whisper "Lube!": get a tube of KY Jelly from the chemist, it works really well and is water based (never use oil based lube with condoms as it puts tiny holes in them and they leak-eek!)

I was seriously contemplating raiding the baby box for the gallons of johnsons baby oil that people have bought us - is that wrong? It'll have to be used somehow! - but realise the rather damaging effect it has on condoms.
Anyway, back to baby stuff, he fed at midnight, three, and six... Yawn. We just must've been lucky the night before. But then, Alistair did sleep ALL yesterday, including when mummy and daddy were...
Today we are going shopping to the Trafford centre, and the weather is foul!!
Have a great weekend everyone.
Btw Alistair is feeding well, but his latch is not deep. My nipples don't hurt anymore so I assume we just got lazy. But he falls asleep feeding all the time. Could he be slightly Tongue tied? If so, would he be a more efficient feeder and need to feed less often? (or is it just coz he's 6 weeks old?)
And I don't get a 6 wk dr appt, my practice does it at 8 wks.

Stressed as my mum, Sister and her son coming to see us today as its Sisters birthday - she has already forgot her phone so cant call me to tell me where to meet then. Relations with them are very frayed at the best of times. I so dont need this right now but my mum wants to see her only Granddaughter so i cant really say no i have put them off for 8 weeks already

Its the same sister that locked their only credit card before even leaving Manchester airport going to my Wedding in Florida. She also didn't take one of the 3 phones i give her cos "I didn't think they would work in America" lol

DH has go out for coffee for me then i'm bathing Hope and getting the children ready and meeting them at the local shopping centre.

Wish me luck

p.s. Sister is 46yo today

We just got home from first waterbabies session, it was FAB!! DH went in with him this week and I was so jealous on the side but made do with taking about 500 photos instead lol! Even at 5 weeks he looked like he liked it, next Ian Thorpe lol!

Oi Well done for trying

Air I hope your afternoon isn't to bad.

I look forward to being able to take Sky swimming - not for another 5 weeks yet tho.

Well DP & I had sex for the first time since Sky came along last night and it was good we've agreed to use condoms as our method of contraception for now as we want to TTC no 3 at some point after the wedding.

Also having to give Sky more formula as just not enough breast milk

I'm coming here to growl.

Fucking arse of a 'man'!

That feels slightly better. Sort of. Right, on with the day.

Blimey LMF all ok? I was the same last night with DH after 45 mins of trying to settle LO on his night feed I put him n his Moses and he started crying I decided to leave him for 5 mins to see if he would fall asleep and DH started moaning and telling me to get him up. I went ballistic and told him after a month of nightfeeds where I've stayed up with him for almost 2 hours some night to get him back down quietly without waking DH he could flaming well go to him as was a weekend and I'd tried my best. Cheeky sod.

LO been grizzly all day I put him in his swing and within 60 seconds He was out like a light, he's a bit small for it still so have a little cushion propped by his head to keep him upright but think he will be spending a bit more time in there from now on

Figgy I'm thinking we need to get Sky a swing. although she will sit in her bouncer she only power naps in the day sometimes she needs a good daytime sleep and i think that maybe the answer.

Comfort food tonight. Kids are having turkey and rice stir fry, I'm having noodles:)

We're having a chippy tea.
lmf should I ask my OH to order another fish?! battered haddock?
We've been shopping today. Picked up a lovely dress in the Karen millen sale, and a v hot cardy. DH got two tops from allsaints. He doesn't like AS, I force him and he relents. (and looks hot!)
For the first time, we bought nothing for Alistair, ...and I feel like I achieved something. Evol selfish mother!

Argh wish I could switch off my head.

Can't help worrying when ds2 sleeps for longer than 2/3 hours in the day that he is getting ill again. Am so pissed off that I can't relax about him being ok. And then i also worry when he doesn't sleep/settle at night. After he's been feeding pretty constantly for over an hour and a half, he'll still head bonk me routing for milk (i think). Makes me feel I haven't fed him enough even though he's clearly been at it for England.

Don't know how I can make myself relax about all this and just enjoy these first few weeks. Grump grump grump

First of all, hats off to darcies, you are deserving of celebratory pom poms. You have succeeded where others have failed. You are an inspiration.
Haddocks to hawthers. Why are you doing this to yourself?! You know that these LOs have not yet grasped the concept of routine, they eat and feed sporadically - the only thing that is consistent is their complete lack of consistency!! Is LO pink and healthy looking? Does LO fill nappies with the wet stuff and the sticky stuff? Is LO endearingly edible with sparkly eyes? Has LO put on a bit of weight?
There you go then. All is well. Chill out and get thee a glass of vino. You deserve it, you're a mum - and it's bloody hard work just looking after their needs without puttingyourself through the mill as well! ((hugs))

Haddock gratefully received. Off to ferret out that glass of vino.

On the subject of shagging, the mind is willing but the body keeps randomly bleeding do I can't guarantee it won't be rather gory - poor Dh def does not deserve that!

The boy has fallen asleep after only one boob and doesn't seem to be keen to go the other side. This doesn't bode well for the first stretch of sleep >_

Oi the haddock doesn't deserve the man it'd e slapping. Will just have to leave him to his conscience:/

hawthers DD can feed for that long and still head bonk even though I have tons of milk and she is a real fattie and putting on loads of weight. I think she does it because sucking comforts her and is pretty much the only way she can get to sleep. Hope that reassures you. I've tried to interest her in a dummy as I'm not keen on being a human dummy and it means DH can't ever settle her on his own.

Also I think it totally normal after what you've been through to be over anxious and even a little obsessive about these things. I am the same about various things after going through the mill with DS's prematurity and his physical problems. I think as long as you're aware you're reacting like this and don't go too overboard on the anxiety its just something that will get better with time.

Also I look back on all the things I worried about with DS and wish I could have relaxed and enjoyed it more, but stupidly it doesn't stop me doing the same with DD!

My main issue is that DS wasn't diagnosed with cerebral palsy until he was 1 so I'm now always interpreting everything DD does as a worrying sign that there is something seriously wrong with her that won't show itself until she's older. I even obsessed that she has Downs which she obviously doesn't but I can't get it out of my head for some reason.

I would say not to underestimate how traumatic it is when something has gone wrong with your DC in the past and that its normal that it still affects you now.

Ahhh mmm very wise thoughts. Thank you. Ds1 had/has weight issues (under 0.4 percentile) which means I'll never relax about ds2's weight and the recent trip to picu was little too close to home bringing back all the memories of the 4 months that ds1 spent in the nicu.

Unfortunately knowing why i'm being mental doesn't stop me actually being mental arse.

HiYa, if there's a mental club, I'm joining.feel annoyed that the midwife/weight issue is still playing on my mind. DS is fine and remains so, took him to see my auntie and cousins today, it was a lovely day out. They ahhed over DS (one of the cousins is 5 months pregnant so all rather exciting) I ranted about midwives and they were suitably sympathetic and told me he was fine.
I was going to take the EBM for DH to give but forgot to bring it-whoops- so it's in the fridge still, has been there 24 hours with the teat in so may chuck it. Will attempt another bottle tomorrow but he sleeps when a feed is done so I donMt think will take it. Have done some boob compression to try to tank him
Up and will just see what weight does by Monday.

hawthers I should think it is totally normal to worry. So I wouldn't worry about worrying if you see what I mean.

aethel I'd say that if he was hungry he would let you know, wouldn't he? From what you say he sounds pretty content! That midwife really wasn't helpful getting you all worried :(

Minimopsy is doing her usual feed sleep cry cycle. Argh! Her little face when she is asleep though. So innocent and perfect.

Oh aethelfleda poor you. I completely sympathise. Stick to your guns and get that tongue reviewed. All the info says there is no reason why a fully bf baby shouldn't gain weight and also says that they gain in spurs not uniformly and yet there is an 'acceptable' rate of gain by the mw. rubbish - all the stuff i've read days look st how your baby is behaving rather than the numbers and yet your mw is ignoring this. Can you see a diff mw? I've found the standard varies massively even within the same team.

I've had half a bottle of merlot. If we open another bottle, and I breast feed in the coming hours, will I be doing any harm?
Is it bad that whilst I've been writing this a bottle has been opened, my glass refilled, and my smile returned?

Thanks mopsy. The daft thing is it feels like I have two heads. The rational head knows he's fine! And then there's this other nagging head that sits there and occasionally says unhelpful things like "why are they worried then? Why are they telling me to supplement? Why isn't he gaining faster then?".

He's so lovely and I just don't get why the midwives are doing all the stuff that the internet sources seem to say not to do: like weighing too frequently, looking at the scales not the baby, and advising formula when that would drop my breastmilk supply and isnt higher calorie than breastmilk anyway. Theu didnt even suggest I consult a BF counsellor!

Anyway, I'll stop going on now as it makes me sound more stressed than I am. I am OK really, and have decided the MWs are an irritatIon to be endured for now. Will let you know how things go on Monday after his next weigh-in.