Feb 2011: the one where the babies are destruction machines

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...or is that just mine?

wiggles walking eh, clever girl :) S as tried the odd tentative step but she's happier clinging to mummy crawling. She had her first doughnut today, well half a doughnut at lunchtime, then when DH brought the remainder out after tea the squeal when she saw the box was ear piercing

mizk well done to yoga, i've never tried it but fancy it, bought a dvd from amazon today called Yogalates (cross between yoga and pilates) to do on my rest days from running (get me!)

Job lot hair cuts tomorrow, all four of us as I might get her to trim S's too after ponyo's disaster. Am I brave enough to have her cut mine short though? Am v tempted...

deb my opinion with hair is it will always grow back if you don't like it, so I'd say go for it . I always tell my hairdresser to do what he likes with my hair and mostly it's good except the goblin king look I displayed a few years back

wiggles go Anna with walking. I think Alice is so so close, she's really confident cruising and will do teeny tiny steps on her own if she really wants something but just hasn't quite worked out she can do it yet IYKWIM. I'm OK btw. Am meeting up with an old colleague next week to have a good natter about my work situ and just knowing she will be the voice of reason and has alot of school experience is helping my brain.

We are thinking of booking a holiday in april in Cornwall

deb am I allowed to do a little pfb to the donut?

delia hope you get an early night tonight - what happened with mil?

MIL has first alice duties tomorrow

reastie I went to see MIL to discuss the smoking thing with her this evening. She didn't say much, obviously had no defence at all, and did insist that she hadn't smoked, it was just DH's aunty who had, because she 'would never smoke around C'..... So was a bit as obviously it doesn't matter who is doing the smoking, it's being in the smoke that matters. Anyway, she didn't apologise (she never would, she's that type), but promised that in future she won't let anyone smoke around C, and she did say a few times 'I've taken that on board so it won't happen again'. It's a fine line with her between sheepish and defensive, so I thought best to leave it at that, I made my point, I think she feels embarassed about it TBH, so I just have to hope that it really is the end of the matter.

Was v stressful tho, I had a little blud on the way home - that's my MO with big 'confrontations' at the mo, I can be very together and cool and calm (and pretty good at making my point) at the time it's happening, then I just turn to a big heap of mush afterwards .

So anyway, that's the MIL update, no other news from here really, but go Annawiggles with her walking! The world is now her lobster!

Sleep tight ladies.

Dx

debka Anna is developing a worrying addiction to Skips crisps

reastie at David Bowie type mullet. Go for the holiday, we had a bit of a chat and are not going to go away this summer [sob]. Think we will get a house up near the Giants Causeway for a week in the summer, lovely as it is, its not quite Ibiza

Its really strange Mr W and I never get to spend evenings together with his shifts but obviously he's off and we've had a dvd night every night for the past week, its lovely. Although I couldn't get that worked up over Never Let Me Go - meh Keira Knightley and Carey Mulligan - whatever . Now watching Vicky Cristina Barcelona - not enough words to describe Javiers yumminess [sigh].

D well done on handling mil - sounds like you did really well. Hopefully that's it done x. I also tread a very fine line between sheepishness and indignant defensiveness with my Mum , it can be very tiring!!

reastie sorry that was a bit me me me (quelle surprise!), hope all goes well with MIL duties tomorrow. My only advice would be to pick your battles carefully, be firm about the things that are really important (like you know....smoking...!), but maybe don't waste too much emotional energy on the little stuff if Alice is otherwise fine.

Dx

Evenin' wiggles ...giggling at you also having the sheepish/indignant face off issue....is it something about ladies of a certain age who have finished their own childrearing???

D my Mum also does a lovely line in the "I apologise if you took what I said wrongly" kind of apology

I heart Javier Bardem - night night all x

Hi Chaps,

Mmmm Skips and doughnuts.......
delia well done re MIL, hopefully things are sorted.
deb thanks for the scone recipe. I used to say it to rhyme with own when I lived in Manchester but up here I've changed it to rhyme with gone
Recipe (easy) for suitable 1st birthday cake please!
wiggles I thought of you reading an interview with the Fassbender in the paper, but seems as though you have jumped ship to Javier .

Nate is still crap marginally better with his walking. He has progressed from getting faster and faster until he bangs into something/falls over to now being able to stop and change direction. Unless I ask him to walk to show someone that he can do it in which case he just stands there and falls over .

delia we have booked a ski holiday! I have no quad strength whatsoever! Help!

Borg Javier is my long term love , Mr Fassbender is my summer fling and Idris well what can I say! Deffo going to bed now. Hope everyone sleeps well, Anna is still very hit and miss with the ole sleeping

Reastie - some wise advice from delia. I hope work goes well today and I'm sure Alice will be fine. How are you feeling?

Wiggles- thanks an yes they are dicks!. Dh is on a flight to Belfast as I type, he is staying on the prem inn across from the northern Whig. I done think I will manage over, we have plans with friends this weekend and his work don't want him working weekends as they have flights home booked on Fridays for him.

Wow to Nate walking too Borg!

Delia- well done with the mil talk, I just hope she takes heed.

Hope you are all well, and the babies too.

Borg yay for ski hols, where are you going? I also have no quad strength, in fact no meaningful level of fitness at all and I told myself at new year that with 2 months to go, if I did my DVD 3 times a week it would still be better than nothing, and I've done it a grand total of zero times. Help me too!

wiggles yes the famous non-apology apology, like 'I'm sorry you feel that way/think that/are hurt etc....... It's pretty annoying ....sorry, BUT I'm not in the wrong you are.

Argh C was awake for an hour at about 3.30 last night, and we left her babbling for a bit then she started yelling, and was working herself up into a bit of a frenzy so I had to go in to her, there was nothing wrong whatsoever apart from just being cross (i.e. not ill or anything). A bit about what to do, as she's been ill on and off for quite a while, so we have been going in to get her up/Calpol/cuddle etc. and I think she's got a bit used to it, so now expects it. Don't really know how to break the habit. She's still fine falling asleep on her own at bedtime, and for naps in the day, but if she wakes in the night, she seems to have forgotten how to settle herself (she used to do it fine). Any thoughts oh wise ladies?

She's also really gone off milk at the mo. I'm having one of those days actually where I feel like she's just being an awkward madam to piss me off, then I remember she's 11 months old, and it's unlikely, really.... Sorry, bad mood today .

And one of my singing friends has dropped out of our quartet, so that's all fallen apart too. Woe is me....

Sorry, that's all a bit crap, and none of it actually serious or even all that bad in the general scheme of things, so I know I'm just being unreasonable really, when I think of things other people go through. Someone come and shake me please.

Dx

Delia- I'm not going to shake you, everyone has bad days it's part of life. That's a bit crappy about your singing friend. Sid she five you a reason why she was quitting? I hope your day gets better and little miss c behaves herself.

blizy you continue to astound! You of all people would be very justified in thinking I really do need a good shake, and yet here you are, trying to make me feel better. You're a truly amazing lady xxx.

Singing friend is dropping out mainly because she is having fertility treatment at the mo and it's making her uber tired and grumpy and so she's just got to focus on more important things at the moment, which I completely understand, obviously! So it's completely not her fault, and I totally sympathise, it's just something I enjoy that I won't be doing for a bit.

D

Oh you making me ! I supposed your friend dropping out is justified, fingers crossed for her. It is a shame for you though.

Baby mindee has his 12 month injections yesterday. He has been asleep since 9am, suppose I have to wake him soon, think I am going to have day with a whingey baby....

Ooh you reminded me I had totally forgotten about 12mo jabs. I assume we get called for them but I'll put a note in my diary to contact HV if we've not had a letter in a couple of weeks.

Make the most of the quiet while you can!

Dx

I got him up. He is happily playing with some building blocks. Speak to you all after home time!

I'm going to try debka's scone recipe. L loves them but I usually buy them at Tesco which is strange because I love to bake and will make nearly everything else. I'm curious how you all down south pronounce scone though? I say sc-own (because I'm posh American) but everyone here says sc-awn like blizy.

delia - glad you've kind of sorted things with MIL. We're all allowed a whinge, don't feel bad.

debka - my hair philosophy is like reastie's - it'll grow back if you don't like it. I'm sure L would scoff doughnuts too if I let him, he has a massive sweet tooth. They give him pudding after lunch every day at nursery and he always eats the lot.

blizy - seriously at your mum and sister. The death of a child is something that most people NEVER get over - don't they see it that way? I don't think you were being unreasonable at all in not going.

L was up at half 5 this morning and refused to go back to sleep. I asked DH to deal with it since I do it 80% of the time, told him exactly what to do as far as putting him back to sleep. He didn't do it, L wouldn't sleep so he got me up to do it. End result was a row about how I never get any fecking sleep while he gets a full night 6 nights/week. I'd call it a one-off but he did the exact same thing putting L to bed last night. I don't understand it, I tell him exactly what to do, he nods and says OK, then does something completely different and doesn't understand why it didn't work.

Right - I'll start with the most important thing; I say Sc-own.
Now thats sorted, I'll get onto everything else.
American, my dh is exactly like yours. If Noah cries when he's putting him down in his cot he calls to me, as if he is completely helpless at it. And after mil incident with Noah's naps last week I start to feel as though I can't trust him with anybody. He only had one nap at nursery yesterday, he went to sleep at 11 and woke at 2!! They had the common sense to just leave him to sleep. Dh is off work all week and has Noah with with mil today and I've already had a call this morning so ask about his naps. Aahhhhhhh.

Delia, Noah has his 9 month/ 12 month health check on Friday so I will check then about 12 month jabs, but I;m pretty sure you will receive a card from your local NHS about two weeks before its due.
Sorry about your friend pulling out of singing, its always so disappointing especially when you start to feel your life is just working and childcare!
Oh, and well done about talking to mil. I hope she's listened!

Borg, wow to walking Nate!! And you thought he was slow!!! He's proving you wrong!

Genius moment is our house last night. Dh is decorating the hallway and stairs this week and had removed a painting off the wall that hangs outside Noah's bedroom door. After his bath last night Noah noticed the painting leaning against the banisters and pointed at the wall where it usually hangs. I kept asking him where the picture belonged and he'd point and say 'there'. I then asked him if Daddy should put it back up there and he said 'yeah'. I was so beside myself with joy that I called dh to tell him and made Noah repeat it this morning! i can't believe he remembered where the painting belongs!! I'm signing him up to Mensa now and completing his application form for Oxford!!

Reastie, I hope all goes well with Alice and mil today. Have a good think about your work situation. Lifes too short to be so unhappy.

Must go, am due to start work again........boo hiss

LOL at Emski & expat re DH's calling for the Mummy when they can't do the baby stuff. I have kind of learnt to leave DH to it a bit, and accepted that he kind of has to figure out his own ways of doing things that work for him & C, not necessarily my way. He puts her in bed most nights (I do maybe 2 in 7), and it's funny, but last night was the first time we discussed it and realised we do it totally differently. C seems to take it all in her stride. DH was a bit down a few weeks ago as he was really struggling to put her down for daytime naps at the weekend. Then I had to go out for a day and he was when he picked me up at the station as he said it had gone really well. He had, quite impressively, gone and got my PJ top out of our bed and put it round C in her cot, and she went straight off!

I know we've done this before, but milk....C is really rejecting it now. She was having 3 x 8oz a day (getting up, mid pm & going to bed), but I would say if we totally left her to it (i.e. didn't 'coax' at all) she would have 6oz/4oz/6oz max. Is this enough? I'm not too worried about food & nutrients, as she usually eats pretty well and has a balanced diet with plenty of dairy, but I am a bit worried about fluids, as she's OK ish with the Tommy Tippee cup, but doesn't drink vast amounts with it. Any thoughts?

Emski v impressed with N's mensa-like skills. C is still yet to astound us with her oratory, but it must be soon....mustn't it?

Dx

I just lost a post :( Fgs!

reastie good luck for today, hope mil behaves

delia we have a similar issue re: milk, think C and A are drinking about the same amount and A just has little sips from tommee tippee cup - I just keep it around and keep offering it to her.

emski aww! N is a little genius! A has her 8-12 month check on Fri too, I'm looking forward to getting her weighed saddo

american to your dh, I can relate.

borg and wigs your babies are walking?! wow clever babies on this thread

I'd better go and get bits sorted before I pick A up, I only had to do the dummy run once last night and the alarm went off before she was awake this morning :) It was still 7 o clock though, faaaar too early

Oh I say sc-on. Is that common?

Bonjour ladies

Well, day over and I'm still alive . Had such pangs of sadness missing alice today - haven't had that at work yet . Made rough puff pastry and scones today - a year 7 said my sc-owns were delish [proud] . We spent a good portion of my scones lesson today discussing if it was sc-owns or sc-ons . MIL duty seemed to go OK. A couple of nit picky things I'm letting slide following your advice to choose my battles. At least I'm grateful she doesn't smoke after delias issues

emski clever clever noah.

delia re milk - is she on formula or cows milk? I am completely making this up but maybe she'd rather the cows stuff than formula. Btw my hv said so long as they have a pint of dairy a day (including milk/cheese/yoghurt etc) it's fine

american to your dh

wiggles keep meaning to ask you - that hospital in belfast with the infant deaths from a virus - is that the one your dsis is going to? Was thinking of you/her when I saw it on the news my only NI friend

Emski- wow to little Einstein Noah.

Reastie- loving your scawn talk. Of course you were missing Alice, and good decision with picking battles. How are you feeling?

Ponyo- well done anya, hope she keeps it up tonight.

Boy was I glad when kids all left, baby mindee was awfully girny all day. Horrid injections. I only have the schoolies for the rest of the week now, I must do my tax return and update my books during school. Booo

reastie No, its the main hospital in NI and the one with the neo-natal unit but she's booked into Midwifery Led Unit at our local hospital. I used the other Belfast hospital because its of its Midwifery Led Care. The Royal is a fab hospital (its where Mr W had his major surgery (another eyeroll ) and the Childrens Hospital is brilliant but its maternity care is quite medicalised. Glad today went well x

blizy boo at not having our own meet-up , maybe sometime soon.

delia C should be fine if you are happy enough with her food and dairy intake. A can be really hit and miss with milk as well. She doesn't bother with a morning one now, but loves her mid morning one before her nap and she went to bed without one tonight , mind you she has discovered curry so she went to bed in seventh heaven after stealing some

emski get thee to the gifted and talented boards , well done N.

Had emergency trip to dentist again this afternoon , all fixed - gotta make the most of this free dentistry before Feb 15th Right tonights dvd extravaganza is the Guard - have to say looking forward to this one!

Hi girls.I have read up but forgive no personal replies as not got long.
wiggs terrible about that hospital,i get teary when its on the news.
reastie How is work? Im loving being back tbh,its lovely to be me again.
Dills has been sweet and is still sleeping really well it makes for a much happier baby.No sign of walking yet tho and she is one on Friday.
Dh is really good with D at night or early am,largely because im a lunatic with out sleep Tonight however i got in from work and neither girls had been fed and hed forgotten Ella had Brownies so had to rush about to get her ready and send her with no food grrrr. He has been creeping around ever since cooking me dinner and fetching my pjs haha.