October 2011 - Let the poo obsession begin

[PenguinArmy]

Come chat, moan, boast (by stealth of course), vent, rage, relax, worry and be reassured. Welcome to all the new babies. Stats thread here

Pebble, ditto with the spots.

I elevated the cot using two hardback books under the legs on one side.

Aw little pebble I can totally relate. I haven't had any spots (yet) but my stretch marks are terrible this time and I stupidly made the mistake yesterday of trying on my pre-pregnancy jeans...couldn't even get them past my knees!!! Dont really know what I expected 11 days after giving birth!! Not only that I took DS1 to a birthday party on Sun and one of the other mothers actually asked me when I was due!! Definately not feeling like a yummy mummy here either!

On the plus side though little B actually spent the whole night in his Moses basket last night!!! woohoo! Looks like putting a hot water bottle in first worked a treat....just hope we get the same result tonight.

Am also going to try my second attempt at expressing tonight. Tried a couple of days ago with a manual pump but didn't get on well at all. So have bought an electric pump in the hope it will help?! Am really hoping it works as it is my birthday in two weeks and DH has arranged a day out for just the two of us but if cant express then won't be able to leave B with my mum. Any tips from experienced breast feeders much appreciated!!!

I had a wedge pillow that was for under my bump when pg and I've put that under one end of the mattress, HV didn't say not to do it, I know you can buy special wedges for under a cot mattress (for colic) but mine is quite small and fits in basket perfectly :-)

well that was a fun crying session. Every night is worse than the last but just aiming for the 6 week mark and remembering the peak should be here soon.

Evening ladies, just waiting for P to drop off!

She should have started her jabs today and had 6 week check but when we got to the Drs this morning they said it was booked for Friday and insinuated it was my fault and that I should make efforts to get there Friday (I have 3 other things booked Friday).So I left feeling cranky because the booking was made between receptionist and DH, I wasn't even involved and now they have not rang me to re-book (even though they said they would) and she starts swimming next week and I don't want her having jabs too close to that in case she is poorly.

Plus I scratched my car today and my nips hurt (I don't know if this is to do with the clicking sound as they didn't hurt before).

Went out for 2 hours last night and DH ran out of expressed milk so everyone was crying and stressed when I got back and the cat had buggered off out as he couldn't take it anymore.

Sorry rant over.

It took literally hours to get mhairi down tonight, and after such a bad one last night I am properly exhausted, add to that dh has been a lazy selfish B***D the past cpl days I ended up sobbing twice today.
I then had a rant to H (while trying to get a v stubborn baby to sleep) that I feel like she's ruined everything totally resent her and feel like I'm losing ds because of her!
Now I feel like a terrible mum to both of them as dd takes souch time that ds doesn't get much time/interaction etc anymore and I'm having these horrible thoughts about dd as a result.
I feel like I don't deserve either of them

I know/hope this is all just exhaustion and hope it will pass v v soon!

Sorry for depressing rant, feel like I had to get it off my chest.

Edward, Cheshire & Penguin, hugs all round - sounds like a rough time...

Edward, totally normal feelings - I had to pick up ds2 for swimming plus get ds1 from school. This LO (let's call him ds3) would not stop crying on the way, I just kept thinking how little I can give the older boys and was determined ds2 wouldn't miss swimming. He finally fell asleep in carrier and everything was fine, then I get him home and he has a terrible sore bottom because I didn't check him for 3 hours - seems I can't manage it all

Anyway, i feel resentment too sometimes, when he is fed, cuddled, changed etc and I can't put him down for a second I get so frustrated.

Oooh Edward I hope you are asleep now :)

I don't really know what to say other than yes, you are probably absolutely knackered but also it is better that you tell DH how you feel at the time so he is aware. Even if the next day you feel okay again. It will do no good bottling it up.

Are either of these two things possible -
Allocate some time for you and DD to go for cake and coffee on your own
Allocate a specific time for you to play with DS each day on your own, i.e. 6-7pm

Sorry I have no idea if these are your kind of thing or whether you would even want to.

I have a question for you all. On my desperation last week I sent DH out to get a swing. It's one that has 'mom motion' and all different noises. It cost $200. Leo hates it of course.

So, have any of you made a similar mistake? Or am I the only desperate and gullible parent? What has been the worst purchase do far?

Good middle of the night morning x

Edward, penguin, Cheshire & jnice sending non-crying, sleeping baby, sleeping mummy vibes to you all.

Edward don't feel guilty, it's natural to feel resentful. When I've got one or two screaming babies so dh and I completely consumed and ds is running amock in the house I often end up shouting at ds for no real reason, and for doing things I know he's only doing in frustration, snapping at the girls to just give me 5 minutes and wondering when the hell I'm going to get any sort of life back. I often watch ds and his desire for mummy attention and end up in tears as I know he needs one on one time especially with his speech problems but the babies always seem to prevent it. Expressing had given us his bed time back so I will hand over the girls and between 6-7.30 we do playing, dancing, reading, snuggling and bed time which is lovely and I take him to nursery twice a week so could you make dh take the baby for an hour a day (after all didn't he say this stuff he's doing k's making him a better dad - time for him to step up and prove it!!).

Also let's not forget m is still really young and everyone is still settling on to life as a family of 4. In 6 weeks she's likely to have more of a routine or at least established sleep patterns so you'll know when and for roughly how long you will have baby 'free' that you cam dedicate to ds.

jnice with ds I bought a £180 funky looking egg shaped high chair. O think
Ds had used it maybe 10 times in two years, the cheap one we bought from mothercare for my parents house he's used every day!!! I held on to the monstrously heavy chair for the next one as I was determined to use it but now I have two extras I've given up that idea and will be buying two more £15 cheap ones and flogging said egg chair on eBay. Leo might learn to love the swing in time xx

I'm with you all on the non-sleeping, crying babies thing - sending hugs to you all. The last few nights Seb has been really hard to settle at night - crying non-stop. When he wakes in the night it takes about 2 hours to re-settle him. I feel like such a bad parent for not being able to comfort him.
He's just spewed everywhere!
Last evening was really odd. I was expressing as I had blocked ducts and started to feel really cold and couldn't stop shivering. I curled up on the sofa with a blanket but was shaking really violently. Mum brought me a hot water bottle and then the thick duvet from upstairs and I still couldn't get warm. I was shaking so much I was tensing up and this gave me such a headache. Mum was worried that it was mastitis. After about 4 hours I stopped shivering, although was left with a killer headache. I expressed again and there were no red marks or anything else to indicate mastitis and it just went away. Mum thinks it was a combination of over-tiredness/stress etc and co-incidence that it was the same time as blocked ducts (which I still have - boob is so sore and Seb won't latch on or if he does it really hurts).

Mum going home tomorrow today. Not sure how I'm going to cope on my own but need to at some point.

Jnice not bought anything really expensive but do feel I rather overdid it on the cute little outfits that he's not really going to wear before he grows out of them. Rookie error!

BB3 - the highchair sounds like the kind of thing I would go for and regret!

Its nearly 1am and I am failing miserably to get Leo down. Sign.

Tally, hope you are feeling better and the blocked ducts clear up very soon. I had them early on too, plus a milk blister thing - so horrible. I hope lo cooperates and feeds from there soon , that's what helped me in the end.

Maybe some of the outfits will also come in handy next time?

Morning all. How was everyones night? Mine was a little better (worried I may jinx it) he settled at midnight after feeding non stop from about 8.30pm (can't have had any milk left just sore nipples) and slept for 3hrs then another 2hrs after a feed and change
I'm sure it will all go wrong again tonight!
Am going to try first solo shopping trip this morning fingers crossed it goes ok...

Today was my third attempt at attending the once monthly sling meet. Fail due to ILs arriving an hour late

They are here for two days to 'help' (but staying somewhere else). As you can imagine so far it's just involved loads of work, e.g. we had to spring clean the house over the past few days otherwise they'll think we're not coping. Also their idea of help is insisting on taking DD out so I can do something I don't want to do. It has to be on their timings so I can't get out and do the things I actually want to do. But at least they don't want to spend any all the time with me.

Tried 1 tog sleeping bag last night and she slept from 10.30 to 3 and then 3.30 to 8.30 after worst day yesterday it was a relief. Ds2 still poorly and Jessica has had temp and spotty rash, temp ok now but rash there. She also cries alot, more than the boys. She becomes distraught if put down or held by anyone but me. I know it's prob normal but I feel frustrated that even having a wee breaks her heart

Sorry to hear of the struggles some people are having.

I wont be popular but DS seems to be an angel baby so far. Feeding well, gaining weight, sleeping a lot in the day and 11pm to 4 ish then 5am to 8ish! I am telling myself it can't last and, if it does, its deserved as DD was such a nightmare challenging baby! He is in bed with me at night and we feed lying down so he stuffs himself on milk and can then conk out without me having to move him.

Against all the advice I am also employing selected use of a dummy - esp at DD's bathtime and story time, to keep DS happy while I give her a bit of special time. It doesn't seem to be affecting BFing and DS will only take it if he is feeling full and quite chilled anyway.

Its not all roses tho - DD (2.5) has turned into a wingey whiney drama queen who has a meltdown at the slightest thing. God it's draining! We've just been to a friend's for lunch and her behaviour was so embarassing -constant whining and complaining and generally making a drama about everything.

To top it all my friend, who has a very large dog, an equally challenging toddler and a 4 month old, totally understandably hadn't yet got round to clearing up the dog poo on the lawn. Guess where DD chooses to plant her new Start Rites ...

And I am not one of those people who don't mind dog poo too much. Just looking at it makes me heave!

Oh bumps our DS1 (3.5) is exactly the same at the mo...I'm kinda relieved to hear its not just him tbh. He is so whiney and demanding...doesn't seem to stop from the moment he gets home from nursery till he goes to bed. Luckily DH is still on paternity leave at the mo so he can help deal with him but I am really starting to dread the thought of him going back next week!!

MIL just took it on herself to try and potty train DD

yep agree the older child is the hard one, DS is very easy in comparison, even with the crying (it's only that I feel for him mainly)

Penguin at MIL!

Bumps very envious of your sleep but hats off to all of you with DC's already you must be exhausted.

E has had green poo today. Have read it could be fore/ hind milk issue but he feeds well and stays on the boob for ages, DP has a cold so thinking it could be that, has anyone else had this?

M's had a cpl green poos today, she also has a wee snuffly nose so could be the cold?

Yep we had green poo's here today as well...just thought it was one of the many colours that they go through!? X

Well M got weighed yesterday and has put on a whole pound in one week :-0 greedy guts lol.

I'm getting my first child free time this afternoon to go and see breaking Dawn I'm so excited just hope M will take a bottle, I've bought the medela calma? Bottle as it's meant to be just like breastfeeding, I did buy breastflow teats as the stupid woman in mothercare told me they would fit mothercare bottles, they don't so I now have bottles and teats that don't fit each other and can't get the breastflow bottles anywhere!
I'm now into all my pre pregnancy clothes yay, its so good having a decent amount of clothes to choose from.

I've only tried my sling once and M didn't seem to like it (I have the close parent one) I need to master BFing in it before 11th December as I'm doing a stall at a Xmas fayre.