July 2010 - Next thread, cba to think of a title

[Chulita]

I want to witter away to you lot and none of you have come up with the goods so this will have to do...

Aw trudyla you know we're all thinking of you!

Hope you're not waiting too long trude

trudy thinking of you, hope you're not waiting too long.

D is in bed, he woke up after 20 mins so I got him back to sleep but don't know for how long I'm not holding out much hope. I'm so tired but I can't sleep even if I try.

mlisc I forgot to say that chili cheese bites are just little dough balls stuffed with mozzarella and jalapenos - delicious! (number 1 pizza is DH's fave pizza takeaway)

cake I also forgot to say that fruit loaf is just like a fruited teacake but in loaf form. I make it in the bread machine cos my two devour it like it's going out of fashion.

dh fingers crossed for a decent nap for D!

Chulita my bread seems to be shit at the moment, it keeps sinking in the middle and is too fluffy inside so is a nightmare to slice. Please can I have your recipe for the breadmaker? I'd also be interested in the fruit loaf one if you can be arsed :)

Well after my last post he slept for an hour and 10 mins so in total he had about an hour and a half so v good. He might have had more but I needed a wee so much and had to sneak past his room to get there so I think that might have woken him up. He cried when he woke up and he had hot bright red cheeks so I'm thinking teething?

Is it bedtime yet? L slept better than he has in weeks..I didnt even sleep an hour, my mind was whirring and I kept crying for no reason! I dont know how im going to cope, i have a 12 hr day at work tomorrow, then tomorrow night we are loading up the van with furniture for early morning house move then 5 days of cleaning and moving, shoot.me.now.

trudyla hoping baby with arrive soon.
chulita fruit loaf? i reckon L would love that, he likes toast and loves raisins! but I will have to buy it im not messing my oven up!
Just rang up sky, I may not be without internet long at all, they are processing it already and they said they couldnt do it until we were in, also the market I work on has a computer guy who reckons he can fix my laptop for cheap so will be able look at pics and internet shop again!

memphis you'll be fine, you're moving to a bigger and better house. Think about where you're moving to and what you're going to do in the other house, don't worry about getting there, this time next week you'll have done all this. Not worth worrying about, seriously. We did a house move 4.5 hours away when S was 10 weeks old, L running around like an idiot, not easy but we survived, so will you! chin up!
If you buy a fruit loaf I recommend Warburton's cos it's delicious!

mlisc I'll get the recipe book out when I can be arsed, DH knows it off by heart he does it that often but I've not managed it yet.

Have to go to post office, again, and it looks like it's going to piss it down, raincoat still just about does up but not for long I don't think.

Totally agree with chul - you will move and it will be fine. Even if things are upside down for a while it doesn't matter, you'll be in a better location in a nicer hose, so everything else pales into insignificance.

I've got to face the supermarket now. Sooooo cba

Rubbish! That's all I have to say today, work is tooooo hard and I can't do it any more! I so don't want to be here. I know it's probably tiredness talking though, it's all a bit to physical and I'm really struggling with my fitness levels, I can hardly breath even when I go up the stairs slowly. I still have to go up the ladders and do lots of other shit I shouldn't be doing, I'm beginning to hate it.
Chu, memph, dh, this sleeping thing is taking the piss, chu we do the same as u, lie there fuming, hence the ear plugs, I used them again this morning. He doesn't cry though so that's a bonus, he just chunters on and on and bangs the cot etc!
Memphis, I'm dreading sorting D's new room so I can totally understand how u must feel,poor u, but like Chu said this time next week it will all be over and u will be loving ur posh new pad!
Trudy, sex, curry, pineapple, walks, what else........any one else got anything? How do u feel?

I took D to the park and sat there looking like a pirate with one eye shut because I physically couldn't open both or they'd water from sheer tiredness.

Am praying for a better night tonight.

D loves fruit loaf and malt loaf, shop bought though!

Just had some not so great news, A had a hearing and vision check at pre-school, as all 4 year olds do and they say there is something wrong with the vision in her right eye. The only details I got were that her left eye is really compensating for her right eye and she is not seeing at all clearly with her right. There is no sign of any sort of lazy eye or squint, which usually causes limited vision in one eye but something in that eye is not working . I'm absolutely gutted tbh and I know there's much worse that happens to people but I'm so upset and I never noticed anything was wrong.

She does gymnastics and is totally fearless - runs along beams etc, she climbs trees and is so agile, it's hard to believe one eye isn't working properly.

The woman who did the test just phoned me, they have sent me a letter and basically our options are wait for 2-6 months to be seen by a specialist at the hospital or see an optometrist ourselves and pay, we've booked her in for the optometrist on Saturday. I'm already worrying about is this going to affect her reading, her schoolwork, even what sort of job she can do. Yet she seems completely fine, I have never ever noticed her not being able to see something properly - I guess her left eye is working very hard. I started crying on the phone to dh when I told him so he has some home from work early, they are all in the garden laughing and playing. Bizarrely I keep thinking of Gordon Brown as I know he only has sight in one eye, obviously didn't stop him getting to be PM though.

Sorry to be all about me, I'm just really really gutted :(

OK, I've calmed down a bit now :), I've been looking through old threads on here and although we can't know for sure what's wrong yet, it looks like it could just be a case of her wearing glasses or a patch over the good eye (to make the weak eye work better). We will know more on Saturday though.

wss so sorry about A it's horrible to find out there's something wring with your child. Hopefully it won't be as bad as they think if you never noticed anything wrong? I don't know anything about it though so fingers crossed for you.

Last night was the worst night of my life, I don't want to go into it cos it makes me angry. I'll just say D was up for 2 hours then came in our bed and slept perfectly. He also headbutted my nose with the whole weight of his head and it hurt so much I couldnt stop crying.

wss you poor thing! I was told a similar thing re L when she was about a year and I felt awful. Turned out not to be anything and has resolved itself with age but it was horrible. I hope the appt on Sat gives you lots of positive ways to get on with it.

dh ouch! no fun for you at all :( He's obviously very keen on snuggling, sorry you're having such a long and difficult time of it.

S was awake at 5.15 but bashed around for a bit and went quiet til nearly 7. Unfortunately DH had to be up at 5.45 and woke L up so we didn't get any more sleep despite him resettling.

I really need to get cracking on Christmas presents, I don't think I've quite realised that it's next month. I've not got anything yet! Mind you, I need to get L her birthday things first, the cd player I was going to give her has no volume control on it and is ridiculously loud so I'm having second thoughts now!

Oh I'm sorry you are feeling so upset wss. I can completely understand your worries but please try and wait what Saturday brings. So, so many times it is the fear and worry that is much worse than the actual problem. They have found that there is something wrong and now they can deal with it. That's the great thing. And if you haven't noticed yet, chances are that it won't effect her future that much. I'll be thinking about you on Saturday.

Still no baby. Have to go for a scan today to check amniotic fluid. I'm not feeling too impatient, to be honest. Neighbours and friends seem to be much more impatient than me. Everytime they see DP and M without me, they come running to check whether "it's" happened yet

I mean, it would be nice for him to come and I can't wait to meet him, and I am in quite a bit of pain and a bit uncomfortable, but not in as much pain as in labour

Hope you all had good nights.

chulita I would be interested in that fruit loaf recipe, too.

Bakers question: How do you avoid cake being either dry or undercooked? I baked one yesterday and kept putting in a wooden stick that came out wet and full of crumbs, so I left it in longer. Then I just thought, sod it, I'll take it out (while wooden stick was still wet) and now it's all dry and overdone. Do you sometimes take it out, even if the wooden stick isn't completely clean?

Also, has anyone a good recipe for onion relish? Really fancy some and they don't sell it here

cake I keep forgetting to ask, what was so bad about the naughty boy comment? Sorry if I'm being dim and should know that, but I probably have called M naughty before and didn't realise that's not a good thing (she sometimes really is naughty).

memphis Good luck with your move. Everything will be fine and soon you'll be in your lovely new house. Hope it won't be too stressfull. Had to laugh at your friend trying (and succeeding) to bring on labour. That's determination

dh Just saw your post. Sorry you had such a shit night I really hope it'll improve for you soon. Have a

Have a good day all.

oh wss big hugs. i know yours is a natural gut reaction to hearing something is 'wrong' with your baby but it definitely sounds as though it might be something that can improve with age/help so let's hope the appt brings some good news. at this stage they won't be able to tell if it's just a simple case of her eye not working as well (e.g. shortsighted) and so the other eye has just taken over. will keep everything crossed for you for saturday.

trudy make sure you spoil yourself/dh spoils you in these last few days before your boy comes!

re naughty boy - it's important for their self-image not to label children as being 'bad' or 'naughty' (or anything really) e.g. 'you're a very naughty girl' so talk about the behaviour instead e.g. 'your behaviour is very silly' or 'that is a naughty thing to do'. i've also found the word 'naughty' becomes a bit self-fulfilling (they often get obsessed with it and constantly do things and say it was naughty) so i generally avoid it and use 'silly' instead e.g. 'that's a silly thing to do' or talk about the impact on others e.g. 'that makes mummy really sad'.

sorry - don't have time to explain it well now so sorry if that sounds a bit wanky or makes no sense!

memph re the wallpaper - i've been very cross with laura ashley and their poor quality decorating stuff (paint) and have heard similar bad things about their wallpaper. personally, i wouldn't buy from them again, which is annoying as they do some great patterns.

sorry everyone - have to dash off to work now. have been mad busy again the last few days launching a new project at work and had a friend over to visit yesterday so will catch up properly when i have a bit more time.

wss sorry to hear about the test results. Agree with you/those saying that if you haven't noticed and she's doing all those things you mentioned that hopefully it isn't something that's going to impact her life. Fingers crossed for Saturday.

Sorry bout your night dh

Hope your little boy doesn't keep you waiting too much longer trudy!

I'm having a really, really tough time with toddlerboy atm. (And for the record trudy I do tell him he's naughty, if he is, tis just different parenting styles I think) I was at breaking point yesterday - I was 'That Parent' walking round Tesco with a screaming, tantruming toddler :( I think it is hard enough to deal with this at the best of times but I feel like me and babyboy are finally getting along well and having a lovely relationship now, that I kind of feel short-changed that now he is becoming the problem iyswim. Maybe that's part of it, maybe it's jealousy/resentment. Who knows, but it is fucking hard work.

Anyway, less of the moaning.

I've only made onion relish once trudy and I wasn't that keen on it. Do you want me to post you some from M&S

I'm with you on the Christmas thing chul! I have almost finished the bunting for my friend's youngest but need to get loads of kids' pressies. AND have to sort ds1's birthday presents and a party for the day after we get home from CP

You're quiet atm cake, you ok? Just busy I hope and that nothing's wrong :)

x post cake - you must have read my mind

And actually, now I've seen that written down cake, it is his behaviour I call naughty rather than him. But I do say naughty. He really pushed it yesterday, like never before :(

sorry to hear that mlic i know you do the face at teething but i honestly think a lot of that type of bad behaviour is teething-related. if so, i hope they get a wriggle on and come thru soon!

in the meantime, i recommend 100 x this too shall pass

the other thing is that at this age, our babies are still learning boundaries and don't really have the concept of being naughty (if you consider being naughty means you're knowingly doing something you shouldn't) iyswim? most of the unwanted stuff they do now is just being funny, testing the water or trying to get a reaction.

i think setting clear boundaries at this age works better than telling them off.

i know i sound like the softest parent ever but i'm actually v strict about boundaries. dh used to think i was too strict when F was small but has recently realised (and admitted) that it's now paying off. he was shocked when he went out with his friend and his DD the other day and she was running off/running into every shop with her father chasing after her. F would not be allowed/get the opportunity to do that after the first time but tbh he'd rarely do it now anyway as he knows that its not acceptable and there would be a consequence.

not saying i'm perfect parent - at all - just saying what i think has worked better for us.

Thanks everyone. I just dont know how much longer I can cope with this tiredness. I know it's only been 3 weeks since putting him in his own room but I thought I'd see SOME improvement. I suppose the evenings are better, dont usually hear from him til after we've gone to bed now.

I'm just finding it hard to like him atm, I've got no enthusiasm to play/read to him.

I guess one good thing is I've managed to give ip bfing which was one of my main goals. I'm wondering if he gets indigestion though, his tummy gurgles away at night and he keeps swallowing as if something nasty has come up. Can they have anything at this age for that? Dh gets indigestion really badly, he's suffering now from it non stop since sunday.

dh they can have gaviscon, S was prescribed some at about 12 weeks old so there doesn't appear to be an age limit. Ask your HV/GP about it (it did clog S absolutely solid so if you do get some, keep an eye on bowel movements - oh the joys)

Back in a tick, just having some toast.

trudy re cakes, if you stick a toothpick in, it should come out 'clean' but will usually still have crumbs etc stuck to it, what you don't want is sloppy cake mix on it. Maybe the oven was too hot, or it was too high in the oven?

mlisc it's his age, I'm sure of it. L has days when she's beautiful and days when she's a little terror. She's had all her teeth through for months so I can't blame them. Just be patient with him and try to make the most of all the lovely things he does and forget about the 'orrible bits as soon as you can. Hopefully for you it is teeth to blame and they'll pop through soon!

cake is Lady A's sleeping any better?

tsc how's your dad?

Must go and wake L, she was only supposed to have a quiet time but has been extraordinarily quiet for over an hour.