september edd new babies arriving come share the ups and downs here

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Hello. Think i was first to deliver off the September EDD thread so waving to see if anyone else out there yet to join me :)
Had my 2nd DD on 26aug by C-sec. We now home but struggling with BF and baby lost 10% body weight in 3days. Started to top up with formula in syringe to try give cracked. Bleeding nipples a rest, but milk is starting to drip out now leaking everywhere! Hoping for a better night tonight after 3nights of hourly feeds and snatching 2-3hrs of sleep.
Anyone else struggling too?

Ooh, it's all gone quiet. Is everyone asleep?!

Haha i wish!
Been trying 2 buy a new phone. In short 2 websites kept yelling me id entered my card details wrong. I swear i hadnt!! Then rang virgin nice man put me thru 2 a woman who couldnt pronounce my (very ordinary) sirname & knew nothing about phones & didnt listen 2 a word i told her! She sounded shocked & confused wen i told her i'll shop around on the net, thanku 4 ur help (hmmm). So still no new phone.

Took ds1 2 nursery 4 a senco assesment, he screamed all the way there, i had 2 practically drag him along. Only 2 find out "it was canceled on friday, didnt they ring u?" no! Grrr!&
Dds school has soo many non uniform days. This week its wear ur spots 4 children in need. Facepaints no longer allowed. Meaning she needs yet more clothes 2 wear 4 1 day. & where 2 get spotty clothes from in a town with few shops (most of which r now closef 4 the winter swason). Double grrr

Hi Feral!!

Agree on the not sleeping for ages front. Didn't sleep well throughout pregnancy, particulary last few months. But, she's gone six hours between her last evening feed (around 9pm) till needing the next one at around 3am these last couple of nights... that means getting about 4.5 hours of solid sleep... then getting a couple more afterwards, which has been bliss!!! hoping this is a pattern

Had a nice weekend - we had the kids this weekend, so the volume seemed louder all weekend! All went out for Sunday lunch, which was nice (kids normally go to their mum's on the weekend, we have them all week). Alys slept right through dinner!

100years - impressed with your eating crab bisque with LO in a sling! Not sure I could even reach the table, let alone not spill any!!

Ssmile - can't believe your LO is approaching 3 months! Yikes, time seems to be speeding up!

Hope everyone had good weekends...

sebs my Lo has similarpattern most nights now which is heaven 8/9pm till 1am then she comes in the bed with me as she wakes most hours 1-6 but I doze off feedin her lying down. She was 11wks on Fri! Time is flying by at times, I've just sorted through her clothes taking out 0-3mths and finding 3-6mths, she 12lbs now. Mega fist sucking regardless of being hungry, lots dribbles.

Hope everyone else doing ok its gone rather quiet, this the time when for my first one I was oh gosh this is life now vlittle ME time I got quite down, this time just have no time it flying.

Hope you get your phone sorted jimmijam I got my in helpful carphone warehouse

Sebs, am very jelous of yours sleeping. My DS does not do well. He sleeps ok during day about 11, 2 and 6 for an hour if I am lucky (more if we go out in the car or is in pram) but night is still bad with colic. We go to bed at 9 and he wants to feed but it seems to trigger colic and he screams for an hour then tries to feed and same again, this can go on for 3-4 hours. He will then feed and sleep for a bit but often keeps latching himself on every hour through the night (not sleeping in crib at night as lies there staring at me and crying through the bars). He sleeps in crib during day but is on his front as I can see him and am too scared to put him on front at night as keep being told it is dangerous.

Am keeping fingers crossed for the magic 3 month change, only 3.5 weeks to go and hopefully colic will go and I will get stricter about not sharing my bed (really should DTD at some point as DH has been very patient but am a bit scared of it hurting) Have also had to sort through clothes as he has outgrown some we were bought without even wearing them, DM and MIL keep buying things. Have told family no cuddly toys for Xmas as his room is swamped with them (lots of gifts) and he is still not really interested in holding anything.

He loves standing up (being held of course) and staring at wall hanging...think it is the sequins

Had jabs last week and got awful temp at night despite medicine and cried till 4.30am. It was horrible not being able to help him and am dreading next batch. Any tips for a better night welcome.

'Me' time? Wassat? I panicked the other day when I realised that DD was napping, the house was clean, dinner was organised and DH had taken DS out for the afternoon, leaving me with literally nothing to do. V odd

DH is doing my head in royally today. My car has broken down and his is being MOT'd so we have neither for 24 hours. His cousin's doing the work and has lent us a car in the meantime but DH forgot to take either of DS's car seats out last night so we couldn't all go out this morning. I refrained from losing my rag (the MiL was here), didn't shout or swear and was VERY restrained. I did call him an idiot, but I think that was justified as he'd done something pretty idiotic, and yet he got angry with me!

He also got really annoyed with me last night because I asked him to come and help me when DD had puked everywhere while I was putting her to bed, as it disturbed his XBox time. He seems to forget that I want the same things as him; an hour or two to myself in the evening to read or watch TV. And it's as though DD is entirely my responsibility and anything that he does with her is doing me a favour, not that she is 50% his as well!

I have to really keep on reminding myself that I do love him and that life was horrible without him when we separated a few years back. God it's hard though.

On the side, DD went to bed at 9pm last night and didn't wake for a feed until 5am. I am so very very grateful that I am not having to deal with sleep deprivation and I honestly do know just how unbelievably lucky I am.

Candr - my LO has just started this pattern... hoping it sticks but she's had patterns of sleeping well before and then they've gone pear shaped! She is bottle fed though, and apparently, bottle fed babies do sleep longer as breast milk is easier to digest. (Not BF for several reasons - managed 3 weeks exclusively but then lots of issues kicked in, have been expressing every day though to give her at least some bm, but it's pretty much drying up now :( so she's only getting a little bit now). HOpe your LO's colic goes soon. My LO does sleep in our bed sometimes, mainly towards the end of the night. So after her 3am ish feed, she'll sleep for an hour or two, and then after several attempts to get her back to sleep in the basket, we eventually give up and she comes in bed for the last hour or two of the night.

SSmile - My LO is also fist sucking!! It's very cute! Although this is my first, I'm not quite at the "is this all there is now?" phase as have been wanting a baby for soooo long. My life has changed dramatically in the last couple of years (i.e. was single and enjoying night life with a couple of single friends after crappy relationship with commitment phobe and living in town THEN met OH, moved in with him into a cottage in a tiny hamlet in the countryside about 25 minutes from home and friends, rented out my house and then happily got pregnant after 3 months trying and now have LO and am unofficially engaged ... talk about change... but all for the good - can't quite believe my luck in the last couple of years - after reaching 38 I'd pretty much given up hope of meeting Mr Right and having a baby... so, I do have to pinch myself a few times!!)

What is it with baby clothes? My LO is 8.5 weeks, average weight and longer than average and only grew out of her newborn sleepsuits about 1.5 weeks ago! She's in M&S one month old baby suits and the Boots 0-3 months are huge on her???? This rate, she'll be 4 months before she gets into the 0-3 months! As presents we've had so many 3 -6 months clothes that it'll be ages till she can wear any of them! She had a lot of coats, which we'll need Dec - Mar, so hoping some of them will fit her! (At least another friend is expecting a girl soon, so can pass some on!)

Started putting her on her front for a few minutes on the Activity Mat, and she's just about lifting her head up. Also loves to stand up too when holding her hands. She loves to stare at the beams on the ceiling in the lounge and in the kitchen - can stare at them for ages!

She's got her jabs on Thursday :( And I'll finally have my "6 week" check up (at one day off 9 weeks!!)

Oops, Asda man here, best go!

ooh and I gave up my job too :)

Feral - sorry about DH ... hope things get better but :) on the LO sleeping... that's really good going !!

sebs i must have missed a bit. Did u quit ur job 2day? @ least u should still get mat pay :-)

fera grr 2 xbox dh!!!!

No, I just mean not going back to work :) At least not for a couple of years and hoping I'll go and do something different (I usually change things every few years so due a change!!)

Good 4u sebs! Wish i had the confidence 2 do that, but im lucky i can work opposite shifts 2 dh so we dont jave 2 put lo in2 nursery etc. Wen the kids r old enough 2 walk home from school alone & have a couple of hours at home alone 2gether id LOVE a change of career!!

Wow Sebs, that's quite exciting. I love my job and would never quit but I really wish that I earned enough for DH to leave his and be a full-time SAHD while the kids are small. I think I'll be earning enough when I go back for DH to drop another half a day so we don't need nursery but I wish we didn't have to rely on my parents for childcare (they love it, but I know it's tiring for them).

We're hoping that we can work it so that DH takes the new paternity leave deal when I go back in the spring; he'll be at home until the end of July, then I'll have the summer holidays off. Money will be really really tight but we'll just have to live off lentils and walk everywhere.

Hey everyone sorry wasn't on here over the weekend my OH was rushed into hospital Friday morning after having a fit at work he then went on to have 2 more in the ambulance and 1 more at the actually hospital for those who don't know at the beginning of the year he fell down two stairs at home and ended up in a coma for 3 weeks and having his front part of his skull removed, this has since been replaced with a titanium plate but its been one thing after the other! Also my nan was in hospital too imfortunaly a different one in the opposite direction!

Anyway on a brighter note LO is now 6 weeks today growing out of some of his 0-3 month clothes (already!!!) eating us out of house and home! Last time he was weighed (week and half ago) he was 12lb going to get his weighed again on friday to see how much bigger he is now!

Getting into a good sleep pattern in the evening now except last night when he was up every two hours!

Started my Christmas shopping today god cant believe its only 39 days away! Looking forward to taking LO to see father Christmas.

LO is also trying to fit his whole fist into his mouth is quite sweet but then he gets frustrated and crys for his dummy.

Hope everyone is doing well sorry for not commenting on everyones post been so many since i was last here

Glad the night in the spare room worked jimmi. Fortunately I don't feel the need to sue for trapping my finger, it's only a bit of a bruise, however if I was wearing a ring(wedding finger) that would have been different as it was right where a ring sits. Flipping heck about the nursery :(

feral, I've been trying to ignore the hard side of teething of babyhood! But I know it's not going to be that much fun. Grr to your DH

ssmile, we've got loads of snuggly toys, just not many with plastic bits on them. I will have a look, I'll also have a look at the one feral mentioned.

Sebs, well it was a case of wear a sling or take the peanut in with us and hope we got a table with 4 chairs, as it happened we did get a big table, but it was much easier in the sling. I'm very envious of you giving up work for the time being. I would love to be able to do that. Good for you :)

I'm not loving the tales of years of broken sleep! I know it's a huge possibility, but I'm trying to block it out of my head, a bit like the teething issue!

candr, is there a definite 3 month change, I was expecting one at 6 weeks and didn't notice any discernible difference. DTD does get easier, yesterday it was almost pain free, the very first time we had to stop, but it's got easier since.

Jojo, sorry to hear about your OH, that sounds rough :(

So all this talk about sterilising bottles etc etc, what happens to teething toys, they don't get sterilised. How is it OK to not sterilise tethers etc, yet have to do bottles? Is it to do with the milk in the bottles?

Last night LO went down about 11ish, woke or was fussing a teeny bit at around half 2, decided to wait till she woke properly or started crying before feeding her, was half 4 before she made a teeny cry so I fed her then. She is in a bedside cot and so I hear her as soon as she makes a fuss, I think sometimes she wakes and isn't ready for food, just going through a different sleep pattern, and I think this is why when she is in the travel cot she appears to sleep better, as she isn't right next to me and so I don't hear the little fussing in the same way, and only hear her when she properly wants food. She's never woken up screaming for food, so I'm not leaving it too late when she is in the travel cot. I'm wondering if I need to leave her a tiny bit longer at night, if she settles down again leave her till she wakes, if she doesn't then feed her. But it's hard to judge in the middle of the night. After the half 4 feed though she woke quite a bit, but she had had a good stint before that.

She also has a touch of conjunctivitis, or at least the doc thinks it is, so we have eye drops to put in. So far the success rate of definitely getting the drops in is 75% (3 out of 4 definitely in 1/4 not sure if it went in or not) and 50% for crying - where the 1 attempt she was crying before I put it in as she was hungry. I'm sure we'll get there and I only have another 16 drops to put in. Can you tell I'm counting down till the course is finished!!!

So I ran again last night. :) and it was a good run. However the pain I had before I was pregnant is back, it's a foot injury and so I am going to have to avoid running for - well I don't really know. At least buggy walking burns off loads of calories. And I lost 3.5lbs at the slimming class :)

dh did his usual version of putting the kids 2 beds last night-no story or drink so guess who put them 2 bed anyway dh sed they have 2 learn they cant get wot they want all the time. Grrr

drove 2 take kids 2 nursery/school this morning then popped 2 town. Walked half way home b4 remembering i had the car so had 2 turn around & walk back 2 get it!! Woops!

Gosh jojo sounds horrid! Cannot imagine wot uv been thru-esp back in the new year wen u were pregnant!! Is ur dh home now?

100 where ru? Havent seen u here 4 a few days :-( not seen conker skibum or a few others here 4 a while either i dont think

Looks like a x post there jimmi. I'm here. Just been bit busy to post in here. But I have been reading. It's so easy to read and then carry on doing what you are doing - feeding, housework etc. I'm taking the time to post now LO is chilled out - she was sleeping but is now awake, enjoying being bounced in her chair. And looks like my post about the spare room working was a bit premature :(

100 conjunctivitis is commin in little uns, our 2 eldest have both had it a couple of times each

may have changed but we used 2 have 2 steralise everything. Dummies in boiling water. I'll still put teethers in2 milton fluid this time around.

Oh that's fine, it's only because the teether I bought said to wash but said nothing about sterilising, in fact I don't think I could put it in the steriliser, but I could use milton. It's just that you see these things that couldn't go in a steam steriliser and wonder if things like that need sterilising.

Jimmi yeah he is backhome now thank god it was very hard at the begining of the pregnancy as he was still in hospital at the first scan and stuff but the main thing is that he is here now (and now under my thumb lol)

100 re teethers at work we used a mixture of milton and water and sprayed t he toys and wiped clean

got my 6 week check on thursday and LO has his check up and injections in december when he is 10 weeks old!

Jojo that sounds really scary. I hope your DH remains OK. It sounds very tough on all of you.

100years, re sterilising, I read the other day that we're the only country who bothers sterilising bottles; in the states and Europe, they just put them through the dishwasher. this article points out that a truly sterile bottle is nigh on impossible! I decided that, since breast milk is full of antigens anyway, I'm not going to bother this time round. DD has had a couple of unsterilised bottles of EBM, and I haven't sterilised the pump either so I'll let you know if she gets a stomach bug! I figure my boobs aren't sterile after all...

The only time I have ever sterilised any of DS's toys or teething things was when I discovered that the cats had set a mouse free in the living room and I couldn't catch it for a couple of days. Obviously I freaked out a bit then and bleached everything in sight!

Vvvv impressed with your weight loss, well done you. I haven't weighted myself this week yet but lost 2lbs last week

Raah at your DH not doing a bedtime story Jimmi; unforgivable!

Haha fera its part of a routine that works & is a nice few mins 1 on 1 with each dc

phone saga continues. Eventually spoke 2 someome # phones 4u, their system wont let u pay if u use google cgrome! & a few sites put price up ovetnight rah!
think il just go 4 a more expensive blackberry on a different sit & hope that works.
R trackers on blackberrys ok?

Thanks peeps. Seems like mixed info on sterilising. I know someone who works as a neonate practitioner and they don't sterilise only wash and rinse in hot water. I've pumped with a part that wasn't sterilised and given the bottle. I've also let LO chew on my knuckle, which although clean cannot possibly be free of all germs, and they need a few don't they. I'll use my judgement on things.

Thanks feral, I wasn't particularly good this week, but I was better than the weeks previous :) And no bread, except for one bagel. 2lbs is fab :) Well done.

Very pleased 4 all on the weight loss. Am a tad jealous! Id love 2 lose a stone by end of xmas hols. I know itl never happen tho! & my mum pointed out my new bf boobs weigh a fair bit :-)

Grr still not got phone. Out of stock @ tesco! Dont think im meant 2 have 1!

100years, it's weird, I find not eating bread makes a huge difference to my weight. Although I couldn't resist scoffing one of the rolls that I made for DS's lunches this morning.

Wow hats off to those losing weight I just can't so mega hungry breastfeeding and lack of sleep I just eat and eat. My good days get wiped out by biscuit days. My cycle trainer is fab so slowly toning up that's my main goal so I get fitter I usually will then eat less. Had endless couple of days of feeding really hope this is 3mth spurt and ends soon very tired. Hoping Lo gone down now so I can crash out for more than two hrs but fear its not too be yet.