september edd new babies arriving come share the ups and downs here

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Hello. Think i was first to deliver off the September EDD thread so waving to see if anyone else out there yet to join me :)
Had my 2nd DD on 26aug by C-sec. We now home but struggling with BF and baby lost 10% body weight in 3days. Started to top up with formula in syringe to try give cracked. Bleeding nipples a rest, but milk is starting to drip out now leaking everywhere! Hoping for a better night tonight after 3nights of hourly feeds and snatching 2-3hrs of sleep.
Anyone else struggling too?

Also, sorry things aren't improving with DH Jimmi. I'm not sure what to say as it sounds as though he is quite stubborn! Is it time for some shock tactics? Could you take the baby and go off to family for 24 hours, forcing him to deal with the other kids and give you a break? Rough for them I know but they'd manage. When I took DD and stormed out for a couple of hours the other evening it obviously really shook DH (not sure DS even noticed I'd gone!)

Your comment about the washing basket on the other thread did make me give a wry though; we have the identical situation in our house and it drives me bloody mental. About once a month, when I've had enough of it, I just bundle up all DH's clothes and ram them into his drawers; when he then moans that he can't find anything, I point out that if he doesn't like the way I tidy up his stuff then he should do it himself

Heehee good 4 u fera! All our family live about a 3 1/2hour drive away. And dh works shifts. Hus next day off isnt until next thursday. Feeling lonely too as we have no friends around here & baby groups clash with things like school pick up times :-(

hows everyone else feeling today?

Hello all
Having a bad day today. It's the worst day since ds arrived . Dd is being a madam, still isn't dressed, not all her fault as she does have a cold so it's just making her into a devil toddler. Plus had no sleep last night

It makes me feel a little better that I'm not alone and that everyone is having a tough time.

I think the gloomy grey weather must contribute to our moods. I've done one school walk this week with a sliver of sunshine the rest have been grey &rainy :( I'm not too bad ere hoping hormones from coil settling down.
my DH is mostly vgd I can't complain but if he had the 11wks of sleepless nights (not counting pregnancy) I expect he would be in a foul mood bynow :o our bodies are r amazin The NHS should supply calorie free chocolate to all post natal mums :)

I remember I was on a support thread for crap sleepers from when DS was about 4 months to when he was about 8 months and we had this little fantasy place that we used to dream about which was the MN commune. We'd all live together in a village, so that there was always someone around to help look after your DCs if you needed a break.

The DPs would live in a separate commune next door and get conjugal visits at our discretion. Family and friends would be invited but would be issued with visitor's passes that ensured that they would leave before they outstayed their welcome. Any problems would be decided once a week in the AIBU court at which attendance was compulsory but participation was optional.

We'd have our own veg patch and chickens and a bus would arrive in the mornings to whisk our DCs away to nursery or school and then deliver them back happy and tired in the evening!

What do you reckon; wanna join me...?!

I'm in

(ps anyone had their delivery from aldi yet)

Oooh yes yes please I'm in, can it have magic sleep pods where one hour feels like four hrs in the "real" world, and lots cake that makes you loose weight &tone up :o

(no aldi parcel yet)

I posted here earlier but its not shown up. Grrr 2 my phone!
Dh seems fine with sleeping in spare room, made it almost seem like normal!
Treated myself 2 favourite lindor truffles 2day, yhen dh came home with 2 boxes 4 me! Ive already polished off a whole box to myself!
I reccomend all of u should treat yourselves 2 your favourite chocolate (or cake)

we havent got any friends around here yet, and without work, & local baby groups clashing with school times etc am feeling really lonely

love sshh about aldi xx :-) i missed out :-(

Going to catch up on some more posts...

loomer i would go CRAZY without tv, ur a asint managing without!!

ssmile have u managed to get your tyres fixed? (could imagine myself crying if the same thing were to happen here)

jojo strange that, dh and ds1 also ofund themselves toileting better/more regularly after we moved here, locals said its the water! funny what you (i) forget

thankyou sebs it did get me wondering if ppl on here hated my textspeak too. feeling a bit fragile at the moment, think i took their comments to heart a bit too much

100 i think lo would love to go swimming, he kicks about in the bath but his 1st injections arent until next friday, and our local (ish, and its on a campsite, small) pool is freezing cold.

minkyy sorry 2 hear your dh is also being a pain and not understanding until you get to the point where you struggle to take it anymore. are you both doing ok now?

ssmile weather has been really poop recently. was hoping to mow the lawn 2moro but it'll be too wet. takes a couple of hours to mow so need to do it when dh is home, he's on late shift 2moro so could have looked after 3 dcs while i mowed.

still not dtd, as things are it feels like a waste of time taking the pill. but i dont want 2 stop incase it triggers my periods to return!
dh helped cook dinner 2day, and even said no to working on one of his days off next week (bloke who asked him has no family yet hasnt done any extra shifts himself! grrr)

fera a land of happy children sound lovely!!!

couldnt stand aaron on bb how did he win?!?! wanted alex to win! (tho cant really speak as i dont vote on these shows). may just stop watching x faxtor, starting to feel much more like a play to me now.

here's to some sweet dreams for all tonight :-)

jimmi, our local pool is on the chilly side sometimes so I got DS a sort of baby wetsuit thing from a company called Waterbabies. It opens out flat and does up with velcro. It's neoprene so kept him warm and made him a lot less slippery when wet too! I have just fished it out to use for DD but I might have to buy her a pink cossie to go with it as it's blue and very boyish.

BTW, the NHS say you don't have to wait until babies have had their jabs to take them swimming as polio is practically unheard of these days. My local pool do prefer babies to have been immunised but the Drs can't fit DD in until December so I might just have to lie if asked!

feral you reminded me Ive got onr of those wet suit jackets too was excellent with DD1 must try and find it now!

Babe started chewing my.nipples.ere grrr flipping.hurts sometimes. She has also upped her dribbling and started sucking her fist,so that her thumb is getting bit sore. Think the start of teethin is around the corner....she is 11wks. Think we introduced a snuggle toy to DD1 at this age which she chewed all day and still.has at bedtime. He has had many bouts of ER mummy sewing now alas his head has nearly fallen off :) This babe not interested yet in her nice soft cuddly teether snuggle toy we got her but I will keep tryin as my nipples are feeling rather sore.
We had explosive poo at 4am so now really hoping she will.resettle now as I need my sleep tonight to cope with softplay hell tom with manic 4yr olds.......

ssmile enjoy te soft pllay!

Our nearest pool is so cold its turned 1st 2 dcs blue a few times! (me & dh must have much more fat 2 stop us turning blue in it)

Can any1 reccomend a good mobile phone please? Or advise against any that u hate?

Exhausted :-( anyone noticing some common themes on here? In sex ed classes they should follow parent & baby 4 a few days on a video after watching an actual labour. Im sure that would help reduce teen pregnancies!
So proud of our families tho, its definately all worth it!

Must be the 3mth hormone drop as now my hair falling out hohum the joys of postnatal body

jimmijam I have HTC desire on 2yr contact with O2 £20 a month and I only go over the plan with text to my sis who lives overseas. I love it, runs on Android the competing system to iPhone which is a lot more expensive. Lots of aps to choose from, inc games to amuse your older 2kids, internet is excellent ive got it linked into our home wirefi so its a mini computer really keeps me sane in night whilst feeding winding Lo I just surf the net :)

Hanku ssmile ! I have an android samsung galaxy ace @ moment on contract but its an annoying phone so i want 2 get another android phone which i xan put my sim into. Have heard of/seen htc phones but didnt know if they were any good. So thanku! I shall have a nose at it 2nite wen kids r in bed :-) (not giving up my £13 600mins, 3000txts unlimited web virgin contract! Tho i hardly use any of it)

Going 2 baby sale in a couple of hours. Good job i cant mow the lawn in the rain- dh prob b in bed most of 2day.

(ssshh but i liked having more room in bed last night without someone snoring down my ear)

Wishing everyone a good day :-)

feral, 9pm sounds fab. Yeah my LO has started to suck her thumb (in a not quite able to do it properly fashion) but doesn't settle yet with that, although I think it's more a chewing thing than a sucking thing. Where do I sign up for the commune?

Minky, I hope things settle down with your DH and he starts to realise these little nights out etc are not helping you.

jimmi, I will speak to someone if I feel it's continuing. I felt fine after I spoke to OH the other day and have felt fine since. I was just tearful. I have no worries about my ability to 'cope' with LO or how to look after her, I think the sleepless nights just get to me sometimes and I needed to talk about it. I'm sorry the night in the spare room went like nothing untoward for your DH, although you had the extra room in the bed it's probably not the way you would like it. I love my iPhone :)

ssmile. I've not slept through since last Christmas, was v ill at the beginning pregnancy with HG, then pelvic pain, then being too big to sleep comfortably, then late pregnancy wee issues, then baby arrived! Another few weeks and I'll have made it a year of broken sleep! That's rough! Where did yu get a cuddly teether thing. I think I will be needing one soon.

Been out for a meal with OH this evening. LO slept in the sling the whole time :) and I didn't spill any crab bisque on her :)

Trapped my finger in the workings of the pram yesterday, it's a tad bruised, but nothing broken, but ouchy.

Hmm, what else to say. I swear LO knows when it's a friday night. Last night she woke 5 times, I only fed her on 4 of those times as one time she was just fussing. But this seems to happen frequently on a friday night. Do you think she senses it's Daddy's day off the next day? LOL

turns out a night in spare room 4 dh was just what was needed, may even let him into our bed 2nite! we smiled and laughed together, which was great :-) though things will take time. he talked about us having number 4! i pointed out we have to get ourselves sorted 1st! & i think i'd like a 3year age gap between 3 and 4 if it were to happen. (had very tearful, difficult time after ds1 was born, looking back it prob was slight pnd 4 many reasons i think. was scared about it happening again this time, but luckily most of the time our midwife was easy to speak to and did reassure me, and really luckily i had fantastic midwives and doctor when in labour this time around, made a big difference!! i wish more midwives would listen to what the woman wants, its amazing what difference it makes- not just with pain, but mentally), with 3 year age gap lo could have a few hours a week at nursery 2 give me and a newborn some breathing and bonding space. when ds1 was born dd was still tiny. though theyre so close its lovely!
hope that isnt too confusing!
#4 would DEFINATELY be the last if we do go 4 it! dont feel i could give enough attention to any more, then theres money, space at home etc etc

right, off 4 a phone shop in the hope phone unlocking still exists! abd tesco have clubcard exchange thing on phones again :-)

ooh 100 lots of ppl (tho not my thing) sue for things like that! didnt maclaren (i loved our maclaren now in the shed) recall some pushchairs not so long ago because of ppl trapping their fingers, did a couple of fingertips get chopped off by them in america? not sure. i may be making it up or dreamt it!

You're right about Americans losing fingers to Maclarens Jimmi; my mum got all twitchy when we looked at Maclaren prams! It is nice not listening to DHs snoring isn't it? Although mine is only on the other side of a thin partition and I can still bloody hear him

100years, a year of broken sleep is grim. I think I probably clocked up about that when pg with DS and then with him being a crap sleeper. I have high hopes for DD though - although ssmile has just brought me back to earth with a bump with the teething talk

Re comforters, DD has a Doudou et Compagnie comforter that she is beginning to suck on and DS is entirely inseparable from his Moulin Roty rabbit; he used to suck the ears, now he just strokes them whilst sucking his fingers (sooo cute).

Book marking.
Loads to catch up on.

No delivery yet either.

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz (please)

Wondering if I've hit the 3mth growth spurt. Babe been feeding lots last night and hourly today then constantly sucking her fists half hr after a feed. I've had to get the lansinoh cream out again as nips getting vsore. We been out most of the day too so lots sitting in corners of pub &coffee shop, between walking fair distance. Utterly exhausted now praying for gd nights sleep as last two been vpatchy.

I.hate to be brutely honest our DD1 (now 4.5) was 4yrs old before we started getting any consistent sleeping through the night, and even now we get average two bad nights a week. If you don't have a poor sleeper noone understands and you get given a whole host of advice and made to feel a failure of a mother at times but having been through the mill with her I think 75% is child's personality &25%parenting, she is a child with lots of energy and an active mind. Thank heaven school at last is tiring her out! So I've had close on 5yrs of vdisturbed nights sleep, I.think my body has adapted to using 20min power naps in daytime and 6hrs broken over night but my powers of concentration &brain power been really zapped! Very much hoping this babe is going to be better so far she has been :)
Snuggley teether toy I got from Kiddicare. Just a soft toy with couple.of plastic.bits to.chew on. Must remind DH this time to.not put it in tumble dryer like he did with DD1 teether as it melted

Agree with ssmile re sleep. I got incredibly with people giving me advice about DS's sleep when I knew damn well that there was nothing that I or anyone could do about it. He's nearly 3 and still a bit twitchy at night. In fairness, I was a crap sleeper as a child and I still am; I think it's just how some people are.