Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

[DebiTheScot]

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

Happy xmas all. We had a good time, though DP is being very shouty at poor DD. She is being a total PITA but as i point out, she is 3 and has had her life turned upside down in the past few weeks. She is very rude to us and hits us and won't do as she's told but DS is only 3 weeks so I'm trying to ignore most stuff.

Xmas day was lovely - she was amazed with her presents and kept thanking father christmas.

DS is hard work. He is just like DD in that he is very unsettled in the evening abnd is a very hungry baby, so if he is hungry he goes nto full on scream within seconds. I am trying to feed on demand and some nights will sleep 11-5 but most is up and down every 2 hours. This is new to us as DD slept through from 5 days so we are suffering. Hey ho.

Feeling quite sad atm. This time, I know I have done all I can to bf and DS's birth could not have been any other way (with DD I had a lot of what ifs and made mistakes) but I am still sad that I am just not very good at newborns, birthing and feeding. I know it's only a small part but I just want to stamp my feet and say it is not fair that i can't birth naturally or feed the way nature intended. I've had loads of bf support to the house and they all say the same - I'm doing everything right, latch great but DS will not suck and gets furious, so we're on the downward slope to ff with expressed. See here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/1361189-4-day-old-after-c-section-and-not-really-sure-what-Im-doing for link to my bf thread and what wore me down in the end.

Plus, if you have a spare 10mins! see here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1336997-Nov-2011-aches-pains-and-waddling-soon-to-be-cuddles-and-swaddling for link to birth story

DS is fab but I am terrified of DP going back to work next week and am realising that I love DS but I am much more a fan of toddlers than newborns!!

Bookmarking. Had a weird Christmas, the actual day was slightly shit but Boxing Day was much better.

Will catch up tomorrow.

That's some birth story MrsA! Not one to be easily shared when people ask how the birth was. Are you starting to feel a bit better about it now? I hope you are able to confront your midwife when you're ready too.

We've had a good Christmas with the inlaws altho it's getting tense between sil and mil now! We're getting the train back south tomorrow with my parents.

We had a lovely day, apart from Robyn being sick. I think she has some virus as she is a bit snotty with it and coughing for England.
We(Me,DP,DD1,DD2) got up at 7.30ish and opened their stockings and our presents. Robyn was really excited then after about an hour she got tired and moaned that the presents were too loud. DS got up and opened his presents in record time, one year it took him about a week, then Lucy finally awoke and had just started opening her presentys when Robyn threw up on me. I tookher to bed to get changed and she had a nap for an hour. I watched Lucy open the rest of her presents and by ther time breakfast was finally made Robyn was back up and looking fine.
We had a lovely CHicken dinner, the others aren't keen on turkey, and I made my own yorkshire's and gravy. It was very nice. We then chilled out and played with toys for the rest of the day. The TV didn't go on till about 6pm which is definitely a first for us
Probably our best Christmas for a long time, CHristmas with babies is so tiring but now Lucy is older it was easier for me

Robyn is still a bit poorly so we will be at drs later, she is coughing and her asthma is getting harder to control. Am hoping she keeps it to herself as we are seeing my mum and dsis tomorrow to exchange presents. We aren't having our usual big Boxing Day party as none of the Aunties want to host one. A shame as they have been going on for over 40 years.

Carrie is DS 6 months already or are you weaning him off bm?

NC take more care, we can't have you falling over and giving birth on the stairs.

MrsA the newborn stage is hard, it's my favourite really, but things do get easier. I'm glad you are still persevering with the breastfeeding and mixed feeding shouldn't be too bad. Once your supply is estasblished you can offer more breastfeeds and less ff. Then your supply will boost. I'm sure C will calm down soon once she is back in her routine. 3 is the perfect age to realise what Christmas is all about and they do tend to play up a lot as they are soo excited.

Meglet Thanks for the chocolate orange

God MrsA That is some birth story. I hope you find out why your IM dropped you, she sounds either horrid to have done so or pushed hard by the hospital MW.

Bookmarking.

A little shaken after reading MrsA's birth story. Am 24+2 now. So mentally gearing up for labour in just over 12 weeks time. Haven't really prepared anything yet. Need to get DH's birthday (next week) out the way first then can start focussing on this baby's arrival .

MrsA you're so brave. To go through all that labour with just gas and air and come out and be so positive. I'm glad that the hospital were at least sympathetic to you.

It's understandable about Charlotte's behaviour - I still get it with my 8 year old!

Christmas went OK - stayed at exH's on Christmas eve but got to see the stockings with the kids in the mornings (then later went to mine to open the stocking Santa had left here and DD1 concluded that Santa had stopped at my house first )

ExH (and therefore the kids) didn't get me a present . Something from the pound shop or a bar of chocolate would have done. When ExH opened my present to hime from me and the girls and DD1's present that she's bought with me he just turned round and said 'I haven't got you one'. Poor DD1 was really upset that she hadn't got me anything.

Went to my Mum's later and my sisters and the kids cousins were there which was fun :)

We still haven't opened all the presents as this evening is the first time the kids are here after Christmas and we tend to ration them.

mrsa I loathe the newborn phase. Its hideous. I dont deal well with babies AT ALL - even my own.

Much more interesting when they start to talk and be interesting IMO

We are all still snotty and coughy - might have to take Toby back to GP next week as he is still not eating properly

Happy New Year ladies and I hope 2012 brings you all you deserve xxxx

MrsA well done you for having such a good attitude after all that you went through, no mean feat. Can't believe you laboured for so long on just g&a, well done! I do hope you get some answers about your MW - I'd be fascinated to know what went on in that meeting.

debs DS2 is 4 months and starving! He's over 16lb, has started waking in the night again really hungry and is hungry for each feed well before its due. I'm giving him a spoonful of baby rice after his mid morning feed, which means he sleeps really well at his lunchtime nap, and a spoonful after his late afternoon feed. So he's still having all his bf.

Only one week til DS1 starts playgroup

DG how are you feeling in general about this pg, are you able to connect with the baby and believe that this really is going to happen...coz it really is!! Very excited for you :)

ninja my DH didn't think to get me anything from the DCs either, although he got me some lovely presents from him and any one of them could have been wrapped up under the DCs name, but it simply didn't occur to him. I might remind him next year Well done you for your continuing incredible attitude, and of course santa came to your house first and left the best presents there

ILs here and I'm pushing my luck being on here much longer...

Just popping by to wish you all Happy New Year and a great 2012.

May everyone have happy, healthy families, well behaved children and tidy houses .

You don't ask for much do you meglet?!

Happy New Year Everyone (there should be something for everyone in that selection)

Happy New Year everyone

xxxx

Happy New year everyone.

I think its time to get Lucy to bed. I hope Robyn lets me have i lie in

Happy New Year!! Sad not to see it in with the kids, but at least I can have a lie in

debi I've started the tidy house thing with a vengence (sp?). I keep dipping into DS's bedroom and having a tidy up. He's already lost one storage unit as I've removed crap / condensed toys into boxes.

Happy New Year!!

Taking down Xmas decorations today so hoping to follow meglets example of tidy house etc.

carrie thanks for asking, I'm feeling really pleased to have got to this stage of pregnancy. Still get the occasional wobble (especially when I get particularly crampy braxton hicks) but to be expected I think. Have made lists of things to start doing this month next month like getting new born clothes from loft and buying a new cot mattress.

Did anyone actually buy anything (other than new mattresses) for their 2nd dc? I'm thinking of getting a new sling-type carrier and hoping to borrow a rear facing buggy (two things I regretted not having with ds). But can't think of anything that we don't already have. We'll stock up on nappies and cotton wool at some point.

Happy new year all. We're all a bit knackered and I'm bricking DP going back to work next week.

DD is being a complete nightmare tbh. I know it's cos of DS and we're trying to support her but she refuses to listen, screams and kicks. We employ naughty step, toys going, consequences but nothing works. I end up spending the day bored of my own voice. I really don't know what to do - she is so destructive. I'd persevere with naughty step but it would take umpteen returns ands DS feeds every 2hrs in the daytime. I Can't get him to go any longer but on the plus side he goes 4-5 hrs at night.

digi we bought very little for DS. We got a new mattress but used all of DD's old stuff, includoinmg her pram. I bought literally 2 or 3 new outfits (at night he wears her old pink sleepsuits!), some reusable nappies and a close and moby stretchy wraps. As he's another colicky velcro baby just like DD, I wear hoim a lot. Even wore him to the panto yesterday and we were on the front row (totally forgot about how louds it would be though!) And the cast were cooing over him.

mrsa Sorry to hear C is being...well....3 Toby is driving me nuts too atm and he does not have the excuse of a new baby!!!

Do you think she will get better when she returns to nursery/after xmas whne things get a bit more "normal" for her? I feel for you both...its v v hard adjusting to a new member of the family.

Took decs down today - xmas is officially over I will still be eating all the xmas choc in April though

So...what needs to happen in 2012? Well, need to potty train Toby Get him to nursery 2 mornings a week and re train as a TA so I can go back to work when Toby starts school next Sept.

Or go back to bed.

You know.....either plan is good

Gah, silly computer just lost my long message.
Happy new year everyone! Cheers!

Happy New Year everyone!

Congratulations MrsA ... sorry things didn't work out the way you hoped, but you did amazingly getting as far as you did.

Sorry C is being challenging... dd2 is charming, funny, cuddly and delightful... she is also a complete mischievous monster pretty often. She delights in doing anything she knows I don't want her to do, and will spoil something dd1 is doing, or break something just to provoke a reaction. I find it really frustrating and occasionally worry that the neighbours must thing I am the crazy shouty lady. She also hates having her hair brushed, her eczema cream put on, and likes to dress herself - she will wrap herself in a blanket, hide under the table with her clothes, simply run off - anything to thwart me! Which is hard when we need to leave in 5 minutes for school and she's naked... She also seems to have been worse just over Christmas. Must be all the excitement. Dd1 has always been so much more cooperative!

splish are you describing my child?

I'm glad it's not just her then Ninja!

Happt New Year to you special ladies. Never forget you though I post rarely.