Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

[DebiTheScot]

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

bec just wanted to thank you for your London & Country tip. They've been quite helpful so far. Looks like we're on track to increasing our mortgage - fingers crossed. The new front porch is within reach!
Am sick of shoes, coats and buggy sitting in the living room (front door currently opens onto living room).

Ds will be in pre-school while I'm on maternity leave. He starts full-time in September so he needs to be prepared for it. He seems to enjoy it. Went to bed bawling. last night - thinking about how much I love ds and how he doesn't deserve for my love to be split between him and another baby. And wailing more when I realised new baby wouldn't get our full undivided attention as much as ds has, like when ds used to wake at 1am screaming for no reason we would both be up comforting him for hours. Hormonal maybe?

No worries dg

Ds1 was at school by the time I had Toby so I feel they both got a good crack at me (so to speak!) Lots of 1-1 time with both of them and I enjoyed it.

It will be fine, honestly! You dont think its possible to love another dc and then....your heart just finds the room

dg your love won't be split - your heart expands (so DP says, as this One will be his 3rd, my 2nd)

And there is only ever one pfb - all the rest share, it's how it's been and always will be. I'm a second child and don't feel I got less attention.
It is a concern though, especially as C will be going to nursery s full days a week to give me a break for no good reason.

Currently playing music LOUD as C is overnight at nana's house for the 2nd time in her life and we have a child free house to ourselves. Loud music, indulgent food, a lie in and lunch at Carluccios!!
DP is loving it cos he never gets to play his albums properly (it's his work as well as pleasure, so he has a serious hi fi system). Good job we're detached!

s=3!

Happy maternity leave MrsA .

Sorry to hear about the nursery woes - dd1 is usually ok about going to nursery but sometimes has little wobbles and doesn't want to go.

Aagghh the house is driving us crazy however we are in a better place than we were a couple of weeks ago. We are hopeful to be back in by earlyish December and definitely in time for Christmas. I love my parents dearly but staying with them is sometimes quite strained.

Have a good weekend all .

bookmarking and trying to catch up.

Carrie your holiday sounds AMAZING! I want to stay there.

MrsA Hope you're having a fun night!

digi fingers crossed you get some money.

We also get "I don't want to go to...." while crying. Then later he sobs "I don't want to go home, I want to stay here" Grrrr!

Off to Wembley tomorrow for 2 games of rugby league.

digi I have dreams of a nice porch too. Or, if I win the lottery, a boot room. As it stands I have my shoe rack in the corner of the living room. Pleased the mortgage situation is improving for you .

The children woke up just before 7am today and spent 2 hours screaming, whinging and flinging breakfast before I gave in and let them have cbeebies. I wish they'd just play nicely for a bit .

DS still cries some days when I take him to school, although he happily tells me he's going to do it so I think it's more for attention than not liking school.

kagey Fingers crossed you get a nice Xmas in your house.

Digi your heart grows so you don't give them half your love each, you have twice as much, in my case 4 times as much. Granted you have less time but you always have more love

What a weekend. I've been stuck with the children all on my own and only had a couple of adult conversations. We made it to the local firework display last night, they were quite well behaved really.

It's times like this I totally understand why some single parents just shack up with anyone, at least there's someone to speak to or you can leave the house without dragging the children along. My sister has only been away for one week and I'm aleady getting twitchy at the thought of doing every single bath and bedtime on my own until Easter, she used to pop round once or twice a week and give me a hand. As soon as she sets foot back in the country I'm handing her beloved neice and nephew over to her and going for a long run .

I'm now on MrsA baby watch. A lack of FB updates or posts on here and I'll be convinced that baby has arrived!

Oh some reassurance ladies please. Have just dropped C off at nursery feeling so guilty. Officially on mat leave and so there is no reason at all to put C into nursery now so I feel very guilty doing so. She said can I stay at home and watch tv with you? Thing is I have a stinking cold so am not sleeping on top of the pregnancy not sleeping and 2am trips to the loo!! I'm fit for nowt and having mild constant period pains (but had acupuncture yesterday), so C will probably have a better day at nursery but I still feel incredibly guilty. Can I have an unmummsnetty hug if anyone's around please? :(

for MrsA. Don't feel guilty. She's spending quality time with her friends, learning some very good skills and is being kept in a routine that is important to her. Enjoy slobbing.

So DD and DS1 were both dry overnight and DS2 slept through and had to be woken at 7am

Big big bear for mrsa. Enjoy, indulge, relax and recover and you'll be in the best possible place for giving birth, and you'll prob feel like you're being a better mum to C when she comes back coz you'll be well rested.

Have a lovely nap mrsA.

Anyone with older kids know when this phase of everything is fine:everything is terrible flip-flopping/want stay here forever will pass???

MrNC collected A from nursery yesterday and took an hour to get home as despite tricycling beautifully all the way there, refused to sit on it on the way home or kept putting his feet under the pedals. He went in the pushchair this morning (after strops about not wanting to go, then did want, then got there and didn't want, then was persuaded to play dinosaurs, then one of them looked at him funny so had tantrum, then he refused to use the toilet, then he decided to sit down next to his friend and ask politely for cereal like a total angel and smiled and said see you later mummy...)

I'm being hormonal too - can't believe I might end up with my dream family of multiple kids after all this time so keep having nightmares about death etc. And spending most of yesterday puking didn't help - hope I'm not becoming intolerant of codiene as I'm running out of drugs. Gas and air will be about it and they won't prescribe it and my goth friends don't use it any more. Anyone know anyone in the catering trade?

bookmarking...

....hang on.....

nc what did your Goth friends use G&A for? Getting wasted?! Is that a goth thing, I've not had any close goth friends.

I was wondering that too Meglet, and the comment about the catering trade. Do you think NC has secretly been on the g&a?!

How are you feeling MrsA? Sometimes you just have to look after yourself, because no one else can. But, when you're feeling better and if C wants to stay at home for the odd day, then why not? The odd day of a change from the norm can be great for everyone.

Your sister being away must be difficult Meglet. In reality you do the majority of the bath/bed anyway, but knowing you have to do it seems harder somehow. I hope you've managed to have some adult conversation this week.

iltmimi link to G&A wiki page. Something to do with whipping cream?

You can see why it never took off as a major recreational drug, not much chance of smuggling a cannister into a club!

Basically the canisters used to propel cream through industrial squirters are nitrous oxide, so you take the canister and squirter, fill a normal balloon with nitrous, and then sit down and inhale just like you would in labour. And either get very happy or rather sick, like in labour.
Given the long list of drugs I can't take, I was very glad to know in advance that g+a is fantastic for me! :)

It took off in clubs for quite a while - you could get canisters about 2 inches high, and it was perfectly legal, but then the Daily Mail brigade decided it was too much like fun and someone might fall over and hurt themselves - the clubs' argument that people were sitting down wasn't a sufficient defence so they had to stop it. And the online suppliers clamped down on selling it too, even though it's still legal.

So after birth it's back to the booze as the only feasible recreational drug. Mmm, whisky and red wine (not together!)

Hi everyone.

Toby been vile today (he was tired and is...well....3)

House move still on but bank being really slow to do anything - valuation only done today 4 weeks after we applied for the mortgage and told them the tight timeframe

This morning got a letter from GP asking to speak to me about my last bloods tests too...thats never good is it?

Ds1 just came into the lounge - more or less still asleep - walked round the room 3 times and then wee'd in the wastepaper bin!!! Then went back to bed...didnt see me or hear me calling him!!! Weird! (and smelly) so now I need a new bin!

Sigh.

What a day.....

Morning all. Am hacked off at DP and need to rant.

He has taken her to nursery this morning as I am picking her up early for some quality time later on. I took her and picked her up yesterday as he got stuck in Sheffield (we normally share). No problem.
This morning, he got up and went downstairs and made a cuppa and out the rubbish/recycling out. I then got up, showered and got C up, dressed, washed, hair brushed and gave her breakfast. DP sat on the loo for 20mins, showered and got himself dressed.

I put C's boots on and got her ready to walk out of the door. We leave around 8.30 and I reminded him he needs to stay with her at nursery for a couple of mins while she settles. He comes down at 8.35 and then gets cross with her cos she dawdled getting into the car and insisted on coming back to me for another kiss. She has been a star all morning and he gets all cross and says 'I have to go to work and earn some money', and says he'll go without her if she doesn't hurry.
I was cross as it's not her fault he is running late and whilst I appreciate him putting the bins out, it takes alot longer to get C dressed etc. Plus he will have to do some of this soon once the baby arrives - in the early days I'm expecting him to get C ready completely and breakfasted and off to nursery while I stay in bed and recover/feed baby.

Grr - rant over. he thinks he has it harder as he has to work and I get to 'laze around' - yes, growing a baby, birthing a baby and then looking after one!

Sorry, just annoyed.

On the plus side, had a fab midwife appt yesterday. I had been getting worried as my blood pressure is creeping up and I have some ankle swelling. She was lovely, was not at all concerned and urine was clear. She said baby is so far engaged, she can't feel the head anymore so doesn't think I'll go past term (next wed!)

Not long now MrsA!

You say you are expecting dp to deal with C in the mornings in the early days, however have you made this clear to dp? Dh is great with the boys, but tbh I often need to spell out my expectations, otherwise he doesn't give it a thought. It does get tiring being the one who is planning ahead for nearly everything, but dh is like that with all aspects of his life, not just with the boys, that's just him. However on the plus side, he takes my direction very well!

I suggest you have a chat now and plan how things are going to happen over the next few days, weeks, months. Then hopefully you can avoid any conflict.

Oh, and give him a bash round the head for saying you laze around. Bad form! That sort of comment speaks a thousand words.

M is at pre school this morning and instead of getting on with some chores I'm stuck on the sofa feeding I and MN'ing - ah well!

mrsa If you are expecting dh to do the morning routine with C - and why the hell shouldnt he!!!?? - then you may need to back off a bit now before baby comes and let him - and C - get used to it.

Dh is the same...I have the morning routine down to a fine art by now, but he would be useless as he never does it.

Hi everyone. Lol at the goth G&A story!
mrsA it sounds like a bit of expectation management is in order. I know that I do loads of planning in my head and totally forget that DH isn't party to it, then wonder why he isn't fitting in with my plans! A calm conversation one evening about how mornings might look once baby is here will help a lot.
Bec :( about house thing, really hope it gets moving, there's still plenty of time before Christmas!
DD is sooooo tired again already after not quite 2 weeks back at school. Roll on the Christmas holidays! Both DSs being great though, having lots of fun with DS1, and DS2 is properly ginaified as we like to call it . Has only slept through on 3 occasions, but given as he's nearly 16lb at 10 weeks old, I think he's just too hungry to do the full 8 hour stint every night, and he usually does 6 1/2 hours. I'm going to try and hold out with ebf until we wean, but I'm sure we'll wean early (keep telling myself he could have been born 5 weeks earlier than he was and still considered 'term').
We were in mothercare this morning and I saw that the baby car seats go up to 13kg...DS1 (my three year old) is only just 13kg!!!! I've recently bought him his first age 2-3 trousers

carrie I love the way you (and I) don't think 6 1/2 hours is sleeping through when it comes to our own babies . .

Mine have got their own back in the last year though!