First year nearly done , our October 2010 babies will soon be one

[MonsterBookOfTysons]

Welcome to our cosy, new thread.

[NoHunIntended]

Mock, I am absolutely appalled for you re your mother. You are doing amazingly well. So sorry. I'd be furious. I am very lucky in that both my mother and MIL BFed and are extremely supportive with it - well, it's just a non-issue, but at least I don't have them even mentioning or pushing formula.

Re co-sleeping, I just have to be alert to his escape attempts! :) To be fair, he sleeps so long, I can't complain about having to get out of bed when he is ready, so I just get up. I have started getting us to bed before midnight now, and he usually wakes up at 9.30. He has one or two stirs in the night for a bit of a feed, but I am not much disturbed.

[MonsterBookOfTysons]

Mock that is terrible about your mum.
I couldn't co sleep with dd as then Ds would join in. Dh and I would be on the floor :)

[HarrietJones]

Every hour last night. Not wanting to feed. Just get up. My headache is worse. Dh around this am but at work til 10:30 so I really need to kick it. I'm pumped as full of painkillers as I can.

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

I know what you mean about the lack of sleep fuggy headache HJ. Drinking plenty of water should help.

I am and at my mum too. It makes me not want to leave DD with her for prolonged periods now as she's undermining how I care for her. And of course she does it with the best of intentions......I cannot see how formula can be better than my milk.

[HarrietJones]

Just had some porridge , first thing I've felt like for 2 days. I struggle to swallow when I'm like this. Also v sinusy & glue ear back

[TribbleWithoutACause]

Mock Thats horrid, why on earth did she do that? Whats the point?

HJ I hope things get better soon.

We've been offered the chance to buy our BIL's old car, it's a five door almera and is a bit older than our car (translation: older shedmobile). I've seen some pictures of it and although DH is dead keen, I'm not. I mean I wanted a five door car but I wanted a slightly newer car not an older one. I want a car that was made in this century.

We don't co sleep, I have tried it but DS is like a starfish and wants the whole of the bed. When the next one comes along, I'm going to get a bedside cot thing so kiddy winkle can be closer to me.

[NoHunIntended]

HJ, hope you feel well soon.

Mock, I don't blame you for not wanting to leave your DD with your mum. What will you do?

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

I don't blame you Tribble. Personally I would never buy a car off a friend or relative or vice versa as its too easy to be hacked off with them or blame them if something goes kerplunk 12 miles away from their house.

NoHun thinking about it, I won't leave DD with my mum in the future for more than a few hours and I will specifically provide EBM or DD can just have solid food and water until she sees me again. But for at least the next 6 months there is no scenario where my mum would have her unless something happens to me. If thats the case I'll ask my sister to take her. She's about 200 miles away but she'd drop everything if needs be. Its funny how I thought before I had DD that I'd bf to 6 months then when 6 months came around I said to DH that I wanted to go on for longer and now 12 months is looming I have no plans to stop . I don't want to express at work but I think I will stick with the morning and evening feeds when I go back to work.

[HarrietJones]

I'm like that mock. I said a year & dh said he would expect a year (as I fed dd1 that long). Dh felt 2 was too old. Now he's saying I'm not to make her stop & let her self wean. I'm not sure I'd go to 3 but I don't want to stop her myself so will have to see what happens.

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

What is everyone having for dinner tonight? Need inspiration.....

[SeaShellsInTheMoonlight]

Left over spaghetti Bol

I'm knackered. Back to back visitors etc not good. Start work next week too :(

Mock- really feel for you re your mum. I hope she respects your parenting choices more as lo grows up. As others have said, bf is just not even discussed here, it just happens. I'm ready finish at 12mths though (even though dd won't be) she will still get lots of cuddles and kisses!!

[HarrietJones]

Dd1 is making eggy bread for her/dd2/3. I still feel rough. Been to bed & ok for first 5 mjns

[SeaShellsInTheMoonlight]

HJ hope you feel better soon :)

[TribbleWithoutACause]

Mock Three bean chilli with left over rice and jacket potatoes. It was literally a tin of tomatoes with chilli, a tin of mixed beans, tin of sweetcorn, an onion and a green pepper with some tomatoe puree, sugar and herbs. Bit of a slap dash job but it'll do. BTW I'm not a tin junkee I promise . I also talked to my friend and she said the same. I dunno.

HJ Have you got anything to clear your sinuses?

I do get asked about when I'm going to stop from MIL. I don't really have any plans to. Actually if anything, getting asked about it makes me want to set up camp and feed DS with gay abandon whilst he's dressed head to toe in lavtivist slogans.

Oh BTW does anyone on here get the ABM magazine? If so did you see the picture on the back of the Mother BF her twins?

[SilverSky]

mock I would be having strong words with my mother if she did that.

I'm going to stop at a year. Want my boobs back. Think I'll struggle to wean him from his wake up feed as be shrieks til he gets it!!

We have a very screechy child today. May have something to do with his first tooth! Yup! Finally arrived!!

[HarrietJones]

Mm chilli!

Got a nose squirty thing for sinuses but not helping greatly , main issue is lack of sleep I think.

Trib are you going to the festival? Might actually meet up?

Silver- still no teeth here!

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

Thank you for your ideas- Tribble I am definitely going to try that chilli recipe! No shame in tins .

We're having risotto with homemade stock . I don't know if DD will eat any. I made her veg tortilla at lunch and it went down (or didn't) like a lead balloon.....

[NoHunIntended]

Hope your mum comes to her senses soon, Mock. Good thing you have a sister. What about your dad? You said he was on board with the BFing? Can he not be in charge, rather than your mum?

I think fajitas for supper tonight. Mmm!

Hope you all check the contents of your tins before you chuck them in the pot - there was a thread on here the other day about someone finding a dead mouse (or something!!!) inside her tin of tomatoes. Put me right off my dinner! Bleurgh.

My mum said I didn't get my first tooth until I was 13 months! Hope the teethig babies are doing ok. Mine is biting me a lot these days! (Not nipples, thank goodness - he seems to know not to bite there - just my arms, or my face!).

Four teeth here. Not much hair to speak of though. I think it makes him look younger than he is.

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

My dad would be a liability. Although he's onboard with the bf thing, his idea of childcare is as handsfree as possible which leads to many an accident....

[SpringFlowers]

Mock - I felt really upset for you when I read your post. I had all of that sort of trouble with my ex's family and it brought back the same feelings. It sounds like you have found a way of managing it from now on.

When I am at home I bf twice during the day, at bedtime and overnight. When dd goes to the childminder she won't take any milk. Her weight is low, she's below the 9th percentile so I am going to have to try to encourage her to drink follow-on milk during the day I think . I will still do morning, evening and overnight which is lovely and I have no particular plans to stop for a while. In my mind there is a size at which I feel breadtfeeding looks less appropriate however I can't transcribe that to an age. Dd is small so I'm happy to carry on indefinitely.

Ty - sorry your trip was cancelled. What were you coming to do?

The car may be lovely but I haven't been able to enjoy it so much today. It came with 'free' insurance for a week which would have been great but the cover could only be in one person's name and they had to own the car. So DH was the only one insured. I did get cover sorted properly but it took ages and I didn't have time to go anywhere . I'll be off out tomorrow though! I keep looking at it out of the window, it's lovely and shiny...

[bestfootforwards]

Gosh mock I would be furious with someone who did that, particularly the fact she didn't confess straight away.

Ds has been teething really badly for the past week, but still no sign of a tooth. I reckon its man-teething, he obviously takes after his dad, who seems to think he should be in icu whenever he has manflu.

I used to love co-sleeping, but now ds sees our bed as a place to practice his crawling and climbing skills, so it just doesn't work anymore

[busyprocrastinating]

Ooo mock am not surprised you were angry. It is really annoying when people don't look after your child the way you have decided. I've had similar problems with the inlaws.

I saw that thread Hun it has made me watch any tins carefully. Yuck.

Enjoy driving the new car tomorrow spring

Dd tends to teeth really badly about a week before a tooth starts to show. She has got two on the bottom that are fully through and three on the top which are poking out- I'm hoping another one on the top will come through soon or she will look wonky!

We just had strawberries and as a treat I put some chocolate moose on top. Dd picked all the strawberries out and threw them on the floor very dramatically before she ate the moose- little monkey

[busyprocrastinating]

Also meant to say about bf, though ad an expresser I guess I'm not the same as you, I planned to do it for 2 weeks so I am pleased that I am still doing it. I will be stopping at a year though. It's getting harder to express enough.

[MockingbirdsNotForSale]

I think I want to continue at least until DD's had her MMR as I think that bfing/breastmilk helps them get over the shock of a jab although I am FF babies settle well with a lovely cuddle. I'm probably looking at 15-16 months old I think. We'll see.

My mum has asked me to look after her dog for about 3 weeks from next week. Not too sure about have 3 dogs and a baby on my own.....might just feed the dog an unapproved dog food .....

[HarrietJones]

Wow, can't believe you are still expressing BP, major achievement!