August 2011 - a place to wAit until the rest graduate !

[MrsVidic]

Hi,
Thought I would start us a postnatal thread. Were still in hospital, here till Tuesday monitoring dd (now named Eva) and giving her the anti biotics. Im missing dd1 loads as I only get to see her at visiting and trying to contain a toddler on the ward is tough.

Firawla do you have any top tips when it comes to burping? I either have him upright over one shoulder or him sat on my lap and me supporting under his chin, but I don't often get a burp. Are you meant to just keep going until they burp or are there times when they just don't have wind??

not really, i just do same as you although i find the hand under chin one better than shoulder but sometimes i dont get anything up from him either. i just try for a while & if nothing then i give up. can normally tell if he looks more uncomfy from trapped wind i would persist a bit more with it.
also sometimes if fallen asleep while feeding i dont wanna disturb him too much with any vigorous burping..

Hi all, haven't read back on this thread yet, totally forgot it was her TBH, and haven't read back on the other thread either to see who else has had their bubbas. Not that I haven't got the time as Euan is a dream, I just would rather stare at him at the mo lol!!!

All OK here, Euan sleeps, sleeps and sleeps a bit more! He is feeding so well, lost 4oz's at his weigh in at 6 days old, his next weigh in is this Friday when the HV comes for her first visit, and he'll be 13 days old. My milk is literally pouring out and choking the poor little man where he has this adorable little cough (which is not good obviously to be choking him!!).
He loves his bath time, the first one he hated as I think the water was a little cold as we were shit scared of it being too hot despite the elbow test and have a thermometer too.

Reusable nappies are working really really well (eco bumbles and motherease wraps) and coming up spotless on a 90 degree wash which is fab!
DH is being fantastic and helping out everywhere. He baths him in the evening, changes him all day, top and tails him in the morning, dresses him, cuddles him, soothes him, and even (sometimes) sits up with me in bed when I feed him in the night.
So lucky that we work from home so DH and I will have all the time in the world with the little one and can share everything without feeling guilty the other has to go to work.

Anyway, sorry for the long self centred post, will read back when I can pull myself away again from my gorgeous little man

just read about the wind, I sit Euan on my lap, hanother hand d under chin, hand at back of neck and move his top half in a circle, and that works. Or other way is pick him up under the arms and just dangle him (MW told me this one, don't like doing it but it works when the other doesn't), also can lie across your lap face down with one leg lower that the other (bum end) and soothe his back. :)

Hi KLou - sounds like things r going really well- Congrats x

I'm currently bfeeding dd and getting ready for bed. Dd1 is staying at my mums tonight so ive enjoyed a bit of 1 to 1 time with Eva. I can not believe how quiet/ tidy/ easier it has been today! As much as I adore my toddler I am so grateful for my mum having her once a week so I can have a rest!

Dd is very windy too- I'm going to try lactose free milk etc next week to see if that helps. I find winding her as she is led over a firm cushion ( supporting her head with my hands helps)

I have another question, sorry if TMI!

Me and DP have had sex three times since me giving birth, and he has ejaculated inside of me all those times. I'm worried that I could get pregnant and so we won't be having sex again until I see a doctor which I'll be booking for ASAP. Is it possible to get pregnant so soon after the birth? I'm still bleeding (though not much) and my stitches are still a little sore. I have no idea when my periods are anymore but they were irregular to start with.

I'm very worried about getting pregnant again, DP would be furious, I want a chance to get my body back, and I wouldn't be able to have an abortion or give the baby away for adoption. It would just be a very, very bad idea. Should I take a pregnancy test in a week just to make sure? I'm not getting any symptoms, it's just me being a worrywart.

Yukana Wow, I'm impressed... three times already! I've not done it before about 6 weeks, just not felt ready. I'm pretty sure that it's not possible to get pregnant in the first 3 weeks following the birth but beyond that I imagine it could happen. I'd go to the doctor and mention it, plus get contraception sorted asap. Tbh I don't see how your DP can be furious if he is prepared to have unprotected sex - he needs to be more responsible if that's the case!

I guess I was exaggerating when I said 'furious', he'd probably be negative about it however. But I also thought it wasn't possible to get pregnant within the first three weeks, she was born less than three weeks ago, so based on that I'm in the clear, but I just want to be sure! :) We'd like to wait a couple of years before trying for another baby.

I'm quite amazed myself that we've managed to have sex so soon. Especially as I'm still a little sore! I probably should've waited a little longer to be honest, but I do have a tendency to get caught up in the moment...

klou sounds like you are really well, that sounds so nice you & dh both being able to be at home with him!
i am gonna try some of the other winding suggestions, but what exactly do you mean by danging him?? like holding him up under the arms lion king style or something else?? as ive not heard of that one but worth a try as we seem to have lot of hiccups & trapped wind here tonight.. wanted to go to bed before now but too unsettled with the hiccups so far
yukana hopefully you wont be able to get pregnant so soon but would test just to put your mind at rest and then sort contraception out asap

Yukana good god just the thought of sex makes me feel faint. if you are not breastfeeding then you will be fertile pretty quickly so get some contraception sorted! your dp must be as aware as you how babies are made so he would have nothing to be furious about.

Klou I for sitting them on my lap with head in my hands for support them run them on back for winding.

Mrs v love your dds name. I have an eve, who is sometimes an evie depending on how sophisticated she is feeling.

firwala hope your dh on the mend. my mil had a partially ruptured appendix a few years ago. was horrible.

survived first day with dh at work. DD is 8 so pretty independent and the other boys are 4 and 2 so luckily they were not too wild yesterday. ds3 only woke twice last night which is a huge improvement from bring awake most of the night. long may it continue.

Please translate spelling errors in my post-on phone with baby on my lap. Must get us ready for day ahead as have loads of visitors today-again

dh still in hospital and not doing too good really :( hopefully he will start to improve more before too long, really really missing him

HI GUYS i have a question for those of you who have had a c-section how long do you leave till you can drive again really need to do a good shop lol x

Firawla yes dangle lion king stylee He looks so uncomfortable doing it, and I do it as a last resort TBH, but it does work if all else fails.

Yukana respect on the sex :) But agree with the others, your DP couldn't possibly be angry with you if you did get pregnant again, 2 to tango and all that!!!! Are you BF??

I am dying for a good doing am not a sex crazed lunatic, but have definitely noticed the lack of in that department!! Stitches have nearly healed completely now, so hoping this weekend may be the weekend
Am BF, and we have never EVER used condoms in the 14 years me and DH have been together, so that would be VERY weird. And though we've had the talk about having another baby, and how we would be over the moon if I did fall pregnant quickly, we would always think baby number 2 would be an 'accident' rather than planned like this one. Have the HV out tomorrow so may ask about contraception and all that then.
Going to register Euan this afternoon, good times :)

lilyrae I know someone who was up and driving within 3 weeks, although I probably do an online shop if you can :) I did a 2-week one 2 weeks ago yesterday, and still have stack of stuff!! Just write yourself a 'menu' for dinners etc and order, that what I did, and boy it worked!! Just need the odd bit of fruit etc, but ordered loads of milk to freeze, and bread mix rather than bread so could make it as needed :)

lilyraesmummy I drove after 10 days last time and 2 weeks this time. You need to tell your insurance company though (mine have never had an issue with it) and you need to feel comfortable enough to brake suddenly. Supermarket shopping however - you ought to take someone to push the trolley and carry the bags for at least the first few weeks.

Re winding, I find that a good wiggle helps, I sit him on my lap and move his upper body from side to side gently. Tend to do this if the traditional method of back rubbing while held upright hasn't worked. Changing his position every few minutes until he has burped enough seems to work too.

Firawla hope your dp is better soon, you could both do without this right now I'm sure.

Hi guys, I've found the thread!!! It's been two weeks today since Baby ONO came into the world. She sleeps really well, just having a 3 hour grizzly period in the evening each day. I'm pants at winding despite this being my second baby. She's now 8lb 11oz so 3 ozs up on her birth weight and 98% percentile in height!!!! The breastfeeding has been going really well and I've found as long as I don't eat onions and drink peppermint tea, she doesn't have too much tummy ache. DS is being really good aswell with only a few comments about not getting enough attention. I'm glad everyone is doing well and I can't believe Yukana that you have had sex and more than once. I will not be having sex for at least the next three months despite the midwives and health visitor literally ramming contraception down my throat!!!

klou ive tried the lion king thing and not getting any results so far, but will give it a few more tries.

ono congrats and welcome over to the thread :D my 2nd ds was 98 percent on height too and he looked huge, and got through the clothes sizes soo quick!

i am really happy now cos i am just back from seeing dh and he has improved soo much since yesterday, so i think he will be allowed home soon and just so nice to see him with his personality back after seeing him so weak and not like his normal self, so yay

I have been driving for a week (so from 3 weeks) and in fact took DD swimming and clothes shopping today whilst DH looked after DS. I agree though that you shouldn't puch a heavy trolley or lift the shopping bags just yet - online is the way to go!!

Following suggestions on here I tried the lion king hold for the first time this morning - a huge burp soon followed - and then a large percentage on his milk which went all the way down my pyjama top and my boobs....not sure I'll by trying it again!!

Burping - I find letting Leo lie flat for a little while after his feed, then sitting him up with one hand supporting him, and one hand gently compressing his tummy works quite well. Or gently bouncing him on my knee.

Driving - With my emcs after DS1 I waited the recommended 5-6 weeks before driving and slowly went out of my mind! This time after much more relaxing ELCS I waited 12 days. I did ask my Dr when I went to get prescription, and he did exam tummy muscles and scar, but he said generally you need to be able to do an emergency stop with no pain as that is what the insurance company will want.

Yukana Cudos on the sex thing, but please be careful. Not only could you soon get pregnant without even having a period, but as you are still bleeding you could get an infection too. Condoms really would be a good idea x

All is well here with us. Little Leo has put on weight and is now back up to his birth weight. DS1 is still being an attention seeking tot, but we are managing. Never knew how quiet a newborn could be as DS1 had raging colic and used to scream every hour or day and night. I am thankful for every night when Leo settles peacefully, just got to work on getting him to settle earlier now

In response to the driving question, for patients at work who have had abdominal surgery we advise them to sit in a stationary car and as long as they can comfortably do an emergency stop and twist to check their blind spot then they are ok to drive. Plus it's definitely worth letting your insurance company know as they try to wriggle out of anything!! xxx

Hi all - I can finally join you!!!

I had a wee girl yesterday morning at 8.14am at 9lb3oz. Labour was really tough!! I will talk more later about that.

I'm fine and Grace is the most perfect angel of a baby, so content and quiet.

I'll post more when I am settled

Congratulations Evie!!! Beautiful name :)

congrats evie!! sorry your labour was tough but glad you are both well

Congrats Evie!

I'm struggling here with my toddler! She has been having accidents increasingly weeing when I'm feeding! I'm stressed anyway and just want to shout at her as I feel so frustrated (she has been dry for months!) I have to grit my teeth and remind her of the potty and try not to over react!

I'm going to buy a star chart tomorrow and pray that works