July 2010: the "a ffffew more birthdays, a ffffew more walking but are they all sleeping? Are they ffffeck!" one

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mlic so sorry for your news. When are they doing the exploritory examination for him? I want to loose more weight so think ttc will wait till after christmas. Think dp would like to go quicker I'm just happy knowing we can try again. But only you girls know.

woodlands yuck! Why would they keep it in a jug so it could be confused with water.

mlic I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad :(

so sorry to hear that news mlic:(

Really sorry to hear that mlic.

i'm so shocked about that poster saying her 3yo was allowed to use the microwave. F's pretty sensible but i can't imagine him being allowed to do that for years.

woodlands at you being given the steriliser!! is your throat ok now?!

F didn't sleep at nursery for AGES but they cracked it in the end and since then he's had the same amount of sleep as he would at home.

did you start a thread trudy?

today, i met another mother with a ds the same age who we used to go to music class with and haven't seen for a year. we went for a coffee together and her ds was running her ragged, running off round the coffee shop, shouting, snatching F's toys etc whilst F made it worse by acting like the perfect child, sitting drawing and chatting and offering to share his stuff.

F is generally well behaved tbh except when teething especially in cafes, shops etc but has this thing of acting totally angelic whenever another child isn't - and then makes it even worse by saying embarrassing shit like "Mummy, he's being really silly isn't he?"

she was so full of praise for F and his behaviour and also A being her usual low-maintenance little smiley self . I did feel proud of my two but she was so harassed and embarrassed about her ds's behaviour that I don't think she'll be in a hurry to meet us again which is a shame as they're both lovely

oh and mlic, dh bought me a great new veggie cookbook he spotted when we were in waitrose yday. lots of asian-influence food but all sorts really. if you;re interested i'll post the title/author.

did a luscious lunch today of hoisin and sesame noodles with peas and yellow courgettes (not in book but inspired by it!)

D woke up at 6am. He did however go to sleep at 7:30 last night and I didnt hear from him til 5am!

Whats everyone upto today? Ive got a friend coming over at 3 but dont know what to do til then, its going to be a long day. I feel like Ive been up for hours already.

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Talk about pride comes before a fall. Last night was a stark reminder of why my children are so good in the day - it's cos I'd bloody kill them if they weren't given they're so crap at night! Last night was the worst night in ages - A up between 11.30pm and 2am, both woke up at 5am and then again at 6.30am. Thankfully they're both in nursery this morning so I can go back to bed. Poor dh has had to drive to Leeds to interview people, he looks very tired.

Where are you all and what are you up to today?

Well having cought up on here and totally neglected my child im off to get ready for work! Booooooooooooooooooo!! Do NOT want to go at all!
CM is on hold so DH has D today and tomorrow. I hope he has two good and successfull days!

Fuck!!!!! A nearly just went down the stairs. Noticed a suspicious silence and looked out of bedroom door to see F had unlocked stairgate and gone downstairs (to get his drum it turned out) leaving stairgate wide open. A was literally halfway over the top stair when I grabbed her.

Has this happened to anyone else with two?

Very envious of your night dh which is something I never thought I'd say!

cake thanks it probably wont last though. I dont have a problem with stairs in that I dont have any! At other people's houses he tried to climb up them and has fallen from 1st and 3rd steps before because I wasnt watching hes very fast.

cakes I left the gate open yesterday then I went into kitchen and caught sight of L half way up the stairs! he can soa set of stairs as quick as I can walk them, we cant fit a gate to the top, he ran at them for the first time last week, kuckily dh grabbed him. I want L to be like F when older, he sits in high chair really well when we eat, smiling at other diners, when we took mil out she said oh he wants to get out and took him out to play which pissed me off but when they got back I told her next time he stays in the highchair til we are done (I was pissed off that SHE got up while I was still eating too)
mlic not nice news for your grandad :(
My plans for this week are to stay in the house apart from the daily walk and clean, the house has been neglected while ive been ill and I will be working a lot in the next two weeks.

Sorry to hear about your grandfather mlic

cake I am being v careful now about locking our stairgate as we used to leave it kind of unlocked but closed (it's a funny one) but found G opening it the other day. Our living room is upstairs too so if she had got through it she would have been tumbling downstairs, not climbing up.

A has just got really into sitting in cafes, it was fine when she was a baby and then when she got to about 2 she just wanted to get down and wander around all the time. I had a list of tried and tested "cafes with sandpits etc" that were great with a kid who wanted to play. Now she is really into having a drink and a cake or whatever and sitting at the table with me. Sometimes on the weekend just she and I go to a cafe for a drink and a chat - she loves it.

Got to go, Corrie is starting.

Oh and I never see a pregnant woman and get "bump envy", I just feel relief it's not me!

wss I dont get bump envy either, would much prefer it if you could buy a baby off ebay!!
mlic I think L may be the same in the never stopping he has toys in his cot and he plays with them in the morning butnot at night hes too shattered, he has spent the last hour climbing onto the sofa then going to the arm and swinging off it onto the floor. He hates eating at home and screams while I strap him in, but when we are out if there are people to watch he is happy with that, we went to a fourt court yesterday and he was a nighmare as I found a booth away from everyone so he could hear everyone but couldnt see them so he just threw his food on the floor and got grumpy.

cakes I can second your oh shit moment, ive just been chopping fruit and put the sharp knife at the back of the worktop, heard the dog jump onto worktop, 20 seconds later L walks in weilding the knofe like a mad man

Long post alert!

Interesting discussion and along the same lines of what I've been pondering. Before I start my tfhread, I would like one last question/survey with you lot. ffSince ours are all the same age, it seems to make sense.

Me and DP have fwondered whether a lot of her screaming is down to boredomf. She can't seem to entertain herself or look at stuff for just a second. Toys get flung around, but not played with. I need to be IN HER FACE, singing and dancing. I have to ffget out my flamenco shoes and put on a performance for dinner (might be exaggerating here) in order for her to eat. She hates the pram cos she doesn't have total attention and gets bored.

I'm not sure if it's something that we did that made her like that. I remember us saying when she was little and we saw other prams with lots of toys on, that we don't really need this as she is happy watching the leaves and the clouds.f At some point this turned and I'm not sure why. It doesn't ffreally matter though cos I'm not out for fblaming myself, fjust fixing it really.

At the moment my two options of the day are, sitting on the floor with her (in the house or playground, playgroup) and her moaning and crying, or getting on with stuff and have her screaming until she chokes or is sick. So I wonder if I just have to bite the bullet and do this for a couple of weeks, obviously not completely ignoring her, but maybe doing stuffff ffor 15 minutes and have her getting used to playing on her own.f Then give her attention again. It's gonna be horrible to have her scream full on, but to be honest, it's pretty horrible at the moment, and me and DP ffhate every day, which I hate even thinking.

So my question for you all is. How do you do your chores? Where are your babies, when you wash up, cook, clean? In the highchair and you chat to them? On the ffloor playing on their own? Any tips you can give me will be gratefully received.

Also, what do you do all day with them so they don't get bored. M won't concentrate on crayons or wooden puzzles or stuff like that.

cake I feel so sorry for your friend in the caff, cos that most def. is me. I don't like to meet people in public places anymore for fear of the screamer striking...

mlic maybe your right that it could be MMR, Since ive had the letter for L's jabs ive been reading on the net and I read that it can be up to two weeks before they show any symptoms of feeling under the weather.

trudyla L is big into megablocks and stuff like that that he can sit and cocentrate on or if he is in a different kind of mood throw them about making lots of noise, he didnt like me doing chores in the other room until he was mobile but i just let him moan, I u1sed to put him in the highchair. with toys and snacks (dh still does) I just ignored hs moans and got on with it, but now he is mobile he follows me if he wants too but usually just plays in the other room, he also loves music playing of any kind it really chills him out