July 2010: the "a ffffew more birthdays, a ffffew more walking but are they all sleeping? Are they ffffeck!" one

[CakeandRoses]

stac I let D have a 2 hour nap this morning because I joined him halfway through and got an hour myself! Can you have any sleep during the day? I know its not the same as having a decent night but it may help a little with how you feel. I get that so tired I feel sick thing too.
I havent spoken to DH no but I keep dropping hints like saying 'you're lucky to have me arent you!?' and he said he was going to buy me flowers (nothing to do with what I found he's been thinking it for a few days) so we'll see what comes of it.

We've got 8 different ways of accessing the internet in our home so its hard to keep tabs on all of them!

chulita some babies are just like that, we've been unlucky I think! It WILL get better

dh I wish she would but she'll fight it till about 3 then nap for 30mins. I'm going to put her in the room to nap see if it helps.

mlic I'm begining to think its both as she has a tooth just came through.

Thanks chulita I don't know what to do with her, she just fights it like mad.

Well that went well, S has just had an hour's sleep. He usually has 2 hours at lunch as well as his hour and a half in the morning :( so this is one hour since 5.30 this morning and my nap is down the plug hole, feel exhausted.

mlic get some lunch, if he screams, he screams. Do you have a sling/carrier you can shove him in? make sure you eat or low blood sugar will make everything seem a million times worse. Does he scream in the buggy too?

tsc not too bad then you didnt indulge her, she probably would have been a lot worse if you did. but how did you not scream at her 'leave Clara's hair alone you stupid old bag'?
chulita L literally runs everywhere thats why he falls so much, he always falls on the pavement scraping his a rms but it doesnt mark him, I would scratch and bleed everyday if I was him!
He is really unhappy today, crying and apart from that is very quiet, he just heard next doors gate bang and ran to door shouting daddy :(

feel for everyone with babies suffering, its making me rethink MMR on wednesday.

meal plan
m-fresh ravioli with pasta sauce (shop bought... but better than a ready meal IMO)
t-same as Monday as im on my own!
w-pasta bake
t-pie- dont know what flavour but prob with mash!
f-curry feast, going to attempt bahjis!
s-hopefully all you can eat chinese

I havent got a meal plan yet for this week, we're having curry tonight but I havent got anything else in.

My plans were on hold a bit today as I was supposed to be meeting these 2 'friends' we all met at a group but they do everything together and have alienated everyone else. One of them text me earlier saying sorry we're going into town for food gee thanks for being so kind letting me know you ho bag. Sorry she really gets on my wick, theres 100 photos on fb of their kids sitting in trollies/buggies together being 'best friends'.
So instead of going to get the fruit/veg/rest of the weeks meals I was hanging around waiting to hear when I was meeting them as I didnt want the food festering in the car.

R had a 2 hour nap . I took her into the room closed the curtains and she fell asleep. I definitely think she needed it. I got 40 winks so feel a bit more normal.

Meal plan -

M - Pork loin chops, potatoes and veg
T - fajitas for them - chicken and tomato pasta for me
W - something quick as I'm getting my hair done
T - baked potatoes for me - mince and potatoes for them
F - stir fry for me - whatever they want
S - omelettes
S - sunday roast, beef for a change

I'm going to have to ask nursery for tips on how to get J to nap - he slept for 1hr 20 mins there this morning! I spent an hour trying to get him to sleep on me this afternoon - he eventually dropped off at 4.10pm and slept till 4.40, so goodness knows when he will go to sleep tonight. Trouble is that he woke at nursery at 12pm, so couldn't go through till bedtime without another sleep.

He seems to love nursery - he bounced with excitement when we arrived, and though I got a big grin when I collected him, he would rather have carried on playing than go home.

Blimey, I don't know where you all get the energy from to make those fancy meals. I'm with MLIC's meal plan. We've had take away for the last 5 nights in a row cos I just can't face standing in the kitchen after a long day. What with all the parties I seem to have lost every bit of energy. I wonder if it's to do with me approaching the third trimester as well.

Sorry you are having such a rough time MLIC. I really, really feel for you and me considering that I was hoping things might get better once she can walk. That's a bit unfair though. M seems a lot happier these days. Her seperation anxiety is still just as bad, but as long as I sit with her and don't move, she's fairly happy. So I'm pleased about that. ffWe jusft have fto work on being able to move and do something now

My midwife was here today with her 4 months old baby boy. He is tiny and gorgeous. All OK with my baby boy. When I was holding her baby and M looked at me puzzled it really hit home that she is gonna have to share me soon. I felt sooo sooo bad about it, like I'm letting her down. Did you feel like that second/third timers? How did you deal with it? I tried to discuss it with DP but he got really angry saying it's ridiculous and it's the best thing for her and she will always have someone to play and it's the right thing for us and I'm not to mention it again. Mhh, I see his point but I hope I will be strong enough to always think of it when she looks sad.

I posted a few pics of the birthday cakes and M on our FB group. They seem to have disappeared again, can someone let me know whether they are still there? I will have to delete the ones of M soon again, cos DP doesn't like havingf her pics up but I suppose they are OK for a while.

tsc Glad granny is gone. So is F better/ Sorry, I didn't understand the inhaler bit.

Gosh chulita S rfeally has it in for you today, doesn't he. Hope he managed okay till bedtime.

dh They sound like real bitches. I hope you're not gonna bother with them again. I hate it when I put my plans on hold for other people and then they mess me around.

stac Glad she napped well. Here's hope for a better night.

woodlands I'm really pleased J lovesf nursery. You must be so relieved. I think it's funny that he sleeps better there than at home. Maybe they do have a secret. Maybe you just need more children around

Right, take away will be here soon. Better go prepare the trays

Sorry everyone is having such a hard time with clingy and non sleeping babies.

tsc I'm.glad that the christening went well and that granny was relatively normal. Well as normal as I think she can get.

dh they do sound horrible.

Well B's party went really well and sil was on her best behavior. There spending Christmas with her family this year do hopefully it will be quite a while before our paths cross again.

I love all the birthday cakes everyone has made. I just bought a catepillar one from Tesco because I couldn't be arsed to make one

Does anyone remember cremola foam it was a powder that you added to water to make a fizzy drink. I've asked dh about it and he has no idea what it is so I think it might of just been a Scottish thing. Well I've been trying to source it for years it was something that we always had as a treat when we stayed at grannys.

Anyone I've finally managed to find some on the internet and am ridiculously excited about it.

I was just curious if anyone else had a favourite sweet that reminds you of you're childhoods which you just can't find anymore. ( go on make me feel better about being excited about finding what is probably just red coloured sugary crap again :o )

Will post properly later but just wanted to say trudy i felt exactly the same, i think it's pretty common and also understandable. i cried quite a few times when pg with A about letting my pfb down, losing our bond, not loving no 2 as much etc etc.

since she's arrived i haven't felt like that, not even once. it all feels so right and natural for there to be 4 of us, there's so many special moments which wouldn't have been the same without A there and i love her to bits of course. i'm certain it'll be the same for you.

dylthan wham bars are my weakness, when I lived i Wales I got the local paper shop to buy me in a box of 100 at a time! But you can still get them, I used to have Lemon Sparkle ice lollies, I havent seen them in about 12 years, we used to slip out the school fence and get one from the park shop at lunch mmmm
dh they sound like utter twats, best to leave them to crawling up each others arses!
I have put L to bed, he is awake looking at his new book but he will drop off soon, hes so sad :( I couldnt look at his sad face any longer :( :( he hasnt got a temp or anything I just cant figure out whats up with him.
I bought a chinese and a bottle of fizzy pop for my tea! and the house is a tip but I cant get my arse off the sofa, hmm I reckon I will be cleaning at midnight when I cant sleep because the man of the house isnt here and I will be worried that the bogey man might come knocking!

Thanks ladies I didnt think I was being precious. My day is being topped off by D refusing to go to sleep. Feel like throttling him really. Hes playing in the front room now and Im in a foul mood.

Aw dythlan if I'd known you were looking for cremola foam I could have sent you some. There's a shop near us that sells loads of childhood sweets. Its definitely like being a kid in a sweet shop . Glad sil wasn't a bitch and you don't need to see her for a while.

dh that's so irritating for you and childish of them, better off not doing anything with them imo.

trudyla I felt exactly the same way with L last year, I couldn't believe I was going to betray her by having another baby and having to share her. I'm sure it's perfectly normal :)

memphis poor L and his sad face :(

I'm off to bed in a mo, the dc have been full-on screambags all day and I'm utterly shredded. It's not a full moon is it?

Phew, I'm glad I'm not the only one ffeeling like betraying my PFB. And I'm pleased to hear that these were just issues before the "new" ones were born. Most of the time I know it's the right thing and I want them close together. It just really got to me today when she looked from the baby boy to me, then back at the baby and for some reason it broke my heart. She didn't even cry or act angry, she just looked, what I thought was sad and DP thought was curious.

Good night chulifta. Tomorrow will be better!

MLIC It does sound like he's been through a lot lately. I really hope he gets better soon. Has E been as challenging lately?

Glad the FB pics are on. I might post some more later as I'm just downloading a few from here and there trying to get organised enough for printing.

I bid you all goodnight.

Trudy I too felt anxiety about the effect of second dc on first. We weren't initially sure who would have A when I went into hospital to have G and I remember saying to dh "You can stay at home and look after her and I'll go to hospital by myself!". We had friends looking after her in the end and I was frantically texting them to see if she was ok while I was waiting for my caesarian . She was fine, didn't bat an eyelid about the whole thing and when she came to see me in hospital was totally besotted with G and barely gave me a second glance.

It does make it even better with four rather than three in the family, lots of lovely memories of them already and I try to forget about the first few months when G had reflux.

Shocking night for us, normally so good these days, G was up 1-3, then A trotted in at 3.30 saying she wanted to get up and watch TV so I had to shepherd her back to bed and lie with her till she went back to sleep to stop her getting up again. So sleep from 10-1 then 4-6.30 for me hurray

Oh and A's first day at "big" pre-school went really well, she looked so grown up when I picked her up.

D went to sleep at 10 last night, he was really wired, kept wanting to get up. I might have a look at blackout blinds. He did wake at half 5 but I got himback to sleep on and off til 7 when we got up. (he also woke at 3ish )

Its going to be even hotter today, Im going into town to meet a friend today and have lunch.

Ive got to still see these 2 women who fucked me around yesterday every mon at that 20s group. I dont want it to be awkward but I dont want to just let it go when it actually really annoyed me and made me feel like I was second choice. Ill just ignore them

I'm so sorry he is back to his old ways MLIC. Let's just assume it is because he is poorly. It will be better soon! FWIW, the aggressiveness really gets to me to when M shows it. How can they be like that when all we've ever shown them is love and tenderness? I really don't get it. Must be pain or frustration and their only way to express it, I suppose. It will pass!

dh Sounds like a shit night again. Must be so tiring. Yes, try the black out blinds. Is he in your bed all night, or sometimes in his own room?

wss Totally understand your texting when you were in labour. I have actually been thinking that I might have to do the birth without DP. At the moment there is no one else that can look after M, cos she just screams when she's with others, so unless things maffisely change over the next few months, I might hafvfe fffto make my peace with it, even though we would both be quite sad about it. Oh well, there is still time.

It is nice to hear yours and cake's experiences of the family just not being complete beffore the tiny ones came. Makes me ffeel all warm and glowy inside. Thanks!

fThe weather is finally improving here so after days of being stuck inside, we might be able to go out today. Hooray.