Just mumming (viroids 1)

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So we don't scare the viroids on the antenatal thread with horror stories of no sleep, chomped boobs and endless laundry or make them envious with tales of cuteness....

Watching master chef Australia whilst eating tomato soup for lunch .

Just got back from seeing a friend who has her baby last week. DS totally overstimulated and very tired! I also think he dropped one of my favourite his toys out the pram. Might retrace steps in a bit.

2 new top teeth just visible - I hope the worst is over.

There's MC Australia? When's that on? We don't have a tv but am seriously addicted to the professional series on iplayer!

It's on a channel called Watch, everyday at 1pm. I'm completely hooked on cooking programmes at the moment. How is your little one doing today Esk?

Frak, hope ds has had a sleep and wasn't grumpy for too long.

Mil and fil bought ds a graco swing at the weekend. It is transforming my mornings. Ds sits and fights his morning nap normally, but the swing sends him to sleep for about twenty to thirty minutes. Bliss!

Ds has just discovered he can move in circles. I'm pretty sure it is so he can turn and see the tv

Well right on the back of a horrid D&V bug (though thankfully only V for DCs) I think DD is right back into teething too! Top teeth this time. At this rate I'll be able to start her weaning straight onto a big juicy steak

Hope you found your toy Frak. It's funny how we seem to get more annoyed by the lose of a toy from the pushchair than the LOs do. Though looking for them can be a good way to get lots of exercise. Mind you the worst is when you spend 20 minutes retracing your steps only to find the fecking thing wedged down the back of the hood...

Lots of people seem to have the v&d bug at the moment. My mum is just recovering from it...though she was kind of pleased as she shifted a few pounds.

Hope the toy has been found. I would be very upset to lose a toy, especially captain calamari .

Had another evening with ds screaming. He has now fallen asleep on me. I need a drink and can't reach the remote, but don't want to risk waking him again. Dh is at the pub (his bed will be the couch).

By drink I mean a glass of juice obviously

Boo to all the illnesses. We're ok at the moment, but all incubating colds so that's going to be fun. Dd is grumpy about her teeth (I assume- she could be grumpy about anything to be fair!) and I can feel 3 hard lumps in her gums which can't be comfortable. Think she's getting a teething gel addiction now! She licks it off my finger before I can get it on her gums!

Struggling with sleep again. I tried to get her to nap in her crib but I think the result has been to disrupt her going to bed routine and make her more reluctant to go back into bed after her night feed. I don't want to make the crib a bad place to be, but I can't continue with her only sleeping on me during the day as I never get anything done.

Two hours of interrupted sleep here. Ds constant suckling and waking every time I unlatch. Dh snoring.

Just got up for a cuppa. Ds playing on mat. Dh pathetically asked, 'do you want me to get up with him?'. I know I am the full time parent and dh works, but I feel like apart from bathing ds I am doing everything. Everything being shopping, cleaning, making meals, washing...everything. Aibu? I feel like a single parent.

YADNBU. You maybe the full time parent, but you need a rest to. It's hard being on call 24 hours 7 days a week, week in week out. I have days where I wish I could just grab my bag and bugger off for a few hours, but no I have to either stay home or take one or both DCs with me. There is nothing wrong with getting a little bit selfish and getting DH to help with DS while you have some you time (my trick is to book my physio appts so at nursery pick up time, so DH has to go, then I can have an hour in town after sans kids). Don't forget DH is a parent too and looking after your DS is a change from his day job.

Thank you. I feel like the cloud has lifted a little today. Things seem very bleak at 2am. I just can't seem to get across to him that I am tired of rushing everything. I can't remember the last shower or meal I had that wasn't rushed. I thought things would be better with him working from home, but if anything it is worse. I think he believes he is helping. Tried to talk about it earlier and he said he thought he had helped loads despite working today. He did make me tea and toast for breakfast. He also held ds and changes his nappy while I turned the house upside down looking for the tens machine for Nickel (which he had tidied away and couldn't remember where - it was in the drawer with my jumpers?).

I think if he helped with ds more he would settle for him and it would make my evenings easier. I always feel like he is just holding or entertaining ds until I'm ready to take him back. Don't know if that even makes sense?

Anyway, sorry for the self centred posts

How are things with you and your wee family?

Sorry your DH doesn't really get it CC. I know what you mean about feeling that he just entertains the baby until its time to give him/her back, I feel the same way, even though, so far, my DH has been pretty good. It does seem though that even on weekends that I'm the default carer and he does the odd half hour here and there when she's happy.

Looks like Nickel will soon be joining us www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/1354273-Im-booking-this-thread-early-nickelbabes-live-birth-thread?msgid=28799780#28799780

Very exciting about Nickel

Esk - default carer sums it up exactly. It kind of came to a head last night and I told him (again) how I feel. He has been more helpful today.

Felt fed up so I have cheered myself up by putting the Christmas decorations up. Normally very strict about 12 days before and after, but it has lifted my mood. Ds's face was a picture

YADNBU. The way I look at it, DH goes to work for 8 hours in the day, and I spend 8 hours caring for Isobel. That is also full time - I'm feeding her, rocking her for naps, trapped with her napping on me, taking her to swimming and music and massage (and, fair enough - shopping, coffee and Buggyfit, but she gets a lot out of that too). Because I'm BFing it's also only me who can look after her at night time. That is plenty enough work for one person! So in the hours he's home we look after her together and we share the house work. I cook and do the shopping, and occasionally I run the hoover or shove some washing in - but he does those last two as well and a whole lot more.

To be fair, though, I am a lazy cow

Wish my DH would help out with the house work. This morning I asked him to wipe the table. An hour later I wiped the table and he didn't bat an eyelid. Would have been alright if he had been busy that whole time, but there was a fair amount of time wasting going on.

Come on babyNickel!

Pmsl @ tinsel fanjo

I think I need to overhaul my MN in the new Year, but for now I can have a giggle imaging the reaction if I were to turn up to get waxed with tinsel on my bikini line. Though I imagine a tinsely bikini line would be rather uncomfortable!

We have started on solids at last (well DD has). How is everyone else today?

We've had a good day today, after a fairly difficult weekend. Dd was up last night at 11.30, 12.30, 1.30 and 2.30 for feeds. Then refused to go back in her bed for another hour or so. I managed to sleep between 3.30 and 5.20, when she woke for another feed, stayed in our bed after that one, then happily accepted yet another feed when DH got her up at 7! Of course she then slept in til nearly 10 whilst I felt really groggy.
However she actually had a nap thisafternoon, in our bed (for several weeks now she's only napped on me for max 30 mins). I spent most of the afternoon trying to get hr to go off, then she slept for an hour and has been a delight ever since! She didn't even have her daily 5.45pm meltdown.

Am hoping for a better night, don't think I can take two of those in a row!

Sounds like a growth spurt Esk. They really are hard work, but only last 2 or 3 days.

CC your DH woes could be my very own. No suggestions really...try and talk about it?

LOVING TinselFanjo

Your growth spurt sounds testing Esk.

We are just coming out of the dark here. Started with me having a cold/flu - no one prepares you for taking care of a baby when every last inch of you aches so much it feels like it is melting. I just kept thinking that at least DS was getting all the antibodies for it. Then DS has come down with a cold/cough. Poor little poppet! At least he is over 3 months so we have been able to give him CalCough. Also bought a nasal aspirator where you literally suck the snot out of them. Pretty gross but perversely satisfying

Oooh, where did u get the aspirator from? Glad you are feeling better. I had a horrid cold and tonsillitis a few weeks back and it was a nightmare. Can't imagine having flu and coping.

Just buying some supplies before hiding from the weather. It is crazy outside already with lots of shops closing early. Suddenly a top floor flat doesn't seem so clever.

I did have another chat with dh and things seem to be improving. I chose a time to talk when things were good rather than us both being tired and stressed. I think ds was having another growth spurt and it took us by surprise this time.

How is everyone doing with their Christmas shopping? I'm starting to feel more organised.

Boots, thought it was a con at nearly £9 until 2 am when I sucked about a pint of snot from my snuffly bub

Hope the storms aren't too bad. My mum is babysitting tonight as I am off to a sewing cafe to making Christmas stockings and decorations. Tempted to hibernate with her instead

You can buy aspirators from Jojomamanbebe that cost about 55 quid £9 is a bargin by comparison!