Fab Feb 2009 - pass mummy the gin, its potty time!

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New thread as the old one got filled up - hope you all find it ok!

morning all, thanks again for lovely comments. Am really not sure about my name, have changed a few times since returning to UK but nothing feels right.

Another sleepless night last night. DS went out to Brighton to meet some mates. No conversation about what time he'd be back. I went to bed, happened to wake around 3am and realised downstairs lights still on so assumed yet again he'd forgotten to turn off them realised he wasn't back yet All sorts of things going through mind, he'd had an accident, got arrested, etc etc. Refrained from phoning texting and he arrived home at 5am. Apparently no trains until 4.15am! He seemed ok, ie, not staggering in drunk and puking on his shoes so I suppose that is good but its my first experience of the late night/stay out all night situation and wasn't sure how to deal with it. I don't suppose any of you can help or offer advice either as I'm the oldest (hag) on here

Hope you all have a good day, looks like there might actually be some sun later!

nope no advise here as ds1 is only 7 but we thank you for trying out things first and passing on any experiences

friends over for a bbq & sleepover later her boys are 9 & 12 so could be in for a noisy afternoon/evening!!!!

MoS - sorry your eldest gave you a sleepless night too! I assume he has a mobile? I think I'd suggest he send you a text if he's going to be staying out till the early hours in the future so you can rest easy having checked your phone. Am impressed at his celebrating in style though!

dinky apparently they were at a club in Brighton and then there were no trains after about midnight until 4.15am! Main thing is, he came home in one piece. I have to say, he hardly ever goes out and only a few weeks ago I was sorrying about him not having any friends that he went out with, and was spending his entire summer on FB!

Any more thoughts on an evening meet up?

Would be happy to do an evening meet up - early sept looking best for me I think - and hopefully SM and Sotl can make it then too.

sounds good to me. Pick a dates someone

Oh, meet-up would be lovely. I get paid on the 10th, so sometime soon after that would be good for me!

Hope everyone had a good weekend, wedding went well, although there was a splatter of rain every now and then. M was very well behaved and was much complimented, I was very proud of her.

Slightly strange moment in the evening when another one of the guests started hitting on me, quite blatantly in front of J, who found it highly amusing - especially as the guest was a woman! She went to the BBQ yesterday as well, and blushed beetroot when she saw me and later apologised to J in case she had offended either of us!

Think the park is beconing us, I do love not working on Mondays!

Sorry I've been AWOL again, have been busy making lots of new MN friends on twitter

MrsY at your encounter at the wedding. Glad it went well and M so good.

RE evening meet, I first get paid from the new job on the 16th, but anything before then, I will try to make it. Would be great to see you all.

stbmols so it is true that they keep on worrying us until they're well into adulthood
Glad he's safe. Me and my mum always had a deal that I would text her if I was going to be later than midnight, then again if later than 3am etc and I always let her know where I was and who i was with.

Luke is still being a horrid whinger and I really lostt my rag with him yesterday. 2 weeks today and I will be at work and he will be at nursery. Bring it on.

Everyone ok?

hello all, evening meet up sounds fab. so who is going to pick date and place?
DD2 is driving me insane, her behaviour is so bad I could bloody kill her I have tried everything. I've tried sitting down and reading to her/doing puzzles/activities with her when H asleep/busy but she still is a complete bitch at bedtime.
The last few ngiths she had refused to go into her bedroom at night so have given in and let her fall asleep in my room then carry her in. Two nights ago she came in three times in the early hours saying there were spiders in her room (thanks to DC1 and 2 who made a huge song and dance about a sodding spider downstairs a few days ago!)

I am bloody shattered and bloody H is still awake! agghhhhhh.
Little shit has just said 'I tired mummy!'

MrsY woman at wedding sounds like a loon!

She was a bit!

Ok, well I'll pick a date, Saturday 17th. Someone else can pick the venue. My trains would get into Victoria or St Pancras, and would need to meet about 8 so J is home from work ...

mostbls, think you need to get DS1 to have DS2 and DD1 to have DD2 (or other way) so you can have a massage and a manicure. Or just a glass of wine and a nap!

yay, date in diary, it is starting to look like I might once again have a social life! Am sure DH won't mind me escaping on a Saturday night. Is Saturday ok for everyone else, think last time was mid-week?
No idea on venues but the place we went last time (near Victoria) was very nice. I will be getting train to Victoria.
SM and dinky can you do a Saturday or would you prefer mid-week? MrsY does J work Saturdays?

Am very pleased/relieved that reinforcements/DH return on Sunday morning. He wasn't due back til Tuesday but was really getting down there/could sense I was on the verge on a breakdown so is coming back a few days earlier. Can't wait. Think I might check into the local travelodge for a decent sleep. (and a BOTTLE of )

DC1 and 2 off visiting family for a few days so home alone with 3 and 4 who aer busy tidying/trashing their bedrooms! Think I'll just leave tidying up til Saturday night and then just get a bin bag and a broom out!

Took H to see a speech lady (SALT?) today at a local drop in clinic. I'd mentioned my slight concerns to the HV last week and she said she would send me a list of sessions which arrived yesterday and the next one was today. Was brilliant. Left DD2 with DS1 and took H down just after 9am, waited about 20 mins and saw her and she was lovely She talked to me and H and assessed him, played games with him etc and made lots of notes. She has referred him but doesn't think it is too bad but did accept there were a few sounds he did have problems with. It was clear that he uses 'd' in place of letters like c and g and even b a lot of the time and simply cannot say H which is somewhat unfortunate. He was not overly concerned and told me not to worry but made the referral. Apparently about 3 months but told me to go back and see her in 2 months anway to see how he was doing.

Was VERY impressed with her and the centre. It was a surestart centre which I didn't really know was there. I've often heard SM talk about then (long time ago) and this one is literally 3 mins walk from my house and right next to DD's new school. It opened last summer and a lot of people I think don't know about it. They have all sorts of activities and once I get DD settled in her school will take H there sometimes, they do story time some afternoons and other activities and hopefully both H and I will make new friends.

Anyway, thats me, am so glad I went and to be honest it is thanks to some of you guys who have 'talked' on here over recent months about SALTS. Without you, I'd have no idea what/who they were so thank you x

Saturday should be ok. Me and the boys will stay at my mum's that night, so I'll get into Victoria easily. Will get bus to Hyde Park and then walk from there.
If I have money spare that is.
Will catch up on your mammoth post later mos

Saturday meet up should be fine - and date looks fine. Any other takers?

MoS - pleased reinforcements are coming and also really pleased you had such a good session with the SALT and have found a great surestart centre near you. Hopefully it'll help you feel more settled in the area once you start going there and making new friends.

That's great news mos.... a good SALT is worth their weight in gold. Luckily all A's have been fantastic and have gone above and beyond chasing referrals and pushing his statementing ahead as fast as they could. He's even started interacting with Meabh his primary SALT now and communicating with her.... although he's still a stubborn wee git when it comes to attempting any of the exercises.

mos Pleased you got a referral for H.
Yeah, I used to love our surestart centre. I was there nearly every day, the place really helped me when I was in my dark places.
The reason I don't go to mine now, is that they changed all the staff and hhave a new centre manager who I don't really like. She has got a lot of peoples backs up and the place has lost that welcoming feel.
Is a shame, but hey. Suppose these things happen.

Hello all, am i allowed back?

bumps
How are you? Where have you been?

Hi SM

Been working really hard. Finished my diploma in health and social care which is being Iv'd at the moment. Have been working as well, covering lots of shifts as it is the holiday season. Trying to be a good mum to my two while being tired and stressed you know the usual ..

DP's company has gone into liquidation so he has started up a company with his friend. I am really worried about that as our house is up for loans they have taken out. Although if anyone can make it work through shear hard work it is dp. But right now is not a good time for that stress as my bp has been quite high. I am also having a few issues at work myself so all in all it has been stressful to say the least.

Baby has started measuring too big as well. It has always been a week behind but last thursday it had jumped up to two weeks ahead. Got to go back in two weeks and if the same then got to go for a scan!!

But pg going well I am 30 weeks now, having a girl and only mild spd which is fab seeing as I was on crutches at this point with ds. The little monkey just needs to slow down on the growth side of things...

bumps Well done on completing your diploma, am still working on mine , I just can't find the time!
Hope your dp's new business venture goes well, but no sense stressing over it, you won't ever be seen on the streets no matter what happens.
Glad the pregnancy is going well. and hopefully she does calm down on the growing.
Keep us updated though.

Bumps - sounds like life has been abit of a rollercoaster ride for you recently. Hope everything calms down and your DP's new business venture is a success. Try not to worry about baby measuring big - they do grow in fits and starts so it may be she wont grow very much in the next couple of weeks and all will be fine. Glad you're not suffering from spd this time round.

mostbls glad you found a sure start near you, they are a lifesaver. Mine does all sorts of funky and cheap activities. Glad to hear you saw a nice SALT and they refered you at the same time as saying it wasn't too bad. Reassuring on both points.

Yes, J works Saturdays, and I work every other Saturday (I think that's my Saturday on actually, but we'll be home by 6:30-ish so will ask him to drop me at train station and I'll head up town!).

OK - SM comes in to Waterloo. MoS - are you Waterloo or Victoria? MrsY - Victoria too. I think I have SOTL's number so will text her or FB her to see if she can make it. Any other takers - Swampy? Go on you know you want to. Calico? Would be lovely to see you and am sure you're owed a night out by your DH. STW - come on, has been aaaaaaaaaaages since last saw you and after your DH's trip to Canada you're owed alot of nights out.

Might be able to make it.....I get into Euston, but could get across London. Would love to meet you all!

Bumps good to hear from you. All sounds a bit hectic in your house but hope you get a chance to relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

I am supposed to be holding a garden party for my mum today (it's her birthday) but it has been pouring here since 7am despite the local weather forecast of a 'light shower'. I've got 10 people arriving for lunch in a cottage the size of a shoebox - we'll all be eating standing up.....

If I am able to come, I will probably come from Putney in which case Victoria isn't an issue to get to.