Fab Feb 2009 - pass mummy the gin, its potty time!

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New thread as the old one got filled up - hope you all find it ok!

SR If you are having lady problems, please get it seen to soon. Please.
Your poor dd, hope she's ok.

hello all, just stopping in briefly to welcome back all the old faces who have returned

Life a bit chaotic at the moment. 2 more sleeps (if you can call what little sleep I'm getting - average 4 to 5 hours per night) sleep until A level results so stress levels high!

DD1 away with her dad, back Saturday or Sunday and DS1 very tetchy and snappy.

DD2 driving me mad her behaviour is awful but no one seemed to believe me until Health Visitor came to see me today about H's 2 year check (a little overdue) DD kept interferring and annoying him and flatly refused to do what I asked. HV asked a lot of questions (in particular about DH being away and when he would be back) and when she was leaving (it was at my house) she suggested I go to see her at her office/health centre about DD's behaviour In a way I'm glad that someone has confirmed what I've known for a few weeks but am gutted that my lovely happy little girl has turned into a complete bitch that I'm starting to dislike immensly I'm so hoping that when DH comes back she will settle down. Its obvious that she is attention seeking but I don't know what I can do, H obviously needs more attention than her. The HV was when I said that some nights its as late as 9 to 9.30pm that I get them both to sleep and H normally wakes me 3 or 4 times and sleeps in with me. Did have him in his cot but then he started climbing out and coming in in the middle of the night so I was worried about him falling in the night when climbing so have him in with me until I can get the cot sorted/base lowered. HV also said that I looked very tired and said I needed to be taking vitamins. So, a bit shit really in the MOS world.

Hope everyone else doing ok x

Ouch SR, poor lamb. Hope she's ok soon.

Glad to hear all is well MS, don't think I could ever have a surprise. Not that I'm a control freak or anything!

Wow, Dinky, I thought one wedding was bad! Sounds lovely that ds1 is giving her away, I gave my sister away walked up the ailse with her, it was quite emotional.

talking of giving away..... anyone want a 7 year old?

MOS - I know where you are coming from dd is hard work and she is also 4 and thankfully also starts school in September

SR so sorry, missed that bit about your DD. sorry hope she is ok. H came a cropper last week falling out of/under his pram and it was pretty frightening.

oooggs will swop your 7 year old for my 4 year old

tempting............ but 3 x 4year olds!!!!!!!!! I don't think so

Hugs all round to SR (hope DD is ok and not too shaken from her accident - and gets to go round to her friend's soon), Oooggs (remember - 7 is just a phase and will, eventually pass too!) and MoS (along with lashings of sandman sand to ensure you all get some much needed sleep in the MoS household and lots of fingers being crossed for DS1's exam results). MS - lovely to hear about your scan and so lovely you're keeping it as a surprise! Are you having fun trying to decide on both boys and girls names?

SR - wedding in 3 parts actually taking place over 2 weekends - one in Ireland then one 2 weeks later near where my parents live for the hindu ceremony. Am pretty sure Danny will be barging in to give sis away too as he has to do whatever his brother does

Danny managed to give himself an enormous nosebleed this evening 20 minutes after being put down - his cot sheets and grobag were all soaked. The boy is obsessed with picking his nose but often has nosebleeds as a result. Not sure how to stop him doing it!

dinky - Luke is the same, picks his nose then it bleeds. yuk.

mos So sorry things are a bot rough atm. Really hope it improves soon.
It must be very hard for G in particular, her whole life has completely changed and she probably lacks the skills to fully understand why so is possibly feeling quite insecure right now.
Personally, I would try to get as firm a routine in place to give her a sense of security, structure in your time together for reading, playing, talking, etc. Shower her with attention whenever you think she needs it.
Is there something that H really enjoys? Luke loves play-doh, so if I need some 1:1 time with J, I cook up a big batch of play-doh and give it to L with some shape cutters and that'll give me at least 10 mins (which is quite a long time for a toddler to get 100% attention) then towards the end of the time with G, slowly try to remove yourself and tell her you will be back in a bit, then give H lots of hugs etc, then try to get them to do something together and play with both of them.
I'm sure G is just letting you know that she is still there, so try to ignore all undesired behaviour and tell her when she's doing something good and what a big girl she is etc.
She will settle down soon, when she has adjusted to her new life.
J needs more attention than L still.
As for H, why don't you just take the sides off the cot? Luke has been in a big bed for ages now, probably just under a year.

Sorry to go on there. You know me, hard to stop once I start.
Chin up though girl x

dinky... dd used to do it too and combined with a bad knock on the nose ended up with so much damage she was having several nosebleeds a day. She had it cauterised twice and they wanted to do it again but she was so young i refused as they're not too bad atm. ds1 and A get them too so we're a generally quite bloody family [sighs]

dd is fine now, I think she was a bit concussed on monday tbh but she was right as rain yesterday and my friend called round with her three kids so she had some company at least.... I'll be glad when the stitch is out on Friday though as it's right up by her hairline and catches in everything, she's sporting a bandanna to keep her hair out of it but she's such a tomboy I'm afraid she's going to snag it on something soon, the doc insisted it be left uncovered.

mos... sympathies. My 5 year old is behaving like a complete

mos - are the results out tomorrow?

hello all,
oooggs yes results tomorrow. Gulp. Can get from school at 9am but apparently may/should be able to get on school website portal from 7am and maybe UCAS from 8am (which won't give grades but will say if he is in or not!) Keep reading however that UCAS may not be entirely updated until early afternoon so am hoping we find out he has the grades he needs AAA (another gulp) from school at 7am. Not too much pressure!

SM thanks for your wise advice about G. She really is pushing it and today the DIY man I had in to do odd jobs commented on it (in a nice lighthearted way, saying you shouldn't say 'no' to your mummy)

Bloody tantrums, she had a 20 minute tantrum a few days ago as DS1 gave her an orange one instead of a pink one for her yogurt! FFS!

Right, am going to attempt to get H settled and to bed now (have taken side off cot now but he keeps getting out so am resorting to letting him fall asleep with me in my bed and then carrying him in). Not ideal, I know but am too tired for the battles. DH can deal with it in 2 weeks when he is back (and when I bugger off to a health spa for a few days!)

forgot to ask SR where in Ireland are you? Am thinking of coming over for a few days at beginning of September to visit some of my mum's old haunts. Have never been before and really feel the need to visit where she was born (Galway) and where she lived (Waterford/Wexford)

Will be keeping my fingers crossed for your DS1 MoS - and hope H and G let you get some rest tonight. SM is right (as she often is) - G is acting up for attention during the day and H is acting up for attention during the night - hopefully it will all settle down once you all get settled in your old-new (if you see what I mean) home. Speaking of which why are you mumoverseas again?

SR - its in Offey. Are you anywhere near? If so, we're there Friday to Sunday lunchtime so there may even be a chance of catching up for a coffee and mini A and D meet up

Good luck for tomorrow, mos, sure it will be brilliant. Hope H and G settle soon, it only takes 4 days to fix new sleeping patterns, so when you have the strength (or when DH is back) really push to get it sorted, it will so be worth it. We'll have to take the sides off the cot soon, but am dreading it! Do people have gates up? On the stairs or across the bedroom door?

MoS - he will only be an hour from me!!!!!!

Morning all.
Just seen your status on fb Mos, fab news
And yes, why are you mumoverseas again?
MrsY we're in a flat so don't have to worry about stairs. The only place we have a gate is over the kitchen because ds1 used to try to climb in the oven when I was in the shower!
I've always just let mine fall out of bed, they only do it a couple of times.
I might have a blue bedgaurd you can have. A friend gave it to me but I've never used it, just can't remember if we sold it at a carboot or not.

Thanks SM and oooggs I'll tell him where to take his dirty washing at weekends

Temporary namechange back as had a bunfight on Tuesday night with a loon who was stirring trouble so didn't want her following me through threads. Wanted to change to MOS but apparently it is taken? Seems odd, have never seen an MOS before Might contact MNHQ and ask.

Right, off to drop G & H at nursery (extra day booked today so Matt and I can have peace and quiet) -thought might have to be spending hours on phone but thankfully not. Driving down to his school for 9am to see what grades he actually got.

Have a good day everyone x

I always miss the bunfights! What thread was it, is it still around to read?
Re names, I do think they could implement something like if you haven't been active for a year, then your account is deactivated and you lose your talk name. That's not unreasonable. There must be thousands of names that are taken but have never ever been used.

mos and dinky... I'm in Roscommon, all the way over at the Mayo border but well used to driving massive distances to do every things so would be happy to meet either of you somewhere handier. Dinky, you'll probably be too busy with weddingy stuff to travel too far and Offaly is a bit far for me but if you do get the chance let me know, I'm extremely curious to see my little diva meet yours mos.... Galway city is about an hour and a half from us but the northern edge of the county is just just down the road so depending whereabouts you are and when you're over we should definitely be able to manage something.

Congrats to your ds1 mos, I guess you know the grades must have been good to get in though Hopefully the stress levels at home will decrease a bit now!

SM it was a thread on education 'A level anxiety' bloody cow

busy day (after VERY LITTLE sleep) Went down to DS's college to collect his results and he got AAAB and an A in his extended project (whatever the hell that is!) He was a little miffed as only one mark off an A* in one of his subjects and he wants a re-mark but I think he should be bloody grateful. So many didn't get their grades and a couple missed firm and insurance offers
G & H in nursery this morning and so we picked them up and lunchtime and walked to the local pub and indulged in a nice bottle of champagne feeling rather tired now though. DS is apparently going out with a load of mates to Brighton tonight.

I feel soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much calmer and relaxed. Can't believe how stressed I've been over this, nearly cried when he got his confirmation he was 'in'. After finding out on line he has also received a text and a letter in post from Uni so can relax now. I think I was so stressed as he had set his heart of this career around 4 years ago and didn't really have a plan B. Thanks for your support guys x

Ah congrats to your DS1 MoS - bet you're a very proud mum indeed! Hope he has lots of fun celebrating tonight.

SR - would dearly love to see you but suspect we're going to be stuck in Offlay - get there late on Thursday and civil ceremony at noon on Friday followed by pub celebrations then the celebrations on Saturday at the farm kick off at 1pm so really only have Saturday morning to try to catch up. Maybe I'll just send Danny over to meet A in a taxi

dinky... don't worry, I know what these wedding weekends are like, you won't have a minute to spare. It's a shame it's not closer though.

mos.... wow, well done to ds1 and I hope he has a great night tonight

loving the new name MoS you must be so proud

If any of you make it round the Exeter, Plymouth, Cornwall way (not too far down!!!) I would love to try & meet up

Brilliant news MOS You must be so proud and relieved!