Fab Feb 2009 - pass mummy the gin, its potty time!

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New thread as the old one got filled up - hope you all find it ok!

hello all, ref meet up, I get into Victoria but can travel.

bumps welcome back and congratulations on baby girl - wait til she is 15, right PITA! Try not to worry too much about the weight thing.

Calico hope your mum's party went ok. It was raining here first thing this morning and then started raining at bluewater as soon as I got there! what happened to summer? Lots of my saudi mates are heading back there over the next week or so and I'm almost jealous of them due to the lack of a summer here!

DH/reinforcements back Sunday. Bring it on.

My presence is required at a barbecue that day. Apologies.

Boo hiss Swampy...

Calico - hope the sun arrived in time for your mum's party.

can we all agree a different day?

I'm ok to do a different day.

let me know when you meet up and I will give you a taxt/call MoS so can be there from a distance

Morning all.... what awful weather we are having!! I think the gardens have had enough water now dont you [grumpy].

I ordered dd's school uniform (cant believe my baby starts big school) last week and still not in stock.... I am going to get myself to bhs today to buy emergency supplies but really dont want her to be the only one without the school logos on so hope they arrive before next friday as its her first day on the 5th!

I have next week off from work, booked the whole week to get the loft sorted and baby bits down and sorted. Mark obviously cant take the week off now as it will be the opening week of his business and will be in meetings and keeping customers happy so guess I will be doing that on my own then.

I am getting ms back most days now, did anyone else have this. I feel sick everytime I eat.. bleugh

We have decided a name as well so we are all set now !!

Your meet up sounds great hope you have fun

Have a meeting at work today so hope things will settle down there abit now as well [here's hoping]

right it is high time i turned cbeebies off and got on with some serious parenting.. its cupcake baking, trip to nannies then back for chilli dinner today lol

morning bumps you take it easy going up that loft and don't overdo things!

bloody shite weather isn't it. Am almost tempted to turn the heating on but can't justify it as DH had his last pay day today until god knows when. Am sitting in study next to conservatory and the bloody rain on the roof is driving me mad. Was going to take the kids to the maize maze today but thats clearly not happening now. DD is going to an outdoor birthday party tomorrow, that will be fun
Am starting to feel VERY jealous of my friends going back to the sun next week!

Bumps - I echo MoS(TBLS - such a mouthful ) - take care of yourself and dont overdo things. Good luck for your meeting and DP's new business launch.

We have had so much rain this year MUSHROOMS are growing in my new lawn

Hi all

Mum's birthday was ok in the end thanks - the sun even came out for a little bit, though it was a bit chilly so we ended up back in the house, a bit cramped but she had a nice afternoon.

Bumps my DS starts big school of the 5th too. I got his uniform a while ago but had to change it from an age 4 to and age 3! He is so skinny I could have fitted both him and Lilian in the trousers and even the age three is a bit baggy on him. Hope he isn't the smallest in the class....

DH is acting weird and moody again. It's really getting to me as he says nothing is wrong but has been distant, grumpy and only speaking to me if I ask him a direct question and then it's only mono syllables. God knows what I am supposed to have done.....he has barely acknowledged me this week and this evening when I asked what is wrong he marched off to bed without a word at 8pm! I can hear the radio on upstairs now so I am supposing he'd rather sit there and sulk than be in the same from as me. I can really do without another stroppy child in the house. I am planning to take DCs out all day tomorrow on my own just to get us all away from the little black cloud that is hovering here all the time

calico (((hugs))) men can be such twats
I'm so looking forward to mine returning tomorrow, am going to drive to LHR to pick him up and can't wait. Kids very excited although not really sure H understands. Everytime he sees a plane he points and shouts 'daddee on it'.

Very of your DS starting school on 5th. DD doesn't start full time until 19th . she has a home visit for about 20 mins on 7th and then from 12th does a week of 1pm to 3pm then full time 19th. Bloody daft!

Glad party went ok. We were a little chilly at the party this afternoon and was glad to get home

Oh Calico :-( that sounds awful. Hope you're able to enjoy your day out with the dc's.
Does your dh. Suffer depression? What you've just described is often how I behave when I hit a dark place. Dp wouldn't have done anything, but I just don't want to talk to him or be around him. Or anyone else. I can't explain it, is odd. But it's more to do with me than others, it's not that I don't want to be around people, it's more that I feel I don't deserve to be around them. I have to punish myself by pushing people away.
That doesn't even make sense, like I said, I can't explain it.

MOS, bless H with the aeroplanes.

SM no idea about depression....his behaviour makes me feels depressed though. I noticed this morning that he wasn't wearing his wedding ring - didn't say anything but wtf is that supposed to mean??

DH announced this morning that he was going to take the kids out for a walk in the local countryside (I wasn't invited) and I am waiting for a call from him to pick them all up so that they don't have to walk all the way back. Bit worried as they have been gone a couple of hours already and Lilian only has little legs.

MOS hope you have a great reunion!

Oh. I don't know Calico I think you really need to talk to him.

Calico - big hugs. Am so sorry your DH is being a grumpy antisocial pain - really hope he snaps out of his funk soon. I agree with SM that you guys need to talk but that's impossible if he refuses to spend time with you. Taking his ring off sounds like classic passive aggressive trick to me.

Thanks guys. Finally got them all back from their epic walk, I was going a bit frantic as I couldn't get hold of DH on the phone but then the mobile signal round here is pretty random. DH now doing some 'work' in the shed. Will try to talk later but it is not easy with him - he usually clams up and gets all frosty and defensive. He's done this lots of times before and then goes back to 'normal' and acts bewildered when I mention his mood swings. He is pretty anti-social at the best of times but would never admit it....

Calico - hope all ok now. Mostbls - hope you're finally getting some sleep now the reinforcements have landed and all ok between you and DH too. Bumps - hope all ok with you and you're looking after yourself and your bump too.

Hope all had a good bank holiday weekend - ours was mostly spent dragging small people around flower markets and planting lots and lots of little plants in our garden.

morning all,
Sadly DH has turned out like Calico's DH. Twunt! He had only been back a day when he started. I understand that he is probably stressed/depressed and is worried as he has not managed to get a job. He thought it would be really easy but it has not been. Nothing in pipeline, wife and kids to support so the twat carries on with his plan to buy a stupid new car that he doesn't need. We have 3! G & H have had bad coughs and croup over past few days so not much sleep going on. I was supposed to get some much needed sleep early this morning, was up with H at 4am and G at 5am then went back to sleep. So what does FW do? He comes barging into the bedroom at just after 6am when I'd probably only been back asleep for half an hour looking for some socks! No reason why, not supposed to be going anywhere just wanted his socks. So he woke me then H up again. I get downstairs at just after 7am as could hear G coughing and wimpering on sofa and of course assumed he was with her. No, he had gone out! Am guessing that he had got the train to go and pick his stupid car up which was being serviced even though the garage wouldn't have been open for a few hours when he got there. He really is a f*ing twat and I've realised now he simply is not responsible enough to be a parent, he stormed off the other day for just under an hour not saying where he was and taking my car (family car with car seats etc) couldn't understand why I was pissed off , ie what if I'd needed to take the kids to drs/hospital (the following day I did have to take H to A & E for steriods) The sensible adult response I got was 'its not YOUR car, its MY car, I paid for it!) His days are well and truly numbered!

Anyway, that is my news, it was only a matter of time. How is everyone else? bumps how are you doing, not overdoing it?

MoS - huge hugs, am so sorry you're still going through a crappy time - especially as you couldnt wait for him to arrive so you could finally get some much needed sleep and support at FW going out and leaving G on the sofa without even telling you - especially as there was no point in him going out so early! I assume he realises he'll have to sell car no 3 or 2 if things get tight?

Hello all

MOS poor you, sorry but he sounds like he has major issues. But he also sounds like my dp. When he is worried about something instead of addressing the problem he likes to make my life crap for a while... Hope he bucks his ideas up really soon!!

Well I have had my week off now and dp managed 1/2 a day off [grump] so I have not done the loft at all. We are going to do it when I am on ML so I just hope that my bp is back to normal on thursday or mw said they may have to take me in!!

DP is still in talks with lots of finance companies, and suppliers at the moment, They seem to think that his NEW company should be taking on his ex employers debts. Which of cause is not going to happen, but at the same time they need the machines and they need finance on the machines (he is in the print trade) so they are trying to find some middle ground at the moment. In the mean time they are trading and are busy but still not busy enough to pay all existing suppliers as they all seem to want him to pay outstounding debts from a company that has gone into liquidation and who he was just an employee!! I have had to step away as I wasnt sleeping and was stressing about it all... DP is doing really well though, he is working long hours but seems to be striving!

Work is still up in the air for me but hope to finalise some bits and pieces when I go back on monday.

DD's school uniform never arrived so had to do a mad dash into town yesterday. I have got all the bits but couldn't get a book bag anywhere so she has a night garden book back type thing. As you can imagine she is very upset as night garden is for babies and she is going to big school. Just hope the order comes in soon!! Although website now says up to 20 days when it was 15 when i ordered and due for delivery today!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I am suffering abit with SPD but not as bad as before, and only seems to be when I have been sitting or on my feet for long periods.. So that must mean ironings out for me now shouldn't it hehe..

Hope everyone else is well....

hello all, bumps must be very stressful in your house too with your DH's new business. A bit unfair that he should have to take on debts. If he was 'only' an employee, how can they seriously think he is liable?
Good idea to step back, I am going to have to do that with DH. He is issuing proceedings in employment tribunal for constructive dismissal and despite being a compete twat the past few days suddenly wants/needs my help. Will help him complete and file the form as I'd promised to help before but am about pissed about the crap he has thrown at me over recent days and yesterday we had 'I had to leave my job because of you/to support you'!

What a nuisance about school uniform bumps. Have all DDs ready, name tags sewn in, just need her to start! 20 min home visit from her new teacher on Wednesday then 1pm to 3pms for next week then FINALLY full time from 19th. Bloody daft!

Hope the SPD doesn't get any worse bumps I remember how awful it was during my last two pregnancies, I had it from 20 weeks with H which was awful. Definitely no ironing, can't your DH do it?

Crappy night last night, DD now has bad cough/croup and we spent over 3 1/2 hours at the hospital last night getting home around 11pm. She has had a temperature of 39 degrees for 2 days and I was a bit pissed off that they pretty much ignored her for 2 hours before giving her calpol! I'd been doing that myself for 2 days and could have carried on doing it to save all that hanging around at the hospital. Finally saw a doctor who gave her antibiotics for a possible chest infection She has just got up and have to say she looks/sounds much better. She had not been eating and in 48 hours had only had half a chicken nugget, 4 chips and 3 jelly babies! I had bought all her favourite things to tempt her yesterday, pink sprinkly donuts, chocolate button dessert, chocolate ice cream, muller corner and she didn't want any of it. That is when I knew she was really ill!

How is everyone else doing? SM started your new job yet or is that next week?

So who is up for meet up?

Oh MoS - I am so on your behalf! Your DH is an adult (though he doesnt always act like it) and makes his own decisions - I cant believe he is now blaming everything not going the way he'd like in his life on you. Hope DD gets better soon. Poor girl.

Bumps - you've really been put through things of late. I dont think your DP's business suppliers have any legal right to make him pay off his former employer's debt - in fact, they should be giving him some slack to enable him to get his business off the ground and pay them!! Hope it all gets sorted soon. And sorry to hear about the SPD - be kind to yourself and your bump.

I'm up for evening meet up on 17th.

Hi.
Bumps That sounds crap, re your dh and the debts etc.
MOS Hope DD is feeling better today.

I start my new job tomorrow!!!! Very nervous so will be spending today continuously going through everyone's bags and making sure we have all got what we need for our first days at school.

Not sure about the meet-up. I was a bit drunk a few weeks ago and booked an Ann Summer's party here for 16th, so will need to supply snacks for those who come.
I also have 3 lots of council tax that need paying now and the full water bill, plus the £1,800 standard monthly bills so not sure we are going to have the funds for it
I will see if I can work something out though

hello all, pleased to report that DD and H are both much much better. I gave DD the first lot of antibiotics as soon as we got back from the hospital late Friday night and she was noticibly better by Saturday morning and by lunchtime today she was much better and we were able to go out for a meal before taking DD1 back to boarding school and she actually ate quite a lot of her meal. Was very worried as she is scrawny enough as it is (god knows where she gets that from!) and doesn't need to lose another ounce!

Lot of excitement in the house today as we bought a rabbit yesterday and after a quiet afternoon letting him settle in yesterday we got him out for the kids to play with. H absolutely loves him and was quite distraught at bedtime when he realised that Tiddlypoo (don't go there!) wasn't allowed to sleep in his bed and had to go back to his 'house'.

DH a bit better today. It became obvious yesterday that he is very stressed about the work thing and also the claim he is making (constructive dismissal) against his former company. I realised that as a layman, it is probably very daunting having to prepare the statement and issue the application so started working on his statement yesterday afternoon then we went through it last night and I tweaked it in the early hours and we finally submitted it (its fab, you can issue online!) this afternoon. He said it is like a huge weight has been lifted from his shoulders. Of course he still needs to find a job but feels much better now the claim has been started and the ball is rolling. Even if he doesn't 'win' at least he has stood up to them and shown he won't be bullied. Watch this space.

dinky thanks for kind words, it is nice to know I'm not going mad and he is being a twat although I think a lot of it is down to stress and his way of dealing it is being a miserable old git!

meet up yay for it going ahead, will be lovely to see you dinky so who else? SM you MUST come, no excuses! So has a venue been decided?

MOS - glad to hear that your DD and H are a lot better.
My DH does the same as yours - when he is stressed he likes to make my life miserable too. Pretty selfish but at least you have got to the bottom of the issue and hopefully now he has filed his claim he'll be calmer.
My DH acted like a total twunt most of last week, refused to talk until I demanded to know what was going on. Turns out he was furious with me for talking to our neighbours - he has a long standing issue about a hedge and thinks I am taking their side FGS. Told him that I wasn't putting up with his ridiculous childish behaviour and he did actually apologise and bought me flowers

First born off to school this morn - I managed to hold it all together until he squeezed my hand on the way into the classroom - blub. He looked so small and he was the only one in the school wearing shorts, hope he doesn't notice! It's very warm here now so he won't freeze!