haven't read through all of these yet but dinky just wanted to answer your question waaaay up there ^ re. dyspraxia.
It's ds1 who probably is, and A probably has verbal/oral dyspraxia. Neither have a diagnoses as the docs over here 'don't like to label children' 
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DS1 has just started OT after being on the waiting list for over a year and she's picked up on a few issues already. His core strength is shockingly bad and he's extremely hyper-mobile meaning he has little muscle stability so simple things like writing are much more difficult for him. His teacher has issues with his distractability and lack of spatial awareness and he tends to become frustrated very easily. He's five and can't do a lot of things kids his age can, ie ride a bike, kick a ball easily, doing buttons and belts, he struggles with swimming and can't manage cutlery.
It doesn't go away... I have it too, although again no formal diagnoses. I've learned to cope better as I've gotten older and you do adapt and develop coping mechanisms but I still manage to walk into doors and stab myself with knives on a regular basis and can be ridiculously awkward at times (much to dp's amusement). I'm covered head to toe in scars due to the clumsiness and still struggle to concentrate, although certainly not as much as when I was younger.
DS1 did get insoles in Oct to help stabilise his legs and they've made a huge difference, he doesn't wake up crying about leg pain any more and he doesn't fall over as much (he used to randomly hit the ground from a standing start which was amusing and worrying in equal measure).
Just ask if you need to know anything more specific, we're not far along with OT but I've been at physio and paeds with him and have a google doctorate in the subject 
Mrsy so good to see you here, remember we're here whenever you need to talk... Benedict won't be forgotten by us. I hope the counselling is of some comfort, keep talking and don't bottle anything up.... have as many angry days as you need to, god knows you have every right. {{{hugs}}}