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dinkystinky · 21/06/2011 13:22

New thread as the old one got filled up - hope you all find it ok!

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MOSagain · 10/01/2012 17:38

MS congratulations, lovely name. Fabulous news that they let you out so early after a CS. So glad you got home for Christmas.

dinky your fall sounded scary, hope you are recovering well.

Sorry I dropped off, we were away last week (nowhere as exotic as Oooggs, only in Centreparcs for 4 days) but it was nice to get away. Went with my old best friend from KSA and a group of her other friends and it was lovely to catch up with her.

Still trying to potty train H. At nursery they have been really good and have kept at it but have to admit to being a bit lazy on holiday and at home (ie out and about and visiting friends) he is pretty good with wees but lots of poo accidents Sad

Hope everyone is ok x

oooggs · 10/01/2012 19:46

Luke is dry and no wee accidents at all but we are having one poo accident a day!

SummerRain · 11/01/2012 20:30

Another reason not to PT A yet, he's pooing about 5 times a day atm and I don't think I can stand the thought of washing that many dirty pants!

Huge congrats MS Grin i'm so glad it all went well for you and you got to have christmas at home. I love the name you picked, so pretty!

dinkystinky · 11/01/2012 20:39

My God, A and Danny really are like twins, even down to the pooing Grin We're soft touch potty training Danny at present - still in pull up nappies but being offered potty time pre breakfast, nap and bath - and he does a wee each time and even managed a tiny poo today (think he shocked himself with that mind you).

Glad you had a fab time in Centreparcs MoS and that potty training is going well.

Ooooggs - DS1 cracked wees within a few days of hardcore potty training but poos took months to crack (he used to wait for night time or nap time nappies)...

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oooggs · 11/01/2012 21:59

He pooed in the potty today but as he is standing for all his wees at the toilet he forgot to tuck his willy in and proceeded to wee all over his pants and trousers anyway!!

bumpsnowjustplump · 11/01/2012 23:13

Hello all

I am sorry for not being on for ages I have been a tad busy. Can I come and share my stories with you all and get virtual tea and such Wink

Well as you know i had poly so had too much water. Due to this and size of baby I was induced at 41 weeks (although I had begged to be induced weeks earlier they wouldn't).

Birth was horific but I now have a lovely chubby 8 week old.

I was asked to go to anti natal ward at 8am on the 11/11/11 for induction as they were worried that babies head was still unstable (due to the level of water head wouldnt go down and so high chance that if my waters went cord would decend before the head) I thought what a great date to have a baby. I arrived and got a bed straight away only to be told that the dr were unhappy to induce me on the ward and that it would need to be done on labour ward under controlled conditions in case my waters broke as the trace showed the cord was laying very close to the head. So we waited until 5 pm to be told they were ready for me. I knew at this point baby wouldn't be there that day.

I had the pesery put in and had to wait for an hour in labour ward while they did another trace. Finally sent back to AN ward at 9 o clock with the instruction that if my waters went I was to press emergancy cord and get on all fours with my bum in the air... ladylike I think not.

Mark went home and I was happily contracting through the early hours. I couldn't sleep but they were not strong enought to need pain relief. At 5 in the norning I got out of bed to go to the toilet but as I stood up my waters went. Did as I was told and the room was soon filled with lots of people peering at my bits trying to decide what to do as head was still not in pelvis and was unstable meaning cord could desend at any time. It was decided I was to be taken to delivery and put on drip while being constantly monitored and on constant trace (strapped to the bed again grrrrrrr). I was put on the drip at 6 o clock and Mark arrived. I was still just breathing through contractions and was 5 cm by this time. At 10 o clock the drip was turned up as my contractions were now very regular but not moving the head down at all I then also went on gas and air. At 12 o clock I was ready to push but the head was still no where to be seen so had to try not to push which I couldn't do so the drip was turned up again. At 1 oclock I had managed to get the head into the pelvic and mw could feel it but after every contraction it would retreat again at this point the fluid had turned green and baby was in distress with lots of decelerations on the trace. Unfortunatly there were 5 other emergancies in the department so we were assessed (blood taken from babies head while in pelvis and o2 levels taken) as being lower risk than some of the other ladies so I was left to try on my own for a little longer. At one point we thought we had it but alas she went back further than before. MW called time on my attempts at 15.00 and said I needed a section as she was failing to proceed. Luckily for me (or unlucky which ever way you look at it) registrar that came wanted to try forcepts first but we didn't have time to do eppidural at this point (I was determined to do it with out so had just had gas and air) so proceded with forcepts delivery using just gas and air. Ouch bloody ouch. I had to have episiotomy but also tore the other way as well. But at last after two huge pushes she was out.

However she wasn't breathing so had to be resusitated and was then taken (along with daddy) to special care where they drained her lungs and checked all tubes leading to her tummy were in order. At 9lb 3oz she looked like the mother to all the other littlies in scu. !! I was stitched up and taken to pn ward while I waited for news. Both Mark and baby arived later that day and all seemed well. Baby was put on hourly obs due to level of fluid and the fact she had meconium during labour. The next day she was rushed back to scu as she was gray and not breathing properally and was panting from her tummy (something begining with T but cant remember what it was) I went with her this time and a tube was placed into her lungs and a chest xray was done (at a day old ) also o2 levels checked. After several hours on a machine we were told that she has wet lungs but she was fine.

For two weeks I had the perfect baby all she did was feed and eat. Fed every two hours slept lots didn't cry much and would let me put her down. But then she developed what I thought was a cold. Didn't take much notice of it apart from the fact that she wasn't feeding and her breathing was noisy I thought it was in her nose though so was using nasal drops. HV came for her check up and sent us straight to hospital who then sent us by ambulance to another hospital. DD2 had got brocilitis.

When we arrived we were on a normal ward and dd was put on oxygen and given steroids to help her lungs. The following day mark came in after dropping dd1 off at school. He got a phone call while he was there from work, so left ds with me and went into work as dd2 seemed ok. However two hours later l looked at her and she had gone really white and her lips were blue. Her alarms were going off and the room filled with nurses. Her lungs had failed. She was still breathing but no air was getting into her lungs as she couldnt inflate them. Her oxygen levels had dropped to an alarming rate and she was wisked off to the high dependency unit.

I followed trying not to alarm ds. She was put on a machine that breathed for her and i was told that the next few hours were critical and that they had a intensive care team from st thomas's hospital in london on stand by because she may need to be taken to specialist until there. Thankfully she wasn't but she was very very poorly. She was on so many machines, her veins had collapsed at one point so drip was in her arms, it was just awful and she was only two weeks old...

She was in HDU for 8 days, I couldn't cuddle her or feed her. I couldn't see DD1 as she had a cold and wasn't allowed in. It was awful..... She seems fine now though apart from a bad eye that has a bug in it. The staff were amazing in hospital and really helped dp and I at the worst point they allowed both of us to sleep there which was against the rules but they knew how serious things were. She has a wheeze but specialist said that should go as her lungs grow and she has a shaddow on her left lung but they believe that this is fluid rather than any perminant damage. So all in all she is one strong little girl.

Monday was our 8 week check and check up and she has been discharged by her respiritory therapist which is fantastic. But she has silent reflux so now is very unsettled, upset and in pain alot so has become my velcro baby. She has however chunked up and is now a whooping 12 lb 14 oz so she is thriving...

I thought I was coping well, but it seems not I have had to buy an alarm for the mosses basket that goes off if she stops breathing because I was waking her all the time checking she was still breathing.... I have turned into a nurotic mother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I will be fine in time and the most important thing is that she is better and fighting fit.

Hope you dont mind me going on but needed to share!!

Hope everyone is well and all the feb babies are doing well. DS is fantastic he loves his little sister and is very helpful.

SummerRain · 11/01/2012 23:42

{{hugs}} bumps. I'm so glad she's ok now. I've been at that bedside in SCBU and it was horrendous, what you went through sounds far worse again. Pm me if you want to offload any time, one of the worst parts for me was the weeks and months afterward when I desperately needed to talk about what had happened to process it any no one in rl wanted to hear it.

dinkystinky · 12/01/2012 09:00

Oh my God Bumps - what a terrible and scary time you've all been through. Huge hugs to you and your family - especially DD2. I'm so sorry that you've been through all this - please do see your GP to talk about counselling for the birth and post birth trauma you've gone through (it really is good to talk these things out and you need a sympathetic ear - I'm so sorry you didnt get this SR after your traumas with A). I'm so glad the staff in the HDU were great and she's much better now - and its great that she was a good weight to start off with and is thriving now. If you can I'd also recommend trying to see a cranial osteopath for DD2 - she's been through so much and they may be able to help with the silent reflux. Take care Bumps - and be kind to yourself too. x

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MOSagain · 12/01/2012 10:33

oh bumps have been in tears reading your story.

Agree with dinky, please do talk to your GP about counselling, I really think you need it.
Thinking of you and hoping that she gets stronger and stronger and hopefully in time you can start to relax a little xxx

bumpsnowjustplump · 12/01/2012 11:46

Thank you for your lovely words. I am in the process of getting counselling. GP has warned me thought that it may take a while and in the mean time she will see me when ever I need it and has made my HV aware so that I know i have support when ever I need it. She has been really good about everything.

Thank you all again for letting me off load a bit as SR says I really want to talk about it all but IRL i am not sure who to talk to as it isnt a cheary subject is it!!!

Calico1 · 12/01/2012 14:39

Bloody hell Bumps!
What a story - how totally terrifying for you but so glad that all is now well.
Your DD2 is one brave and special little girl. Hope everything is straightforward from now on and you can relax and enjoy your family.

Here's your virtual cuppa Brew!

oooggs · 12/01/2012 17:36

What a story bumps!! So glad that everything is ok now but what a scare. Off load to us whenever you like Smile

MOSagain · 13/01/2012 11:58

AIBU? (not brave enought to venture there again!) Wink
A few weeks ago an old very good friend of mine and DD's godmother invited us to stay with her (she lives abroad) for Feb half term. I said at the time it sounded a fab idea and we'd look into it. The next day I confirmed to her that DH was up for it (me taking kids, him staying home working) and we were looking into flights. A few times since we've 'conversed' by email/FB about it and I said I was still checking flights etc. She knew the dates we were looking at.
FB messaged her yesterday saying flights really going up so would be booking quickly. Booked late last night and sent her details.

Got message from her this morning saying 'not sure what your plans are but my friend xxxxx is coming to stay then'. She is arriving a couple of days after we are due to arrive.

I have to say I'm really pissed off. She invited us we were looking forward to quality time with him and now she has invited someone else. She said not a problem we could all stay but the point was, we wanted to quality time and she invited us those dates. Am now looking at hotels which are going to cost around 1.5k so am livid. AIBU to be pissed off and should I say something?

dinkystinky · 13/01/2012 12:39

Hmm, difficult one MoS. I think I'd be a little pissed off in your situation too as you've kept her posted the whole way along - but you will get a few days with her before her other friend arrives (so some quality time before then). Could you go stay with her for the first bit of the week and then perhaps the day after her other friend arrivestake the kids to a hotel for the latter part (does that work out alot cheaper) somewhere near attractions?

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MOSagain · 13/01/2012 13:25

thanks for your comments oh wise dinky Grin
I'd probably only get 2 nights with her depending on whether her friend is arriving there in the morning/evening or doing the overnight one.
We only arrive really late on the day we get there, would probably get to her house around 10.30pm ish so we'd only get one proper evening together which is really annoying. 4 or 5 nights in a hotel is going to cost serious money and the whole point of going was to spend quality time with her. She keeps saying she doesn't see enough of DD (about 4 hours in the last year!)

Have spent most of morning looking at hotels but of course they are SOOOOO expensive as half term!

Am trying to hard not to send her a snotty message or post something sarcastic on FB Angry

dinkystinky · 13/01/2012 14:39

Ah, that's a real shame MoS. Sad She has said you can both stay there so I think I'd stay there with her (esp. as the hotels are sooooooo expensive) but plan day trips with the kids once her friend arrives (which you can invite her and her other friend on if they want to come) which gives everyone some space if they want it. Hope despite all these shenanigans you have a nice break and get some quality time with your friend.

On a totally different topic, is anyone else's little one OBSESSED with Tinga Tinga Tales? Danny and DS1 both love it - so we're having a Tinga Tinga tales themed party for Danny this year. He's so excited. Have even found a Tinga Tinga cake topper (from the US) on ebay Grin

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MOSagain · 13/01/2012 15:30

Tinga Tinga Tales? Confused never heard of it

dinky nice thought but just not workable (apart from maybe the first day and a half with her. Her friend is older and single and they will be doing completely different things to a 3 and 5 year old (mostly shopping) Nowhere really to go for day trips from there. Been there so many times before and we were really were just going to spend time with her and maybe 2 days at a beach hotel. Have resisted the urge to FB her. So far!

dinkystinky · 13/01/2012 16:27

Oh no, that makes it even worse MoS. Am so sorry its all gone so wrong.

Tinga Tinga Tales is on CBeebies - tales about animals from Africa. DS1 and Danny are mad for it - they act out the stories together (which is v sweet) and both tell me very solemnly "dont do x - it is not nature's way" (the lion's catchphrase from Tinga Tinga). So cute.

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bumpsnowjustplump · 13/01/2012 16:52

Evening all..

MOS that is so wrong of your friend I would have to say something to her. I would probably say "oh sorry have i got the dates wrong? When were we meant to be coming to you" see what she says.... naughty lady

DS had his first football session today and is now crashed out on the sofa... lol

DD2 will not take a bottle. So annoyed as she has gaviscon to take and I cant get it into her.. Tried everything today spent an hour expressing and she just wouldn't take it.... any suggestions of how I can get gaviscon down her without a bottle greatly appreciated.

Hope everyone is well

MOSagain · 13/01/2012 17:11

bumps I've been very well behaved and instead of sending a shitogram have opened a bottle of Baileys. Don't want to ruin a very long friendship just because she has been a numpty! Not heard back from her following my 'but we've booked our flights' message early this morning!

Good that your DS liked his football, might have to sign H up for something like that to wear the little sh** out. He has trashed the house today to include pulling down net curtains and pole, nearly knocking tv off table in excitement at watching builders, broken a photo frame, opened my brand new box set of NCIS dvds and swopped them with his shite/Disney ones.
And breathe...............

Sorry DD2 not taking bottle, hope you manage to get her to take gaviscon. Never tried that with mind. How much does she need to take? how about a litte bit at a time on your finger. Would that work? Fingers crossed for you x

bumpsnowjustplump · 13/01/2012 17:35

MOS ds loved the football, it is at our local YMCA center but run by charlton athletic. I think he touched the ball once but spent 45 mins running around and he is flaked..

Finger wouldn't work as I have to mix the powder with 15ml of water/milk but I may try spoon or syringe but dont want to force it down and maker her sick...

MOSagain · 13/01/2012 17:47

ooh, a syringe might work. H still hates taking medicine from a spoon so we tend to use a syringe. Fingers crossed

SummerRain · 13/01/2012 19:46

bumps, I never tried this myself so can't speak for it's effectiveness but I read somewhere that to give a baby gaviscon some women have had success by latching baby on and popping a syringe into the side of their mouth and gradually pushing the plunger so it trickles in alongside the milk.

Like I said, no idea how well it works in reality but it sounds plausible.

mos... I wouldn't have resisted saying something tbh, she's being very inconsiderate and rude!

dinky, mine aren't fussed about Tinga Tinga Tales, which is a shame as I quite happily watch it when it's on Grin

MarkStretch · 14/01/2012 08:01

OMG bumps, what a scary time for you all, you must feel like you've been hit by a bus. Big higs from me too xxx

bumpsnowjustplump · 15/01/2012 22:41

Thank you MS how is your little bundle of joy doing?

dinky ds is mad on Octonaults and dd is to old for CBeebies now.. (but is happy to watch it when it is on the monkey)

SR thanks for the tip I will try that one later

MOS hope your friend has said sorry by now..