I am still here, sorry to post the story about the smug SAHD and then run, but my darling girl has given up sleeping for any stretches and I'm like a zombie whilst DP is flying off here, there & everywhere for work.
Reading back now, so will try and answer what you asked! :)
Gallic - i logged every feed over a few days and I was feeding 10 times a day which felt excessive, and a lot of them appeared to be scooby snacks. I've tried to space the feeds out to 3 hourly but now she's waking 2 hourly through the night so I may well have shot myself in the foot with that one.
jjkm - the fruit/veg diet was because they have a history of bowel disease in their family, but the way he was answering our innocent but increasingly worried questions kind-of told us that they have made all these choices themselves without discussing with a health professional which we all found quite scary.
flubba, not that it helps but I reversed into my neighbours car as they parked it at the bottom of my drive, they do live 3 doors up, and moved not long after that! 
jjkm, I'm in awe of how you manage with the girls, I hope tomorrow is a better day and that you can get Bridget to the Dr's easily.
I left DD with my Mum today when I popped to work for a couple of hours, I came home to find the little poppet in tears, thankfully some Mummy cuddles soon remedied the situation.