October 2010- now they're chomping, next they'll be stomping

[HarrietJones]

Eek it's going so fast!

Well my night out has been cancelled so it's not an urgent rush round the shops but we are going to have z look for some summery clothes anyway.

Tribble. The only advice I can give is let her talk about it if she wants to- even to great detail. When you lose someone there's nothing worse than people wanting to be cheery or saying stuff like 'oh its for the best' or expecting you to move on. Makes you just want to punch them!

DH and I were meant to be having the weekend together in London with my mum looking after DD. I've been expressing like a loon for weeks in order for my mum to have enough for DD. I can only manage to express about 50-90ml at a time. DD is teething however and her ears are still troubling her. She's up in the night with it and doesn't want to be parted from me in the day. At all. The weekend away isn't happening. DH already knew that I wasn't 100% keen as sad as it may seem but I even miss DD when I put her to bed at night but it is frustrating especially for him as he really wanted us to spend some time together before he goes away. I'm hoping DD will be ok enough for maybe my mum to babysit one evening this weekend.....

DD was beside herself this morning with the teething pain. Almost cried with her .

HJ I did go on the boards last night and had a look at the SANDS website as well for some advice. I think the most prevailant thing that I took away from it was not to just expect someone to 'get over it', not that I would mind. I look at DS and I know that if I lost him I just would go to pieces. I don't think it's something you recover from, I think it's something you just learn to live with ifywim. I think I might go on there and ask about cards and the like, not really sure what to do.

Mock I agree with you, hopefully I'll be able to not put my foot in it.

Also I'm sorry your weekend plans haven't quite worked out. Would you be able to give her some baby neurofen and teething gel for whilst she's with your Mum? I know it might not be ideal, but even if you only get a bit of time to yourself with DH it'll be good for you guys.

We met DS's Nanny yesterday (long story short, DH can't reduce his days at work so we're having to get extra childcare and CM can't do it). She's lovely and already Nannies for my friend, I'm quite pleased with her as it'll mean less disruption for DS. I know he won't remember this period in his life, but I want him to be in a homey enviroment as much as possible.

Seven days and counting. Oh well.

I know what you mean Tribble about not knowing how people get through. My mum lost a baby before me (3 days old , she would have survived a year later with incubators :( ) and I've no idea how she coped.

Good luck with the nanny shame about dh work.

Tribble I'm so sorry to hear your news. What a lovely friend she has in you though, I hope the boards and sands can give you the support and advice you need to help her. to you too

Morning all. Loving being up all night with teether over here . This might make you smile...monkey

How about a Friday Five?

What colour eyes was your DC born with and what colour are they now?

What was the last thing your DC did that made you laugh?

What food does your DC adore and wriggle and shout with excitement over?

If today was a song what would it be?

What are your plans for the weekend?

My answers

Black as Jet now Dark Blue Marl

When she wriggled one arm out of her sleepsuit, fashioning the latest trend in off the shoulder baby sleepwear this morning.

Courgettes oddly enough.

Wouldn't it be nice by the Beach Boys

Meeting a cleaner tomorrow to see about getting the house done twice a week!! Also, hoping for the great tooth reveal.

Hahaha at the monkey

1. blue eyes but green almost immediately.
2. Dd3 loves hiding but we can only count to three before shes shrieking with laughter, it's infectious! Though she was funny yesterday when she tried to runaway with my mums handbag but won't go over the door mat

3.strawberries & asparagus. She shouts at the greengrocers with the strawberries outside!

1. No idea, something sleepy
2. Tomorrow hopefully PYO & a open day at the leisure centre on Sunday.

Cute monkey!

1. Blue, and now still blue. Quite surprised as I am quite dark, neither of us have blue eyes. MIL does though. Could yet change.
2. He makes me laugh all the time. He is such a scamp. Tries to escape out the lounge, looks back before he reaches the door, KNOWING he is being cheeky, with this cheeky glint in his eye. Just like his father!
3. Courgette seems very popular, though he is not really wriggly and over-excited about it. Breastmilk? Still loves that!
4. Grandma, We Love You (my mum is coming to visit!).
5. Possibly a stroll by the river in Richmond, as it's a friend's birthday and they are having some birthday drinks there, we plan on getting there for the start, with DS, but not staying long. May see my brother too, as he lives in the area. Hopefully a swim on Sunday, we try and take him every weekend with his father.

1, They were light blue, now they're sort of a bright pale blue or aquamarine as Mock said.

2, Probably this morning when as soon as he saw Daddy he li up like a firework and nearly rolled off the bed in excitment.

3, Breadsticks and toast.

4, Probably 'I want to be free' in reference to DS's desire to be able to crawl.

5, We're waiting in for a delivery.

Is that a HP name tribble? Do I need to change back for a bit?
I'm going on 28th with dds to the P& B screening!

DD had dinner then sit sat in her Bumbo had an accident of biblical proportions. I was nearly sick trying to clean her up. Thank goodness I managed to find a plastic table cloth today to go on the floor.....

She's now in her PJs about to get ready to get her Daddy from the train station. A late night to bed for her [hsmile].

HJ Yeah, there was a thread about it on chat and I decided to follow suit. Me and DH are looking to go and see it at the cinema as well. He was sat this morning talking about how he's seen every one of them at the cinema. I married a total geek .

Mock I'm assuming this was a poonami situation then??

Late night for dd here too. We had to take dd1 to a sleepover.

Sorry I have been AWOL RL took over
I am now back at work and shattered, although I have surprised myself by quite enjoying it. Although been called a bitch by a 12 yr old girl today wasn't so much fun.
DD cried all day Monday at nursery I felt so bad when I picked her up. But she seems to be settling a bit now and she is only there twice a week as she is with PILs the rest of the time being spoilt rotten I'm sure.
So sorry to hear about your friend's LO Tribble. You sound like you are doing all you can by just been there and wanting to help.
Mock hope your DDs ears get sorted soon poor little thing. When I had an abcess in my breast my emergency hospital appointment took 2 weeks as well. It is a long time to wait when you are not well.
I know you have all moved on from this conversation now but DD only has a feed before bed and one when she wakes up with maybe one or two feeds in the night. I have let her lead but do you think she should still have them in the day?
HJ/Tribble another Potter geek here. I was supposed to be going with a friend next week but I think she is too busy now. DH hates it but it is my birthday in a couple of weeks and I am away on a hen do for it so he might be persuaded to take me for a pre birthday treat .

Friday five:

1. Blue they are now a strange blue/brown colour so I am assuming they will end up brown like mine.
2. Had a fight with her cousin over a bag which some soft skittles came in, they both totally ignored the toys and were grabbing the bag of each other. Although Hun DD does exactly the same at the lounge door.
3. Yoghurt. And another courgette lover.
4. The Benny Hill music. DD has just gone to sleep and it is the first time I have sat down all day.
5. I have been so busy this week and hardly seen DH so made no plans, so hopefully it will be a nice quiet weekend when we can spend sometime together with DD.

Well still lots to do so best get back to it.

Yup Tribble Poonami and then some- rivers and all that.

BP so she only has 2 milk feeds in the day? DD has 4 or more if she asks and when she's not feeling crappy she generally sleeps very well and for long stretches. Perhaps you could ensure that more milk feeds are re-introduced?

BP does she have a lot of dairy? That would balance it out?

Tribble- dh just pointed out a baby screening on 21/7 so I don't have to wait as long

Yes 1 at bedtime and 1 when she gets up. She does eat a LOT, some dairy but not loads. I might try offering more in the day, possibly mid morning and mid afternoon. She isn't a very good sleeper so it might help. I was concerned that she had stopped too early but it wasn't a conscious decision it just kind of happened as she started eating more solids.

Oh dh just got home from work and as I've been at work he does the mornings and he doesn't give her a morning bottle anymore. So that just 1 at bedtime and night feeds

Milkwise we have both boobs am, he's lost interest in the mid morning one (keeps pulling off and larking around), mid pm then bedtime. The bedtime one varies on quantity depending on how tired he is. No bm in the night as he sleeps thru. I wonder if the mid am feed is not happening cos he has such a big first am bf?

Apparently the Who guidelines say that babies should be getting half their calories from bm at this age.

However some HVs say three a day is plenty whereas others say four. About as clear as mud.

I'm going to try and do four and I've started expressing again at night in prep for returning to work but I'm only getting one oz a night!!! Hoping this will increase. Usually I'd express in the am but as DS is draining both boobs there isn't anything to express!

Must ask work about expressing for eight weeks.

Anyone planning on long term bfing? For me a year, teeth allowing, will prob be me done.

DS is a milk fiend! Has a long feed when we wake up, several throughout the day (my understanding is the shorter feeds are for thirst-quenching more than food), a good feed to go to sleep, and then a couple of snackettes throughout the night! I just feed on demand, and offer him lots of solids too.

Planning on BFing to at least a year, but really keen to be pg soonest, so may try and reduce a bit by then if not pg. Don't know though, hate to deprive DS. But I am 37, so don't feel I can wait too long.

Same here Hun, am 36 next week! We would like at least one more if not two so need to get our skates on! The clock is ticking!!

Plan on being at work awhile and then start TTC and see where that takes us. Don't want to be bfing and preggers. I always said I'd bf to six months if I could then quit. Funny that he's still going strong two months on!

Let's not even mention the state of my boobs!!!

My bf counsellors said f they are eating lots of dairy it didn't matter that both dc dropped feeds rapidly after weaning. I guess if they get easily distracted during the day it's natural to make up feeds at night.

Hello,

I'm really sorry about your friend Tribble. I hope she is ok. C

Re: breastfeeds, I went back to work on July 1st and since then R doesn't have any milk in the day either. I'm expressing while at school but she refuses it. She feeds at bedtime and maybe three times in the night, then at breakfast. Some days her solid intake isn't great either. We are a bit worried as I think she's getting to be a bit skinny. At the weekend I feed her as much as she wants. The childminder has tried formula too but she won't touch that either! I'm planning to do the bedtime and breakfast feeds for a few more months.

Hello everyone else,

When I back dd3 will be on whatever she will take from a cup during the day which isn't much at the moment as it's too exciting! She will eat a lot of solids. I can't see me stopping feeding for some time as she's a bit of an addict!

Spring- end of term is nigh , you'll be able to fill her up a bit over the summer & work on upping food then.

Trib I'm also sending my sympathies to you and your friend.