July 2010: C'mon threadbabes: eat like MLIC's; drink like TSC's; smile like Memphis's; laugh like Cakes's; crawl like nearly all of them (except Cake's)... but mainly: sleep like Spireals

[CakeandRoses]

Here we be (phew!)

maybe I should get J's walker down in that case - haven't given it to him yet as he isn't pulling himself up or standing unless I'm holding onto him, but actually now he can stand fairly reliably at a piece of furniture so he's probably ready for it. First steps, wss? eek! Is that the first on this thread? I think so.

sorry to hear the teeth are still causing you bad nights, cake.

tsc so sorry tp hear about all the crap you're dealing with.

Had a lovely wedding weekend away. It was hard work with J at the wedding, trying to keep him quiet at the right moments and from getting too fed up at other times. He did very well and everyone made a fuss of him. He had quite a lot of ice cream and chocolate buttons, oops! Our hotel room was pretty much next door to the room the reception was in - it was closer to go to the loo in my room than to go to the ladies - so with the help of the iPhone baby monitor we did leave J in the room asleep and went back to join the party. We checked on him really regularly. I think it was the right thing to do in those circumstances, but I wouldn't have done if it had been any further away. In the end DH crashed out at about 10.30 anyway so I carried on dancing to my heart's content! I got pretty hammered too, oops. When I went to bed J was asleep and I decided not to do a dream feed but that I would feed him when he woke, so as to allow some of the alcohol to dissipate. In the end he didn't wake till 4 and I gave him a quick cuddle and he went straight back to sleep!

That's been three nights now of not feeding him when he wakes at 4ish and we've gone from 25 minutes of crying, to 5 minutes, to 1-2 minutes in just three nights - amazing. I think he's ready to drop the feed now whereas he wasn't when we tried a month ago. I'm going to wait a couple of weeks and then drop the 11pm feed too, as he proved last night he doesn't need that one either - I don't want to drop both of them at once though.

cake thanks, was it nice seeing ur Mom? Are u close? Does she help with the children?
TSC hows things? Hope all is ok..............
mylife Very jelouse of W sleeping through but u worked hard to get there, D is still waking, usually just the once but he has started waking at 5.30am.......way way too early!!!
Dh and I have spent two nights in Bristol with D sharing the smallest hotel room ever, so we could hear every squeak and grumble. Actually he slept through last night but it didnt feel like it to us due to him cryng out i his sleep a few times and waking for the day at 5.30! we were soooo grumpy this morning, i hope he doesnt make this a habit!
dh D is a cleaver clogs walking with his walker, my D is just getting the walking but no where near doing it with his walker and as for wws G thats amazing, ur gona have a walker really soon, wow! and maybe a sleeper too, bonus!
trudyla u dont speak about ur pregnancy much, how are u feeling, how far along are u now? I will go and try and find ur thread in a min i have been googling 2 under 2 and most people say the same about it being a killer at first but easier as they get older as they have the same interests etc. Are u going to find out what ur having?
chu u ok?

x posted woodlands sounds like a great night and an ideal room, i defo would have done the same re the monitor. Sounds like he is ready to drop that feed, great about the crying too.

trudyla please can u put a link to ur other thread, im dead interested in what people are saying. Thanks.

glad the dog's on the mend.

can i just big up my lovely DH? He insisted on treating me to a facial at the hotel we stayed at this weekend, it was lovely and relaxing.

tsc thinking of you, hope you get something sorted out and he listens to you, takes it on board and squares his ishoos aways.

viksam just had parents here for the weekend so haven't been able to post, don't have internet phone and don't like jumping on the laptop cos would rather chat to them!

S doesn't have a walker but he pushes a stool around the kitchen and tries to run with L's brick truck thing - he's a long way off walking though!

woodlands sounds like you had a lovely time at the wedding, good on you for having a good old dance :)

DH got called into work this evening which I'm annoyed about cos he's on nights starting tomorrow so he really shouldn't be in tonight when there are supposedly 2 others on duty 'cept his inept boss sent one of them to London

In other news I've finished S's jumper my mum sewed it together cos I'm rubbish, just need some buttons and I'll post a pic [overly proud emoticon]

Off to bed now, S is back to 1-2 feeds a night and waking for the day at 5.30, not.good.

oh yes, and L rides S too she's in full throttle two year tantrums and I'm currently attributing it to her age and that alone but then she's got all her teeth through so I can't blame them anyway

sounds like you had a great weekend with your parents. shame about dh working tonight tho

vik nope, we're not remotely close. i was brought up by my father - i 'chose him' when they split up when i was 5 so obv weren't close even then. she does try to help with F & A when we're there but she sees them so infrequently she does some very random things which piss me off (ie inappropriately disciplining F for something he did the day before ) and they (her and my step-father) didn't do anything at all when they could hear both of them screaming their heads off and keeping each other awake til 1am. i wasn't actually expecting them too, i'm just saying...

so so pleased that the dairy exclusion has made such a difference to w, mlic. he sounds lovely

props to your dh, woodlands. that's the kind of man i approve of. how much insistence was needed tho? there would have been fuck all needed here

i think i have some kind of tourettes thing going on with these baby-riding toddlers - i just properly snorted again when i read about L riding S. and again now i've typed it. why am i finding it so funny, ffs?

tsc did dp admit there was a problem or not? and did he explain? without knowing what he's doing and why, it must be hard for you to trust that that will be the end of it

it's probably it just F's teething bothering him - i don't think their pain relief is strong enough for the very worst of teething pain. A is being driven insane by her second top one. she was sleeping brill for a week after the last one came thru and before this one started.

so, in a nutshell, he is saying he is an alcoholic?

will you go to a group then? or is there another way he can get some help - via his GP perhaps? sorry, i've no experience with this so not sure what the options are, it just seems that it would be hard for him to 'just stop' without some kind of help.

do you think he is actually drinking on the weeks where it appears he isn't?

it must be awful for you but please don't feel embarrassed in any way - talk away on here if it helps even a bit.

crap about the car. can totally see why you're thinking of taking the job

You shouldn't be embarassed about it tsc though I appreciate it is hard to talk about. Lots of people have shit times in their relationship at certain times. Dh and I had an awful time after A was born and came pretty close to splitting up (though neither of us ever mentioned it - though looking back it was definitely something we came quite close to). I know it's a cliche but for most people relationships are hard work sometimes. It's when the shit times vastly outweigh the good times that I think it becomes a case of "Is this worth saving?"

LOL Im currently watching D take everything out my bag and he literally throws things over his shoulder! So funny

We put his trike together last night, its one of those you can use from 10-36months and gradually take bits off as they get bigger and its got a parent handle to steer. He loves it!

Well done on the walking babies, cant believe they'll all be 1 soon.

Don't be embarrassed tsc - sounds like you are behaving very maturely and responsibly and doing all the right things. He has to put some effort in to his side of the equation.

DH, J loves unpacking bags - it's his favourite thing! Give him the changing bag and he's happy...

Have put him down for a nap but I can still hear him not asleep. Debating when to go and get him and get him off to sleep on me, as we need to leave for swimming in less than an hour really. I thought I'd get him to nap in bed if poss as then I can do the washing up and hang the washing out, but it's more important that he naps one way or another. Perhaps I'll go and hang the washing out and then if he isn't asleep by the time I've finished I'll go and lie on the sofa with him and my laptop.

Just got my pushchair out of the back of the car and it seems to have loads of little baby spiders on it. Dunno where they came from, they weren't there yesterday!

Woodlans that must have been horrible. There was a bigish spider in my airing cupboard last night. DP had to get rid of it, I hate them!

tsc haven't read back but seen ur post above. Sorry things are so tough. If dh admits there is a problem its a start. If he can go you can get him to go to his gp he can get help thru them. Sorry if I've misunderstood though.

Crap night here again (after some pretty good ones). L not well with streaming cold teething and I think his ears again. Going to ring gp to see if I can get an appointment. mlic I don't know how you coped with w being an unhappy little boy for so long. Whining drives me nuts! Glad w is doing better on the dairy free.

Hope everyone else is ok. Will try to catch up duing the day. Have already resigned myself to getting nothing done with l being v cling, trying to get docs appointment for him, and my Physio this afternoon. He's currently asleep on me (sat in the nursery) but wakes up crying when I lie him down. :(

so he's admitting that he has been doing this bizarre drinking and also agrees it is bizarre but still says that it doesn't actually add up to anything like him being an alcoholic? did he give any explanation for his behaviour?

i frequently think that about being an adult too

could you have a look round for some other part-time jobs which might not be such long hours/shifts as the bg one? altho it's a wrench to begin with, i did find working 20 hours a week was about right last time - still felt like i was at home loads. i also loved being able to snap back into the old power-crazed, glossy-lipped, sharp-dressing Cake twice a week as opposed to the snot n spit covered one that drags around the other 5 days.

btw - if you prefer to talk about this on the fb group so it's more private then feel free to move there instead

well done for having the chat anyway - hopefully it will give him food for thought.

I have got J changed 6 times today so far!
Overnight babygro into clothes
Clothes into swimming trunks (next week I should take him to the pool in his babygro)
Swimming trunks into clothes
Into clean vest after first explosive poo at friend's house
Into friend's DD's pink polkadot babygro after second explosive poo at friend's house
Into clean clothes as soon as I got home to avoid future poo leakage on friend's babygro

poor kid! I don't know what on earth the explosive nappies are all about. If he'd had them before swimming no way would I have taken him. I hope he hasn't just come down with something and passed it on to all the other kids at swimming. I wondered if he'd just drunk a load of pool water and it had a bad effect on his tummy? weird. Hopefully it will settle down now - he seems fine in himself and had a good lunch. I only have one more nappy left before I can get to the supermarket (going as soon as he wakes from his nap). eek!

tsc lets hope he sees the error of his ways and sorts himself out of he is going to find himself alone!
woodlands the first few times we took L swomming he had major poops, could be that or a bug, bless him having to wear a pink baby grow, finding his feminine side early!!!

L had awful sleep terrors yesterday and after i finally managed to wake him up after 20 mins of screaming in his sleep he would let us put him down, as soon as he got put down he screamed and looked petrified, I know to some it may seem odd but I keep thinking recently that our house is haunted!! a few weird things have happened in last week more so!!!
Been back to the dentist to be checked over, he is horrified that they didnt drug me up further when I could feel them drilling, I need 2 fillingg, one is massive and goes below gumline due to not being able to floss at all or brush that well with painfull mouth for 6 months and the tooth that I had done at hospital needs a new crown as the gum has shrunk so it looks awful!!!

Ack memphis it just gets better and better with you doesn't it I can't believe how calm you sound, I'd be crapping myself! Do you have a timeframe on when you can get the work done? as to the haunting...that's not nice at all eek!

tsc fingers crossed he sorts himself out, I'm with you on the not liking being a grown-up and having to make Serious Decisions.

cake I'm quite tempted to go to work sometimes just to be Me instead of mum, I'm not sure I can though.