The CRESH Creche and Spa - future home of all ESH

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I liked the CRESH acronym more than FESH so have used it. Welcome all ESH to your final stop on the journey. Rest your aching lady bits, try one of the many gin based cocktails, and try to molest the gorgeous waiting staff.

I'm on my own a lot. I feel like a single parent. HI needs to be more involved and take responsibility. He has great qualities as well as he does cook, clean (tho only some things) and walks the dog. When it comes to MB he asks me a thousand questions or picks and chooses the bits he wants to do. He can't think for himself. I want him to know what it feels like to be on ya tod for 18hr days 6 days a week. It's not even about being appreciated it's about how hard it is and needing quality me time. His mum is on hols soon abroad and I'm making a point of ensuring he has MB for an afternoon or morning purely so he can't run to his mums and he has to manage on his own!

dummies - I don't think any are more or less recommended for bf babies, just try some till you find one the baybee doesn't spit out!

Re "using you as a dummy" it's kind of the other way round really though isn't it - dummies were invented to replace nipples for comfort sucking. So nothing wrong with comfort sucking on the boob if you're happy to let them.

What we found with Artie was we thought he was hungry a lot at about week 7/8/9 ish but then realised he had a lot of wind and was feeding to relieve the pain of trapped wind. The screaming/feed/scream /feed cycle calmed down a lot once we got started on the infacol.

MB is a thumb sucker. Only when he's tired or self soothing and v handy as he has yet to lose his thumb!

I also think he's a comfort sucker too. ESP when it's his bedtime feed.

PESHes with a slightly dark sense of humour may enjoy this lullaby by Tim Minchin:

pmsl!!!! Artie did start to get a bit worried looking at the dingo line though...

thanks all. We've tried a dummy (got a MAM one in Mothercare) and she's sucking it for a bit then spitting it back out again. She was visited by her gran and great-aunt today, the latter suggesting putting her on her tummy across my lap which certainly seemed to help for a wee while. She did at least sleep OK once settled, but she does seem to only sleep on people during the day - good when you have 4 pairs of arms, not so good when it is just me - good job MrM is off next week. She's been feeding a lot too, though I don't have a problem with that really. Oh, and I did my first public BF while out with the gran, GA and MrM in a local cafe - felt OK actually.

I like that lullaby, it's awfully familiar at the moment!

I LOVE Minchin.

Meds Berwhale will only sleep on people or in his pram during the day. Depending on whether or not you want to fight the battle, you may wish to invest in a wrap sling. Makes it possible for the baby to sleep and you to get stuff done...

Slings are the answer.

I currently have a baby fast asleep in a sling. I don't think she'll stay this way if I take her out. Dilemma.

I've been bidding on Kari-me slings on Ebay. Currently winning an auction with a day to go, and if I don't get that will just buy a new one.

We had a really good evening and night here - she fell asleep on me and we put her gingerly in her basket around 6pm. I took a nap while MrM made dinner, which we ate without interruption. We then managed to also have a cheeseboard while watching the two episodes of Dr Who before waking her at 9.30. Then she settled within the hour, and slept until 1.30, and again till 5.30 and then 8.30. We feel rested, and like we've had a proper coupley evening.

polly I think it took me about 6 months to get my brain back post-partum, not sure if that was to do with the illness & complications or just a shift in life priorities.

How has everyone been this weekend? It's mother's day here next sunday but jb gave me my "main" present yesterday - it's a large canvas print of Bear which is absolutely beautiful. I've asked for a photo of the children (!) every year - I want the walls of my house to celebrate them. n.b., I will probably change my mind around the time of slamming doors to the cries of "god I hate you".

Artie would only sleep on one of us/ in the car or pram for ages and ages - like 5 or 6 months. TBH we have never bothered with getting him to nap in his bed, didn't see the point as we knew as soon as he started at the CM he wouldn't be napping there anyway, He sleeps in the pushchair or bouncy chair there.

Here for naps now I take him for a 10 min walk in pushchair (laid flat) and then leave him in garden. That's where he is now infact.

Sounds like a good night medee :)

Lovely pressie Alps!

I has put link to new artie pics on bumcrack.

She had her first proper trip in her car seat yesterday (ie not to A+E) when we went to a National Trust garden, and then secured us preferential parking at M+S on the way home - parent parking spaces rule!

She's currently asleep on MrM, and when she wakes for her next feed, she's getting a bottle of EBM.

In a TMI kind of way (not that there is such a thing here), I finally had a look down below (as a precurser to resuming Relations) - stitches gone, but my vagina looks more open than before - normal?

Is "Relations" to be shrieked whilst doing the Macauley Culkin "home Alone" face?

Are you able to post before and after shots?

I have no idea because of cat-flap, but I would not have thought it would be more open, with or without stiches.

Relations is to be quasi-whispered, while adjusting one's bosom a la Les Dawson.

I'm not sure mine looked much different Medee, but I only looked fairly soon after and was mostly relieved it was still there.

No resumption of relations here. Late sleeping baby, knackeredness and now the wonderful return of the fucking droid. I may never have sex again.

We've not embarked upon it yet, for the first two of those reasons, but with MrM off on holiday this week, it might yet be a possibility. We'll see...

oh droid return is most unfair :(

I have been lucky no droid yet.

I thought no droid was payoff for bf'ing. Soooooo unfair.

Relations? Wtf? I'm never having sex again, clearly. Partially through tiredness, partially because the sight of my naked flesh makes me want to hurl.

The droid is also back here. Its worse than before: longer, heavier and hurtier!

More open is exactly how I would describe it medee. But only at the gate so to speak. Relations occurred here precisely once, and He could tell no different.

Droids are fecking evil whether TTC or not. Mine were so sinister I went back on the pill without even looking at other options, and it really has helped. Got all sorts of other crap going on in the foof region though. should get answers at appointment next week.

We've had a good couple of long weekends, but achieved very little. The teething thing has taken a turn for the worse - the worst yet. I've had very little sleep the past two nights (when I have been alone with Squeaks), and several bouts of inconsolable crying during the days too. So, I now return to work bloody exhausted with with a (still) toothless child.

But we have a lovely posh meal to look forward to this week for our wedding anniversary. And I have started the countdown to holiday in late June. Kid gets her own checkin luggage allowance but no hand baggage allowance. Is it me or it that a bit stupid? Surely kids need all sorts of nonsense during flights.

All tips for taking a one year old abroad will be most welcome. leave her behind ?

thanks, CC. Good to know ;)

Bonjour mes amies. Here, have this rather large plate of stinky cheese and this vat of wine brought back from my holidays.

Medee sorry to hear the little one likes the route to A and E so much. Sounds like you have been through the mill but you sound in incredible spirits. With regard to dummies we used the Avent ones for the same reason as FP stated (the little cap things). Peppa doesn't have one and mini oke did until 37 hours ago when we decided to encourage him to give it to the fishes, sharks (?) and the dolphins(?) from the ferry back from hols. He chucked it overboard and so far so good - we are dummy free! He even woke up about an hour ago, chucked up in the bathroom and went back to bed without asking for it it. Hurrah! (Not hurrah for the vom mind you, that was grim, but hurrah for the not needing the dummy..)

Muse re the evening cluster feeding I recall similar with mini oke through to about 6 weeks. It was only when I started putting to bed at 7pm did I realise he was using me more for comfort. Medee I would never wake in the night to feed. I would just feed if they woke up. I, however would never let it go longer than 3 hours between feeds from 7am to 7pm

I have never dared to look "down there" so I have no idea what state I am in. I have however done the sechs a couple of times and been for an "intimate" waxing and didn't frighten off either party.

Ok. This is why I go with the cluster feeding. Try to convince her to do other things and she wakes every 3 hours. Go with the feeding, feed her until she refuses and she sleeps from 9.30pm until 4.30am. She likes to tank up, I like to sleep for 7 hours.

I have also tried repeatedly to put her to bed earlier with no luck. Tried feeding to sleep, cuddling to sleep, rocking, patting, shushing, swaddling, and more. She's not interested. It upsets her and it upsets me. Not interested in leaving her to scream and when you live in a flat it's not a great option either.

She has brought her bedtime forward herself. I imagine she'll do it again when she's ready. Although if she went down at 7pm her dad would hardly see her during the week.

Must stop worrying over the clusterfeeding, do it right instead, and revel in my resulting sleep. Now if only my boobs could sleep as long.

Anyway, think she's going back to bed now. N'night.