March 2010 - Babies: "Climbing like an evil genius". Mummies: "Avoiding the Shred DVD"

[Arcadie]

Welcome to those with a March 2010.
Happy Easter from me....
Unwrap it quick!..

Oh, it's a new thread. I was hoping for chocolate.

Sorry to hear that, evitas, I hope you don't feel too bad.

As they say here "What's for you, won't pass you by", so maybe it'll turn out to be a Good Thing.

WALNUT- welcome back.... DD u say you were 14days overdue??? Well??!!

SHROOMER- new kids a&e isn't bad is it! We too were there sat night when I dropped DH on his head whilst piggybacking and promptly slipped :-( felt sooo guilty. Seems ok if a black bruise on his head.

EViTAS -sorry bout job... Obviously wasn't meant to be. Full time is hard work... Enjoy the precious time you have together - glad christening went well xx

Did a 19hr shift at work last night, 3.5 hrs sleep and straight back for another 9hrs today. Madly enjoy being busy but do miss the boy. Even I accept 18hrs at work in a day is a little excessive....!

15 days overdue to be exact once the whole 48 hours induction process was done and dusted.... will avoid induction next time at all costs (well, not all costs, obviously if babe is in danger then will do anything necessary, but DD was just over 7lbs and v healthy, and just determined to stay put).

Evitas very sorry about job, but going back full time would be v hard work - a blessing in disguise I think. I'm working nights trying to catch up on all the work I can't manage during the day and very quickly getting run down (being a "part-time" lawyer is a joke)

I went back full time for precisely that reason, Walnut. I knew I'd end up doing full time hours on part time pay.

Scooby, you are bonkers with your working hours but amazing with it.

In bad need of reassurance: please tell me I'm not the only one with The Stroppiest Toddler In The World? Favourite word is No and the merry hell that's raised when things don't go his way... The latest version is he doesn't want to go to bed, so we had 20 minutes outraged screeching last night. I have a really low tolerance for him screaming BUT I do feel that we can't "give in" to him. Suggestions?

He is, otherwise, unbelievably gorgeous .

Am at work so better go do some

Bluey I am so glad that someone else is facing this! >TLC weeps and is so glad she re-joined the post-natal group<

My DS is whinging, pointing at everything, but when he gets it he doesn't want it and whines for something else. Shakes his head at everything I ask of him and just is a bit of a terror!

He used to be the most placid being, but now he isn't, just these past few days he's changed and his personality wants to make a stand.

I'm a SAHM so I have this ALL DAY LONG, E V E R Y day. I need a

Walnut - I'm also a PT lawyer (although about to leave to do something else altogether). I was warned by other part-timers in my department that it would mean doing 4 days work in 5 days for 4 days pay. It does indeed. Am very glad that I did not need to ask to go onto so-called fixed hours (which means you can leave at, say, 5.30 in return for a 20% pay cut.....only then to log on again in the evening and pick up where you left off). Ho hum.

Stroppy toddler? Well, to be fair - and, obviously, touch wood, DD is OK. She is fairly strong willed and has just discovered the word "No" but, teeth brushing and getting into the push chair aside, she doesn't kick off about that much. Am fully aware that this will all change but, please, for the love of all things holy, not until 3.6 year old DS is past the tantrum stage. Why did I not know that 3 year olds are the Most Unreasonable Beings in the Universe? Or is it just mine???

Bluey can i join you in the e 'The Stroppiest Toddler In The World' club ? My DS has a very 'strong personality' and knows exactly what he wants and gets very 'offended' when we stop him.

Thanks for your kind words re: job. DH and I talked yesterday and thought it would be better to look for a part-time. I agree that I will probably work more hours than the ones I'm suppose to, but I can see that a FT job in research would take all my weekends away.

Walnut8 15 days overdue

scooby how do you manage so many working hours?! you're super!

RKD what an amazing thing. Congratulations to your friend!

IWCAS good luck! tell us if you campaign for you :)

TLC enjoy your :) I'm glad Ds is with the CM and that the house is quiet!

waves to everyone else-

sorry, sariska cross-post you. Hope you are well. When do your start your new 'work'?

Sariska please share - what are you moving on to??

My DH is trying to get me to consider a career change. But how do you change careers when you can only go part-time? How do you retrain and convince an employer to take you on when you have a toddler or two??

(I should add, I'm not actually going crazy, I'm currently living in a completely different time zone!)

Re stroppy toddlers: yes, and yes.
DS3 3.5 is totally and utterly insane, a law upon himself and has a terrible potty mouth - too much exposure to older boys, I tellya!
Joe cannot bear to see me from behind - still. So major whining when I just turn around which is just wearing. He is also a screecher - makes your ears ring! When upset, he tends to walk backwards, crying, until he bumps into something which makes him fall over and REALLY cry.
IME they only turn into sensible small people around 4 - so just before school steals them away . Thank goodness for my March babies and the Scottish cut-off which means they all start school around 5 1/2.

Re part-time work: I have just dropped a half day which now means I do 25 hours over 3 days - in theory. In practice, I am regularly in at the weekend to catch up on paper work. Oh, the joys of being a 'professional' . And I do miss the day I am now not going in, in terms of being able to pick up were I left off the day before. But hey ho, the idea was for me to be at home another afternoon a week, mainly for the older 2 coming home from school. They still want to be collected from school, so if you see a slightly dishevelled, overweight woman with a double buggy containing 1 baby and 2 scooters, accompanied by 1 scootering 3 year old going scarily fast, that's me . Just jump out of the way of DS3 and his scooter if you are fond of your toes!!

Walnut, 15 days overdue your due date, yes? Not 15 days late for your period ? You got us all excited...
Enjoy your whisky, I hope it's a nice one (where in the world are you?? ).

scooby, as a rule of thumb: big bump growing out the way not as bad as big dent going in the way . Hope your DS is ok.

I am off to go and 'Meet the Teacher' - DS2's this afternoon, DS1's on Thursday. DH is off today, so one of us will go and the other one with wrangle children.

Laters!

Sariska, I think the media term is Three-nager. DD skipped Terrible Twos and saved it for later. It passes, at least it did for us. Her Wobblies are now more spectacular but less frequent. It seems to have coincided with her being more independent.

TLC, have . The sun must be over the yard arm, maybe where Walnut is?

Well Bluey, it is after 5pm, prime wine 'o' clock time....

Don't mind if I do

I wish! Need to hold off for another few hours at least. Cooking dinner atm, then later when DH is back from work I'll be going out to my voluntary job, don't fancy doing that drunk

There was a very funny thread a while back about 'Terrible Twos', 'Traumatic Threes', 'Foul Fours' etc - it was enough to make you weep .

DS2 aged 7 1/2 through a flakey just a few minutes ago over homework - 'Suppurative Sevens'?

threw a flakey, threw - doh! And I've not even had as an excuse either

Yup, I'm joining the 'Toddler from Hell' team - R has recently discovered 'Nooo Mummy' while vigorously shaking her head. Very cute. However this is only stage 1. Stage 2 is whining and mild squawking, Stage 3 crying (often accompanied by more 'mummy, mummy', Stage 4, throwing herself on the ground and screaming . They're mostly funny but it does get a bit wearing after a while. And it's only in the past few weeks she's started showing her horns and being MUCH more assertive. I don't remember DD1 ever being so strong-willed, so I'm a bit worried about just how this is going to escalate as she grows up - or can we nip it in the bud now?? It's definitely made me a bit of a recluse at the moment - I've definitely been choosing to stay at home most days rather than face a trip with both DDs to the shops/cafe/anywhere public and the inevitable whining/crying/constant snacking/chasing/tantrums which would result. Maybe not the most healthy of outlooks, but I'm hoping this stage won't last long ...

However it does mean the days are draaaaaaaaagging. Very long. And boring. Not helped by the fact I'm STILL BLOODY WAITING to hear about the job interview

Which reminds me, sorry to hear about your job evitas but it sounds like it was probably for the best. I hope you find a suitable post with the PT hours you're after.

Good to see walnut and TLC back again!

Glad to say that DD1 also seems to be settling into P1, phew. It's a whole new world, dealing with uniforms and homework and school gates and lunches, but I'm just glad she's not throwing a flakey (good phrase, pd!) in the playground every morning!

well, since there's a few others nipping back in it's high time i said hello too methinks...
I truly have thought of you lots - and lurked occasionally - and i think i'm mostly up to date with everything.. many congrats flip have everything crossed for you
rkd bet you made a great birth partner!
can't wait to see iwcas's new persona

to everyone else, nice to see familiar faces
We've been busy - like everyone else, i know, but hence my quietness on here. in a nutshell we're definitely looking at moving down to be nearer my mum, which has entailed employing an architect and submitting plans to convert a property we have down there into a proper house... exciting but lots to do (and don't even start me on the finances). next stop is of course work so I've been doing as much as I can to get work down there, this is going ok but has majorly halted our plans for no3 (not exactly great pr to tip up to a 6 month contract pg) but, like others on here i'm READY (and therefore impatient). and like everything it might mean work goes quicker than we thought for me which (although great) will mean a major upheaval of lifestyles for us - plan A was to move next summer when Elk is ready for school. plan b is much more complicated (and involves wrenching her from her much loved preschool/ballet etc)... we'll see

don't even start me on tantrumming toddlers - i'll write more on that later. suffice to say i have to break up another fight right NOW

Yes I meant 15 days over due date, thanks for pointing that out PD! Am obviously still not over the first birth ...

My DD is actually not stroppy, quite good-natured but DOES NOT SLEEP. So ... yeah. I think I might prefer stroppy.

Hi everyone
It's been a ridiculously long time since I've posted on here, guess life keeps getting in the way..

I've tried to catch up but it's proving quite difficult!

Congratulations to Flip and Fliss, so pleased for you both! (hope I've remembered the right people there!)

I'm confused by name changes, Walnut8 who are you?? I'm very excited you're about to have a baby however and wish you the best when. The little bundle decides to show up!

Scooby Seriously, how do you do it?! Hats off to you, I think I would have collapsed by now..

Melk good luck with the building/move. I know what you mean about being 'ready'. I am sooo broody!!! My head says to wait a little while, pay off some more debt and get in to the swing of my OU course. My heart says MAKE A BABY NOW! Dh is up for the idea but is more able to listen to his head than I am.

Manda Sorry you're still struggling with the emotional after effects. I just hope time does it's job and 'heals' you so you feel more like yourself soon xx

Ok that's all I can remember for now, no doubt I will have made several spelling mistakes and typed some random words

I am thinking of you all xx

WOW its been busy in here! Ho to everyone x :)

Morning all, nice to see some old-timers back again (I was BusyMissIzzy back when we were still pre-natal btw). Lovely to hear how you're getting on :)

Having a busy few weeks here, as I mentioned previously. Have a 4am start tomorrow to fly to Aberdeen for two nights, visiting DH's grandparents. PILs and SIL will be visiting also, and my parents are driving up to meet us for a bit on Sunday. I'm currently relaxing with a green tea when I really want coffee and cake and waiting for DD to wake up from her nap.

Congratulations to Carrie RKD and wow, that is quick. Must have been an amazing experience.

Sorry about the job evitas, but maybe something with more suitable hours will turn up.

Manda are you lurking? How are you feeling?

Melk good to see you, and exciting about property and baby plans.

Uh, oh, she's awake. Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Dalrymps have always been Walnut8 but didn't post a lot on the March thread ... and I'm not pregnant although would love to be Am definitely ready. Ideally it will be a few more months however, as like you, we are trying to save.

We are thinking end of year to try again so I'm trying to get in as many sneaky whiskies as possible. Actually no kidding, I'm living on coffee at the moment, i don't know how i will survive pregnant at work on 5 -6 hours sleep a night. I worked every night this week from 8pm to about 1am. Then most mornings up again at 6:30 -7am with DD. Another lawyer at work is 9 wks pregnant (and hasn't told anyone else but me) and is being a complete temperamental b*tch poor thing. Especially to her PA.

Am thinking of you manda (weird when a stranger says they are thinking of you!?), I had a v similar experience and still cry when I think about it (4 years ago now). The pain of due dates etc does go away though.

In other news, I need to know what the general consensus is re faded stretch marks and swim-suits. My tum is basically back to normal apart from the said stretch marks, two of which still have purple ends if that makes sense. We are going on holiday to somewhere tropical - can I wear my old bikini or would that just be ... not on?? i honestly don't know. You can't see them from say 5 metres, but definitely can from say 2 metres. Perhaps I'll just try to find a nice one-piece....

Sorry Walnut! I just read the 15 days overdue bit and presumed you were! Lol

Wear your bikini Walnut. Wear it with pride! In my experience, stretchmarks do fade eventually. I got some in my late teens over my hips and they now just look like thin white lines. (Oh, and I am leaving to do something entirely unrelated to law - a creative writing MA, which is basically just a means to ensuring that I get time and motivation to write. Where it will lead, we shall see.)

Interesting to read all about people's plans for future babies - especially those of you planning #3. I shall have to live vicariously through you .

Hope the trip tomorrow goes well, MissP. Are you all packed?

No time for more. Am at work and really must stop prevaricating and actually get some stuff done!

Should be unpacking after a week at the inlaws in Oxford but just thought I#'d pop on to say:

Stroppy 17 months old? Tick
Desire to be pregnant? Cross
Welcome back to all the oldtimers? Tick
Walnut wearing a bikini? HUGE TICK and MASSIVE Thumbs up.Kudos to you my lovely for EVER wearing one!