April 2009 Episode 14 "Operation Kill is standing down."

[AuldAlliance]

Voici FWs!

Hey hey stop having a go at me Boff, I believe there was a lot of bathroom decorating done in your house pre labour too!!! Oh and it was Homebase. Oh and what about you trying to bring on labour with all that sex??

Bebe, I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through now and while I agree with the girls, getting cross with your DH isn't going to fix things at the moment. But, it's your health, so it's up to you to take control of the situation. If you feel at all in need, take yourself to a dr and get checked out. Meg needs a strong mommy over there and you need to know either way.

Bug hugs, take care and shout if you need us xxx

Bebe,

Go and seek medical help. If I remember correctly you are/were about 12 weeks pregnant. If this is a miscarriage it is a lateish one. Boff is right. PARTICULARLY as I remember you saying something about being anaemic a couple of weeks ago. I want to know your blood pressure and heart rate, and see an ultrasound please!

Loving Zulu's remote doctoring Any news Bebe? You know we're all worried about you now xxx Please do let me know if I can help and shout at some Germans.

I WAS CONTRACTING FOR SEVEN WEEKS. SEVEN WEEKS. Who wouldn't be doing anything they could to make it stop?!

Zulu's right - I'd forgotten about the anaemia. That makes it more urgent. You can't afford to risk losing blood more / take chances on the effects of what you've already lost.

Bebe I'm joining in the stern chorus - you must go and be seen by a doctor. Screw the cost, this is your health we are talking about.

Please please listen to us - you have to look after yourself.

Sending big hugs x x

I am the master of self-diagnosis and avoiding medical professionals but it is the wrong wrong wrong thing to do. And we all know, Bebe, that if you were still in the UK you'd be straight down the doctor's.

Bebe, I am so sorry you aren't well. I hope there is still hope but whether or not, sending you great big hugs, I am really feeling for you this evening. Wishing you all the very best and IMMEDIATE 21ST CENTURY MEDICAL CARE and after that a world of cosseting from your husband and lots of kisses from your gorgeous little girl. What a strong lady you are, all the very best.

Yeah but I was doing it all elegant like, BB, with a bit of SPD-friendly roller action. You pulled the wall down! The wall!!!

I am glad we all agree Bebe needs to get help. I did not have a good feeling about this at all.

Woke up feeling quite good besides a sore neck (not a fan of the square pillows we have). Dd came in and cuddled with me while dh ran off to work. (TMI alert) No more blood, though I had a little more mucus stuff with old blood mixed in.
Dd seems marginally better. Tho it could be because dh brought home apfel juice last night of which she's a big fan.
Need to go to the store today as we really need food, so I'll walk down that street with the ob/gyn again and see if I can find it when I'm more calm. Dh says he's going to continue working on the insurance stuff today, but that we should probably go to the doctor this evening.
And I highly disagree abt Dh he's doing tons of calling around and he's been trying to sort things out even before we came. He did most of the work with this move which was very stressful for him. Part of the problem is that technically I'm his dependant according to UK law still (since I'm not a national or citizen) so often times in the past when I've tried to make calls I'm told either they need to talk to him, or its him who needs to make arrangements. It's very frustrating.
It was OUR decision to leave without the insurance sorted. We figured we had a couple of weeks to get it sorted and in the mean time I was going to do more research on ob/gyn and such. We are a partnership who make joint decisions.
As for the anaemia the results came back only slightly on the low side. AND I took a pill and my vitamins yesterday just encase. Dh and I discussed the blood loss too. And dh felt I was over reacting on the amount. He felt it was no more than a tablespoon, maybe 2 at first. And it wasn't really a whole pad's worth before it stopped/slowed to just spotting.

So tell me if I've not got any more bleeding what more do I need to look for/worry about if I have miscarried? I'm off to goggle now.

Thank you for all your support ladies. I do appreciate all your opinions and the info you can give.

Hi Bebe - can't type much. Kids rampaging. Will check in later. Glad you are ok and bleeding less. Will try to get back when I get a moment of calm. X

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better and Moo is on the mend.
Thinking of you xx

When pregnant with Nia I lost pints. I could sit on the loo and it would sound like I was having a long wee. Also clotslike liver and yet she is fine. So... I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Btw we weren't slagging your dh off. Even in partnerships sometimes one person needs to care for the other for a bit. It'd not always about both doing everything all the time equally and right now you need looking after.

Glad to hear you are feeling better, Bebe. I hope things turn out well. Make sure you get lots of down time, keep resting and eating and drinking the things that make you feel good. Maybe call someone at home tonight to get some virtual hugs. Thinking of you

Bebe, I'm sorry I had a bit of a rant about your DH last night It just often seems like you're burdened with the biggest load, at least proportionally if not actually, but of course we only ever hear your perspective & I'm glad that you feel that things are fair. But as bronze says, you should be being rather cosseted at the moment.

WRT the bleeding, I'm glad it's stopped. & it doesn't sound like there's been heaps, which is good (especially with bronze's scary story having a happy ending!) but the fact that your sickness has disappeared at the same time doesn't sound like a brilliant sign to me. I hope very much that I'm wrong & that the pregnancy is hanging on in there. Please do get seen by someone ASAP though. Will things be open on a Wednesday afternoon / evening over there? Their Wednesdays aren't full working days, are they?

Tried calling the gyn near by but got their machine.
And one cannot really be cosseted in the nicest sense when away from home and low on money. One also must be very practical. I do not like being indulged in that way anyhow which dh knows; it leads to me becoming depressed and I'm already feeling rather useless; one of the things I can do is look after Moo which is what I'm doing. Like I said we've done lots of talking and cuddling and he's dealing with the same and more issues as he's feeling very guilty for bringing Moo and I away.

Bebe, really glad you're feeling better and things look a bit more positive. Agree that the bleeding is sounding less than initially thought and it sounds like there's a real chance things might be ok. The only way to know that, though, is to get scanned. I know you've tried to get in contact with medical staff. Maybe you've succeeded by now.

I wrote a lovely long catch up post a couple of days ago and then my blackberry ate it. The gist of it was:

GingerSarah - sorry that I haven't congratulated you earlier on your lovely news! How are you feeling?

I think I also said witty things to AA, WR, Schulte, BB, Doughnut, Puzz, Bronze and Boff but I can't remember what they were so they can't have been important. Hello everyone else!

Bicnod I started out on the July thread for a while but there're too many people on it and, tbh, they're a bit dull. Will we just have our own club?

So baby is still in there and ok.
Doctor suggested broken blood vessel for the blood and had no idea really about the mucus or pain (which has increased again).

Bebe - I need to say no more that we just did on FB but YAY, YAY and triple YAY!!!

So so sorry if you felt like we were attacking DH, I think it must be that Fanjo Warrior/mother mentality of protecting a member / cub and attacking the nearest thing to it - which in this case was your DH.

Zulu, can I join this club?

Yay! Bebe that is amazing news. I had a tremendous bleed at around 9 weeks which saw me in A&E convinced it was all over - they had no idea where it came from and the baby is still there.

So pleased for you - the first trimester is such a worry x x x

Bebe, fantastic. Such a big relief for you.

BB - hang on. Did you just announce a pregnancy there??????? I think you did!!! Come back and tell us all about it. NOW!

Bicod that must have been horrible. Thank goodness for 12+ weeks!

That's good news, Bebe.
We were only worried about you and your health, you know.

GingerSarah - April 6th
Bicnod - July 14th
BebeMoo - late August
ZuluWarrior - ?
BabyBolat - ????

Anyone else want to come out the closet?

Haha. I did zulu, I did.

I only found out yesterday and didn't want to say anything until Bebe was all clear but yes I have my own little bean too. I'm only about six weeks though so still very early days but all good bar the morning (more like evening) bouts of nausea! By my dates I am due late September - eek!!!

I have a masterfully repaired pelvic floor and there is no way I am messing it up with another Bofflet.

Bofflet.

Sounds better in French, rhyming with souffle. Don't know how to put the acute over the e though.

BB, how very exciting! Congratulations. I'm sure your pregnancy will be as smooth as anything. We definitely have enough FW babies to ignore all the scary antenatal threads.