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AuldAlliance · 28/01/2011 14:44

Voici FWs!

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Schulte · 17/03/2011 20:02

Thanks Bebe, have been ordering stuff from Amazon.de Smile

PuzzleRocks · 17/03/2011 20:50

Schulte - What became of the party plans?

Schulte · 17/03/2011 21:11

I stuck to my guns... big party with all their nursery friends (it's the DDs' joint party) and small party at home with the mums and children from my antenatal class. The small party will be much more special, with champagne for the mums Grin

Might put a bottle of wine in the fridge for next Friday too Wink

PS I saw little Oscar today and he is the CUTEST little chap. I hope Hazel will marry him one day!

PuzzleRocks · 17/03/2011 21:44

Good for you. I have been negotiating who to invite today. It's not easy.

BabyBolat · 18/03/2011 09:46

Ah wonder if any of them will get married. At the moment K is only interested in older girls (heaven help me!)

We are having a garden party for K again this year - fingers crossed the weather stays dry!

Schulte · 21/03/2011 20:33

Not a single post since Friday??? What have the Fanjo Warriors come to! Wink

AuldAlliance · 21/03/2011 21:00

Sad affair, indeed. Hope everyone is OK. How's life in Gy, bebe? And how's life on the picket line, Boff? And how are all the bumps?

DS1 was 6 on Sat, so party took up the weekend. Now mired in conference paper writing catastrophe. Knackered, but have been cycling to DS1's school with him on his new bike (with gears!!! :o) and then on to CM's with Alex, so knee clearly better.

Off to bed.

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PuzzleRocks · 22/03/2011 08:12

I'm lurking. Trying to work but I just can't motivate myself.

Ego boost of the day: "Mummy, you have an old lady face" Sad Grin

bebemooneedsabreak · 22/03/2011 18:37

Trying to stay off MN as I was being sucked in...

All is ok here.
SpriteNR has been moving since Fri :) Managed to get some summery preggy clothes here which is a relief because my others were getting a bit dull and (small!! Blush)

Glad the knee is doing well.

My sweet child told me I was wide not tall...

PuzzleRocks · 23/03/2011 10:26

Happy full term Vezzie!!!!! How exciting.

BoffinMum · 23/03/2011 21:37

Hello all. Well, I spent yesterday on the picket line, handing out leaflets and chatting to colleagues for hours. In fact, it was very revealing. It seems everyone is having problems with the boss, and we agreed Something Needs To Be Done, so watch this space. The general consensus is that she doesn't really know what she is doing, and she's not got much in the way of support either, and that us middle managers are shouldering too much of the burden of the work whilst others are apparently coasting along on past glories.

Auld, I am not sure what line managers in academe do. I would imagine they are supposed to encourage people to do good research and teaching whilst kicking the lazier members of faculty gently up the arse, and generally making sure the paperwork is properly done. However the reality is that we have someone in charge who has a terrible reputation for being lazy herself, and ducked out of her research responsibilities for a whole decade, for example going on study leave (which is a privilege and a big drain on the department) and not producing a single research paper as a result. So basically she seems to have taken it as holiday. (Eventually they converted her to a teaching-only contract).

Meanwhile those of us with teaching and research contracts are expected to behave as if we have no research to do in terms of the sheer amount of duties we are allocated, and yet we get summoned every month to account for our apparent lack of research, so a Catch-22 situation. Luckily I was able to pull one excellent paper out of the bag from my last job, as my boss put me on research-only duties for three months, and then we took bloody ages to send it off to a journal, so I have some research credibility, and I've written a good book review that goes into a journal any time now, but the other stuff really needs addressing.

BoffinMum · 23/03/2011 21:41

PS Also cycled DS2 to school but joints gave out completely so needed turning over in the night and dosing up with various drugs. Seeing GP on Monday about DLA re-application.

bebemooneedsabreak · 25/03/2011 10:40

xxx

PuzzleRocks · 25/03/2011 15:28

testing the bolding, test test test

PuzzleRocks · 25/03/2011 15:28

test test test

AuldAlliance · 25/03/2011 16:15

Everything OK, Puzzle?

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PuzzleRocks · 25/03/2011 18:54

He he. Yep, just testing the bolding here as I wanted to utilise it a good deal on a feedback thread.

How are you? It has been a shitty week here but DH is squirreling up some pizza and beer so i'm cracking a smile.

AuldAlliance · 25/03/2011 21:48

Well, I am really, really not coping with having sole responsibility for house, kids, etc. and juggling with job. (Yawn)

Conference paper a disaster, keep ripping it up and starting over.

And I feel like a crap mum.

I am so exhausted that I get v cross and snappy and shouty around bathtime, as the boys squabble a lot then and I just can't bear it as I am so tired but I know once they are asleep I will have to work till I collapse into my bed, rather than having a nice, relaxing evening after a hard day's slog.

DS1 decided yesterday that something had to be done, so he got up at 6:30 this morning and brought me breakfast in bed. And this evening he said he was very sorry that I was so tired and cross and would I teach him to make mashed potatoes so he could do the cooking and help out. Guilt trip.

Hope your evening was nice! Sounds lovely...

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BoffinMum · 25/03/2011 22:48

Auld, really, is there nothing you can do to shake that man of yours up? If you stopped being so blardy efficient, would be pull his socks up?

AuldAlliance · 25/03/2011 23:41

I don't know Boff.
Feeling v glum about it all right now, TBH.
I don't think I am efficient. Otherwise I'd get more done in a day and be less knackered, surely?

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PuzzleRocks · 26/03/2011 10:43

Auld I am super efficient and yet still exhausted and a grumpy snappy sod. The problem is that there are only 24 hours in a day.

DS1 is a poppet. Instead of feeling guilty, how about congratulating yourself on doing a sterling job. You have obviously raised a very sweet considerate young man.

PuzzleRocks · 26/03/2011 10:45

You know I find it such a shame that good mums beat themselves up all the time and the crap mums are often so self-satisfied.

BoffinMum · 26/03/2011 14:42

Auld you need to hang out with BA more. Wink

You are tired because you are doing far too much. Take it from me. And DS1 is a total love and will hopefully treat his wife rather better.

How about a kind but feckless au pair to help at the edges?

BoffinMum · 26/03/2011 14:48
  1. Work to rule on academic stuff for a few weeks?
  2. Put DS1 to bed later to avoid arguments and promote maturity? Or consider actually paying him to put DS2 to bed, you never know, it might work (it has done here on occasion).
  3. Shower in mornings rather than evening bathtimes when everyone is tired? Or only bath twice a week?
  4. Sandwiches for supper, keeping evenings simple?
  5. More telly for children while you put your feet up?
  6. Train DS1 to bring you breakfast in bed on a daily basis? Can be done with bread rolls and juice.
  7. Ultimatum for DH - 50% split on housework and kids or ...?
PuzzleRocks · 26/03/2011 16:01

Hang out with BA more?

Auld, have you been traîner avec BA? Shock Do tell!