September 2010 - meet-ups, pram addicts and the cutest babies in the world!

[Chelle1986]

Am taking the innitiative and doing the new thread! Bombs away...!

No banana - not a good night! ....

Dropped Olly off at 16:00 at mums and went to restuarant at 16:45. Half 5 we get a call from mum saying we'll have to go and collect him as he hadn't stopped crying his eyes out since we left...! Only just finished our main course...! So we got back there at 6pm. A whole two hours away from him!

Soon as I took him he stopped crying. Soon as DP took him away from me and went in the other room with him - screaming again. Clearly we have a bad case of separation anxiety here....what the hell do I do!?

Its definately that because Olly loves my mum. She feeds him, changes him, plays with him and he always has massive smiles when he see's her. Plus he stopped soon as I cae back!

So night was pretty much ruined all in all - and we were looking forward to it so much. I was in tears when we had eventually got home and I'd put him to bed because I was so upset. It's great that he loves me so much - but really bad that he is so dependant on me....god that makes me sound so selfish doesn't it....

Only bonus is that he slept from 8pm til 6:10am without waking - although pretty sure he was knackered from all the screaming! So not counting on another sleep through tonight!

We did have a good morning before he woke up this morning though...

We've been having sweet potato last couple of days and he seems to like it. Changing to cauliflower tomorrow - although its pretty tasteless? Should I mix something with it? He has rusks this morning too - but threw alot up - don't think he's quite ready for them yet.

Sorry all - monster post! Can't be bottomed to check for typo's!

Olly 18wks today.

dixie its only this week that Phoebe has started taking a regular amount in her morning feed. up until now it was actually her smallest feed of the day and I thought she would be starving too!

Phoebe due jabs tomorrow but will have to cancel as she has a bad cold. She is booked into creche for two days aweek. Its a lovely place and the boys go there so we know them well. Its tiny so she will be the only baby her age next year and they give oodles of attention. Thing is the boys were both a year or almost a year before they went. Im really nervous about phoebe starting in may. I guess because of her episode after she was born Im still anxious as to whether others will be as vigilant with her.

Nice night last night. Boys on sleep over at uncles DH and I watched a movie, had some fun, and then slept right thru till 10am!! Phoebe even obliged by waking for a bottle feed at 7, chatting for a while then nodding back off. had to wake her at 10! house seemed so quiet it was odd. Thing is have been knackered all day!! Cant win eh?

Oh Chelle! Thats awful! Not selfish at all! Do you ever leave him in the day? Could you gradually build it up to a night? Did you make a big deal of saying bye? I don't believe in sneaking out but a crafty bye & leave?

I'm gutted for you

I've caved in and started BLW.
I offered Lucy a crust of toast. She stabbed her forehead then rolled it down to her mouth. I don't think she actually got some, she seemed to chomp on her fingers and laugh at me. It was very cute to see. I think I will just let her try tastes of what we are having. Iwas going to give her a piece of bhroccoli for tea but she was asleep, ds had it instead

just lost my whole post!! argh!! in a nutshell...

banana - we just said bye and left. we didn't think anything of it as he has stayed there twice overnight before without a problem - admittedly he was a little younger (12 weeks last time?) and not as aware...naive of me maybe....

mum said he was just crying and looking round for me.....didn't know where i'd gone.

how the hell do i work on this?

i don't generally leave him no... my mum is only 42 and obviously still works full time, DP works full time, and DP's parents live nearly and hour away.... no one else to leave him with...

I did take him back to mums today and left him with her whilst I went to ASDA. She took him for a walk so he slept most of the time - but was awake and happy when I got back.

Am just really upset now - dont really know how to handle this - especially knowing i could have to go back to work at any point.

we just didn't even think this would happen as he's stayed there for both a couple of hours and overnight on his own before....

Aww Chelle thats awful. When grace was about 2 months we tried having a night out (meal and cinema) and my sister came over to look after grace but we just about finished our meal and got a call to come home cause she was upset. I was expecting it to be honest as she was so small but i was so gutted! Hopefully try again in a few weeks at least if you get a call then you'll be expecting it and won't be as upset

Debs how old is Lucy, i keep wanting to try Grace on different things but i think she might still be a bit small. I keep reading the guidelins on BLW and it says 6 months but i know it all depends on the baby etc.

I caved debs but i've gone with purees to start! I'll go onto finger foods in a couple of weeks. I'm a wimp!! He grabs thespoon & feeds himself. Does that count?!

Chelle maybe your mum could have him while you go for dinner or to the cinema a couple of times so your not away to long and he might get the idea that when you go you always come back. Maybe if you do it over 2 consective weeks or something so it stays fresh in his mind (if thats at all posible at his age) and then maybe try over night again.

We had an issue last month with DP's mum. Grace all of a sudden got very funny with her, cried and cried when she saw her etc and we were starting to get really worried so we asked her to come round really often and then when Grace seemed ok with her again we let her take her out shopping and she is absolutely fine with her again. I know it's a different situation but i think they all go through phases of being extra clingy etc. Apparently at this age they are more aware of people and suroundings etc so notice when something changes (i googled it when Grace was going through it)

So sorry your evening was ruined seaChelles, I had the opposite with ds1 if I left he was fine but if he could see me he had to be with me! It can get very draining, especially when others want to help bit can't. I got a lot of pressure from my mum as she couldn't hold him when we visited. Luke is a total tart and will go with anyone anytime and that makes me sad at times, you just can't win!! I can say that ds1 is a very confident 3 year old who will happily be with anyone and has never cried when I left him at preschool but if he's hurt or upset he will kick and scream for anyone who tries to stop him getting to mummy. I would advise not to push it though, if small times away work to teach him you'll be back then great but if it is separation anxiety forcing the issue will only make him more clingy. I know it doesn't help with a night of unbroken sleep but you can have a night out just put him bed before you go and your mum can come to you.

Working with a baby is hard work but you do settle into it. Ds1 loved his Childminder and was happy to go. I was knackered, grumpy because I didn't want to work and really missed my Babi but we settled onto the new routine quickly. I would have loved to work part time but not an option for us, would have been easier than childminding IMO.

chelle I know you are upset but they go thru different phases. Some of the others have given great advice - just phase it in gradually, little trips etc and make a big fuss of him when you get home, so he knows he has something to look forward to. My Ds1 is still unsure and can be anxious if one of us is not with him. He gets over it quicker when we work with him and around him rather than pushing him. He is gradually getting more and more secure thankfully. You will have to think outside the box for a while. DH and I went thru a phase of having lovely long lunches out while babies napped for a while. MIL would mind during the day. Everything else we did after they went to bed but thats why bedtime here is 7pm!!

Hello all! We moved house on Tuesday and I am still a big ball of stress from it all, so just popping in v quickly to say hi, otherwise it'll turn into a fully-fledged rant about houses, removals men, toddlers, babies, DHs, well - you get th picture!

Anyway, will pop back later to catch up with the thread and hopefully be feeing a bit less frazzled !

lost my place on here so just marking my spot again!
Will catch up later hopefully!
chelle morning fun??? That is lurrrrrve!

lost ur marbles more like beadit :p

mammy - i understand where you are coming fromm its just there's no one else you can look after him in the day. makes it very difficult.

cinammon - yes it is VERY draining...bit baffled to be honest. just dont know where to start with there being no one else who can look after him apart from weekends.

Plus am pissed off looking at jobs as well. Thats upsetting me. Had loads of responses - just dont want to go back full bloody time!!! argh!! I don't want to leave him 5 days a week.... Anyone that does it through choice, thats fine - but just not for me. And anyone who HAS to do it, I feel really sorry for you. Hope I dont have to...

SeaChelles I know - went into work today to sort something out with boss and my stomach was like a washing machine when I came out. I really dont want to go back and have no choice. The job situation here is awful and set to get worse. I also know what you mean about during the day - we do the lunch thing the odd weekend. Who knows maybe when he is 6 or 8 months you might get him into creche or something one afternoon a week? or swap with another mom?

Bugger bugger bugger on the work front!!! Its made me realize how little of what I want matters or is feasible. I dont mind teaching but all the politics and the lack of morale at for the past couple of years has been awful and I can ignore all that now and I feel so much better - dreading going back to it. Need to win the lotto!!!

Mammy sorry but the lotto jackpot is mine this weekend! I couldn't sleep last night for thinking about going back. I really should have phoned my boss today to discuss part time but if im honest i don't find his approachable at all, to be honest he actually scares me a bit. I think i'll mention it to my manager first and see what she thinks. I know there is a temp there at the minute who would probably cover the 2 days that i won't be there but it's weather or not my boss will go for it. To be honest i just want to quit full stop and find something closer to home but i don't think i can!

I'll email my manager tomorrow and see what she says. I really need to sort nursery out in the next couple of weeks as well, May seems to be rolling round way too quickly for my liking!

Me too MammyG!!!

Evening all.

Chelle sorry to hear your little man is suffering froma little seperation anxiety. We are leaving Harlyn at my mom's vernight for the first time on 12th March for my birthday and I have to say I'm a little nervous that he'll be grumpy! I'm desperately trying to sort out his sleepingpatterns at the mo so that he will hopefully sleep through the night for her. He's doing really well. We are managing to get him down anywhere between 8-9pm (though it was 7:45 tonight) and he is sleeping through till around 5am where he will have a small feed then go back to sleep till 8ish. I'm so glad he sleeps well in the night as he doesn't sleep for longer than 30 minutes during the day which is a bit of a mare!!

As for childcare, I'll be putting him into nursery for two days and my mom will look after him for the other 1.5 days. Trying not to think about going back to work just yet. I'm goin back in June. When are others thinking about going back?

Well, I've got a cold coming on and i feel a little rotten. I really hope Harlyn doesn't catch it. My nose is blocked and my lips are chapped. I had a gig on friday night and I didn't get home until 3am so i think this has made me feel worse. On a brighter and more exciting note, we have just put an offer in on a house! Fingers crossed it will be excepted .

Oh yeah, I've also been giving the little babit some puree sweet potatoe and pear (not together). And I'm also going to change my name to something more appropriate to my new life as a mommy. Watch this space.....

Has this worked?????????

Yes!!! This is my new hobby x

Oh and mammyg still no period here either x

hi bella so good to hear from you...cant wait for the whole story

jodey im loving your new name

im going to be namechanging soon,as ive let rather too much slip recently...

i'll let you know who i am via FB.

p.s. i got a 'copper coil' fitted today,and its resulted in my first period in 3 years!

I have a hand blender!!! No more lumpy puree!!!!!!!!

Lucy had pear yesterday and coped better then the toast. I don't think she swallowed any bu she definitely tasted it and pushed it around with her tongue.

banana I did a mix with dd2 and looking back I wish I had just stuck to BLW. This time I am going to try and be strong, depending on Lucy of course.

Bellabelly congrats on moving house. We are desperate to move but there is nowhere to move to. I once moved with a 3 year old and a 9 month old so I can imagine you needing to rant

Morning all.

Like all the names changes

seaChelles cant offer much more than what everyones already said. He may not be like that everytime you leave him, when I started work after 1st (DS then 7mths) would be OK sometimes than others scream his head off for ages, and he was always with DP. I dreading coming home and hearing him crying as I came up the stairs. I have started to leave Maia (only with DP so far though), more often for shorter periods than I did with DS.

Actually thinking about it I probably suffer from anxiety seperation more than the kids

clumsy Wondering where you went to, haven´t seen Melly around for ages neither. [nosey emoticon]

Bella congrats on the house move. Im desperate to buy my own house, well actually not that desperate that I´d actually go out to work to finance the mortage .

jodey glad Im not the only one, I caught myself saying aloud to Maia, "you could at least let me pick your nose while you feed" .

cinammon The helichopper sounds great would love to, but think Im to much of a chicken to actually have a go flying it.

Well it was my birthday on Sat, grand old age of 32, dont feel it at all. Did n´t do much as typically it pissed it down all day (which it hasn´t done for ages, infact its been glorous weather till saturday ). Despite that had good day with DP, DS and Maia. DP made me dinner and with homemade Tiramasu (sp?) v. yummy!. Then took DS to new big library thats opened, and they have a lovely English section (yeah). Cant believe I consider going to the library a good birthday, whats happened! Did I really get that old, or is it having kids??

Maia 5 mths today , where has that gone!!!!

I have my 2 month check for my copper coil clumsymumluckybaby and it's been great! I had some very light spotting after I had it fitted and had my first period nearly 3 weeks ago. It was as heavy as after I had ds1 and less crampy. I love not having to worry about contraception! I hope things are ok with you and dp, see you on the other side of your name change!

Hope all is well now you're in the house Bellabelly.

I told dh that whatever he planned for my birthday that I wanted the kids with us patito. They are the centre of my world and a birthday isn't a birthday without them. It's nothing to do with being old just a change of priorities.

I am so tired! Luke woke up at 10 for a feed then didn't settle, I finally got him off at 11.30 and he was then up at 5 and I had to be up at 7. The last week he has been up twice every night and it's starting to take it's toll. He does seem to be hungry when I go to him and goes straight back to sleep usually. I have a really painful throat at the moment and am very achy, just wish I could take a few days off :(