October 2005 Babies.....

[nervousmum]

....thought i'd better start a thread as there are currently 4 of us, with several more to follow!

Joey is now 4 days old (where did the time go?!?), and is doing really well. He actually managed to sleep through with just one feed last night, though i must confess i cheated and had him in bed with me (at my MW's recommendation!) as he was so fretful the night before.

Looking forward in the coming days and weeks to welcoming the other members of the Oct 05 antenatal group to this post-natal club, so i won't feel like Billy No-Mates, talking to myself

Yokefleet...

the age gap with Jessica and Rebecca is 15 months... thats me falling pg when Jess was 6 months old.

Rebecca may only be 10 days old, but my god, its hard work already!

If i could do it again, i would have left trying until Jessica was a year old so that she was a little more independent..... and the last thing you want is a 15 month old who may not be walking!

BAD night last night....

Rebecca decided it was "awake" time from 3am-5.15am and was then awake again for a feed at 6.15am when Jess got up!

All day on my own with the girls today and im stressing already!

DH is in hospital and due to go down to theatre at 11am.... poor little bugger!

Thanks for your advice MP/J&RM, I think our thinking really was as a result of looking after our niece who was 2 in September for quite a few weekends from mid pregnancy onwards, I found it very hard trying to keep up with her as she was always into something!! she really gave us the run around! So was thinking that 15 month gap might have been better. I'm 28 now but my husband is 36 and he is really concerned about being an old dad, I know that in this day and age waiting 3years and him being nearly 40 wouldn't be unusual but it really concerns him.

Yokefleet, hats off to you for thinking about another already Ruby was the last addition to my family and my dd1 is 2 yrs 5 mths. The gap isn't too bad but dd1 is still in a tantrum phase which would probably have passed by the time she's 3. she's still in nappies as well which is expensive to say the least (not just the nappies, but wipes, bags etc). I think a 3 year gap is the best option. My sister has 4 children and has exactly 3 years between each one. The one before is always out of nappies, not needing a buggy and in pre school before the next one arrives. They all get on really well.

Warning to everyone, apparantly this is our most fertile time (after recently giving birth). Midwife has warned me to be VERY careful. My sil got pregnant again 6 weeks after giving birth after trying for the first baby for years (she had PCOS). I am going to make bloody sure that doesn't happen to me!

Hester, FANTASTIC news about your little dd. Disgusting that a termination was suggested at all. Really pleased for you that everything turned out well xxxx

My hv came yesterday and the cheeky woman said Rubys ears stick out a little bit and suggested getting them pinned back when she's a bit older . We hadn't even noticed her ears sticking out, so they can't be that bad. Plus she hasn't got any hair, and anyones ears would look bigger if you're bald! I'm just glad she's well and healthy. Made me really

She has developed quite bad colic now and we only went 2 and a half hours last night between feeds. Very of you marinda with 7 hours . Have ordered some B Free bottles from the internet (a bit pricey but worth every penny if they work). Hope they get here soon!

Elf, Ruby sleeps in moses basket with just blankets at the moment but I do have a newborn sleeping bag and am thinking of trying that soon.

J&RM, Hope your hubby's okayxx

My god, I can't believe any of you are even contemplating number two (or three!!) I find the idea that I may ever even have sex again frankly bizarre. Any time spent in bed without Abigail screaming is strictly for sleeping.

Very cross today as dh went out to a work do last night, came in at 11 p.m. and decided it would be a really good idea to play with Abigail - three hours later one very over-excited baby still won't sleep so dh takes himself off to the spare room and leaves me to it!!

Hester - so pleased you've had some good news about your little one.

thanks everyone; we are so pleased

bbb, can't believe your hv said that about ruby. cheeky mare. has the whole planet gone cosmetic surgery mad? i would have thought that IF ruby's ears stick out badly when she's older and IF it really bothers her then you can consider whether to do anything. outrageous to discuss surgery as the obviious response.

our poor kids, specially our girls. i hate that they'll get so judged on their looks

Elf - i have been using a grobag sleeping bag with Joey for the last week, as he kept kicking his blankets off with his 'newborn flailing about phase' and was waking himself up. Much easier for night feeds too, as it saves getting them untucked and getting cold.

Hester - fantastic news about your little one

am i the only one with a non-sleeping new born.... i kid u not, she has slept for about 3 hours total since 3am!!!!

Bad luck J&RM - my dd1 was a non-sleeper, it was EXHAUSTING. She only took ONE 45 minute nap PER DAY. This one is much better so far...

I just wanted to say that I survived it! Today I mean. All today day (from 6.30 last night)I managed to look after my children on my own! Now this may not sound terribly interesting but as somehow I have ended up with dd3 (4 weeks), ds2 (16 months) and ds 1 (2 years 10 months) I feel like it is an achievement.

Just wanted to add to the comments about age gaps. I have 3 under 3 and we survive (just). Am not having any more though. Apparently it takes 2 years to get over a pregnancy, do you think it is cumulative?

Hi girls! Good luck with your husband's op J&RM, and brilliant news Hester I'm so pleased for you both!

J&RM, Sophia sleeps all through the day (bar a few very hyper moments lol) and then stays awake all night, and mean pretty much all night from the second it gets dark till dawn... she's a baby vampire!!

Giving all my surplus milk to the bank makes me feel so happy - I'm feeling very virtuous about my freezer full today

Well done tiggyhop!!! I don't know how you did it! I find it hell with two... although I suppose my breastpump is a bit like a third blooming child lol..

I actually feel like I have been run over by a bus. Am having a restorative glass of wine so matters are improving. DD (4 weeks) has gone to bed at 7 pm for the first time tonight (she has not been settling at all in the evenings) I really hope this is a sign of better things to come. Anyone else having trouble settling them in the evenings? Also she is only doing 3 hours at a stretch at nights even though she is huge (she was 8lb 10 at birth and although I haven't had a chance to get her weighed since she was 10 days old, she feels like she has put on a fair old whack). Any tips?

Evie was weighed today, now 9lbs 8.
She goes to sleep around 10:30 / 11:30 til 2:00 / 3:00 which I feel is quite good.

Also, booked her christening today, she gets christened on 5th Feb. V excited!!

I keep thinking someting MUST br wrong - she slept again for 7 hours at night - I reckon my this is a false sense of security !! She is increasing on feed but only slightly - So it seems weird she sleeps so much !!! Seems to spend waking hours passing wind ! Oh the joys !!!
Still have sore bits - I also think I will never have sex again - the h asked me if I had - My reply was " You must be joking !!! - too sore etc... for that !!!"

Mine spends most of the time passing wind too lol must be my milk ... I felt up to sex the day after I gave birth this time! If only it wasn't for the lochia thingamy jig we'd have been at it like rabbits! And now we're mainly too sleepy...talking of sleeeep...ah....

(Is avoiding watching The Shining but feeling a little scaredy catty after 3 scary movies in a row and wants her hubby lol)

well a better night last night after such a nightmare day!

Rebecca woke at 3.15am for an hour and that was her til 6.40am.... quite pleased with that!!

Jessica is still in bed which i am totally about! This is the girl that hasnt slept later than 6.30am in 2 weeks!

How soon post delivery can i expect my periods to return?

Joey will be 6 weeks old on Monday and is exclusively breastfed, which i know is supposed to delay them starting again, its just that i've been feeling very 'pre-menstrual' for the last couple of days.

(must confess, i'm a bit worried about BBB's warnings re sex too, as DP and i haven't exactly been careful with contraception, both assuming we were covered by my breastfeeding. Much as i adore Joey, i'm definitely not ready for another one just yet!)

Thanks, and have a good weekend. NM x

hester, that's lovely news! surely someone could examine her scan (and others) and try and work out any common factors in the positional cases like hers and try to feed this back into the system? dd2 has a lovely toe that "dips" under the others, presumably because of squashing and I LOVE IT!

hester-excellent!!
NM-mine returned at 10 weeks withh DD, exclusively bf too, Iwas well cheesed off as a friend of mine's returned at 8 months, altho she fell pg then so only had one period in almost 3 years!!! think contrAceptive effect only works if they bfeed evwery 2-3 hours day and night!
stillbad nights here....every 2-3 hrs but takes around 2 hrs to settle each time, then fills his nappy, as he is very windy all the time then dd wakes after he has gone to sleep......will we ever get any quality sleep again?!? the 10lb theory can't be true for us either...he weighs 10lb 14 now as he put on 1lb 2oz in 6 days!!!!
anyone elses boobs sore still? only one of mine is now the other is\fine and he latches lovely but the other is a different story....worse at night as he has feeding frenzy every hr or so in the evening..........anyway gonnA pop to tescos to stop the crying , poor little mite has colic pAin around now every night, so BBB know exactly wot it's like dd had same and it stopped at around 14 weeks...so only 9 weeks of crying left!!

fantastic news hester - what a relief!

Been having alternate good and bad nights this week. Was so tired the other morning anohter mum asked me the baby's name at the school gates and I couldn't remember!! Have got SUCh a woolly brain at the moment (probably not helped by the imbibing of painkillers and wine).

Had a bit of result last night - decided to swaddle Evie from 11pm and she slept til 3.30 without a peep, which is good for her at that time of night as she usually werrits and won't settle. However, dh got up to feed her and I woke up an hour later to hear her grumbling. Turned the light on the the great fool had swaddled her up to her head so just her eyes and nose were poking out of the blanket!! bet she was sweating cobs!! no wonder she was moaning. She' son 5-6oz a feed now so I'm hoping for some longer sleeps at night soon.

Boobs are STILL leaking milk though, so hormones are obviously still rife. Is everone still using maternity or sanitary pads? I thought mine had stopped after 2 weeks but it came back and is still there a little (browny mostly though - sorry if tmi). Am depressed by people saying they can get into their pre-mat clothes. My belly is just so HUGE and wobbly. Not that it was flat before, but it's just emormous now - very depressing.

Help me ladies - keep thinking how sweet newborn's are and how sweet another would be !!! No I know really it would be senseless- besides cold definately NOT handle sex at the mo !!!

am REALLY fancying a bit of sex at the moment. because of the placenta praevia we were 'banned' from any rumpy pumpy at all so we haven't had sex for 2 and a half months. Fancy dh like mad at the mo but can't see that i'm an attractive prospect at all! plus dd2 is but a foot away from us at all times - AND my scar is still throbbing (only thing that IS in our bed at the moment, worst luck!)

Yes, marinda, newborns are scrummy, but they don't stay like that very long. and, yes they are lovely and all that when they get older but it is SO lovely that dd1 can get herself dressed and feed herself while I'm sorting dd2 out. I don't know how i'd cope if there were two sets of nappies to deal with: a newborn and a toddler? Utter madness!

I LOVE MY DH He slept downstairs last night with a very unsettled Ruby in the moses basket and sent me off to bed for the first uninterrupted full nights sleep I've had since I was about 5 months pregnant. I was so grateful to him. I feel absolutely brilliant today.

Ruby is on 5 oz at moment but is draining the bottles so am going to up it to 6 oz today. She is still waking every 3 hours at night and is hard to settle most of the time so hopefully 6oz will mean she sleeps a bit longer.

Had some really good awake time with her this morning. Usually when she's awake she's unhappy but this morning she was very alert and I swear I was getting half smiles!!

Hope everyone has a good weekend x

must apologise for last night's post - I sound like a horrible old moose on heat! please ignore me. now where's that bromide for me tea?